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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any advice for a single girl going to her first club?

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

Grow eyes in the back of yer head. Just kidding lol. But do have your wits about you....and be firm with your "No's" and "No thankyou's".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Grow eyes in the back of yer head. Just kidding lol. But do have your wits about you....and be firm with your "No's" and "No thankyou's". "

also depending on the club prepared to be gazed upon like a shooting star by a couple or couple of guys if you decide to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m looking to go for first time but need some encouragement lol

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

The best advice I ever got was ‘relax. It’s just like a pub... but for dirty people’

Make sure you announce it’s your first visit. Ask for a tour. Ask be introduced to people as you go around. Head to the bar/social area. Be chatty. If you dress down take a robe or cover up in case you feel less brave. Trust your instincts and only do what you’re comfortable with. Being in a club doesn’t mean you have to do anything you’re not 100% on board with.

Above all enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The best advice I ever got was ‘relax. It’s just like a pub... but for dirty people’

Make sure you announce it’s your first visit. Ask for a tour. Ask be introduced to people as you go around. Head to the bar/social area. Be chatty. If you dress down take a robe or cover up in case you feel less brave. Trust your instincts and only do what you’re comfortable with. Being in a club doesn’t mean you have to do anything you’re not 100% on board with.

Above all enjoy x

You want to take me lol

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

Carry a taser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're bi, I'd suggest you consider going on a night when the club doesn't allow single men. Most clubs have such a night regularly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any advice for a single girl going to her first club? "

Go for it x

I've never looked back since.

Maybe go at a quiet time, if a little apprehensive!

Its a lot of fun though hunny. I've been and not played before now, so no pressure x

Enjoy!

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"The best advice I ever got was ‘relax. It’s just like a pub... but for dirty people’

Make sure you announce it’s your first visit. Ask for a tour. Ask be introduced to people as you go around. Head to the bar/social area. Be chatty. If you dress down take a robe or cover up in case you feel less brave. Trust your instincts and only do what you’re comfortable with. Being in a club doesn’t mean you have to do anything you’re not 100% on board with.

Above all enjoy x

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By *ee pandaWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Dont go with any expectations to play hun just take in ur surroundings, i was lucky to go with friends who looked out for me. Just be firm and dont do anything that makes u feel pressured xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The best advice I ever got was ‘relax. It’s just like a pub... but for dirty people’

Make sure you announce it’s your first visit. Ask for a tour. Ask be introduced to people as you go around. Head to the bar/social area. Be chatty. If you dress down take a robe or cover up in case you feel less brave. Trust your instincts and only do what you’re comfortable with. Being in a club doesn’t mean you have to do anything you’re not 100% on board with.

Above all enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't wear your best knickers you are likely to lose them

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By *mm and HerCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Pick your club carefully - while very very few are bad, some might suit you better than others. If you're shy, do they have private rooms for example?

See if you can find another female who says they are going, and msg them so at least you have a friendly face when you arrive. Some clubs are very active on here so you should be able to figure out the regulars pretty easily and the club owners will often help you.

You don't have to do anything - a good club will be as social as it is active, so there is no pressure at all. In 99.99999% of cases, a no thank you and a smile is the most you'll need.

Finally, don't be afraid to smile and say hello, even if just to chat - there will be others feeling just like you!

Good luck - you'll have a Fab time!

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By *erminxWoman
over a year ago

Quinton

Which club are you going too?

If Birmingham I’ll come with you, 2 single girls

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames


"The best advice I ever got was ‘relax. It’s just like a pub... but for dirty people’

Make sure you announce it’s your first visit. Ask for a tour. Ask be introduced to people as you go around. Head to the bar/social area. Be chatty. If you dress down take a robe or cover up in case you feel less brave. Trust your instincts and only do what you’re comfortable with. Being in a club doesn’t mean you have to do anything you’re not 100% on board with.

Above all enjoy x

"
totally agree - be yourself, be alert, be confident and be aware of your power (No thanks really means No thanks) ... pace yourself and give yourself some boundaries which only you can breach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

If you do find someone you fancy playing with, when he goes to enter you, make sure you guide him in by hand....to check he has a condom on.

Check every time, some guys prefer to go bare, and will use the excuse of a change of position ( or any pause in action where he "slips" out) to quickly whip it off before going back in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you do find someone you fancy playing with, when he goes to enter you, make sure you guide him in by hand....to check he has a condom on.

Check every time, some guys prefer to go bare, and will use the excuse of a change of position ( or any pause in action where he "slips" out) to quickly whip it off before going back in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can recommend Jaydees, it's a well managed club and everyone is friendly

When you decide on the night and club, I'd also suggest chatting on here to a few people who have posted that they are going, it's always good to have broken the ice so you can chat when you meet face to face

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Going to Jaydees xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That’s where I’m off too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you do find someone you fancy playing with, when he goes to enter you, make sure you guide him in by hand....to check he has a condom on.

Check every time, some guys prefer to go bare, and will use the excuse of a change of position ( or any pause in action where he "slips" out) to quickly whip it off before going back in.

"

No? That's awful! I think I would go mad if someone did that to me

Showing my innocence again

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
over a year ago

hot wife


"Any advice for a single girl going to her first club? "
go to a well run club let the people running the night that your here on your own and just have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you do find someone you fancy playing with, when he goes to enter you, make sure you guide him in by hand....to check he has a condom on.

Check every time, some guys prefer to go bare, and will use the excuse of a change of position ( or any pause in action where he "slips" out) to quickly whip it off before going back in.

"

Wow that sounds awful!!! I’ll deffo be warned of that!!

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I go to lots of clubs as a single girl, it's just like a sexy pub where people are more liberated and there's more to watch, in my opinion.

Have a good time, don't be shy about talking to people, as they tend to be very welcoming unfriendly and it's perfectly acceptable to say no thank you, the same as you would if someone offered you a drink and you didn't want one.

You can always come call the club and let them know you are coming and I'm sure they will have a member of staff who will show you around, and introduce you to a few friendly regulars.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I go to lots of clubs as a single girl, it's just like a sexy pub where people are more liberated and there's more to watch, in my opinion.

Have a good time, don't be shy about talking to people, as they tend to be very welcoming unfriendly and it's perfectly acceptable to say no thank you, the same as you would if someone offered you a drink and you didn't want one.

You can always come call the club and let them know you are coming and I'm sure they will have a member of staff who will show you around, and introduce you to a few friendly regulars."

Thanks for your advice! I’ve contacted the club in advance anyway

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By *teel888Man
over a year ago

kent


"I go to lots of clubs as a single girl, it's just like a sexy pub where people are more liberated and there's more to watch, in my opinion.

Have a good time, don't be shy about talking to people, as they tend to be very welcoming unfriendly and it's perfectly acceptable to say no thank you, the same as you would if someone offered you a drink and you didn't want one.

You can always come call the club and let them know you are coming and I'm sure they will have a member of staff who will show you around, and introduce you to a few friendly regulars.

Thanks for your advice! I’ve contacted the club in advance anyway "

Maybe I could escort you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I go to lots of clubs as a single girl, it's just like a sexy pub where people are more liberated and there's more to watch, in my opinion.

Have a good time, don't be shy about talking to people, as they tend to be very welcoming unfriendly and it's perfectly acceptable to say no thank you, the same as you would if someone offered you a drink and you didn't want one.

You can always come call the club and let them know you are coming and I'm sure they will have a member of staff who will show you around, and introduce you to a few friendly regulars.

Thanks for your advice! I’ve contacted the club in advance anyway

Maybe I could escort you "

Daytime event?

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London


"Going to Jaydees xx"

Jaydees is a good choice. It's very friendly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Going to Jaydees xx

Jaydees is a good choice. It's very friendly."

Fingers crossed it’s busy in the daytime!

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London


"Going to Jaydees xx

Jaydees is a good choice. It's very friendly.

Fingers crossed it’s busy in the daytime! "

All that's needed is enough people to create an atmosphere.

Sometimes clubs are actually better when they're not too busy, I find people get more of a chance to mingle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't go on an event night as they can be very busy. If you go to Chams go on a Saturday as it's couples and ladies only after 7.30, most important is the word no. But most importantly enjoy yourself even if you don't play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be safe and enjoy your self and if unwanted tunching on puchy people don't be shy about telling them to back off. As some guys think it OK just because they pay to get in. Or try going with another female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ll be fine once you chat with the regulars/owners/staff you’ll be well away, before you know it you’ll be relaxed in the environment, clubs always go out of there way to look after single ladies, you are an asset to attract couples and single guys that bring revenue to the club, so go along, chat and join, before you know it you’ll be part of the clique, enjoy

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By *luegreen123Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I'm in manchester and my 1st visit was on my own on a Friday night.

Just remember you don't even have to have sex. It's your call. Playing, teasing we all know can be lots of fun.

And if anyone is too pushy you can always report them to management.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any advice for a single girl going to her first club? "

Jaydees be good for your first ..

I'm a member too

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable


"Any advice for a single girl going to her first club? "
Take me with you, I will make sure your safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Going to Jaydees xx

Jaydees is a good choice. It's very friendly.

Fingers crossed it’s busy in the daytime! "

I am from pboro. If you see my profile and like what you read, drop me a msg. Happy to escort you with absolutely no obligation/expectation of anything happening between us. A social meet beforehand would probably bd a good idea.x

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By *ppo BarnsleyMan
over a year ago

barnsley

Go and enjoy yourself I'm going for my first time next week I'm so excited I may not play but will be nice just to be in the environment I belong in remember the word no if you go and don't want to play there is no pressure you don't have to you can just sit in the lounge and have a drink talking to others I'm been told by many friends they are really friendly and the staff don't stand for idiots spoiling it they get evicted from the promises just remember have fun you only live one don't live with regret x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best advice I can give is keep expectations low mind open and remember that it’s your body and your rules the social areas are a great place to find your feet and get used to the vibe I think you will be surprised at how friendly people are and how respectful they will be just watch for those that think because you are a swinger you are up for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any advice for a single girl going to her first club? "
develop eyes in your bum cheeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often couples won't approach you

Men will hound you but just be very firm and let them know your intentions with them.

You will find men who wouldn't dream of trying to chat you up in a pub will think its game on. And I mean really old ugly men will think they have a chance. Just be firm

Enjoy they are great places when you are in control

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By *omewhatSlightlyDazedMan
over a year ago

Warwick Birmingham & YamYamLand

Talk to the staff who run the place, tell them it's your first and you're nervous. You'll find they will (at a distance) keep an eye out and maybe introduce you to the trusted (Not after nouthing) local/regulars. You can relax and enjoy yourself and only do what you feel comfortable with even if that is talking and mingling. Most importantly, keep your wits about you, stay safe and enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you do find someone you fancy playing with, when he goes to enter you, make sure you guide him in by hand....to check he has a condom on.

Check every time, some guys prefer to go bare, and will use the excuse of a change of position ( or any pause in action where he "slips" out) to quickly whip it off before going back in.

"

And check it’s fresh. Occasionally guys try to make one condom last between several women.

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By *reeMan
over a year ago

Paisley


"Carry a taser"

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"Often couples won't approach you

Men will hound you but just be very firm and let them know your intentions with them.

You will find men who wouldn't dream of trying to chat you up in a pub will think its game on. And I mean really old ugly men will think they have a chance. Just be firm

I completely disagree I don’t know when you last attended a club but I know lots of single ladies who attend clubs on their own (one of those is actually on this thread)non of them get hounded. I’m pretty sure Op you’ll feel safe and comfortable and good luck

Enjoy they are great places when you are in control "

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By *omewhatSlightlyDazedMan
over a year ago

Warwick Birmingham & YamYamLand


"If you do find someone you fancy playing with, when he goes to enter you, make sure you guide him in by hand....to check he has a condom on.

Check every time, some guys prefer to go bare, and will use the excuse of a change of position ( or any pause in action where he "slips" out) to quickly whip it off before going back in.

And check it’s fresh. Occasionally guys try to make one condom last between several women."

Really?!?! Ewww... ffs that's disgusting why bother!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you do find someone you fancy playing with, when he goes to enter you, make sure you guide him in by hand....to check he has a condom on.

Check every time, some guys prefer to go bare, and will use the excuse of a change of position ( or any pause in action where he "slips" out) to quickly whip it off before going back in.

And check it’s fresh. Occasionally guys try to make one condom last between several women."
wash them out you mean under tap?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take me with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you do find someone you fancy playing with, when he goes to enter you, make sure you guide him in by hand....to check he has a condom on.

Check every time, some guys prefer to go bare, and will use the excuse of a change of position ( or any pause in action where he "slips" out) to quickly whip it off before going back in.

And check it’s fresh. Occasionally guys try to make one condom last between several women."

Wow, what clubs do you go to? Never seen that happen in 5 years of clubbing and parties.

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By *uxomBloomsWoman
over a year ago

Near Tunbridge Wells


"The best advice I ever got was ‘relax. It’s just like a pub... but for dirty people’

Make sure you announce it’s your first visit. Ask for a tour. Ask be introduced to people as you go around. Head to the bar/social area. Be chatty. If you dress down take a robe or cover up in case you feel less brave. Trust your instincts and only do what you’re comfortable with. Being in a club doesn’t mean you have to do anything you’re not 100% on board with.

Above all enjoy x

"

Excellent advice.

Be prepared to be very popular, which can be lovely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell the staff .

They will look after you. Report anything that makes you uncomfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any advice for a single girl going to her first club? "

Haha, look at all the posts from people who have never been yoa club.

Just relax and enjoy it, you might find you need to start conversations, a lot of couples find it hard to start a convo with a single girl for some reason, hang around the bar, if it has one, that's normally the best place ro start conversations. Or in the hot tub if it has one.

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