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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I'm curious to have my first experience of a club. As a nervous first timer (some would say late starter or just too old!) do people have any advice or recommendations? I was thinking either BGHS in Brighton or Silverleigh in Kent. Any advice, etc would be much appreciated.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

For your first time, just treat it as if you were going to a regular pub on your own. Have a drink, take in the atmosphere and try and chat to the regulars. Don't expect anything more than that so then anything extra is a bonus.

Be approachable and look like you're having fun. Make eye contact and smile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great advice from a sexy couple

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By *errysMan
over a year ago

milton keynes and kent

What you need to understand is that neither of your prospective clubs are swinger clubs.

Silverleigh has a room with porn on and two very small 'rest rooms'.

But as a naked spa its ok.

Bghs i visited once as a couple but we hated the way the staff kept spying and checking we weren't touching each other.

(If you want a swingers club)

My advice would be... look in the club review section for a swingers club there is good reason neither of those appear. Good luck today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a drive to jaydees

It's not overly far from you

It's a perfect Newby venue

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By *uurey CplCouple
over a year ago

Rustington

Where you are based I would suggest either :

Pleasures who are just outside Maidstone

Eureka near Brands Hatch

or Liberations in Brighton

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm in crawley so pretty much all 3 are within range. Any one better than the others?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the pointers. Initially just want a comfortable, naked (and voyeuristic!) environment. If more happens then that's a bonus.

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London


"Take a drive to jaydees

It's not overly far from you

It's a perfect Newby venue "

yes I agree jaydees is a great 1st time club.

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London

But pleasures is my favourite club we go there a lot. Its like our second home.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well Silverleigh was definitely the wrong choice today. Only thing I saw there was a bit of porn on t.v. and a bunch of men wanking. Not even any females to talk with. To be fair I will give the place another try sometime soon but I will also try BGHS.

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By *errysMan
over a year ago

milton keynes and kent


"Well Silverleigh was definitely the wrong choice today. Only thing I saw there was a bit of porn on t.v. and a bunch of men wanking. Not even any females to talk with. To be fair I will give the place another try sometime soon but I will also try BGHS."

I did try to warn you.

Don't let that put you off though.

Try a friday night at vanilla alternative, or jaydees both near each other but a long way from you. Nearest for you is eureka which i used to like and lots of people love it although its better in summer.

I went to bghs once and hated the hypocrisy of it.

Oh one more thing.....pleasures is a great club.....as a couple.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"So I'm curious to have my first experience of a club. As a nervous first timer (some would say late starter or just too old!) do people have any advice or recommendations? I was thinking either BGHS in Brighton or Silverleigh in Kent. Any advice, etc would be much appreciated."

i guve the same 4 words of advice to everyone:

Don't be an arse......

I think that just about covers all areas and interactions one could have.... the rest of it boils done to "basic common sense"... and if you don't have that, then no amount of advice is going to help you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had my first experience last Friday at the Va and it was amazing. It felt like a normal pub environment with a kinky twist. People wore clothes. Some had sexy clothes and others had nothing on lol. Everyone stripped down when in the hot tub but to be fair after a couple of drinks everything feels like second nature. There’s all sorts going on around you and I was in my own bubble. Some were getting on left right and centre and some just chilled in the hot tub all night. There was no pressure from anyone anywhere. Go, chill, fuck, play - what ever takes your fancy xx

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