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"Because many are just chancers. Or don't read your profile properly and come up with the 'original' line that you are so used to. I tend to read profiles and only message those whose criteria I think I fit. Unfortunately not everyone does. "Oh yes, my housemate is in here as well and we always laugh when we get the same message and it’s usually very kinky or gross hehe I guess I should just let it go and not to take it personally  | |||
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"Sometimes women are attracted to shorter men..." Not the ones that clearly state on their profiles that they are not but get short men messaging, claiming they've read our profiles but think their own needs are the only consideration. | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem? "It happens all the time I put it down to angry Napoleon syndrome. | |||
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"Because many are just chancers. Or don't read your profile properly and come up with the 'original' line that you are so used to. I tend to read profiles and only message those whose criteria I think I fit. Unfortunately not everyone does. "This one also has a great sense of humour ..  | |||
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"Sometimes women are attracted to shorter men... Not the ones that clearly state on their profiles that they are not but get short men messaging, claiming they've read our profiles but think their own needs are the only consideration." 
I'm just over 6'
my preference is for men my height or taller.
It clearly states this on my profile.
I've had a busy weekend, and have only just had chance to catch up on messages sent since Fri.
The tallest of all was 5'9"
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"Yes... I’m not even comfortable with men my own height or a couple cms taller. They have to be at least a good 10cm taller than me to be interested... " I like my men nearly a whole foot taller than me! | |||
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"Sometimes women are attracted to shorter men... Not the ones that clearly state on their profiles that they are not but get short men messaging, claiming they've read our profiles but think their own needs are the only consideration.
I'm just over 6'
my preference is for men my height or taller.
It clearly states this on my profile.
I've had a busy weekend, and have only just had chance to catch up on messages sent since Fri.
The tallest of all was 5'9"
"But we are all the same height laying down...babe...  | |||
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"Sometimes women are attracted to shorter men... Not the ones that clearly state on their profiles that they are not but get short men messaging, claiming they've read our profiles but think their own needs are the only consideration.
I'm just over 6'
my preference is for men my height or taller.
It clearly states this on my profile.
I've had a busy weekend, and have only just had chance to catch up on messages sent since Fri.
The tallest of all was 5'9"
But we are all the same height laying down...babe... "Small dicks as well, then! | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem? "So you wouldn't feel offended if a guy said "No thanks, you're too big, I only see size 12 and below" | |||
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"Sometimes women are attracted to shorter men... Not the ones that clearly state on their profiles that they are not but get short men messaging, claiming they've read our profiles but think their own needs are the only consideration.
I'm just over 6'
my preference is for men my height or taller.
It clearly states this on my profile.
I've had a busy weekend, and have only just had chance to catch up on messages sent since Fri.
The tallest of all was 5'9"
But we are all the same height laying down...babe... "Haha! I just spat my coffee out xx | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
So you wouldn't feel offended if a guy said "No thanks, you're too big, I only see size 12 and below""I wouldn't be offended by this at all if that is what a guy liked then that is what he likes. But I know he will be missing out on one amazing night! lol | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
So you wouldn't feel offended if a guy said "No thanks, you're too big, I only see size 12 and below""I would not. I always ask if they are into plus size and send my pictures to avoid any deceit or disappointment. | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem? ""Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem? "I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles. He’s been brushed off (and even openly mocked) by women so many times that he has no confidence and now finds it difficult to approch women at all, or form normal relationships with the opposite sex. Being plus size isn’t really equivalent as, if you wanted to, you could change that far more easily than a guy could change their height. I’d never condone lying about their height, but it’s a bit much to criticise shorter guys for sending you a message so long as they’re honest up front about their height - you can always delete the messages! As for being frustrated with a bulging inbox - that’s first world problems on here - try being a single male.  | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
So you wouldn't feel offended if a guy said "No thanks, you're too big, I only see size 12 and below""If that was on your profile, I wouldn't message you. If that was your reply to my message, your preferences would be respected from me and I woulfn't contact you again. | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster.
I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles.
He’s been brushed off (and even openly mocked) by women so many times that he has no confidence and now finds it difficult to approch women at all, or form normal relationships with the opposite sex.
Being plus size isn’t really equivalent as, if you wanted to, you could change that far more easily than a guy could change their height.
I’d never condone lying about their height, but it’s a bit much to criticise shorter guys for sending you a message so long as they’re honest up front about their height - you can always delete the messages!
As for being frustrated with a bulging inbox - that’s first world problems on here - try being a single male. "I do criticise men who ignore my short and clear profile and STILL send a message based on their desire only to get their cock wet. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? | |||
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"Sometimes women are attracted to shorter men... Not the ones that clearly state on their profiles that they are not but get short men messaging, claiming they've read our profiles but think their own needs are the only consideration." ^this. I don't message people who have clearly listed 'criteria' or 'requirements' that I don't fit. It would reflect badly on me, that I'm either so desperate I'll message anyone and everyone and / or that I am incapable of reading a profile. | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster.
I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles.
He’s been brushed off (and even openly mocked) by women so many times that he has no confidence and now finds it difficult to approch women at all, or form normal relationships with the opposite sex.
Being plus size isn’t really equivalent as, if you wanted to, you could change that far more easily than a guy could change their height.
I’d never condone lying about their height, but it’s a bit much to criticise shorter guys for sending you a message so long as they’re honest up front about their height - you can always delete the messages!
As for being frustrated with a bulging inbox - that’s first world problems on here - try being a single male.
I do criticise men who ignore my short and clear profile and STILL send a message based on their desire only to get their cock wet. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
"Fair enough. But I think sending a message is harmless enough as you can simply delete it - it’s a bigger waste of their time than yours - and to be fair at least they’ve been honest about their height. It would be a lot worse if they had lied about their height and you only discover it when you meet them. But, as we are forever hearing on here attraction, is based on more than just physical attributes, so maybe they are hoping something else about them would cancel out the height thing. I can’t help but think a guy stating he only wanted to meet petite women would be pilloried as being shallow (and body shape is easier to change than height ). | |||
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"I can’t help but think a guy stating he only wanted to meet petite women would be pilloried as being shallow (and body shape is easier to change than height ). "Yes, he would, but you have to remember that dye to the ratio of men to women on fab, the lovely ladies can afford to be choosy | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster.
I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles.
He’s been brushed off (and even openly mocked) by women so many times that he has no confidence and now finds it difficult to approch women at all, or form normal relationships with the opposite sex.
Being plus size isn’t really equivalent as, if you wanted to, you could change that far more easily than a guy could change their height.
I’d never condone lying about their height, but it’s a bit much to criticise shorter guys for sending you a message so long as they’re honest up front about their height - you can always delete the messages!
As for being frustrated with a bulging inbox - that’s first world problems on here - try being a single male.
I do criticise men who ignore my short and clear profile and STILL send a message based on their desire only to get their cock wet. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
Fair enough.
But I think sending a message is harmless enough as you can simply delete it - it’s a bigger waste of their time than yours - and to be fair at least they’ve been honest about their height. It would be a lot worse if they had lied about their height and you only discover it when you meet them.
But, as we are forever hearing on here attraction, is based on more than just physical attributes, so maybe they are hoping something else about them would cancel out the height thing.
I can’t help but think a guy stating he only wanted to meet petite women would be pilloried as being shallow (and body shape is easier to change than height ). "I disagree, if a man had that on his profile we wouldn’t message him. And if he messages us then I would question why as no part of me is petite | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster.
I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles.
He’s been brushed off (and even openly mocked) by women so many times that he has no confidence and now finds it difficult to approch women at all, or form normal relationships with the opposite sex.
Being plus size isn’t really equivalent as, if you wanted to, you could change that far more easily than a guy could change their height.
I’d never condone lying about their height, but it’s a bit much to criticise shorter guys for sending you a message so long as they’re honest up front about their height - you can always delete the messages!
As for being frustrated with a bulging inbox - that’s first world problems on here - try being a single male.
I do criticise men who ignore my short and clear profile and STILL send a message based on their desire only to get their cock wet. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
Fair enough.
But I think sending a message is harmless enough as you can simply delete it - it’s a bigger waste of their time than yours - and to be fair at least they’ve been honest about their height. It would be a lot worse if they had lied about their height and you only discover it when you meet them.
But, as we are forever hearing on here attraction, is based on more than just physical attributes, so maybe they are hoping something else about them would cancel out the height thing.
I can’t help but think a guy stating he only wanted to meet petite women would be pilloried as being shallow (and body shape is easier to change than height ).
I disagree, if a man had that on his profile we wouldn’t message him. And if he messages us then I would question why as no part of me is petite"No and when it comes to messages that’s fine - nobody says you have to respond, but I don’t see the harm in them having a go. Let’s be honest, if this thread was posted by a single male along the lines of “I get frustrated when big women message me, I only like petite women and is says so on my profile”, it would be received very differently! If we are saying that attraction isn’t just about physical attributes (as most of the BBW threads do, even to the point of saying that petite women aren’t “real women” etc.) then that logic should cut both ways . | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster.
I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles.
He’s been brushed off (and even openly mocked) by women so many times that he has no confidence and now finds it difficult to approch women at all, or form normal relationships with the opposite sex.
Being plus size isn’t really equivalent as, if you wanted to, you could change that far more easily than a guy could change their height.
I’d never condone lying about their height, but it’s a bit much to criticise shorter guys for sending you a message so long as they’re honest up front about their height - you can always delete the messages!
As for being frustrated with a bulging inbox - that’s first world problems on here - try being a single male.
I do criticise men who ignore my short and clear profile and STILL send a message based on their desire only to get their cock wet. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
Fair enough.
But I think sending a message is harmless enough as you can simply delete it - it’s a bigger waste of their time than yours - and to be fair at least they’ve been honest about their height. It would be a lot worse if they had lied about their height and you only discover it when you meet them.
But, as we are forever hearing on here attraction, is based on more than just physical attributes, so maybe they are hoping something else about them would cancel out the height thing.
I can’t help but think a guy stating he only wanted to meet petite women would be pilloried as being shallow (and body shape is easier to change than height ). "An inbox full of messages from self entitled men who ignore profiles is a waste of my time and it also tells me just how the vast majority of the male of the species think and operate. I can tell you, it's in no way positive. | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster.
I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles.
He’s been brushed off (and even openly mocked) by women so many times that he has no confidence and now finds it difficult to approch women at all, or form normal relationships with the opposite sex.
Being plus size isn’t really equivalent as, if you wanted to, you could change that far more easily than a guy could change their height.
I’d never condone lying about their height, but it’s a bit much to criticise shorter guys for sending you a message so long as they’re honest up front about their height - you can always delete the messages!
As for being frustrated with a bulging inbox - that’s first world problems on here - try being a single male.
I do criticise men who ignore my short and clear profile and STILL send a message based on their desire only to get their cock wet. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
Fair enough.
But I think sending a message is harmless enough as you can simply delete it - it’s a bigger waste of their time than yours - and to be fair at least they’ve been honest about their height. It would be a lot worse if they had lied about their height and you only discover it when you meet them.
But, as we are forever hearing on here attraction, is based on more than just physical attributes, so maybe they are hoping something else about them would cancel out the height thing.
I can’t help but think a guy stating he only wanted to meet petite women would be pilloried as being shallow (and body shape is easier to change than height ).
I disagree, if a man had that on his profile we wouldn’t message him. And if he messages us then I would question why as no part of me is petite
No and when it comes to messages that’s fine - nobody says you have to respond, but I don’t see the harm in them having a go.
Let’s be honest, if this thread was posted by a single male along the lines of “I get frustrated when big women message me, I only like petite women and is says so on my profile”, it would be received very differently!
If we are saying that attraction isn’t just about physical attributes (as most of the BBW threads do, even to the point of saying that petite women aren’t “real women” etc.) then that logic should cut both ways . "I personally wouldn’t take offence to any single male posting a thread like that. Physical attributes is a massive massive factor in attraction and anyone referring to petite woman as not real women are deluded, everyone comes in all different shapes and sizes and that’s totally fine. I’m sure im not 90% of the people on fabs “type” but that’s fine by me I am also one of these women who hate the term BBW. Being a big woman does not automatically make you beautiful. Does that mean anyone who isn’t big isn’t beautiful? Nope it’s a load of tosh! Beauty is different to everyone you cannot label beauty, it’s too personal, hence why I say I am plus size as it’s fact. | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster.
I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles.
He’s been brushed off (and even openly mocked) by women so many times that he has no confidence and now finds it difficult to approch women at all, or form normal relationships with the opposite sex.
Being plus size isn’t really equivalent as, if you wanted to, you could change that far more easily than a guy could change their height.
I’d never condone lying about their height, but it’s a bit much to criticise shorter guys for sending you a message so long as they’re honest up front about their height - you can always delete the messages!
As for being frustrated with a bulging inbox - that’s first world problems on here - try being a single male.
I do criticise men who ignore my short and clear profile and STILL send a message based on their desire only to get their cock wet. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
Fair enough.
But I think sending a message is harmless enough as you can simply delete it - it’s a bigger waste of their time than yours - and to be fair at least they’ve been honest about their height. It would be a lot worse if they had lied about their height and you only discover it when you meet them.
But, as we are forever hearing on here attraction, is based on more than just physical attributes, so maybe they are hoping something else about them would cancel out the height thing.
I can’t help but think a guy stating he only wanted to meet petite women would be pilloried as being shallow (and body shape is easier to change than height ).
An inbox full of messages from self entitled men who ignore profiles is a waste of my time and it also tells me just how the vast majority of the male of the species think and operate. I can tell you, it's in no way positive.
"Cool it with the sexist generalisations  . At least these guys have been honest.
I can tell you there are also women on here who post misleading pics and lie about what they want. That’s more of a waste of everyones’ time than messages you can simply delete. | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster.
I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles.
He’s been brushed off (and even openly mocked) by women so many times that he has no confidence and now finds it difficult to approch women at all, or form normal relationships with the opposite sex.
Being plus size isn’t really equivalent as, if you wanted to, you could change that far more easily than a guy could change their height.
I’d never condone lying about their height, but it’s a bit much to criticise shorter guys for sending you a message so long as they’re honest up front about their height - you can always delete the messages!
As for being frustrated with a bulging inbox - that’s first world problems on here - try being a single male.
I do criticise men who ignore my short and clear profile and STILL send a message based on their desire only to get their cock wet. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
Fair enough.
But I think sending a message is harmless enough as you can simply delete it - it’s a bigger waste of their time than yours - and to be fair at least they’ve been honest about their height. It would be a lot worse if they had lied about their height and you only discover it when you meet them.
But, as we are forever hearing on here attraction, is based on more than just physical attributes, so maybe they are hoping something else about them would cancel out the height thing.
I can’t help but think a guy stating he only wanted to meet petite women would be pilloried as being shallow (and body shape is easier to change than height ).
I disagree, if a man had that on his profile we wouldn’t message him. And if he messages us then I would question why as no part of me is petite
No and when it comes to messages that’s fine - nobody says you have to respond, but I don’t see the harm in them having a go.
Let’s be honest, if this thread was posted by a single male along the lines of “I get frustrated when big women message me, I only like petite women and is says so on my profile”, it would be received very differently!
If we are saying that attraction isn’t just about physical attributes (as most of the BBW threads do, even to the point of saying that petite women aren’t “real women” etc.) then that logic should cut both ways .
I personally wouldn’t take offence to any single male posting a thread like that.
Physical attributes is a massive massive factor in attraction and anyone referring to petite woman as not real women are deluded, everyone comes in all different shapes and sizes and that’s totally fine. I’m sure im not 90% of the people on fabs “type” but that’s fine by me
I am also one of these women who hate the term BBW. Being a big woman does not automatically make you beautiful. Does that mean anyone who isn’t big isn’t beautiful? Nope it’s a load of tosh! Beauty is different to everyone you cannot label beauty, it’s too personal, hence why I say I am plus size as it’s fact. "Fair enough - good post. | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster.
I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles.
He’s been brushed off (and even openly mocked) by women so many times that he has no confidence and now finds it difficult to approch women at all, or form normal relationships with the opposite sex.
Being plus size isn’t really equivalent as, if you wanted to, you could change that far more easily than a guy could change their height.
I’d never condone lying about their height, but it’s a bit much to criticise shorter guys for sending you a message so long as they’re honest up front about their height - you can always delete the messages!
As for being frustrated with a bulging inbox - that’s first world problems on here - try being a single male.
I do criticise men who ignore my short and clear profile and STILL send a message based on their desire only to get their cock wet. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
Fair enough.
But I think sending a message is harmless enough as you can simply delete it - it’s a bigger waste of their time than yours - and to be fair at least they’ve been honest about their height. It would be a lot worse if they had lied about their height and you only discover it when you meet them.
But, as we are forever hearing on here attraction, is based on more than just physical attributes, so maybe they are hoping something else about them would cancel out the height thing.
I can’t help but think a guy stating he only wanted to meet petite women would be pilloried as being shallow (and body shape is easier to change than height ).
An inbox full of messages from self entitled men who ignore profiles is a waste of my time and it also tells me just how the vast majority of the male of the species think and operate. I can tell you, it's in no way positive.
Cool it with the sexist generalisations . At least these guys have been honest.
I can tell you there are also women on here who post misleading pics and lie about what they want. That’s more of a waste of everyones’ time than messages you can simply delete. "You obviously have your own agenda here, just like the men who ignore profiles. If it stated on a profile that someone won’t meet anyone with a beard and you decide to message them anyway, that speaks volumes about you. You may want to look up the meaning of sexist too. | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster.
I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles.
He’s been brushed off (and even openly mocked) by women so many times that he has no confidence and now finds it difficult to approch women at all, or form normal relationships with the opposite sex.
Being plus size isn’t really equivalent as, if you wanted to, you could change that far more easily than a guy could change their height.
I’d never condone lying about their height, but it’s a bit much to criticise shorter guys for sending you a message so long as they’re honest up front about their height - you can always delete the messages!
As for being frustrated with a bulging inbox - that’s first world problems on here - try being a single male.
I do criticise men who ignore my short and clear profile and STILL send a message based on their desire only to get their cock wet. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
Fair enough.
But I think sending a message is harmless enough as you can simply delete it - it’s a bigger waste of their time than yours - and to be fair at least they’ve been honest about their height. It would be a lot worse if they had lied about their height and you only discover it when you meet them.
But, as we are forever hearing on here attraction, is based on more than just physical attributes, so maybe they are hoping something else about them would cancel out the height thing.
I can’t help but think a guy stating he only wanted to meet petite women would be pilloried as being shallow (and body shape is easier to change than height ).
An inbox full of messages from self entitled men who ignore profiles is a waste of my time and it also tells me just how the vast majority of the male of the species think and operate. I can tell you, it's in no way positive.
Cool it with the sexist generalisations . At least these guys have been honest.
I can tell you there are also women on here who post misleading pics and lie about what they want. That’s more of a waste of everyones’ time than messages you can simply delete.
You obviously have your own agenda here, just like the men who ignore profiles.
If it stated on a profile that someone won’t meet anyone with a beard and you decide to message them anyway, that speaks volumes about you.
You may want to look up the meaning of sexist too. "We all have our own agenda and reason for being here. Right now I’m airing my views in a discussion forum to add some balance to the usual moaning about single men daring to send messages. As for sexism, the poster above has a stated that the messages they’ve received on a swingers website: “tells me just how the vast majority of the male of the species think and operate.” Ye gods! If that isn’t sexist I don’t know what is! Should I assume thet the “vast majority” of women are liars with misleading pictures, then, based on a few experiences on here?! | |||
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I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem? "Yep. Very often. I don’t like men shorter than me either as a rule although I have one exception. | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster.
I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles.
He’s been brushed off (and even openly mocked) by women so many times that he has no confidence and now finds it difficult to approch women at all, or form normal relationships with the opposite sex.
Being plus size isn’t really equivalent as, if you wanted to, you could change that far more easily than a guy could change their height.
I’d never condone lying about their height, but it’s a bit much to criticise shorter guys for sending you a message so long as they’re honest up front about their height - you can always delete the messages!
As for being frustrated with a bulging inbox - that’s first world problems on here - try being a single male.
I do criticise men who ignore my short and clear profile and STILL send a message based on their desire only to get their cock wet. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
Fair enough.
But I think sending a message is harmless enough as you can simply delete it - it’s a bigger waste of their time than yours - and to be fair at least they’ve been honest about their height. It would be a lot worse if they had lied about their height and you only discover it when you meet them.
But, as we are forever hearing on here attraction, is based on more than just physical attributes, so maybe they are hoping something else about them would cancel out the height thing.
I can’t help but think a guy stating he only wanted to meet petite women would be pilloried as being shallow (and body shape is easier to change than height ).
I disagree, if a man had that on his profile we wouldn’t message him. And if he messages us then I would question why as no part of me is petite
No and when it comes to messages that’s fine - nobody says you have to respond, but I don’t see the harm in them having a go.
Let’s be honest, if this thread was posted by a single male along the lines of “I get frustrated when big women message me, I only like petite women and is says so on my profile”, it would be received very differently!
If we are saying that attraction isn’t just about physical attributes (as most of the BBW threads do, even to the point of saying that petite women aren’t “real women” etc.) then that logic should cut both ways . "Honestly if I click on a guys profile and he staits he likes slim and fit ladies I just move on. We cannot like everyone, but when I get messages stating they are shorter but we are the same height in bed... I find it very disrespectful and total time waste. | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster.
I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles.
He’s been brushed off (and even openly mocked) by women so many times that he has no confidence and now finds it difficult to approch women at all, or form normal relationships with the opposite sex.
Being plus size isn’t really equivalent as, if you wanted to, you could change that far more easily than a guy could change their height.
I’d never condone lying about their height, but it’s a bit much to criticise shorter guys for sending you a message so long as they’re honest up front about their height - you can always delete the messages!
As for being frustrated with a bulging inbox - that’s first world problems on here - try being a single male.
I do criticise men who ignore my short and clear profile and STILL send a message based on their desire only to get their cock wet. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
Fair enough.
But I think sending a message is harmless enough as you can simply delete it - it’s a bigger waste of their time than yours - and to be fair at least they’ve been honest about their height. It would be a lot worse if they had lied about their height and you only discover it when you meet them.
But, as we are forever hearing on here attraction, is based on more than just physical attributes, so maybe they are hoping something else about them would cancel out the height thing.
I can’t help but think a guy stating he only wanted to meet petite women would be pilloried as being shallow (and body shape is easier to change than height ).
An inbox full of messages from self entitled men who ignore profiles is a waste of my time and it also tells me just how the vast majority of the male of the species think and operate. I can tell you, it's in no way positive.
Cool it with the sexist generalisations . At least these guys have been honest.
I can tell you there are also women on here who post misleading pics and lie about what they want. That’s more of a waste of everyones’ time than messages you can simply delete.
You obviously have your own agenda here, just like the men who ignore profiles.
If it stated on a profile that someone won’t meet anyone with a beard and you decide to message them anyway, that speaks volumes about you.
You may want to look up the meaning of sexist too.
We all have our own agenda and reason for being here. Right now I’m airing my views in a discussion forum to add some balance to the usual moaning about single men daring to send messages.
As for sexism, the poster above has a stated that the messages they’ve received on a swingers website:
“tells me just how the vast majority of the male of the species think and operate.”
Ye gods! If that isn’t sexist I don’t know what is! Should I assume thet the “vast majority” of women are liars with misleading pictures, then, based on a few experiences on here?! "As I thought, your own agenda. | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster.
I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles.
He’s been brushed off (and even openly mocked) by women so many times that he has no confidence and now finds it difficult to approch women at all, or form normal relationships with the opposite sex.
Being plus size isn’t really equivalent as, if you wanted to, you could change that far more easily than a guy could change their height.
I’d never condone lying about their height, but it’s a bit much to criticise shorter guys for sending you a message so long as they’re honest up front about their height - you can always delete the messages!
As for being frustrated with a bulging inbox - that’s first world problems on here - try being a single male.
I do criticise men who ignore my short and clear profile and STILL send a message based on their desire only to get their cock wet. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
Fair enough.
But I think sending a message is harmless enough as you can simply delete it - it’s a bigger waste of their time than yours - and to be fair at least they’ve been honest about their height. It would be a lot worse if they had lied about their height and you only discover it when you meet them.
But, as we are forever hearing on here attraction, is based on more than just physical attributes, so maybe they are hoping something else about them would cancel out the height thing.
I can’t help but think a guy stating he only wanted to meet petite women would be pilloried as being shallow (and body shape is easier to change than height ).
I disagree, if a man had that on his profile we wouldn’t message him. And if he messages us then I would question why as no part of me is petite
No and when it comes to messages that’s fine - nobody says you have to respond, but I don’t see the harm in them having a go.
Let’s be honest, if this thread was posted by a single male along the lines of “I get frustrated when big women message me, I only like petite women and is says so on my profile”, it would be received very differently!
If we are saying that attraction isn’t just about physical attributes (as most of the BBW threads do, even to the point of saying that petite women aren’t “real women” etc.) then that logic should cut both ways .
Honestly if I click on a guys profile and he staits he likes slim and fit ladies I just move on. We cannot like everyone, but when I get messages stating they are shorter but we are the same height in bed... I find it very disrespectful and total time waste. "I completely agree. My profile is very explicit in what I’m looking for. I get lots of messages from men completely the opposite of my type, usually with cock pics attached saying ‘I know you like tall black guys but...’ I find it totally offensive. I’ve made clear what I like so as not to waste anyone’s time. Any man who can completely disregard my preference and think they know better and blast ahead regardless isn’t someone I want to meet anyway. | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster.
I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles.
He’s been brushed off (and even openly mocked) by women so many times that he has no confidence and now finds it difficult to approch women at all, or form normal relationships with the opposite sex.
Being plus size isn’t really equivalent as, if you wanted to, you could change that far more easily than a guy could change their height.
I’d never condone lying about their height, but it’s a bit much to criticise shorter guys for sending you a message so long as they’re honest up front about their height - you can always delete the messages!
As for being frustrated with a bulging inbox - that’s first world problems on here - try being a single male.
I do criticise men who ignore my short and clear profile and STILL send a message based on their desire only to get their cock wet. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
Fair enough.
But I think sending a message is harmless enough as you can simply delete it - it’s a bigger waste of their time than yours - and to be fair at least they’ve been honest about their height. It would be a lot worse if they had lied about their height and you only discover it when you meet them.
But, as we are forever hearing on here attraction, is based on more than just physical attributes, so maybe they are hoping something else about them would cancel out the height thing.
I can’t help but think a guy stating he only wanted to meet petite women would be pilloried as being shallow (and body shape is easier to change than height ).
I disagree, if a man had that on his profile we wouldn’t message him. And if he messages us then I would question why as no part of me is petite
No and when it comes to messages that’s fine - nobody says you have to respond, but I don’t see the harm in them having a go.
Let’s be honest, if this thread was posted by a single male along the lines of “I get frustrated when big women message me, I only like petite women and is says so on my profile”, it would be received very differently!
If we are saying that attraction isn’t just about physical attributes (as most of the BBW threads do, even to the point of saying that petite women aren’t “real women” etc.) then that logic should cut both ways .
Honestly if I click on a guys profile and he staits he likes slim and fit ladies I just move on. We cannot like everyone, but when I get messages stating they are shorter but we are the same height in bed... I find it very disrespectful and total time waste. "A more positive way to look at that is that someone has paid you a compliment by messaging you in the first place. I don’t really see how that’s disrespectful or why it bothers you so much. Just delete the messages without replying, or even bothering to read them, as most women on here do anyway, even when they’re well thought out messages from tall guys who’ve taken the time to read the profile . | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster.
I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles.
He’s been brushed off (and even openly mocked) by women so many times that he has no confidence and now finds it difficult to approch women at all, or form normal relationships with the opposite sex.
Being plus size isn’t really equivalent as, if you wanted to, you could change that far more easily than a guy could change their height.
I’d never condone lying about their height, but it’s a bit much to criticise shorter guys for sending you a message so long as they’re honest up front about their height - you can always delete the messages!
As for being frustrated with a bulging inbox - that’s first world problems on here - try being a single male.
I do criticise men who ignore my short and clear profile and STILL send a message based on their desire only to get their cock wet. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
Fair enough.
But I think sending a message is harmless enough as you can simply delete it - it’s a bigger waste of their time than yours - and to be fair at least they’ve been honest about their height. It would be a lot worse if they had lied about their height and you only discover it when you meet them.
But, as we are forever hearing on here attraction, is based on more than just physical attributes, so maybe they are hoping something else about them would cancel out the height thing.
I can’t help but think a guy stating he only wanted to meet petite women would be pilloried as being shallow (and body shape is easier to change than height ).
An inbox full of messages from self entitled men who ignore profiles is a waste of my time and it also tells me just how the vast majority of the male of the species think and operate. I can tell you, it's in no way positive.
Cool it with the sexist generalisations . At least these guys have been honest.
I can tell you there are also women on here who post misleading pics and lie about what they want. That’s more of a waste of everyones’ time than messages you can simply delete.
You obviously have your own agenda here, just like the men who ignore profiles.
If it stated on a profile that someone won’t meet anyone with a beard and you decide to message them anyway, that speaks volumes about you.
You may want to look up the meaning of sexist too.
We all have our own agenda and reason for being here. Right now I’m airing my views in a discussion forum to add some balance to the usual moaning about single men daring to send messages.
As for sexism, the poster above has a stated that the messages they’ve received on a swingers website:
“tells me just how the vast majority of the male of the species think and operate.”
Ye gods! If that isn’t sexist I don’t know what is! Should I assume thet the “vast majority” of women are liars with misleading pictures, then, based on a few experiences on here?!
As I thought, your own agenda. "Just as we all (including you) have. We are all on this site as individuals/couples, are we not? Maybe you’re also confusing “agenda” with “opinion”. Care to tell me how the above comment wasn’t sexist? | |||
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"It doesnt bother me, both my hubby and my lover and shorter than I but there are a few lovely gents on here who have caught my eye who are hitting the 6ft plus mark. Its personality for me that counts. ." This for me and I'm tall but sorry it's the personality for me and I'm 3ins taller than an amazing guy in my life ... luckily I'm happy in flats  | |||
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"It doesnt bother me, both my hubby and my lover and shorter than I but there are a few lovely gents on here who have caught my eye who are hitting the 6ft plus mark. Its personality for me that counts. . This for me and I'm tall but sorry it's the personality for me and I'm 3ins taller than an amazing guy in my life ... luckily I'm happy in flats "Will add we are not the same height lying down at all!! | |||
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"It doesnt bother me, both my hubby and my lover and shorter than I but there are a few lovely gents on here who have caught my eye who are hitting the 6ft plus mark. Its personality for me that counts. . This for me and I'm tall but sorry it's the personality for me and I'm 3ins taller than an amazing guy in my life ... luckily I'm happy in flats "Good for you! Funnily enough, despite being tall, my preference is for women at the shorter end of the spectrum. But height isn’t a hard and fast requirement for me. | |||
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" I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles. " Just to add a little bit of counter balance. It's far from universal that all women like tall men - when I was a single I regularly was told I was too tall (that's the polite version!). I think in an ideal world we'd all clearly state what we wanted, without seeming picky. Perhaps if we could search and set msg filters on the same criteria instead...? | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem? "I think many tall women have a problem with it, But many short men don’t bernie eccleston, tom cruise, al pacino. For example. | |||
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" I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles. Just to add a little bit of counter balance. It's far from universal that all women like tall men - when I was a single I regularly was told I was too tall (that's the polite version!). I think in an ideal world we'd all clearly state what we wanted, without seeming picky. Perhaps if we could search and set msg filters on the same criteria instead...?" Im really struggling as I’m so tall and plus size and when it comes to picking guy I really need someone taller who can make me feel like a woman. | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I think many tall women have a problem with it,
But many short men don’t bernie eccleston, tom cruise, al pacino.
For example. "No Bernie, Tom and Al have RICH inches if they were poor they would have far more problems. | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I think many tall women have a problem with it,
But many short men don’t bernie eccleston, tom cruise, al pacino.
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No Bernie, Tom and Al have RICH inches if they were poor they would have far more problems. "Exactly! | |||
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"I don’t think the issue is who or what people find attractive. It’s a wonderful thing that we all like different things. The issue is about respect. I’m not flattered by a message from a man who is ignoring what I say in my profile. I’ve seen loads of profiles where men are looking for petite or gym fit girls, or specifically not BBW’s. The last thing I would do is send a naked picture of myself to one of those guys and say ‘I know you like petite girls, but I don’t mind being bigger than you’. They don’t want to see a girl like me naked. I don’t want pictures of white mens naked dicks sending to me. I’ve made clear I won’t like them and asked not be sent them. But if I do get some I should be flattered? No way. " I just think the comments above where messages from people not meeting one physical requirement were described as disrespectful and offensive were a bit OTT. Getting unwanted (polite) messages is surely a lot better, and certainly no worse, than not getting replies. Even where the guy has spent time reading the profile, ensuring they meet that person’s preferences, then crafting polite, targeted, relevant messages only to have them ignored or deleted without being read. Is that annoying? Yes. Is it disrespectful or offensive? No. Getting messages from anyone should be seen as compliment (other than spam or rude messages). Some of the the female profiles on here are extremely negative, smack of entitlement and are basically along the lines of “good luck if I message you back”! I’m just trying to explain things from a different perspective. | |||
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" I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles. Just to add a little bit of counter balance. It's far from universal that all women like tall men - when I was a single I regularly was told I was too tall (that's the polite version!). I think in an ideal world we'd all clearly state what we wanted, without seeming picky. Perhaps if we could search and set msg filters on the same criteria instead...? Im really struggling as I’m so tall and plus size and when it comes to picking guy I really need someone taller who can make me feel like a woman. " You're not that tall | |||
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" I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles. Just to add a little bit of counter balance. It's far from universal that all women like tall men - when I was a single I regularly was told I was too tall (that's the polite version!). I think in an ideal world we'd all clearly state what we wanted, without seeming picky. Perhaps if we could search and set msg filters on the same criteria instead...? Im really struggling as I’m so tall and plus size and when it comes to picking guy I really need someone taller who can make me feel like a woman. You're not that tall "I was just going to say that!! Lol | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I think many tall women have a problem with it,
But many short men don’t bernie eccleston, tom cruise, al pacino.
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
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So you wouldn't feel offended if a guy said "No thanks, you're too big, I only see size 12 and below""Having been a size 22 for most of my life and now a size 8 in all honesty I would rather be ignored or another excuse that doesn’t relate to physical areas. Likewise if someone messages me I either ignore or if a message has been tailored to me politely decline with no mention of what I don’t find attractive. | |||
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" I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles. Just to add a little bit of counter balance. It's far from universal that all women like tall men - when I was a single I regularly was told I was too tall (that's the polite version!). I think in an ideal world we'd all clearly state what we wanted, without seeming picky. Perhaps if we could search and set msg filters on the same criteria instead...? Im really struggling as I’m so tall and plus size and when it comes to picking guy I really need someone taller who can make me feel like a woman. You're not that tall
I was just going to say that!! Lol "To be fair a woman of 5”11 is going to equal or be taller than most guys in flats, let alone when she dons her heels. I’d still be taller than her in the heels (just) but probably wouldn’t be dating someone of 5”11 in all honesty. Then again, if a female of that height messaged me on here, I wouldn’t feel offended or disrespected... | |||
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" I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles. Just to add a little bit of counter balance. It's far from universal that all women like tall men - when I was a single I regularly was told I was too tall (that's the polite version!). I think in an ideal world we'd all clearly state what we wanted, without seeming picky. Perhaps if we could search and set msg filters on the same criteria instead...? Im really struggling as I’m so tall and plus size and when it comes to picking guy I really need someone taller who can make me feel like a woman. You're not that tall
I was just going to say that!! Lol "That’s sweet but I usually feel like giraffe haha Usually everyone around are so much shorter that I definetly should have neck problems by now hehe | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I think many tall women have a problem with it,
But many short men don’t bernie eccleston, tom cruise, al pacino.
For example. "These examples don’t work in the real world.... These men are rich and famous.... Take David Beckham for instance... without football, he would be David Beckham the short bin man struggling to get meets on Fab. | |||
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" I can see it from the guys’ perspective. I’m lucky enough to be 6”3, but I know a guy who is unfortunate enough to be 5”4 and really, really struggles. Just to add a little bit of counter balance. It's far from universal that all women like tall men - when I was a single I regularly was told I was too tall (that's the polite version!). I think in an ideal world we'd all clearly state what we wanted, without seeming picky. Perhaps if we could search and set msg filters on the same criteria instead...? Im really struggling as I’m so tall and plus size and when it comes to picking guy I really need someone taller who can make me feel like a woman. You're not that tall
I was just going to say that!! Lol
That’s sweet but I usually feel like giraffe haha Usually everyone around are so much shorter that I definetly should have neck problems by now hehe "I'm shorter than you but she isn't and we know lots of tall ladies ... the tallest being 6ft4 | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem?
I think many tall women have a problem with it,
But many short men don’t bernie eccleston, tom cruise, al pacino.
For example.
No Bernie, Tom and Al have RICH inches if they were poor they would have far more problems.
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Funny how the height requirement goes out the window if the guy in question is “tall when he stands on his wallet” . "Not just height requirements. You’ve only got to look at some of the famous men’s wives! Not sure they’d be with them if they didn’t have money! | |||
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"Personally neither of us really care about a persons height and being a couple of shorties we guess we can’t be choosy as most are taller than us anyway, most people don’t seem to mind that we are short, but then again we generally attract confident couples, got to say sometimes a ladies femininity is challenged if a guy is shorter, maybe that’s why ladies sometimes have issues with men shorter than themselves" Whilst my femininity has never been been challenged it takes a confident shorter guy to be with a taller lady without feeling judged, laughed at or feeling demasculinated. | |||
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"Why guys have such a difficult time to understand that I’m not attracted to guys who are shorter than me? I always get jokes like we are the same night in bed etc. I just do not feel attracted and it’s disaster. I’m plus size so I would not say to a guy who like only size 12 girls and below that size doesn’t matter
I just find it so frustrating.
Do you have the same problem? "Yeah you will always get guys that don't that think "oh yeah they will meet me I won't read their profile" which is a shame as that's a lot of guys on here but there are some that don't think that. | |||
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"I don’t think the issue is who or what people find attractive. It’s a wonderful thing that we all like different things. The issue is about respect. I’m not flattered by a message from a man who is ignoring what I say in my profile. I’ve seen loads of profiles where men are looking for petite or gym fit girls, or specifically not BBW’s. The last thing I would do is send a naked picture of myself to one of those guys and say ‘I know you like petite girls, but I don’t mind being bigger than you’. They don’t want to see a girl like me naked. I don’t want pictures of white mens naked dicks sending to me. I’ve made clear I won’t like them and asked not be sent them. But if I do get some I should be flattered? No way. I just think the comments above where messages from people not meeting one physical requirement were described as disrespectful and offensive were a bit OTT. Getting unwanted (polite) messages is surely a lot better, and certainly no worse, than not getting replies. Even where the guy has spent time reading the profile, ensuring they meet that person’s preferences, then crafting polite, targeted, relevant messages only to have them ignored or deleted without being read. Is that annoying? Yes. Is it disrespectful or offensive? No. Getting messages from anyone should be seen as compliment (other than spam or rude messages). Some of the the female profiles on here are extremely negative, smack of entitlement and are basically along the lines of “good luck if I message you back”! I’m just trying to explain things from a different perspective. "I think the disrespectful part is the fact that the sender is clearly ignoring the preference stated on the profile and chancing their arm anyway. If they ignore the preference in the profile, where does it stop? If you meet and they do something you don’t like, will they stop when you ask them to? This world is built on mutual respect and trust. If a person cannot respect your preference stated on your profile and ignores it then how can you trust them to respect anything else | |||
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"I don’t think the issue is who or what people find attractive. It’s a wonderful thing that we all like different things. The issue is about respect. I’m not flattered by a message from a man who is ignoring what I say in my profile. I’ve seen loads of profiles where men are looking for petite or gym fit girls, or specifically not BBW’s. The last thing I would do is send a naked picture of myself to one of those guys and say ‘I know you like petite girls, but I don’t mind being bigger than you’. They don’t want to see a girl like me naked. I don’t want pictures of white mens naked dicks sending to me. I’ve made clear I won’t like them and asked not be sent them. But if I do get some I should be flattered? No way. I just think the comments above where messages from people not meeting one physical requirement were described as disrespectful and offensive were a bit OTT. Getting unwanted (polite) messages is surely a lot better, and certainly no worse, than not getting replies. Even where the guy has spent time reading the profile, ensuring they meet that person’s preferences, then crafting polite, targeted, relevant messages only to have them ignored or deleted without being read. Is that annoying? Yes. Is it disrespectful or offensive? No. Getting messages from anyone should be seen as compliment (other than spam or rude messages). Some of the the female profiles on here are extremely negative, smack of entitlement and are basically along the lines of “good luck if I message you back”! I’m just trying to explain things from a different perspective.
I think the disrespectful part is the fact that the sender is clearly ignoring the preference stated on the profile and chancing their arm anyway.
If they ignore the preference in the profile, where does it stop? If you meet and they do something you don’t like, will they stop when you ask them to?
This world is built on mutual respect and trust. If a person cannot respect your preference stated on your profile and ignores it then how can you trust them to respect anything else "This! If someone ignores a clear request, it doesn't give me any faith that they would respect my boundaries. And why on earth would I risk getting into an intimate situation with someone who thought "no" meant anything other than "no"? | |||
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"I don’t think the issue is who or what people find attractive. It’s a wonderful thing that we all like different things. The issue is about respect. I’m not flattered by a message from a man who is ignoring what I say in my profile. I’ve seen loads of profiles where men are looking for petite or gym fit girls, or specifically not BBW’s. The last thing I would do is send a naked picture of myself to one of those guys and say ‘I know you like petite girls, but I don’t mind being bigger than you’. They don’t want to see a girl like me naked. I don’t want pictures of white mens naked dicks sending to me. I’ve made clear I won’t like them and asked not be sent them. But if I do get some I should be flattered? No way. I just think the comments above where messages from people not meeting one physical requirement were described as disrespectful and offensive were a bit OTT. Getting unwanted (polite) messages is surely a lot better, and certainly no worse, than not getting replies. Even where the guy has spent time reading the profile, ensuring they meet that person’s preferences, then crafting polite, targeted, relevant messages only to have them ignored or deleted without being read. Is that annoying? Yes. Is it disrespectful or offensive? No. Getting messages from anyone should be seen as compliment (other than spam or rude messages). Some of the the female profiles on here are extremely negative, smack of entitlement and are basically along the lines of “good luck if I message you back”! I’m just trying to explain things from a different perspective.
I think the disrespectful part is the fact that the sender is clearly ignoring the preference stated on the profile and chancing their arm anyway.
If they ignore the preference in the profile, where does it stop? If you meet and they do something you don’t like, will they stop when you ask them to?
This world is built on mutual respect and trust. If a person cannot respect your preference stated on your profile and ignores it then how can you trust them to respect anything else "I think we will have to agree o disagree on this one. I think making a leap from saying that a guy chancing his arm by messaging someone on here even though he might be a couple of inches shorter than their ideal might also therefore be a rapist is adding 2+2 and making 50. I’m not suggesting that people should be reading or even responding to these messages, but I think describing them as “offensive” or “disrespectful” is melodramatic. Just delete them! The guy has wasted more if his time writing the message than you have by deleting. Unfortunately this site is loads of guys chasing a very, very small number of single females. Guys will therefore send lots of messages and get hardly any responses. They will quickly start swimming across the same profiles and therefore widen the field of people they message. It’s better to be receiving too many messages than too few. | |||
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"I don’t think the issue is who or what people find attractive. It’s a wonderful thing that we all like different things. The issue is about respect. I’m not flattered by a message from a man who is ignoring what I say in my profile. I’ve seen loads of profiles where men are looking for petite or gym fit girls, or specifically not BBW’s. The last thing I would do is send a naked picture of myself to one of those guys and say ‘I know you like petite girls, but I don’t mind being bigger than you’. They don’t want to see a girl like me naked. I don’t want pictures of white mens naked dicks sending to me. I’ve made clear I won’t like them and asked not be sent them. But if I do get some I should be flattered? No way. I just think the comments above where messages from people not meeting one physical requirement were described as disrespectful and offensive were a bit OTT. Getting unwanted (polite) messages is surely a lot better, and certainly no worse, than not getting replies. Even where the guy has spent time reading the profile, ensuring they meet that person’s preferences, then crafting polite, targeted, relevant messages only to have them ignored or deleted without being read. Is that annoying? Yes. Is it disrespectful or offensive? No. Getting messages from anyone should be seen as compliment (other than spam or rude messages). Some of the the female profiles on here are extremely negative, smack of entitlement and are basically along the lines of “good luck if I message you back”! I’m just trying to explain things from a different perspective.
I think the disrespectful part is the fact that the sender is clearly ignoring the preference stated on the profile and chancing their arm anyway.
If they ignore the preference in the profile, where does it stop? If you meet and they do something you don’t like, will they stop when you ask them to?
This world is built on mutual respect and trust. If a person cannot respect your preference stated on your profile and ignores it then how can you trust them to respect anything else "That’s exactly right. From the very first message this type of person is putting their needs and wants before mine by ignoring what I have stated clearly on my profile. Their need is not greater than mine. They are not more important than me. Anyone who feels my views are so insignificant that I should be ignored is not for me. | |||
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"I don’t think the issue is who or what people find attractive. It’s a wonderful thing that we all like different things. The issue is about respect. I’m not flattered by a message from a man who is ignoring what I say in my profile. I’ve seen loads of profiles where men are looking for petite or gym fit girls, or specifically not BBW’s. The last thing I would do is send a naked picture of myself to one of those guys and say ‘I know you like petite girls, but I don’t mind being bigger than you’. They don’t want to see a girl like me naked. I don’t want pictures of white mens naked dicks sending to me. I’ve made clear I won’t like them and asked not be sent them. But if I do get some I should be flattered? No way. I just think the comments above where messages from people not meeting one physical requirement were described as disrespectful and offensive were a bit OTT. Getting unwanted (polite) messages is surely a lot better, and certainly no worse, than not getting replies. Even where the guy has spent time reading the profile, ensuring they meet that person’s preferences, then crafting polite, targeted, relevant messages only to have them ignored or deleted without being read. Is that annoying? Yes. Is it disrespectful or offensive? No. Getting messages from anyone should be seen as compliment (other than spam or rude messages). Some of the the female profiles on here are extremely negative, smack of entitlement and are basically along the lines of “good luck if I message you back”! I’m just trying to explain things from a different perspective.
I think the disrespectful part is the fact that the sender is clearly ignoring the preference stated on the profile and chancing their arm anyway.
If they ignore the preference in the profile, where does it stop? If you meet and they do something you don’t like, will they stop when you ask them to?
This world is built on mutual respect and trust. If a person cannot respect your preference stated on your profile and ignores it then how can you trust them to respect anything else
I think we will have to agree o disagree on this one.
I think making a leap from saying that a guy chancing his arm by messaging someone on here even though he might be a couple of inches shorter than their ideal might also therefore be a rapist is adding 2+2 and making 50.
I’m not suggesting that people should be reading or even responding to these messages, but I think describing them as “offensive” or “disrespectful” is melodramatic. Just delete them! The guy has wasted more if his time writing the message than you have by deleting.
Unfortunately this site is loads of guys chasing a very, very small number of single females. Guys will therefore send lots of messages and get hardly any responses. They will quickly start swimming across the same profiles and therefore widen the field of people they message.
It’s better to be receiving too many messages than too few. "If it was a simple as just deleting the messages it would be fine, but I don’t think it is. I absolutely hate ignoring people, I feel rude doing it. So I’m left with the choice of feeling shitty but not wasting loads of time, or responding to each person which is time I could be spending elsewhere. Sometimes when I do reply I then get messages challenging why I didn’t reply. Or yet more pictures of their penis. I don’t want to deal with any of that really. I want to come on here for a fun, lovely time. I get not everyone will find it annoying, but do. | |||
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"A friend of ours gets lots of interest from his pictures on well known dating site, Well he's a good looking guy. Normally the second or third message from the woman asks... "How tall are you?" So he replies truthfully. (He's 5'9") That's normally, 95% of the time, the last he hears from them. The problem I (N) have is, I love a nice pair of legs, but they are usually owned by the taller ladies. So I don't feel confident approaching, due to my height (also 5'9") and the fact that taller ladies, as stated in the posts above, and in my point here, just aren't interested in guys my height.
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"I don’t think the issue is who or what people find attractive. It’s a wonderful thing that we all like different things. The issue is about respect. I’m not flattered by a message from a man who is ignoring what I say in my profile. I’ve seen loads of profiles where men are looking for petite or gym fit girls, or specifically not BBW’s. The last thing I would do is send a naked picture of myself to one of those guys and say ‘I know you like petite girls, but I don’t mind being bigger than you’. They don’t want to see a girl like me naked. I don’t want pictures of white mens naked dicks sending to me. I’ve made clear I won’t like them and asked not be sent them. But if I do get some I should be flattered? No way. I just think the comments above where messages from people not meeting one physical requirement were described as disrespectful and offensive were a bit OTT. Getting unwanted (polite) messages is surely a lot better, and certainly no worse, than not getting replies. Even where the guy has spent time reading the profile, ensuring they meet that person’s preferences, then crafting polite, targeted, relevant messages only to have them ignored or deleted without being read. Is that annoying? Yes. Is it disrespectful or offensive? No. Getting messages from anyone should be seen as compliment (other than spam or rude messages). Some of the the female profiles on here are extremely negative, smack of entitlement and are basically along the lines of “good luck if I message you back”! I’m just trying to explain things from a different perspective.
I think the disrespectful part is the fact that the sender is clearly ignoring the preference stated on the profile and chancing their arm anyway.
If they ignore the preference in the profile, where does it stop? If you meet and they do something you don’t like, will they stop when you ask them to?
This world is built on mutual respect and trust. If a person cannot respect your preference stated on your profile and ignores it then how can you trust them to respect anything else
I think we will have to agree o disagree on this one.
I think making a leap from saying that a guy chancing his arm by messaging someone on here even though he might be a couple of inches shorter than their ideal might also therefore be a rapist is adding 2+2 and making 50.
I’m not suggesting that people should be reading or even responding to these messages, but I think describing them as “offensive” or “disrespectful” is melodramatic. Just delete them! The guy has wasted more if his time writing the message than you have by deleting.
Unfortunately this site is loads of guys chasing a very, very small number of single females. Guys will therefore send lots of messages and get hardly any responses. They will quickly start swimming across the same profiles and therefore widen the field of people they message.
It’s better to be receiving too many messages than too few.
If it was a simple as just deleting the messages it would be fine, but I don’t think it is. I absolutely hate ignoring people, I feel rude doing it. So I’m left with the choice of feeling shitty but not wasting loads of time, or responding to each person which is time I could be spending elsewhere. Sometimes when I do reply I then get messages challenging why I didn’t reply. Or yet more pictures of their penis. I don’t want to deal with any of that really. I want to come on here for a fun, lovely time. I get not everyone will find it annoying, but do. "It really is that simple though! If you get a message from someone that doesn’t match your preferences just delete it and move on. Job done. Block them if they message again. There’s no need for people to be making self important comments about being frustrated or offended, using it as an excuse to make sexist generalisations about men, or even imply the men doing it may be rapists.
I had a few messages from gay guys when I joined, despite the fact my profile clearly says I’m straight. Was I offended and frustrated by that? No. It’s really no big deal.
It’s nice to get a thanks but no thanks message but I can understand why most women don’t send these out if they end up getting abuse back. | |||
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