FabSwingers.com forum: performance

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

has any one els been worried about performence ie being to quick once the playing starts or is it just me maby we are still not ready witch takes it in her stride its me that gets nervy silly i know hope its not just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wouldn't say that i worried, but for me, it is natural to get nervous when arranging a meet with anyone new

will they like me ?, will i like them ?, what if they try this ?, what if they try that ? etc

do your leg work up front and walk in any meet with a smile on your face and your head in the air - even if you're nervous as hell inside

chances are, they will have (or have had) similar experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hubby said it would put him off meeting people because he cums too quick, but i told him it doesnt matter because some of the men iv met do too and it doesnt bother me, if i like them i still enjoy it, so someone who spends half an hour with me can be more fun than someone who is with me for two hours, a lot of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"has any one els been worried about performence ie being to quick once the playing starts or is it just me maby we are still not ready witch takes it in her stride its me that gets nervy silly i know hope its not just me"

Remain calm and relaxed, or it can easily go the other way and you end up not being able to rise to the occassion....which can be just as embarrassing....chill and go with the flow...

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By *ickey and MinnieCouple
over a year ago

South of Bath

Try using Durex Performa or similar.

They have something in them that helps delaying male orgasm

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks for all that helpfull information made me feel a lot better about things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only have short meets.. there are plenty of people that only want that too..

So I think that people should just relax and have fun

cali. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't get too bothered about it, one meet I was playing with a couple, plaid for ages with the guy and when it came to fucking his wife I was like shit! But they wernt to bother as I was hard just after, but on all my other meets I tend to be able to control when I'm going to cum, I loveeee licking a woman out so lots of foreplay beforehand, then when fucking if I feel I'm going to cum ill either switch position or slow down, I think if your worried about it your going to perform poorly, just relax and go with the flow

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

Never bothered me when the other guy has had problems...I have certainly never taken it personally!

You can still have a fun filled evening.......

C x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres also nothing saying if you do cum quickly that you have to legg it through the door.

Somewhere along the line we stop get a drink have a natter and start again.

No presure xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why just stop at one ..........

It's fun carrying on.......... and on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why just stop at one ..........

It's fun carrying on.......... and on

I'd go with this option. Meeting is exciting and can be a little nerve-wracking. That combination can get the old juices flowing a little more than you'd prefer but should you achieve 'happines' a little sooner than planned then just go back for seconds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be incredibly horny if a guy comes quickly................

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mind is a powerful thing. If you think you will cum too quickly, you probably will. I only cum on demand, I remember a girl saying aren't you ever going to cum, I then did exactly what she wanted.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I have had a variety of experiences with performance. Nerves will makle a difference...after all we are talking about sex with someone new so is bound to be daunting.

A man cumming early after some amazing foreplay can be a turn on (that he is so turned on so quick) other times its different.

For me if the personality is there then all will be ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had a variety of experiences with performance. Nerves will makle a difference...after all we are talking about sex with someone new so is bound to be daunting.

A man cumming early after some amazing foreplay can be a turn on (that he is so turned on so quick) other times its different.

For me if the personality is there then all will be ok."

Totally agree with you, just have a relaxed fun time with no pressure

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"I have had a variety of experiences with performance. Nerves will makle a difference...after all we are talking about sex with someone new so is bound to be daunting.

A man cumming early after some amazing foreplay can be a turn on (that he is so turned on so quick) other times its different.

For me if the personality is there then all will be ok.

Totally agree with you, just have a relaxed fun time with no pressure

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Personally I have never had this issue though I am sure it will happen one day.

However it's all about the fun. As long as everyone is having it then what's the issue.

Pretty sure that if the lady/ladies have already had two or three orgasms from oral and other means I can't imagine them complaining.

I have always focused on others having fun and chilling out however it goes is how it goes. It seems to work. Besides with the playmates we play with its never a 'one shot' deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all about the sensual pleasure of enjoying who you're with! Soon as I stopped worrying about who cums first and enjoyed all the sensations of playing, it clicked for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm actually put off by the gjys that say they can go for hours without cumming in fact i had this convo with my hubby the other week saying i get bored when they are just banging away even feel a bit offended they don't find me so horny they can't help but shoot

then 2 days later at the club we went to a private room with a guy that was banging away like crazy and just not shooting went on for an hour and i did every trick i know to try and get him to cum but it just wasn;t happening and i could see hubby trying hard not to giggle as he knew exactly what i was thinking

bloody rude not to be made so horny by me that you can't help but unload for me in my book

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By *udiguyMan
over a year ago

harrogate

i have to say that this is a concern for me as well! .... and the more you stress over it.. when i was a younger man (20s) i could keep a girl up all night... but not these days . just hope to play with people that keep me coming back for more ( no pun intended)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone gets nervous, especially if you haven't had a meet or been to a club before. Mark has always been a stayer but even he was worried that he might not last or even get it up.

The only way to overcome that fear is to not think on it too much and just go with the flow... if your relaxed and horny then it will happen as it should.. if your stressing about being too quick or getting yourself worked up about it your more likely for it to happen.

Me and mark had our first experience at a club, but we only played with each other in a public space, to see if both of us could deal with the public sex thing, which we could, and the next time we went we played with another couple which we both enjoyed.

and most importantly, if it does happen, its not the end of the world...

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