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Gf has been a bit shy about what she wants

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Gf has so many fantasies and has been trying to find out what she is willing to do sex wise but I know how filthy she will be so please any advice for her please feel free to contact us she has to stop being shy about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gf has so many fantasies and has been trying to find out what she is willing to do sex wise but I know how filthy she will be so please any advice for her please feel free to contact us she has to stop being shy about it "

Find someone she is attracted to, have a social meet and just let her find things at her own pace

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Saying "she has to stop being shy about it" is pretty much guaranteed to make her clam up more.

Spend some time working on your emotional communication, develop an atmosphere in which she feels comfortable talking to you about fantasies, don't canvass support from strangers to encourage her. When you feel shes ready google mojo upgrade or both write your fantasies down.

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By *inkSWCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Newport

With us it took a while, just baby steps and really, seriously don't force anything. There's going to be talking, lots of talking, if your not ready to talk this thing nearly to death don't start.

If she's/you (hello if your also reading) genuinely has an interest or fantasy and isn't embracing it fear or perceived effort will be the big stumbling blocks.

Give her confidence (in you or herself) that nothing bad is going to happen and it will be worth the risk/expense/time/ trust etc and then start building. My other half adores bondage and sex toys these days, I started by bringing home a tiny bullet and showing her that toys are nothing to afraid of and are really fun and we've gone on from there.

Talk about the good, talk about any fears, do what you can to comfort her about said fears then start small.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

For us, we decided that clubs were the perfect place to start. Most clubs have bar/social areas where you can just chat to people and see the variety of different people within the lifestyle. Then later you can wander about and see some of the play that's going on. Seeing others enjoying the things that you fantasize about is quite motivating.

You have no pressure to play with anyone and you can leave anytime you like, so the risk level is low. It is very useful though to just chat with others, tell them you're new, and ask them all of your questions.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try writing stories to each other explaining what you fantasise about. That is how we started. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gf has so many fantasies and has been trying to find out what she is willing to do sex wise but I know how filthy she will be so please any advice for her please feel free to contact us she has to stop being shy about it "

Advice for her?

Ok:

Marie, Tell him to back off and stop being so damn pushy.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm the shy kind, or can be. If I'm pushed I'll retreat. What others have said is true, she needs to be comfortable, know that she's safe, supported, and it'll be fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gf has so many fantasies and has been trying to find out what she is willing to do sex wise but I know how filthy she will be so please any advice for her please feel free to contact us she has to stop being shy about it

Advice for her?

Ok:

Marie, Tell him to back off and stop being so damn pushy. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry you got the wrong end off the stick I'm Marie was hoping for some tips hun lol but tks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry you got the wrong end off the stick I'm Marie was hoping for some tips hun lol but tks"

You refer to your self as ‘she’ rather than “I” ?

Yeah. Of course you do.

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs


"Gf has so many fantasies and has been trying to find out what she is willing to do sex wise but I know how filthy she will be so please any advice for her please feel free to contact us she has to stop being shy about it "

Way to go with respecting her boundaries

And next time throw in the odd bit of punctuation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gf has so many fantasies and has been trying to find out what she is willing to do sex wise but I know how filthy she will be so please any advice for her please feel free to contact us she has to stop being shy about it "

Ultimately it's her choice though, so i would take it easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a couple wants to swing then you go at who ever is they shyest/most hesitant/nervous (however you want to word it)'s pace.

Pushing someone in to something they aren't ready for is wrong on several levels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry you got the wrong end off the stick I'm Marie was hoping for some tips hun lol but tks

You refer to your self as ‘she’ rather than “I” ?

Yeah. Of course you do. "

Ha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never force anyone to do anything.

If she wants to she will.

Pressure only makes things worse

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