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First play meet tomorrow!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Excited, horny and a teeny bit nervous.

Haven’t played with anyone but each other for almost 20 years!!!!

Any first timers advice appreciated.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Set you boundaries and remember you are a team. Most of all enjoy it! Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Set you boundaries and remember you are a team. Most of all enjoy it! Good luck x"

Thank you x

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By *ackDanielsWhiteRabbitMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Try to relax, discuss your boundaries as mentioned above, only do what you are comfortable and most of all have fun.

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By *imandher84Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Keep an eye on each other, the most important thing to us is on a new meet to keep in contact, you will no doubt know each others looks and what they mean by now so often words aren't needed. That being said have a great time and don't put any pressure on yourselves.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Stick to your boundaries. Don't be frightened to say 'I'm sorry I'm not comfortable with that'.

Take your time and don't have to many expectations.

Say what you feel if you want things to move on say so. A meet doesn't last long and first timers can sit there looking at each other wondering how to move on. Just say 'I'd love to play now or can someone please kiss me' anything to move it on lol.

If it doesn't feel right then it isn't right. Don't settle for second best.

It's a wonderful journey enjoy the buzz

Xx

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By *MNJCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

Practice with condoms, after years not using them and with the added pressure they can be a boner killer.

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By *andr1Couple
over a year ago

Hebden Bridge

Check in with each other frequently, during play - ask your partner how they're doing. And have some code words for "I want more of this" (e.g. "I'm having loads of fun") and "I want less of this" (e.g. "I'm having fun"), and use them.

At some point, one or the other of you is going to feel left out of the group play; that's normal, it happens to most of us at some point. There's one thing to do in that case - throw yourself back into the group with enthusiasm and energy, as soon as you feel left out! Don't just lay there brooding on it.

Discuss dos and don'ts with each other before you arrive, and then with your play partners when you get there. Don't take anything for granted about what your partner does or doesn't want to do with others, however well you know what they want to do with you! Don't assume "of course we both know us kissing them mouth to mouth is ok" or "of course it's not ok". You've got your favourite tricks for each other - you may or may not be ok sharing them with others - talk about it first!

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over a year ago

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Well if it naturally flows into the bedroom and assuming your all playing together, keep an eye out for each other. Keep reading each other and communicating even just through eye contact. Make sure no body gets left out or feels neglected. Its cool having boundaries at the start but remember things can feel quite different when push comes to shove. So it's totally cool if someone isn't completely happy or it's just moving a little fast to put the brakes on a bit or even come to a stop. Just have lots of fun, dont take things too seriously and look out for each other.

BTW I'm sure there's loads of nosey people on here who'd love to hear how it goes (Me included).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Practice with condoms, after years not using them and with the added pressure they can be a boner killer."

This is very true ! A lot of couples I've played with have this issue where the guy just can't perform with a condom which isn't the end of the world as we just do other things instead but can be embarrasing for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Excited, horny and a teeny bit nervous.

Haven’t played with anyone but each other for almost 20 years!!!!

Any first timers advice appreciated.

X"

Good luck and hope you enjoy it.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Remember it’s not just about you two.....the invited guest may be feeling nervous too.

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By *ackandLucyCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Sex with other people involved can be a bit distracting, if you're not used to it, so having some foreplay before they turn up can help get you in the zone.

Also, take some time out if you need to - you can always start again or save things for next time.

Be honest with the other couple - if you're too nervous to get in the mood, then let them know.

Good luck.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Excited, horny and a teeny bit nervous.

Haven’t played with anyone but each other for almost 20 years!!!!

Any first timers advice appreciated.

X"

How did it go?

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Excited, horny and a teeny bit nervous.

Haven’t played with anyone but each other for almost 20 years!!!!

Any first timers advice appreciated.

X

How did it go?"

Ooo yeah. Did you guys have fun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you have fun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope it went well and that you all had fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Really enjoyed our meet, and were told we are naturals, quite the compliment We were super lucky to meet such a lovely couple.

Must admit it’s incredibly addictive as we are already browsing for this weekend!

Thank you all for asking. X

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By *ackDanielsWhiteRabbitMan
over a year ago

Halifax


"Really enjoyed our meet, and were told we are naturals, quite the compliment We were super lucky to meet such a lovely couple.

Must admit it’s incredibly addictive as we are already browsing for this weekend!

Thank you all for asking. X"

Nice one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done. Good luck with your searches and for sharing on the forum!

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Really enjoyed our meet, and were told we are naturals, quite the compliment We were super lucky to meet such a lovely couple.

Must admit it’s incredibly addictive as we are already browsing for this weekend!

Thank you all for asking. X"

Yay! Good work x

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Great stuff, glad the first one was a good one. The first of many adventures no doubt.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Great to hear. You're right it is addictive! Lol

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"Really enjoyed our meet, and were told we are naturals, quite the compliment We were super lucky to meet such a lovely couple.

Must admit it’s incredibly addictive as we are already browsing for this weekend!

Thank you all for asking. X"

Good to hear it all went well

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