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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We have always looked for a wonderful lady to join us in the bedroom for some fun. We think we are genuine and nice people, and very comfortable with this happening in our relationship but we don’t seem to have any luck at all! Do ladies like to play solo with couples or is this a misunderstood assumption that people wish for?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Women who play the way you want are called unicorns for good reason

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

If you are only looking for soft swap with single women, you will struggle. I’ve done it with a couple who are great friends and very much enjoyed it but I know I’m in the minority there as most will want to play fully with both parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you are only looking for soft swap with single women, you will struggle. I’ve done it with a couple who are great friends and very much enjoyed it but I know I’m in the minority there as most will want to play fully with both parties. "

Yes I’m with you on this one. Everyone needs to be included in everything otherwise you feel like a spare part!!

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

We meet single ladies at parties & clubs etc but it takes time to get to know single ladies enough for them to play & trust you 100%, build friendships first & don't ever make them feel like a commodity or prize.

One of the ladies we play with comes round once a week to socialise & usually watch a film (normal film not porn) & sometimes we might play if we're in the mood, because it's casual & fun the ladies don't feel pressured with great expectations on a creating a couples fantasy & being their plaything.

Single ladies are no different to single guys with their needs & desires, some couples have their set out fantasies overlooking what the single lady wants which takes us back to the prize part lol.

Single ladies are out there eager to play with couples but you have to invest time getting to know them first.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We love playing with single ladies. However all but one of the single ladies we have been fortunate enough to play with we knew prior and formed a friendship with them before play.

We like to socialise and meet new people anyway so that is no issue for us but it is much harder meeting only online.

Also we very much want the ladies we play with to share the experience equally to each of us, when we play we play all together. With no hang ups or issues.

I think it will be much harder to sell softswap as ultimately someone gets left out and unfulfilled.

The club's and socials getting to know people is where you will enjoy much more success.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"We have always looked for a wonderful lady to join us in the bedroom for some fun. We think we are genuine and nice people, and very comfortable with this happening in our relationship but we don’t seem to have any luck at all! Do ladies like to play solo with couples or is this a misunderstood assumption that people wish for? "

Without being harsh when a couple want to meet a woman for soft swap only, this is likely to ring two alarm bells.

1. The woman in the couple has jealously issues about seeing her man with another woman or

2. This is all the man's fantasy about seeing his woman with another woman.

Both are likely to put people off...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"We have always looked for a wonderful lady to join us in the bedroom for some fun. We think we are genuine and nice people, and very comfortable with this happening in our relationship but we don’t seem to have any luck at all! Do ladies like to play solo with couples or is this a misunderstood assumption that people wish for?

Without being harsh when a couple want to meet a woman for soft swap only, this is likely to ring two alarm bells.

1. The woman in the couple has jealously issues about seeing her man with another woman or

2. This is all the man's fantasy about seeing his woman with another woman.

Both are likely to put people off... "

This

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"We meet single ladies at parties & clubs etc but it takes time to get to know single ladies enough for them to play & trust you 100%, build friendships first & don't ever make them feel like a commodity or prize.

One of the ladies we play with comes round once a week to socialise & usually watch a film (normal film not porn) & sometimes we might play if we're in the mood, because it's casual & fun the ladies don't feel pressured with great expectations on a creating a couples fantasy & being their plaything.

Single ladies are no different to single guys with their needs & desires, some couples have their set out fantasies overlooking what the single lady wants which takes us back to the prize part lol.

Single ladies are out there eager to play with couples but you have to invest time getting to know them first."

You need to move to Cornwall lol

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex


"We meet single ladies at parties & clubs etc but it takes time to get to know single ladies enough for them to play & trust you 100%, build friendships first & don't ever make them feel like a commodity or prize.

One of the ladies we play with comes round once a week to socialise & usually watch a film (normal film not porn) & sometimes we might play if we're in the mood, because it's casual & fun the ladies don't feel pressured with great expectations on a creating a couples fantasy & being their plaything.

Single ladies are no different to single guys with their needs & desires, some couples have their set out fantasies overlooking what the single lady wants which takes us back to the prize part lol.

Single ladies are out there eager to play with couples but you have to invest time getting to know them first.

You need to move to Cornwall lol"

If we are ever down in Cornwall or likewise you are up in our neck of the woods we'll have to meet up xx

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"We meet single ladies at parties & clubs etc but it takes time to get to know single ladies enough for them to play & trust you 100%, build friendships first & don't ever make them feel like a commodity or prize.

One of the ladies we play with comes round once a week to socialise & usually watch a film (normal film not porn) & sometimes we might play if we're in the mood, because it's casual & fun the ladies don't feel pressured with great expectations on a creating a couples fantasy & being their plaything.

Single ladies are no different to single guys with their needs & desires, some couples have their set out fantasies overlooking what the single lady wants which takes us back to the prize part lol.

Single ladies are out there eager to play with couples but you have to invest time getting to know them first.

You need to move to Cornwall lol

If we are ever down in Cornwall or likewise you are up in our neck of the woods we'll have to meet up xx "

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By *ricen1990Woman
over a year ago

Buckley

I Agree with all involved. Nobody wants to feel like a spare part of feel like your missing out. All or nothing with me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Interesting to know! We only get to know people before playing, regardless of whether it’s a club meet, couple meet etc. Plus we only soft swap across the board anyway so it’s not a problem with trust or anything like that. This is good to know though, thanks people!

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Interesting to know! We only get to know people before playing, regardless of whether it’s a club meet, couple meet etc. Plus we only soft swap across the board anyway so it’s not a problem with trust or anything like that. This is good to know though, thanks people! "

Doesn’t mean you won’t find what you’re looking for but it will take longer.

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By *aughty_Nat69Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

My top fantasy to join a couple for a wild night of fun xxx

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"My top fantasy to join a couple for a wild night of fun xxx"

Definitely not going to struggle with that! Gorgeous x

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

Some interesting reply's from the single ladies. If a couple is soft swap why is it assumed that everyone is not involve?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We were a little confused with that also. No one ever leaves our company unsatisfied from our club meets, that’s for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My top fantasy to join a couple for a wild night of fun xxx"

Love you to join us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is something you'll have better luck with AWAY from this website if we're being honest. All of our FFM meets were through people we know, friends or club meets. Any women we tend to message on here to try and get to know them/possibly arrange a meet often just gets looked at, ignored then deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you are only looking for soft swap with single women, you will struggle. I’ve done it with a couple who are great friends and very much enjoyed it but I know I’m in the minority there as most will want to play fully with both parties.

Yes I’m with you on this one. Everyone needs to be included in everything otherwise you feel like a spare part!! "

I play with couples but yes I'm not really interested in Soft swap because it just doesn't float my boat. As I want to feel like I'm included completely if that makes sense.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"We were a little confused with that also. No one ever leaves our company unsatisfied from our club meets, that’s for sure. "

For some people, me included, the physical penetration bit of sex isn’t always the key bit. But for others - it is. And that’s what may take longer to find in the haystack that is Fab. But it’s out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have always looked for a wonderful lady to join us in the bedroom for some fun. We think we are genuine and nice people, and very comfortable with this happening in our relationship but we don’t seem to have any luck at all! Do ladies like to play solo with couples or is this a misunderstood assumption that people wish for?

Without being harsh when a couple want to meet a woman for soft swap only, this is likely to ring two alarm bells.

1. The woman in the couple has jealously issues about seeing her man with another woman or

2. This is all the man's fantasy about seeing his woman with another woman.

Both are likely to put people off... "

Exactly our FFM meets is she can do whatever she wants with both of us, equal way dynamics has always been our mantra

Too many couples just looking for a single lady to fulfil some fantasy that ain’t swinging....

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

I, Mrs M have been a unicorn with a certain couple at our fave club on a few occassions.

It's all about putting the effort in.

If you click then it works.

Good luck with the hunt.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"We have always looked for a wonderful lady to join us in the bedroom for some fun. We think we are genuine and nice people, and very comfortable with this happening in our relationship but we don’t seem to have any luck at all! Do ladies like to play solo with couples or is this a misunderstood assumption that people wish for?

Without being harsh when a couple want to meet a woman for soft swap only, this is likely to ring two alarm bells.

1. The woman in the couple has jealously issues about seeing her man with another woman or

2. This is all the man's fantasy about seeing his woman with another woman.

Both are likely to put people off...

Exactly our FFM meets is she can do whatever she wants with both of us, equal way dynamics has always been our mantra

Too many couples just looking for a single lady to fulfil some fantasy that ain’t swinging...."

Says who?

It's different for everyone.

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We have been lucky it appears, we have had a lot of success at clubs, only thing I can think that’s helped us we’re very approachable for ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been wanting to experience this for some time. I (female) are as keen as he is. Equal play for all involved would be a must.

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

Not easy to find the right scenario, but well worth the effort when you do.

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth


"Not easy to find the right scenario, but well worth the effort when you do. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we're honest when we was actively looking for a couple for the wife to play with it was a lot more difficult then we'd imagined.

When our vanilla lives calm down we'll start looking again.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"If we're honest when we was actively looking for a couple for the wife to play with it was a lot more difficult then we'd imagined.

When our vanilla lives calm down we'll start looking again."

Why was it difficult?

Your profile looks great, it's hard to imagine guys struggled to find a couple that fit the scenario you describe....

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we're honest when we was actively looking for a couple for the wife to play with it was a lot more difficult then we'd imagined.

When our vanilla lives calm down we'll start looking again.

Why was it difficult?

Your profile looks great, it's hard to imagine guys struggled to find a couple that fit the scenario you describe....

Xxx"

I'm not 100% sure but fab seems hard work these days, I think we'll visit more clubs when our vanilla life calms down and hopefully we'll have a little more luck.

Thank you for your kind words x

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By *achelnMarkCouple
over a year ago

Mid Wiltshire


"If you are only looking for soft swap with single women, you will struggle. I’ve done it with a couple who are great friends and very much enjoyed it but I know I’m in the minority there as most will want to play fully with both parties. "

Generally that's how we do, and love the closeness it brings. Very social too - getting a date down is tough then one of us is either ill or hormonal. What special friends are for. Though she keeps getting into vanilla LTR so we behave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We feel lucky we have 2 we play with. Some of the best meets we’ve had are with single girls.

It feels more relaxed and natural.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is key.

It is out there in fabland but honestly it’s easier to find in vanilla bars and clubs.

Lacey’s great at flirting with girls when we’re out and then I just have to try not to fuck it up

You guys look hot, just get your flirt on and be bold about it, you’ll be fine.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"If we're honest when we was actively looking for a couple for the wife to play with it was a lot more difficult then we'd imagined.

When our vanilla lives calm down we'll start looking again.

Why was it difficult?

Your profile looks great, it's hard to imagine guys struggled to find a couple that fit the scenario you describe....

Xxx

I'm not 100% sure but fab seems hard work these days, I think we'll visit more clubs when our vanilla life calms down and hopefully we'll have a little more luck.

Thank you for your kind words x"

Sounds like the way forward

Fab can be hard work that's for sure!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Patience is key.

It is out there in fabland but honestly it’s easier to find in vanilla bars and clubs.

Lacey’s great at flirting with girls when we’re out and then I just have to try not to fuck it up

You guys look hot, just get your flirt on and be bold about it, you’ll be fine."

This seems like a lot more fun than fab! We may just start doing this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have always looked for a wonderful lady to join us in the bedroom for some fun. We think we are genuine and nice people, and very comfortable with this happening in our relationship but we don’t seem to have any luck at all! Do ladies like to play solo with couples or is this a misunderstood assumption that people wish for? "

Yes they do, but as for guys, being nice people isn't enough. They still need to be attractwd to you and find you and your profile interesting. It is not at all hard to find single women to play with. Although it won't happen putting that's what you want on your profile and sitting back and waiting for applications.

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