FabSwingers.com forum: Please help! Need advice. X

By *ee121163 OP Couple
over a year ago

Scotland

Hi me and Don my hubby swing as a couple meeting single guys. Problem and advice I am looking for is. A guy at my work often comments that if he or me weren't married,,we could get together and have some fun together. I am good friends with him at work and we have a joke and laugh together usually about sexual innuendos. He would ask me to sit on his knee during lunch breaks, and that he would love to grope my big tits, just the usual fun chat, and always when others are present, both men and women. Lately I have started giving him a lift into work as I pass him in my car as he's walking to work, only because the guy who gave him a lift before has left. He has started talking about this summerhouse that he had built in his garden earlier this year, and has shown me and everyone else at work the photos etc, and it is really nice with a log fire, three seater couch,,TV,,etc. He has asked me to come over and see it one night after work, but to make it a night when his wife is working late, as in the past he was quite the lad,,having affairs etc,,so says his wife would take it the wrong way if she seen me there. I would like to see it, just as a friend, but feel that if I went he would make a pass at me or try and kiss me etc. He messages me constantly on Facebook, saying how sexy I am, and did I enjoy sitting on his knee, could I feel his cock etc. Also I am 99% positive he has a profile on here,,but he has no face photos, but some photos show him dressed with his cock out and it's clothes I have seen him in at work,,also one of him completely naked,,has been taking in the garden and you can clearly see the side of a summerhouse,,which is identical to his. Also he can only travel not accommodate etc, but worse his cock is very nice, just the kind I like to have fun with, not to long but very thick and well trimmed with shaven balls. Also his likes are what I like from a guy,,he enjoys going down on a woman for aslong as she wants, also likes using toys on her, also a long stayer,,and loves to fuck a woman till she climaxes before he does, his favourite is fucking a woman in her tight bum hole, and always practises safe sex. So all boxes ticked for a guy we would meet. Only problem is he is ginger, so my hubby Don wouldn't want to meet with him anyways, as he has always said we would never meet a ginger guy. He has in fact commented on him in the past, as there has been nights out with the work that both Don and him have been to. So what do you think I should do, I no most, if not all will say, go and fuck him. But I have never played, or ever wanted to play on my own,,so here lies my problem. Also if I do nothing, I feel that the laughing and joking about at work will just get worse,,don't get me wrong I do like the attention,,and no nothing would go any further unless I wanted it too. Looking for helpful replies only please. Also I no it sounds like we are borderline racist but we all have our preferences, and hubbys is not to meet ginger guys, although with him being a work mate, I doubt meeting as a couple would happen anyways,,as not very discreet. X

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

He sounds like a knob who I would personally avoid at all costs.

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Best advice is to not fuck people at work it can go horrendously badly and if you like your job it would be devastating to have to leave. There are plenty of people on here that you don't work with you can have fun with.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Is your husband going to be having sex with him? If not, what the fuck does it matter what his hair colour is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't touch him Hun and I'd stop the flirting etc at work.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"He sounds like a knob who I would personally avoid at all costs. "

I agree, he sounds like Sid James on a bad day, but that appears to be what the OP likes. So the issue is can we can round her husbands ginger phobia?

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By *ee121163 OP Couple
over a year ago

Scotland

Thank you for reply. I no what you are saying, but he is a nice guy,,and we get on well. He has a laugh and joke with everyone, but just think I am his type, that's why I get most of his attention. Really looking for a outcome where we can be friends only, but feel he's just waiting to pounce. If that makes sense. X

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think you should stick to harmless flirting at work tbh. Sitting on his knee in front of other work colleagues in my opinion is a bit crass, and him asking you If you can feel his cock

although obviously you don't mind!

If you go and see his summerhouse it's inevitable that he's going to come on to you, isn't it?

Would you tell your hubby if you want?

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By *ee121163 OP Couple
over a year ago

Scotland

Thanx _ilken great advice. X

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

Can I just say that the "normal work banter" really isn't normal !!

It's not usual to have conversations like you mentioned at work or the physical aspects.

It's a harassment at work lawsuit

waiting to happen.

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By *ee121163 OP Couple
over a year ago

Scotland

I no _inkylondonpair, but it's just a personal choice,,and I respect his wishes. X

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By *ee121163 OP Couple
over a year ago

Scotland

Thanx redraven. More good advice. X

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"Thank you for reply. I no what you are saying, but he is a nice guy,,and we get on well. He has a laugh and joke with everyone, but just think I am his type, that's why I get most of his attention. Really looking for a outcome where we can be friends only, but feel he's just waiting to pounce. If that makes sense. X"

Time for straight talking - you're either naive or kidding yourself. Sitting on his lap and talking with him about groping your boobs and going round when his wife is out isn't someone who wants to just be friends, you want to play with him and hoping we'll justify it for you by saying it's ok (hence your comment about no doubt most will say go for it).

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

I don't think your looking for a friends only outcome with you mentioning his cock and sexual preferences in so much detail. Maybe go over to see the shed ,but with your husband and have an open discussion about it, gets things cleared up.

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By *ee121163 OP Couple
over a year ago

Scotland

Yes understand now that I have stepped back and looked at it from your comment. X

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"Can I just say that the "normal work banter" really isn't normal !!

It's not usual to have conversations like you mentioned at work or the physical aspects.

It's a harassment at work lawsuit

waiting to happen. "

Well yes, I am amazed that in 2018 workplaces like that still exist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say no. It can be that easy.

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By *ee121163 OP Couple
over a year ago

Scotland

I no, what a mess! I really like him as a friend and no what he says is just banter, honestly if you were there and seen for yourself what is said etc, you would see it as just harmless banter. I probably never explained it right on post. I would hate to upset him or lose his friendship.,x

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By *ee121163 OP Couple
over a year ago

Scotland

Sounds like a plan. Thanx.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"I no, what a mess! I really like him as a friend and no what he says is just banter, honestly if you were there and seen for yourself what is said etc, you would see it as just harmless banter. I probably never explained it right on post. I would hate to upset him or lose his friendship.,x"

Does the "harmless banter" happen in front of other women?

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

It's not banter and he's not your friend - he's looking to cheat on his wife and sees that you're an option for that - because you sit on his lap and let him talk about groping you. If you sat him down and told him to stop and actually did stop entertaining his grubby little fantasy, you'll find he'd stop coming by to chat and 'be friendly.'

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By *ee121163 OP Couple
over a year ago

Scotland

Yes. People at work have always commented on the size of my tits. He would just, as others have, that he would love to have a grope or a go on them. Just in a jokey way like you do, or did before political correctness came in... X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t shit on your own doorstep

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"Yes. People at work have always commented on the size of my tits. He would just, as others have, that he would love to have a grope or a go on them. Just in a jokey way like you do, or did before political correctness came in... X"

Out of interest, what sort of place do you work in?

I ask, because in most workplaces, going around saying you want to have a go on a woman's tits would see you get sacked.

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By *ee121163 OP Couple
over a year ago

Scotland

Some woman have even commented on them in the past.,especially when we get new work blouses, as mine always seems to be so tight. Also I am proud of them and would say they are my best feature. Also I would never have got with Don if I never had them as he says, it was the first things he noticed about me.. X

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By *ee121163 OP Couple
over a year ago

Scotland

I personally work in the office with 2 other girls and 1 boy. But my work can involve me having to go down to factory floor. Also office staff and floor staff share same canteen area. X

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

Most people in the workplace conduct themselves as if they were smooth like a ken doll, as it's just unacceptable to have people in a workplace subjected to inappropriate comments or touching.

Keeps things simple for everyone involved.

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By *ee121163 OP Couple
over a year ago

Scotland

Good advice. I would hate anyone, especially at work to no we are on this website. I would need to leave, and move home. X

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By *ee121163 OP Couple
over a year ago

Scotland

Thanx. X

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By *ee121163 OP Couple
over a year ago

Scotland

Thanx for all replies. Have decide to go see his summerhouse, but will be taking hubby Don with me. Think that's best outcome. That way I have seen summerhouse,,and not found myself in an awkward situation as I feared. Will also try and avoide other situations, by sitting more away from him, if we are in canteen together. Sorted. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi me and Don my hubby swing as a couple meeting single guys. Problem and advice I am looking for is. A guy at my work often comments that if he or me weren't married,,we could get together and have some fun together. I am good friends with him at work and we have a joke and laugh together usually about sexual innuendos. He would ask me to sit on his knee during lunch breaks, and that he would love to grope my big tits, just the usual fun chat, and always when others are present, both men and women. Lately I have started giving him a lift into work as I pass him in my car as he's walking to work, only because the guy who gave him a lift before has left. He has started talking about this summerhouse that he had built in his garden earlier this year, and has shown me and everyone else at work the photos etc, and it is really nice with a log fire, three seater couch,,TV,,etc. He has asked me to come over and see it one night after work, but to make it a night when his wife is working late, as in the past he was quite the lad,,having affairs etc,,so says his wife would take it the wrong way if she seen me there. I would like to see it, just as a friend, but feel that if I went he would make a pass at me or try and kiss me etc. He messages me constantly on Facebook, saying how sexy I am, and did I enjoy sitting on his knee, could I feel his cock etc. Also I am 99% positive he has a profile on here,,but he has no face photos, but some photos show him dressed with his cock out and it's clothes I have seen him in at work,,also one of him completely naked,,has been taking in the garden and you can clearly see the side of a summerhouse,,which is identical to his. Also he can only travel not accommodate etc, but worse his cock is very nice, just the kind I like to have fun with, not to long but very thick and well trimmed with shaven balls. Also his likes are what I like from a guy,,he enjoys going down on a woman for aslong as she wants, also likes using toys on her, also a long stayer,,and loves to fuck a woman till she climaxes before he does, his favourite is fucking a woman in her tight bum hole, and always practises safe sex. So all boxes ticked for a guy we would meet. Only problem is he is ginger, so my hubby Don wouldn't want to meet with him anyways, as he has always said we would never meet a ginger guy. He has in fact commented on him in the past, as there has been nights out with the work that both Don and him have been to. So what do you think I should do, I no most, if not all will say, go and fuck him. But I have never played, or ever wanted to play on my own,,so here lies my problem. Also if I do nothing, I feel that the laughing and joking about at work will just get worse,,don't get me wrong I do like the attention,,and no nothing would go any further unless I wanted it too. Looking for helpful replies only please. Also I no it sounds like we are borderline racist but we all have our preferences, and hubbys is not to meet ginger guys, although with him being a work mate, I doubt meeting as a couple would happen anyways,,as not very discreet. X"
not a good idea to muck around with people you work with you could lose your job as well as your marriage

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

So Don is OK about going in a ginger man's outhouse ?

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"So Don is OK about going in a ginger man's outhouse ?"

Well it's a relief to know Don is not such a gingerist that he won't even socialise with gingers...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So Don is OK about going in a ginger man's outhouse ?

Well it's a relief to know Don is not such a gingerist that he won't even socialise with gingers... "
Some absolutely stunning red heads out there

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Your husband wouldn't meet him and you don't meet on your own. There's no problem here really, you're not suitable for each other.

Call a halt to the work shenanigans too it must be mortifying for your colleagues.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

"So Don is OK about going in a ginger man's outhouse ?

Well it's a relief to know Don is not such a gingerist that he won't even socialise with gingers... Some absolutely stunning red heads out there"

Indeed, Jessica rabbit to name one !

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By *ee121163 OP Couple
over a year ago

Scotland

Really hope so, as if he's not then I am back at square 1. X

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By *ee121163 OP Couple
over a year ago

Scotland

Last I heard Jessica rabbit was female! X

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Really hope so, as if he's not then I am back at square 1. X"

If you use the reply and quote button we know who you're replying to.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

"Last I heard Jessica rabbit was female! X"

Oh she most definitely is, and stunning.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Your husband won't meet him therefore he's not a 'match'. Sounds like you want an affair with this man and it's inevitably going to happen as it appears you're making every excuse possible for it to happen. I'm guessing you've already in your own mind decided to go to summer house.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"Your husband won't meet him therefore he's not a 'match'. Sounds like you want an affair with this man and it's inevitably going to happen as it appears you're making every excuse possible for it to happen. I'm guessing you've already in your own mind decided to go to summer house.

"going to the summer house" could be a new euphemism...

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"going to the summer house" could be a new euphemism... "

Yep! And whilst there come and try the three seater. Door opens and there's two of his mates there as well.

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By *ab_SparklesWoman
over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

Is he a much younger man in that is the attraction here, seen you are in your 50s nothing wrong with that.

I would leave work at work and be the boring one waffling on than to flirt with a colleague.

In all of this you seem only disgruntled by the fact your husband don't like ginger hair not the fact of his feeling in a whole package.

When you agree to play together then it should be just that. Once you start thinking out of the box it mostly ends in badly.

I saw it happen alot people lift partners thru going behind their back and others getting with coupled swinger and in the end most ended up single.

Would you really risk your marriage

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By *orthen soul manMan
over a year ago

aberdeen

Sounds like you are risking a lot you and don swing so you get all the cock you need with dons approval.

I say don’t risk what you got

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He sounds like a twat. He doesn't have permission to play. Do you really want the risk of his wife finding out and turning up at your work? It's way too close to home.

Plus you say your husband doesn't want you to play with him?

There are thousands of guys on here who can give you what you want without the hassle.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"going to the summer house" could be a new euphemism... "

I remember the shed gang bang thread that was hilarious

If this is for real give your head a wobble op.

Personally it belongs more in stories and fantasies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From experience i wouldn't risk it, it isn't worth the hassle if it goes wrong. My husband flirted terribly with our work colleague (We work in the same place) and she flirted back to the point that they were accused of having an affair (they weren't) after the works xmas party 2 years ago she came home with us we had a threeway with led to 6 months of regular fun between the 3 of us. The problems started when she made it very clear she wasn't interested in me, only my husband. We ended things with her there and then but it took months to get her to back off. She caused major issues in our relationship and actually asked him to leave me which was when we cut off all contact. She's made the last year in work living hell for me and things awkward for my husband as well as her own partner finding put and ending their relationship. Wasn't worth it at all.

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