FabSwingers.com forum: Unicorn quest

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Any advice gratefully received. I've been wanting for years to meet another lady to join my partner and I. It's my thing not his (although he's definately not complaining).

Problem is i'm not sure we're looking in the right place. We're not actively 'swinging' and don't really have any interest in it, soft or not. Nor are we particularly keen to try clubs or meets, it feels like a step too far for me at the moment.

All advice we've been given is around going to meets to get verified, but I feel quite uncomfortable with the idea. It leaves me cold.

We've been contacted by many couples and a few single ladies, who as things progress then miraculously have a partner who wants to play.

Does anyone feel the same, or have any other thoughts/advice? Is fab the wrong place for us?

Probably a question that's been posed sooooo many times before.

Thanks in advance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look for a local social meeting. There are several regular such events posted here. There you can meet real people, in a no pressure situation. Find if any are what you seek...or confirm that this is not for you without forever wondering “what if”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile doesn't do much to entice other women, it does feel like you two just want another woman as a sex toy and that normally makes most avoid.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Some sort of meet verification will help, as you'll be able to show that other people think you're decent (even if that's some variant on "can behave in public"). For me it's a safety thing.

Single women are in enormous demand here, and I think everyone struggles to catch their attention (I can be pretty elusive myself).

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Your profile doesn't do much to entice other women, it does feel like you two just want another woman as a sex toy and that normally makes most avoid. "

And this too. I'm not here as an accessory to others, I'm here for myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Look for a local social meeting. There are several regular such events posted here. There you can meet real people, in a no pressure situation. Find if any are what you seek...or confirm that this is not for you without forever wondering “what if”"

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your profile doesn't do much to entice other women, it does feel like you two just want another woman as a sex toy and that normally makes most avoid. "

Oh blimey not our intention at all! OK thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your profile doesn't do much to entice other women, it does feel like you two just want another woman as a sex toy and that normally makes most avoid.

And this too. I'm not here as an accessory to others, I'm here for myself. "

Thanks for the good advice.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

A couples/ single ladies night at a club might well be easier. People can get a sense of you in person. Apart from dressing down, it's only as seedy as you want to make it (some clubs are seedier than others, but I don't know the scene outside my area). If it works, you could talk to a woman like you might in a pub, then play in a private room.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

No pics of Mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No pics of Mr

No. Difficult. We always send with messages but due to work we can't really put piccies up. Also i'm terrible at taking photos.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

Just remember -if it's got a horn, it may just be the wrong kind of unicorn.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"No pics of Mr

No. Difficult. We always send with messages but due to work we can't really put piccies up. Also i'm terrible at taking photos. "

It'll put many off. And it doesn't have to be a face or revealing (or explicit). Almost all of my photos were taken by me with my phone, at arm's length or using a mirror. I don't think I'm a great photographer, but it gets the job done.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"Hi

Any advice gratefully received. I've been wanting for years to meet another lady to join my partner and I. It's my thing not his (although he's definately not complaining).

All advice we've been given is around going to meets to get verified, but I feel quite uncomfortable with the idea. It leaves me cold.

We've been contacted by many couples and a few single ladies, who as things progress then miraculously have a partner who wants to play.

Does anyone feel the same, or have any other thoughts/advice? Is fab the wrong place for us?

Probably a question that's been posed sooooo many times before.

Thanks in advance.

Lots of couples want this. Why not meet another similar couple and arrange two mff meets?

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

"No pics of Mr

No. Difficult. We always send with messages but due to work we can't really put piccies up. Also i'm terrible at taking photos. "

Well that in itself will put a lot off as its really strange you will put up a face picture but non at all of him even body ones.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Read the advice threads given to single guys and see if you can apply it, you're now in the majority and you're looking for the minority .

2goods ..rule.

The more niche your requirements the longer you'll search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read your profile as you are looking for a lady for a threesome. There’s no pictures of the male or couple shots which would put me off.

I play with couples/ladies but only in clubs where I can get to socialise with them and see their dynamics. I do prefer profiles that show a couple together though and have a hotlist of those I’m hoping to bump into in the clubs. Could you try clubs just to meet single ladies? You don’t have to play there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all for the good advice. Sounds as though hubby's in for a photo session

and the profiles getting a rewrite.

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