FabSwingers.com forum: Avoid time wasters

By *iscompany3isfun OP Couple
over a year ago

Maidenhead

Hi advice needed. How do we avoid time wasters... Turn up at the address given and no answer... Outdoor meets who never turn up... Get to a guys house and says we can't go in so have to sit in the car...

How do we avoid all this?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

What are you doing to check they're genuine before you go to the meet?

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By *iscompany3isfun OP Couple
over a year ago

Maidenhead

Checking they have verifications... Asking for the address.. Photos...

What more can we do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried meeting socially first?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Checking they have verifications... Asking for the address.. Photos...

What more can we do "

Some people recommend speaking on the phone, some going on cam but if someone is going to let you down they will.

We've never had a no show. We chat by message on here then arrange a social meet. I don't know what we're doing that's different to you.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Lots of ways help you to match with more reliable people. Some gained from experience.

Always chat live with them, so you can guage their instant reaction to questions etc. If just text messaging they have time to think of the best answer if it's lies.

Social meets, which are non-sexual meets to check each other out do some of the same and also deter fantasists.

Don't rush in to anything or for new users.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi advice needed. How do we avoid time wasters... Turn up at the address given and no answer... Outdoor meets who never turn up... Get to a guys house and says we can't go in so have to sit in the car...

How do we avoid all this? "

well its difficult to gauge the intention, I have been into same situation, travel to meeting point with nice wine and wasted 1 hours and the excuse was delivery boy is bringing some stuff for that I cannot go out.

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

I always ask for a social meet. If thats too hard for someone then it's a good indication that all is not well. Maybe it means I miss out on opportunities but there will be others . Social meets put people at ease especially single women and if there is mutual attraction then subsequent play meets are going to be quickly arranged.

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By *iscompany3isfun OP Couple
over a year ago

Maidenhead

Tha is for the ideas everyone

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By *ikely ladMan
over a year ago

Hounslow

I've given someone my address before, they said that somebody else answered the door. This did make me very wary about inviting people to my home.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Intuition, if it feels wrong or something is not right its not right. Intuition is the best. The very few times we have gone against it we've been kicked up the arse. Like most are saying a social is always a good place to start. We have observed that a lot of people (not saying all) who want to meet for instant play are looking for the best option and that option could come along half an hour before they are due to meet you, hence a no show

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I would say have a social meet somewhere in public 1st,we always do and havent been unlucky so far.

Maybe you are attracting fantasists by agreeing to meet straight away ourside or at a home.

Also never do the dirty chat thing with anyone ,thats a good indicator they only want to get their rocks off online.

Miss

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By *ikely ladMan
over a year ago

Hounslow

The last couple I met up with, we met in a pub first. I found it better as it breaks the ice, especially if you're a tad nervous. Also it does separate the genuine from the time wasters.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Meet in a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure they have few verified at least and they are actually meets not cam ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Intuition, if it feels wrong or something is not right its not right. Intuition is the best. The very few times we have gone against it we've been kicked up the arse. Like most are saying a social is always a good place to start. We have observed that a lot of people (not saying all) who want to meet for instant play are looking for the best option and that option could come along half an hour before they are due to meet you, hence a no show"

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I only meet by chance now in clubs, which means I don't have to think of that kind of stuff anymore.

I realise lots of people don't want to meet in clubs, and it might take away some really interesting meets, but I feel that's what's safest, and best use of my time plus I enjoy the club scene.

When I did use to meet outside of clubs, I would have a quick face to face chat on Kik can first so I could make sure we had a visual connection and everything was as both parties expected.

If that went well a social in a public place like a coffee shop.

That was what worked for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always try to meet the most unattractive people that message you.....

The very attractive brigade tend to be the time wasters....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think "intuition / gut feeling" works wonders & failing that; deffo like the posters above go with a social 1st..xx

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

How do we avoid all this? "

Talk on the phone before travelling if they won't talk its highly unlikely they will meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All our first meets are social only to suss people out, up until now no no-shows so it’s workkng for us.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

How do we avoid all this? "

You've had 8 meets in two months so going at it fairly hammer & tongs which sadly will increase the risk of encountering time wasters.

Maybe do as others have said and adopt a slower burn through social meets and longer preamble..the wasters quickly get bored of that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think there is much that can be done besides the obvious things mentioned above...just hope you don't come across anymore

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