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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi well i know there is a lot of guys on here and isnt easy to get a meet up but even chatting seems to be difficult, honest genuine guy here and it doesnt seem to make any differance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so how does anyone know your honest and genuine?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Make sure your profile sells you, your messages are polite, positive, and personalised, and that you're patient.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Hi well i know there is a lot of guys on here and isnt easy to get a meet up but even chatting seems to be difficult, honest genuine guy here and it doesnt seem to make any differance"

Harsh truth is that middle aged "average" guys will always struggle on here.

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By *orkspoonMan
over a year ago

nearby

Be relaxed, open and chatty, and let the other person raise the question of meeting. Other than that, it's luck of the draw!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sad as it may sound but punctuation is a biggy. Decent pics are a biggy.

You are 1 out of tens of thousands of men. Your profile is your shop window. Dress it well. MrsGivesWood has dedicated her profile to helping out newbies. Go have a look. You get what you put in, understand?

And 3 weeks is nothing. On average it take a guy 3 months to get a meet.

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Please dont take this the wrong way but being genuine and nice doesn't mean you should be more likely to get a meet than any other guy on here.

You've put what you're looking for on your profile and have a couple of pics, just crack on and see how you go.

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

You might know you're genuine and honest but most people on here will decide that for themselves after talking to you. Personally I need a lot more than those two qualities to have an interest in someone. Your profile really wouldn't tempt me to want to find out more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always ask for clear face pic, if no attraction then don't like wasting peoples time or building hopes of a meet as it wouldn't happen. Seems harsh but don't like leading people on.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Ask yourself when looking at your profile: what about this would make someone want to take a chance with me, rather than the umpteen other guys I'm competing with?

In general terms, so many guys say "this is what I want" and not "this is what I think I can offer you".

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Hi well i know there is a lot of guys on here and isnt easy to get a meet up but even chatting seems to be difficult, honest genuine guy here and it doesnt seem to make any differance"

Profile feed back this is not pmf is a sex/swinger website..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The difference for me is attention to detail.

If you don’t take the time and effort to start a sentence with a capital letter and you can’t spell it is a real turn off.

I can’t remember how long I have been here but it is longer than a few weeks. My advice would be start chatting in the Forums to get a feel for people’s likes and sense of humour and then perhaps message folk.

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness

No matter how hard you try, it's most likely you'll get nowhere. I've given it my best shot, followed advice on here, tried everything, etc, but 99% of girls ignore your messages or read them, then ignore/delete. It's been 3 and a half years since a meet and you have to accept that almost every girl isn't interested.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


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I can’t remember how long I have been here but it is longer than a few weeks."

You have been here a year and 4 days !

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Sad as it may sound but punctuation is a biggy. Decent pics are a biggy.

You are 1 out of tens of thousands of men. Your profile is your shop window. Dress it well. MrsGivesWood has dedicated her profile to helping out newbies. Go have a look. You get what you put in, understand?

And 3 weeks is nothing. On average it take a guy 3 months to get a meet. "

Yup, effort in means rewards out, good luck OP. Let me know if I can be of any help once you have sorted your profile. X

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