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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Let down again......

How the bloody hell do you get people to stick to the meets that are arranged?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

You could choose more wisely

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By *erkshireMan123Man
over a year ago

Devizes

was it a spur of the moment meet, or organised in advance? did you have each others mobile numbers?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Organised at the begining of December to meet 1st weekend of Jan.

Chose more wisely? As if blokes get the chance to chose. Besides, 4 women letting me down smaks more of women being timewasters than me chosing poorly......

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By *erkshireMan123Man
over a year ago

Devizes

ok so its not like the women let you down on the day, or just didn't turn up at all..

at the end of the day she will have a life of her own, and sometimes things crop up that mean plans have to be changed. thats life, you will have to live with it I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It must suck to be let down and touch wood it's not happened to me yet but things do crop up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bah, I'm pissed off is all. I have been let down before, it's frustrating but things do happen though.

However, since moving up North I have been cancelled 4 times with 4 different women. Not met once in 6 months of being in Lpool. It's very, VERY annoying.......

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By *igerAngelCouple
over a year ago

southend

4 women have let you down, the common factor is you. So maybe the problem does lie with you, not the females.

And I wouldn't really class this one as a time waster. She has let you know in plenty of time, it's not like she left you standing in the cold for 4 hours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ahhh come to edinburgh! I won't let you down .................................all night long! xxx juney xxx

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"4 women have let you down, the common factor is you. So maybe the problem does lie with you, not the females.

And I wouldn't really class this one as a time waster. She has let you know in plenty of time, it's not like she left you standing in the cold for 4 hours. "

Sorry but its harsh but true...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let down again......

How the bloody hell do you get people to stick to the meets that are arranged?

"
what was her reason?..and is a meet still on the cards with her at some point in the future? Or has she burnt her bridges?...and am i being nosey or what?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least you got a fair bit of notice. Life does get in the way of swinging sometimes so offer to rearrange and maybe patience will pay off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were talking to a couple for 2 months the meet was suposed to be us going to them for the weekend.

Babysitter was sorted parts of life put on hold then as we went to walk out the door thought we would message just to say we were on the way...... yep they had blocked us. No reason, so its not just the single blokes.

We tend to stick with parties or clubs now as if nothing happens we can still enjoy ourselfs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will prob het shouted at for this but if this was a couple or female posting this about a man then all would be saying how it was all the man's fault what time wasters they all are but as it is a bloke it is still there fault we got let down by a female we did turn up and was left waiting so maybe it us not his fault and some women are time wasters too ( just a thought) xxx

Her xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At this time of year, sticking to meets can be difficult as I had to call off a meet due to family changing their minds at the last minute, think next year, I won't arrange any.

Plus having a cold didn't help with another meet as he wouldn't meet me, can't say I blame him, snotty nose and cough definitely aint sexy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Morning all.....

I was very annoyed last night, I know my second post was very vitriolic, but the question on the first post still stands, how do I get meets to stick?

I don't have a car at the moment, which limits my options for very short notice meets. Each of the previous arrangements were made a month or two in advance as the ladies had other things on the go and I am not into putting preasure on.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Will prob het shouted at for this but if this was a couple or female posting this about a man then all would be saying how it was all the man's fault what time wasters they all are"

Nope. When I was relatively new to the forums I posted about being let down (I was actually sat in a pub for an hour then the guy texted me to say he'd been out the night before and was still in bed with the lass he pulled ) and I got pretty much the same response as the OP. It takes a while to get meeting right and even then cancellations still happen.

I know it is harder for single men to meet but it does seem that he is picking wrong. I have never stood anyone up, and only cancelled for very good reasons, so it may be that he keeps picking 'women' who have no intention of meeting. If at first you don't succeed etc etc.

I knwo there is a social in Liverpool from time to time so might be worth keeping an eye out for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't see anything wrong - nice profile & veris - would just keep trying and be patient!

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When a played bi i was let down by single men, couples and single women,... some sorry excuse most of the time,..other times was rearranged and others just got a big fat block! ,.. unfortunatly it happens,.. i wont meet noone till we speak on cam and on fone at least an hour beforehand and this i make clear when we first start chatting, give it a try, get cam verification, phonecall and make sure a phonecall before you meet each other x good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Organised at the begining of December to meet 1st weekend of Jan.

Chose more wisely? As if blokes get the chance to chose. Besides, 4 women letting me down smaks more of women being timewasters than me chosing poorly......"

Everyone has the chance to choose, id like to think all the guys i have met have chosen me, but then again seeing as women are time wasters i aint met anyone

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Organised at the begining of December to meet 1st weekend of Jan.

Chose more wisely? As if blokes get the chance to chose. Besides, 4 women letting me down smaks more of women being timewasters than me chosing poorly......"

no actually if you want me to be brutally honest YOU are the common demoninator here...

you decided to meet them all... did you do everything in your due diligence

but then "you" couldn't be at fault in any way.....

see 1 could be considered a fluke.. 2 possibles unfortunate.... 4 is becomming a pattern......

only YOU can change that pattern, and blaming others isn't going to do that....

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By *oournsMan
over a year ago

a


"Let down again......

How the bloody hell do you get people to stick to the meets that are arranged?

"
you cant get them to do anything ! Its free will, they can cancel. 6 months without a meet would suggest that you need a new approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let down again......

How the bloody hell do you get people to stick to the meets that are arranged?

"
i've just been let down again GRRRR

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures


" touch wood it's not happened to me yet "

I can see why

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Let down again......

How the bloody hell do you get people to stick to the meets that are arranged?

"

You can't...

Sometimes everyday life makes it difficult to stick to plans that have been arranged.

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By *oournsMan
over a year ago

a


"Morning all.....

I was very annoyed last night, I know my second post was very vitriolic, but the question on the first post still stands, how do I get meets to stick?

I don't have a car at the moment, which limits my options for very short notice meets. Each of the previous arrangements were made a month or two in advance as the ladies had other things on the go and I am not into putting preasure on. "
again you cant. Patience is what you need

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran


"Organised at the begining of December to meet 1st weekend of Jan.

Chose more wisely? As if blokes get the chance to chose. Besides, 4 women letting me down smaks more of women being timewasters than me chosing poorly......

no actually if you want me to be brutally honest YOU are the common demoninator here...

you decided to meet them all... did you do everything in your due diligence

but then "you" couldn't be at fault in any way.....

see 1 could be considered a fluke.. 2 possibles unfortunate.... 4 is becomming a pattern......

only YOU can change that pattern, and blaming others isn't going to do that...."

Of course he's the common denominator here he started the thread, but that's too simple = we have no idea if the 4 women concerned have done this once before or 100 times before. He could just have been unlucky, you can't tell before arranging a meet whether they will definately meet - it's a lottery

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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Of course he's the common denominator here he started the thread, but that's too simple = we have no idea if the 4 women concerned have done this once before or 100 times before. He could just have been unlucky, you can't tell before arranging a meet whether they will definately meet - it's a lottery"

and remember... he is the one who started the thread and is the one complaining.... no one else...

I'm sorry.. but all the above to me is a cop out... not my fault in any way shape or form...

i am not going to knock anyone who can't meet because "real life" got in the way... heck, this year i couldn't get to northern ireland because of surgery.... and i missed meets because my mum passed away...

and if it is genuine, then people will understand rather than moan about it....

and if they are timewasters in your words... choose better!!! its as simple as that, and part of that is working out if you could have done things differently....

could you have gotten to know people better, could you have done more due diligence, were there any red flags or did you just rush headlong in and think with your cock.......

its not a lottery at all... i would like to think that you did a bit more research into potential partners than saying "luck of the draw!!"

if that is the way you do your swinging then maybe that says as much about you as it does for the "lottery picks" you are picking in your own words.....

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

of course it's a lottery or we wouldnt have thread after thread and people on the meets boards complaining about time wasters. You must be very fortunate if you've never encountered any problems and I didnt say I was having any particular problem with no shows it's just how it appears to me given the number of people complaining

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bah, I'm pissed off is all. I have been let down before, it's frustrating but things do happen though.

However, since moving up North I have been cancelled 4 times with 4 different women. Not met once in 6 months of being in Lpool. It's very, VERY annoying......."

Liverpool eh? Perhaps they found something else to do such as stealing a car

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (Daz) really don't get these threads about time wasters. At the end of the day people make their own choices. If they choose not to meet you ( for what ever reason), it is quite simply their choice.

If we arrange to meet people and they choose to cancel, we still make a night of it for ourselves.

P.s

We have had plenty of meets with folk where we have not played but still had a good time. Swinging is not all about sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the OP, sorry you have had your time wasted but I think you may need to work on your filtering and selection process a bit harder xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can understand being miffed if you turn up to a no show.

It takes nothing to text/call at the earliest possible time if your not able to get there, or are even going to be late.

Its just good manners and common courtesy but sadly these seem to be dying traits.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bah, I'm pissed off is all. I have been let down before, it's frustrating but things do happen though.

However, since moving up North I have been cancelled 4 times with 4 different women. Not met once in 6 months of being in Lpool. It's very, VERY annoying.......

Liverpool eh? Perhaps they found something else to do such as stealing a car "

Comedy gold. Not. I suspect someone found that sort of stereotyping funny 30 years ago...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it does not actually bother me that much if i arrange a meet and they cancel because its no big deal to replace them really, i have met enough people in the past to call upto if i wanted a met and lets be honest its hardly hard for a woman to get a meet off here if she wants someone new, i booked a hotel one night and the guy cancelled about a hour before we was supposed to meet, so i just came on here, mailed a guy i had been talking to and asked him if he was free and within 10 mins of being let down had another meet arranged, so it really dont bother me

What i hate is the ones who dont let you know, only had 1 no show in 11 years tho so i dont think i can moan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"of course it's a lottery or we wouldnt have thread after thread and people on the meets boards complaining about time wasters. You must be very fortunate if you've never encountered any problems and I didnt say I was having any particular problem with no shows it's just how it appears to me given the number of people complaining "

You aren;t having a problem with meets so what are you doing different to the OP? It's not a lottery, Fabio speaks sense. There are 2 types of men on here, those that get meets and those that don;t. And the reasons are normally obvious.

Personally I think that he has mentioned on this thread that he is arranging meets sometime in advance may be his problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't tell who is going to meet and who isn't regardless of what other people think. You are obviously getting people to agree to meet so you're doing something right! Carry on the way you are and some truthful people (ones who say they are going to meet and actually mean it) will hook up with you I'm sure. Good Luck!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"of course it's a lottery or we wouldnt have thread after thread and people on the meets boards complaining about time wasters. You must be very fortunate if you've never encountered any problems and I didnt say I was having any particular problem with no shows it's just how it appears to me given the number of people complaining "

and how do you know how others go about there swinging... which is why I said the "I'm blameless" arguement doesn't wash with me.....

not my fault... never my fault.... oh woe is me...

4 is a pattern.. and only a pattern that the OP can break... so what can HE do you change that pattern...

obviously if it is never his fault.. then he can't learn from any mistakes, and since that is the case, this thread is pointless because he will just bury his head in the sand...

he brought up the topic.. some if it will be on them and some of it will be on him...

if there are red flags...act of them,

if there is a gut feeling...act on it

if you are not sure for any reason... keep going till you are..

but the problem for a lot of people is they would rather think with their cocks and ignore the above.....

remember not everyone is complaining... it is working out a way of getting the site to work for them... the ones who are doing that aren't the ones complaining.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"of course it's a lottery or we wouldnt have thread after thread and people on the meets boards complaining about time wasters. You must be very fortunate if you've never encountered any problems and I didnt say I was having any particular problem with no shows it's just how it appears to me given the number of people complaining

and how do you know how others go about there swinging... which is why I said the "I'm blameless" arguement doesn't wash with me.....

not my fault... never my fault.... oh woe is me...

4 is a pattern.. and only a pattern that the OP can break... so what can HE do you change that pattern...

obviously if it is never his fault.. then he can't learn from any mistakes, and since that is the case, this thread is pointless because he will just bury his head in the sand...

he brought up the topic.. some if it will be on them and some of it will be on him...

if there are red flags...act of them,

if there is a gut feeling...act on it

if you are not sure for any reason... keep going till you are..

but the problem for a lot of people is they would rather think with their cocks and ignore the above.....

remember not everyone is complaining... it is working out a way of getting the site to work for them... the ones who are doing that aren't the ones complaining.....

"

+1 i agree with this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"of course it's a lottery or we wouldnt have thread after thread and people on the meets boards complaining about time wasters. You must be very fortunate if you've never encountered any problems and I didnt say I was having any particular problem with no shows it's just how it appears to me given the number of people complaining

and how do you know how others go about there swinging... which is why I said the "I'm blameless" arguement doesn't wash with me.....

not my fault... never my fault.... oh woe is me...

4 is a pattern.. and only a pattern that the OP can break... so what can HE do you change that pattern...

obviously if it is never his fault.. then he can't learn from any mistakes, and since that is the case, this thread is pointless because he will just bury his head in the sand...

he brought up the topic.. some if it will be on them and some of it will be on him...

if there are red flags...act of them,

if there is a gut feeling...act on it

if you are not sure for any reason... keep going till you are..

but the problem for a lot of people is they would rather think with their cocks and ignore the above.....

remember not everyone is complaining... it is working out a way of getting the site to work for them... the ones who are doing that aren't the ones complaining.....

+1 i agree with this"

The above is a fair point.....When I first joined the site (about 3 years ago now.......) I was quite successfull for around a year. I was driving at the time, but it all went tits up about 2 years ago whe I lost my job (and the car that went with it.....)

I've only been working for 6 months again (though I am between contracts at the moment) so perhaps it's the car which is the diferenciating factor.

As for techniques to get meets, I use the chat rooms and mail people, though I have been propositioned a few times from people who read the forums.

Don't read too much into the post, though. When I wrote it it was late, i was a little d*unk and (quite obviously) disappointed.

I am glad to see, though, that despite the contrasting opinions most of the posts have been constructive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont drive and have no real plans to no more

thats just a shit reason

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i dont drive and have no real plans to no more

thats just a shit reason"

No it's not an excuse, it's a thought a to what has changed about my aproach between now and when I was last getting meets.......

Because I don't drive I can't get to meets with people as easily. I have to rely on public transport and have to be away for the last train/bus or stay over ....

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Because I don't drive I can't get to meets with people as easily. I have to rely on public transport and have to be away for the last train/bus or stay over ...."

I don't drive either but it's not stopped me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because I don't drive I can't get to meets with people as easily. I have to rely on public transport and have to be away for the last train/bus or stay over ....

I don't drive either but it's not stopped me. "

nor me, every meet i have i have to use trains or taxi's, it is harder when you dont drive but you just have to work round it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because I don't drive I can't get to meets with people as easily. I have to rely on public transport and have to be away for the last train/bus or stay over ....

I don't drive either but it's not stopped me.

nor me, every meet i have i have to use trains or taxi's, it is harder when you dont drive but you just have to work round it"
same goes 4 me if your prepared 2 absorb the travel costs its absolutely do able

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bah, I'm pissed off is all. I have been let down before, it's frustrating but things do happen though.

However, since moving up North I have been cancelled 4 times with 4 different women. Not met once in 6 months of being in Lpool. It's very, VERY annoying.......

Liverpool eh? Perhaps they found something else to do such as stealing a car

Comedy gold. Not. I suspect someone found that sort of stereotyping funny 30 years ago... "

I know Stevenage is a pretty awful place to live, but come on, develop a sense of humour!!!

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Bah, I'm pissed off is all. I have been let down before, it's frustrating but things do happen though.

However, since moving up North I have been cancelled 4 times with 4 different women. Not met once in 6 months of being in Lpool. It's very, VERY annoying.......

Liverpool eh? Perhaps they found something else to do such as stealing a car "

Ah you can't beat a bit of racsism lol. Adding a does not make it any less insulting to us people from Liverpool.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Bah, I'm pissed off is all. I have been let down before, it's frustrating but things do happen though.

However, since moving up North I have been cancelled 4 times with 4 different women. Not met once in 6 months of being in Lpool. It's very, VERY annoying.......

Liverpool eh? Perhaps they found something else to do such as stealing a car

Ah you can't beat a bit of racsism lol. Adding a does not make it any less insulting to us people from Liverpool."

Unless Scousers have suddenly become another race, it aint racism. It is bigotry though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let down again......

How the bloody hell do you get people to stick to the meets that are arranged?

"

Crikey, how hard is it to get a meet these days jeez, it's meant to be fun and too many people are taking it too seriously, good advice mate, just keep on trying, I take swinging with a pinch of salt, you win some and you definitely lose some, ain't no biggie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bah, I'm pissed off is all. I have been let down before, it's frustrating but things do happen though.

However, since moving up North I have been cancelled 4 times with 4 different women. Not met once in 6 months of being in Lpool. It's very, VERY annoying.......

Liverpool eh? Perhaps they found something else to do such as stealing a car "

haha fuck me sideways anally with a banana, i havent heard something soooo funny in such a long time

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