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"I can err fair/ pale as well, and something I like to do is to take a neutral eyeshadow in something like a mid brown, and put a thin line just under my lower lashes to my iris, then smudge it out a bit. It gives my eyes definition without overpowering them. Something to experiment with, again. " Wow thanks... I think I have lots of experimenting to do... Maybe, a nice lady could take me under their wing | |||
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"I don't know about locally to you, but in Manchester the ladies (and sometimes gents) at makeup counters wouldn't bat an eye helping you out finding things that suit you. Some might show you how to apply as well (obviously the more work they put in, the more they'll expect you to buy something. Some brands have lessons where the fee is redeemable on product). " Don't think we're as liberal over here, unfortunately. I remember in a trannie shop had protesters outside it for weeks... | |||
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"I don't know about locally to you, but in Manchester the ladies (and sometimes gents) at makeup counters wouldn't bat an eye helping you out finding things that suit you. Some might show you how to apply as well (obviously the more work they put in, the more they'll expect you to buy something. Some brands have lessons where the fee is redeemable on product). Don't think we're as liberal over here, unfortunately. I remember in a trannie shop had protesters outside it for weeks..." Ugh. Go buy Christmas presents for your "niece", whose colouring is very similar to yours? | |||
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"I don't know about locally to you, but in Manchester the ladies (and sometimes gents) at makeup counters wouldn't bat an eye helping you out finding things that suit you. Some might show you how to apply as well (obviously the more work they put in, the more they'll expect you to buy something. Some brands have lessons where the fee is redeemable on product). Don't think we're as liberal over here, unfortunately. I remember in a trannie shop had protesters outside it for weeks... Ugh. Go buy Christmas presents for your "niece", whose colouring is very similar to yours? " Wish I could try that... Maybe, some day I will | |||
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"I like the first pic of yours, I agree about the black eyeliner, try brown, and use eyeshadow as eyeliner applied with a thin brush and blended out a bit. I can't use liquid eyeliners. Your hair in that first pic is also very natural looking It just takes a lot of practice. I can recommend revolution brand eyeshadows in superdrug. " Thanks, for the advice. I tried liquid eyeliner too but not very good with it... I think, I am going to need lots of practice.... | |||
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"Experiment with a softer hairstyle. A soft wave rather than curls which could defeat the object and a lighter brown with a bit of feathering around the face. Your fringe looks great I like that look. I don't know how you like to dress but I think that too many frills, too much lace and satin can have the opposite to the desired effect. " Thanks, for the hair style advice. I do like satin but try to dress practically. In a nice skirt and blouse... | |||
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"Invest in a contouring kit (was invented by a drag queen)" Will have to do some research on that but thanks, so much for the advice x | |||
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"Invest in a contouring kit (was invented by a drag queen) Will have to do some research on that but thanks, so much for the advice x " It is a genuinely amazing product that helped me no end (and it tells you what to do so you aren’t guessing) | |||
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"Experiment with a softer hairstyle. A soft wave rather than curls which could defeat the object and a lighter brown with a bit of feathering around the face. Your fringe looks great I like that look. I don't know how you like to dress but I think that too many frills, too much lace and satin can have the opposite to the desired effect. Thanks, for the hair style advice. I do like satin but try to dress practically. In a nice skirt and blouse..." A classic piece of fashion advice is, before leaving the house, remove one accessory. I'm not criticising by saying this, but generally less is more. So, big earrings or necklace. Frilly top and plain bottom. One item that's patterned. Etc. | |||
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"wear a dress with leggings underneath ,or live in jeans (or leggins ) thats all i seem to see down the pub or when out shopping loooool" Thank you for your sensitive, understanding, helpful comment. | |||
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"wear a dress with leggings underneath ,or live in jeans (or leggins ) thats all i seem to see down the pub or when out shopping loooool" Really. I only shop in corset and stockings and go to the pub naked. You think loooool makes it ok - laugh out out out out out loud. xslutx | |||
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"Just a suggestion can you not try meeting up with some willing and maybe more experienced ladies who know more about this? There must be a class/seminar for this somewhere in the UK? Alternatively our daughter spends hours on YouTube looking at make up tutorials. There has to be specific one's for your situation. I am guessing that there's a massive difference between day to day make up and say attending a club? Also just maybe many of the TS and TV'S on here and ask for advice I'm pretty sure many would be happy to give advice. " Im at the start of my foray into offering makeup lessons, unfortunately the OP isn’t near me otherwise i’d have contacted them directly | |||
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"I was described this week as a middle aged man in stockings and a wig. So, would be interested in hearing some advice in making myself more womanly, I know it's won't be easy. I know I am overweight, so could lose weight... Anything else? " Fort of all I'd question whether you should take a comment like that to heart anyway. Was it someone whose opinion you care about? As for weight, there's plenty of fat women. Makeup can help but, as some have said, less is more. The most important thing is to believe in yourself | |||
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"Fort of all I'd question whether you should take a comment like that to heart anyway. Was it someone whose opinion you care about? As for weight, there's plenty of fat women. Makeup can help but, as some have said, less is more. The most important thing is to believe in yourself " *First | |||
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"I was described this week as a middle aged man in stockings and a wig. So, would be interested in hearing some advice in making myself more womanly, I know it's won't be easy. I know I am overweight, so could lose weight... Anything else? " Losing weight won’t make you more feminine. If anything, the weight will soften your body and face and actually make you more feminine. You have a fairly gender neutral face shape so that’s a great start. You can create a good cleavage by using a ‘sticky bra’. Buy them on eBay, amazon etc. You stick them to your chest. Pop on a under sized padded bra over it and then unstick one side as you drag your skin toward the centre. Stick it down and then repeat from the other side. Effectively you have pulled the skin into a cleavage and the padded bra gives you the boobs. | |||
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"I found getting smooth all over is important, then play about with makeup, loads of stuff online, nail polish, eyelashes, jewellery and accessories xx" Yep, I luv being smooth all over too and luv to put moisture all over my body... Simply best feeling in the world for me... | |||
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"OP, I'm not the biggest makeup person, so I'll comment on the hair. The most recent piccy shows off your skin tone nicely. Don't go ash blonde. It's too harsh for you, it shows up all the contrast and create far more harsh shadows on your face. The cheekbones will look harsher and more angular and any hint of 5 O'Clock shadow will be magnified. Go for brunette or even a red wigs. The red refection will make your skin tone sing. Another thing I will say if you can afford it, shop for a wig that doesn't look plastic. Yes natural can be more expensive, but if you are artistic, creative, and can work with your hands you can make your own. You can easily choose synthetic fibres that look more natural. There are too many YT videos to recommend. Hope that helps. Best Cx" Thank you, yes I think I am better of as brunette or maybe darning try the red tint or something yeah defo looking to upgrade the wig. Was trying to find a style that suits... | |||
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"There is an optimum point when you feel you can be yourself. It is different for everyone. For some, it involves a lot of emotional struggle and trauma. For others, it is found in very simple ways. You can only ever been yourself. Everone else is taken. It's at what point do you conclude you are the best "me" you can ever be. When you find it, you'll know it. And embrace it. Hope this helps " Yeah, very insightful comment. I guess I am still at the optimising level. Hopefully, I will get there some time... | |||
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"Don't let others grind you down. As others have said a softer eyeliner and contouring. Maybe a lighter coloured brown softer wig. Just be you and try different looks " l Thank you taking the time to to reply... The comment did knock me a bit, but your right I shouldn't let me grind me down... | |||
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"Everyone is different . we are all individuals .just be yourself . do not take any comment to heart.that way the numpties win . I no longer care what anyone says .I do what I want for me and no one else . if they don't like it they can always cross the road. Don't overdo the make up try to look and acT as normal as you possibly can . like I say we are all individually unique " Your right, but I don't feel as confident as you. Your right too I shouldn't let them win.... | |||
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"I was described this week as a middle aged man in stockings and a wig. So, would be interested in hearing some advice in making myself more womanly, I know it's won't be easy. I know I am overweight, so could lose weight... Anything else? Losing weight won’t make you more feminine. If anything, the weight will soften your body and face and actually make you more feminine. You have a fairly gender neutral face shape so that’s a great start. You can create a good cleavage by using a ‘sticky bra’. Buy them on eBay, amazon etc. You stick them to your chest. Pop on a under sized padded bra over it and then unstick one side as you drag your skin toward the centre. Stick it down and then repeat from the other side. Effectively you have pulled the skin into a cleavage and the padded bra gives you the boobs. " I think, that's the nicest thing someone has said to me on here.. Thanks for the tips on getting myself some cleavage X | |||
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"I agree with the makeup - use a small brush to just darken the corners of ur eye and just under smokey but less and sublte use a mascara that will open up ur eyes a little and mebbe a darker pink lipstick - I think u look absolutely fine - good luck ... queen xxx" Wow that's for the advice and nice compliment as well x | |||
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"White eyeliner, less eyeshadow. Learn how to blend and also learn how to do a sickening contour and itll go a long way you have a mans bone structure, but it's ok, because you can soften it with make up " Ok, thanks for the advice X wish I didn't have the mans bone structure but hopefully as you said I can soften with makeup x | |||
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"ref not feeling happy about size, Corsets and shapewear can work wonders. Some real advancements in enhancements, Google breast vest. I like your wigs it's not easy to get a good one. Projecting, could I ask if the person who said this to you was 'just a middle aged man' ? xslutx " No person who said that was a women. I can't say she as a lady... Not like you nice folks on this post. | |||
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"I was described this week as a middle aged man in stockings and a wig. So, would be interested in hearing some advice in making myself more womanly, I know it's won't be easy. I know I am overweight, so could lose weight... Anything else? Fort of all I'd question whether you should take a comment like that to heart anyway. Was it someone whose opinion you care about? As for weight, there's plenty of fat women. Makeup can help but, as some have said, less is more. The most important thing is to believe in yourself " Not really care about this person but guess it hurt a bit because it's sort of true as well... But I am evolving so next year I will be better or a millionaire | |||
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"I was described this week as a middle aged man in stockings and a wig. So, would be interested in hearing some advice in making myself more womanly, I know it's won't be easy. I know I am overweight, so could lose weight... Anything else? " That's harsh. Just play about and find a style that you like. Dont worry about what other people say, if you are happy then dont worry about the negative comments. Some of the most beautiful women (and tvs) on here still get negative comments. Sometimes the people making them are just pr*cks!! | |||
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"Do you want to look more female or more passable? As for make up , if you go heavy on the eyes go light on the lips and vice versa. Also note that women dress like women, Tv's tend to dress as men would like women to dress. Hope that makes sense. You should use any "over weight" to your advantage, curves are sexy X Anyway, I think you look cute." This is what I’ve found with TV friends. In an effort to look more feminine, they go a bit to far . Whether it’s with dress , or makeup. Less is more. Watch what cis women wear day to day . I really like the wig & colour in your profile pic. I’d stay in those tones, but maybe a bit longer on the sides with an inward feather effect , to help soften your jawline. Keep practicing with the makeup. Apply then tone it down by half . You’ll get it . Don’t forget most of us have been practicing since we were 12 lol Our eyes were originally overdone too | |||
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"Do you want to look more female or more passable? As for make up , if you go heavy on the eyes go light on the lips and vice versa. Also note that women dress like women, Tv's tend to dress as men would like women to dress. Hope that makes sense. You should use any "over weight" to your advantage, curves are sexy X Anyway, I think you look cute. This is what I’ve found with TV friends. In an effort to look more feminine, they go a bit to far . Whether it’s with dress , or makeup. Less is more. Watch what cis women wear day to day . I really like the wig & colour in your profile pic. I’d stay in those tones, but maybe a bit longer on the sides with an inward feather effect , to help soften your jawline. Keep practicing with the makeup. Apply then tone it down by half . You’ll get it . Don’t forget most of us have been practicing since we were 12 lol Our eyes were originally overdone too " I’m so much better from when I started out as I used to slap the makeup on thick, now I barely use much for my ‘base’ and it helps me be passable (apart from voice wise) | |||
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"Love this thread, its really nice to see all the lovely comments. The thought did occur to me that this comment was made after you turned someone down though. We all evolve over time and hopefully improve. Makeup is so complicated with so many different looks. I love YouTube as it's far easier to watch someone and see how it's done. Btw I think you look fab x " I love this thread too. And I've learned tips. | |||
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"Love this thread, its really nice to see all the lovely comments. The thought did occur to me that this comment was made after you turned someone down though. We all evolve over time and hopefully improve. Makeup is so complicated with so many different looks. I love YouTube as it's far easier to watch someone and see how it's done. Btw I think you look fab x I love this thread too. And I've learned tips. " It's the nicest thread ever, I've bookmarked it, so much useful information from some lovely people | |||
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"Love this thread, its really nice to see all the lovely comments. The thought did occur to me that this comment was made after you turned someone down though. We all evolve over time and hopefully improve. Makeup is so complicated with so many different looks. I love YouTube as it's far easier to watch someone and see how it's done. Btw I think you look fab x I love this thread too. And I've learned tips. " Ditto | |||
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"I was described this week as a middle aged man in stockings and a wig. So, would be interested in hearing some advice in making myself more womanly, I know it's won't be easy. I know I am overweight, so could lose weight... Anything else? Losing weight won’t make you more feminine. If anything, the weight will soften your body and face and actually make you more feminine. You have a fairly gender neutral face shape so that’s a great start. You can create a good cleavage by using a ‘sticky bra’. Buy them on eBay, amazon etc. You stick them to your chest. Pop on a under sized padded bra over it and then unstick one side as you drag your skin toward the centre. Stick it down and then repeat from the other side. Effectively you have pulled the skin into a cleavage and the padded bra gives you the boobs. I think, that's the nicest thing someone has said to me on here.. Thanks for the tips on getting myself some cleavage X " You’re welcome. Just in case anyone hasn’t realised; I’m trans. I had a Homer Simpson shadow 18 months ago. Orange lipstick, translucent setting powder and then a full cover foundation set with a powder my skin tone was my go to. Laser at a Nuffield hospital for 12 months sorted that. Hormones are fixing some of my other faults. I have a list of facial surgical needs that I’m saving for. | |||
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