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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ive tried the direct approach, the softly softly approach, joining in on the forums, polite messaging (always after reading the full profile). I send face pics with messages, get told I'm good looking, I'm flexible re: meeting, even get private messages but am still struggling to get my first meet (on this profile anyway which is nearly a year old). I know its a numbers game but blimey, I'm close to giving up! Pics and profile arent that terrible surely? I see some well verified blokes here with mimimal or no pictures and/ or profile text. What gives?!

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

All you can do is keep trying it was a long time before I got meets now had quite a few good meet iv met a couple I play with regularly now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All you can do is keep trying it was a long time before I got meets now had quite a few good meet iv met a couple I play with regularly now"

Indeed. Had a couple of "false starts", but my patience is wearing a bit thin!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Negative profile and plenty of cock pics, what's to like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon it’s the pine furniture you have in one of your pictures,no one has pine anymore

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I reckon it’s the pine furniture you have in one of your pictures,no one has pine anymore "

The curtains don't match the sofa either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pics are fine in my opinion, but negative profile would put me off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I reckon it’s the pine furniture you have in one of your pictures,no one has pine anymore

The curtains don't match the sofa either "

I paid good money for those wardrobes!

And took delivery of a new sofa 2 weeks ago...

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Its a combo of not being able to accommodate and your status!!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"The curtains don't match the sofa either

I paid good money for those wardrobes!

And took delivery of a new sofa 2 weeks ago... "

Phew, new pics and you'll be fine

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Its a combo of not being able to accommodate and your status!!"

Yes, that 'humour' doesn't work on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reckon it’s the pine furniture you have in one of your pictures,no one has pine anymore

The curtains don't match the sofa either "

The man needs an interior make over ,then I’m sure he’ll be inundated with requests to meet up at his place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The curtains don't match the sofa either

I paid good money for those wardrobes!

And took delivery of a new sofa 2 weeks ago...

Phew, new pics and you'll be fine "

Don’t buy black ash furniture whatever you do fella

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The curtains don't match the sofa either

I paid good money for those wardrobes!

And took delivery of a new sofa 2 weeks ago...

Phew, new pics and you'll be fine

Don’t buy black ash furniture whatever you do fella "

Chuckle! No chance - its not 1986!

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By *rownsugar88Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Get your self to a club mate.. plenty of fun to be had plus should get you verified that'll get the boat moving ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The curtains don't match the sofa either

I paid good money for those wardrobes!

And took delivery of a new sofa 2 weeks ago...

Phew, new pics and you'll be fine

Don’t buy black ash furniture whatever you do fella

Chuckle! No chance - its not 1986!"

You’re on the right road now fella

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The curtains don't match the sofa either

I paid good money for those wardrobes!

And took delivery of a new sofa 2 weeks ago...

Phew, new pics and you'll be fine

Don’t buy black ash furniture whatever you do fella

Chuckle! No chance - its not 1986!

You’re on the right road now fella "

Profile re-write, lose 2 stone and new pics then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey what can I say, some have it some dont but good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hey what can I say, some have it some dont but good luck "

It appears I dont!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you have a bit to work on, have you tried chat, with a webcam on ... pointing at your face, and if you do try it, id suggest being a person, if you go in with an I want a fuck attitude most people will give you a very wide berth...

Also explain why accommodating is difficult .....

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Social https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/meets/816199#message_17928475

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By *urious couple22Couple
over a year ago

Derby

I would have to agree with everyone else you've got a very Negative profile but the pics are fine i would look at updating your profile and maybe going to a swingers club that's what we did and we met a lot of people and we had some great fun..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would have to agree with everyone else you've got a very Negative profile but the pics are fine i would look at updating your profile and maybe going to a swingers club that's what we did and we met a lot of people and we had some great fun..

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Seems like thats the way forward. I didnt think the profile was too negative to be honest, but cant argue with the masses I suppose. Tried a club (club 29 in Leicester), but there was no-one in apart from one other bloke, so I didnt stay. I'll have to try one of the big ones if theyll accept single males.

Have also tried webcam here, but no-one wanted to engage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried tape measure markings on your penis, it works for me. Guaranteed.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Bloody hell I don't think I've seen a profile text that miserable before.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I'm reading it at 7:40pm. Is this the newly positive rewritten version???

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Profile seems a little stand offish, pictures are fine though. You just send off a " I joined a swingers site and havnt had a fuck yet so I'm an angry bear" vibe

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bloody hell I don't think I've seen a profile text that miserable before."

There are loads worse, but I'll take the advice and re-write shortly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm reading it at 7:40pm. Is this the newly positive rewritten version??? "

Chuckle! No, not yet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Profile seems a little stand offish, pictures are fine though. You just send off a " I joined a swingers site and havnt had a fuck yet so I'm an angry bear" vibe"

Thank you. Re-write imminent...

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

If others don't find you attractive your profile or message will fall on deaf ears.

If they find you attractive the words will help.

Have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried shaving your legs and dressing as a girl?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you tried shaving your legs and dressing as a girl? "

Quite the opposite - shave all my long hair off recently.

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