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By *yan1232018 OP   Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I'm pretty new to this so any advice you can offer me would be a great help.

I would like to find a woman that's not shy in the bedroom.

I'm open minded for any new experiences, you only live once after all

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

My advice.... Don't expect to get a meet straight away.

You need to work at it.

Personally, I chat to guys for weeks sometimes months before meeting due to my work and personal commitments.

Good luck x

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

A good start would he doing a forum search for profile advice. Plenty of info and help for single males.

You can block single males which will help the problem you highlight

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

Search the forums for advice.

There are plenty of threads on this topic.

My advice would be, build up you profile and try to get to a club or an organised social meet.

There is a good chance of getting verifications which help on here.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm pretty new to this so any advice you can offer me would be a great help.

I would like to find a woman that's not shy in the bedroom.

I'm open minded for any new experiences, you only live once after all "

You might want to be more progressive with your approach.

Aren't most guys looking for someone not shy in the bedroom, open-minded for new experiences and aware they only live once???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My single best piece of advice is go to an organised social.

Also, block single men from messaging you if you don't want them to.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

So where exactly are you shy -this could be quite important information you've left out -if you know what I mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My single best piece of advice is go to an organised social.

Also, block single men from messaging you if you don't want them to."

Why is it your primary advice?

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"My single best piece of advice is go to an organised social.

Also, block single men from messaging you if you don't want them to.

Why is it your primary advice?"

Why, are you interested in second best?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My single best piece of advice is go to an organised social.

Also, block single men from messaging you if you don't want them to.

Why is it your primary advice?

Why, are you interested in second best?"

Ok, I have a spare moment to give you some attention.

What result are you hoping to achieve with your recent routine on here?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Make your profile stand out, send polite and personal messages based on the profiles you read. This site can be hard work for everyone, I'm afraid.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"My single best piece of advice is go to an organised social.

Also, block single men from messaging you if you don't want them to.

Why is it your primary advice?

Why, are you interested in second best?

Ok, I have a spare moment to give you some attention.

What result are you hoping to achieve with your recent routine on here?"

So you are interested in second best -I knew it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My single best piece of advice is go to an organised social.

Also, block single men from messaging you if you don't want them to.

Why is it your primary advice?"

Why? Because it's a good, no, great way to meet lots of like-minded people in a normal situation with no pressure to take any clothes off or do anything sexual, yes of course that's why we're all mostly here, but if a single guy can put his name down for an event where he has no promise of any fun, then actually follow through and turn up, be well behaved and chat, then he will get some verifications from meeting people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My single best piece of advice is go to an organised social.

Also, block single men from messaging you if you don't want them to.

Why is it your primary advice?

Why? Because it's a good, no, great way to meet lots of like-minded people in a normal situation with no pressure to take any clothes off or do anything sexual, yes of course that's why we're all mostly here, but if a single guy can put his name down for an event where he has no promise of any fun, then actually follow through and turn up, be well behaved and chat, then he will get some verifications from meeting people.

"

Yeah, get all that but the generic mantra go to a social is hardly relevant advice to most guys let alone a 27 y/o.

I don't get why 'go to a social' is cut and pasted to the majority of threads from guys seeking general advice on how to get on on the site. Most guys who are getting on with the site don't go to socials.

And referencing something you added in your second post, did you feel a little patronised, as an adult woman, when whoever advised you to go to a social said you should be well behaved?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

While I've not been to a social, I'm not sure why it's bad advice. A bunch of veris saying "great guy, good looking, great sense of humour, easy to talk to" would really help guys who can't get any.

I'm wary of people without veris, because I use them to judge whether a person is a decent human being. Social veris would be enough for me... and it wouldn't come with the (perceived) problems that going to a club as a single guy has.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"While I've not been to a social, I'm not sure why it's bad advice. A bunch of veris saying "great guy, good looking, great sense of humour, easy to talk to" would really help guys who can't get any.

I'm wary of people without veris, because I use them to judge whether a person is a decent human being. Social veris would be enough for me... and it wouldn't come with the (perceived) problems that going to a club as a single guy has. "

I didn't say it was bad advice it's more that it is largely inappropriate when it is dispensed as a one size fits all advice reply.

The verification's aspect is another thing altogether. I would have thought that one decent meet verification would trump 5 'nice guy' social verification's?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My single best piece of advice is go to an organised social.

Also, block single men from messaging you if you don't want them to.

Why is it your primary advice?

Why? Because it's a good, no, great way to meet lots of like-minded people in a normal situation with no pressure to take any clothes off or do anything sexual, yes of course that's why we're all mostly here, but if a single guy can put his name down for an event where he has no promise of any fun, then actually follow through and turn up, be well behaved and chat, then he will get some verifications from meeting people.

Yeah, get all that but the generic mantra go to a social is hardly relevant advice to most guys let alone a 27 y/o.

I don't get why 'go to a social' is cut and pasted to the majority of threads from guys seeking general advice on how to get on on the site. Most guys who are getting on with the site don't go to socials.

And referencing something you added in your second post, did you feel a little patronised, as an adult woman, when whoever advised you to go to a social said you should be well behaved?"

I'm not gonna justify why I think it's good advice, that's up to the OP to decide if he wants to take that path.

And the reason I said well behaved is because mostly, organised socials are in a vanilla setting with the general public so no playing goes on, some people can't seem to grasp that, hence why I said well behaved. Is that ok with you??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My single best piece of advice is go to an organised social.

Also, block single men from messaging you if you don't want them to.

Why is it your primary advice?

Why? Because it's a good, no, great way to meet lots of like-minded people in a normal situation with no pressure to take any clothes off or do anything sexual, yes of course that's why we're all mostly here, but if a single guy can put his name down for an event where he has no promise of any fun, then actually follow through and turn up, be well behaved and chat, then he will get some verifications from meeting people.

Yeah, get all that but the generic mantra go to a social is hardly relevant advice to most guys let alone a 27 y/o.

I don't get why 'go to a social' is cut and pasted to the majority of threads from guys seeking general advice on how to get on on the site. Most guys who are getting on with the site don't go to socials.

And referencing something you added in your second post, did you feel a little patronised, as an adult woman, when whoever advised you to go to a social said you should be well behaved?

I'm not gonna justify why I think it's good advice, that's up to the OP to decide if he wants to take that path.

And the reason I said well behaved is because mostly, organised socials are in a vanilla setting with the general public so no playing goes on, some people can't seem to grasp that, hence why I said well behaved. Is that ok with you?? "

My point on 'advice' was on relevancy, not whether it was good or bad.

You didn't answer my question about the well behaved aspect so no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My single best piece of advice is go to an organised social.

Also, block single men from messaging you if you don't want them to.

Why is it your primary advice?

Why? Because it's a good, no, great way to meet lots of like-minded people in a normal situation with no pressure to take any clothes off or do anything sexual, yes of course that's why we're all mostly here, but if a single guy can put his name down for an event where he has no promise of any fun, then actually follow through and turn up, be well behaved and chat, then he will get some verifications from meeting people.

Yeah, get all that but the generic mantra go to a social is hardly relevant advice to most guys let alone a 27 y/o.

I don't get why 'go to a social' is cut and pasted to the majority of threads from guys seeking general advice on how to get on on the site. Most guys who are getting on with the site don't go to socials.

And referencing something you added in your second post, did you feel a little patronised, as an adult woman, when whoever advised you to go to a social said you should be well behaved?

I'm not gonna justify why I think it's good advice, that's up to the OP to decide if he wants to take that path.

And the reason I said well behaved is because mostly, organised socials are in a vanilla setting with the general public so no playing goes on, some people can't seem to grasp that, hence why I said well behaved. Is that ok with you??

My point on 'advice' was on relevancy, not whether it was good or bad.

You didn't answer my question about the well behaved aspect so no."

Well I've obviously got no idea what you're going on about then so I'm gonna shut up then. Well done on turning the thread sour jumping on people trying to give advice

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By *obbo44Man
over a year ago

Swansea


"I'm pretty new to this so any advice you can offer me would be a great help.

I would like to find a woman that's not shy in the bedroom.

I'm open minded for any new experiences, you only live once after all "

Yeah here is the best advice I can give you don't treat this site as a sex site if you do you will find it easier to go to town on a weekend and pull there , as people have already stated the best way to get on in this site is to go to some organised events socials , karaoke socials , etc that way you meet a lot of people who are on the site and form a friendship that way the next time you are out you will see friendly faces and it won't be so intimidating , but when you do go don't just stand by the bar go have a laugh have a few drinks and be yourself if you are shy and quiet then people ain't normally going to be drawn to you in any setting if you are smiling and quite funny and can have a laugh then you will be all good and you will find things easy and the more events you go to the more people you meet then you can meet people who look for the same things you do , if all you are looking for is sex then yeah keep messaging and a few will say yeah but if you want to play out a few things get out there and meet the people of the fab community

Happy fabbing

Just my opinion by the way if anyone disagrees

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My single best piece of advice is go to an organised social.

Also, block single men from messaging you if you don't want them to.

Why is it your primary advice?

Why? Because it's a good, no, great way to meet lots of like-minded people in a normal situation with no pressure to take any clothes off or do anything sexual, yes of course that's why we're all mostly here, but if a single guy can put his name down for an event where he has no promise of any fun, then actually follow through and turn up, be well behaved and chat, then he will get some verifications from meeting people.

Yeah, get all that but the generic mantra go to a social is hardly relevant advice to most guys let alone a 27 y/o.

I don't get why 'go to a social' is cut and pasted to the majority of threads from guys seeking general advice on how to get on on the site. Most guys who are getting on with the site don't go to socials.

And referencing something you added in your second post, did you feel a little patronised, as an adult woman, when whoever advised you to go to a social said you should be well behaved?

I'm not gonna justify why I think it's good advice, that's up to the OP to decide if he wants to take that path.

And the reason I said well behaved is because mostly, organised socials are in a vanilla setting with the general public so no playing goes on, some people can't seem to grasp that, hence why I said well behaved. Is that ok with you??

My point on 'advice' was on relevancy, not whether it was good or bad.

You didn't answer my question about the well behaved aspect so no.

Well I've obviously got no idea what you're going on about then so I'm gonna shut up then. Well done on turning the thread sour jumping on people trying to give advice "

You're getting through some forum cliches on this thread sister!

If someone has no idea what someone else is going on about the usual thing to do is to ask for illumination. I asked you 3 questions in that vein on this thread. You only answered one albeit in a roundabout way.

If it helps your cluelessness any I highlighted the questions by putting a question mark after them.

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By *gnes Loves AnalWoman
over a year ago

Kingstanding


"I'm pretty new to this so any advice you can offer me would be a great help.

I would like to find a woman that's not shy in the bedroom.

I'm open minded for any new experiences, you only live once after all "

If you want lots of meets go for cock as there is tons of cock on here. No I am under selling it fabs is awash with cock its more prolific than sardines at spawning time.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"While I've not been to a social, I'm not sure why it's bad advice. A bunch of veris saying "great guy, good looking, great sense of humour, easy to talk to" would really help guys who can't get any.

I'm wary of people without veris, because I use them to judge whether a person is a decent human being. Social veris would be enough for me... and it wouldn't come with the (perceived) problems that going to a club as a single guy has.

I didn't say it was bad advice it's more that it is largely inappropriate when it is dispensed as a one size fits all advice reply.

The verification's aspect is another thing altogether. I would have thought that one decent meet verification would trump 5 'nice guy' social verification's?"

Perhaps, but a nice guy veri might get you a meet veri. Socials are easier to access for many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Save your money.....

Traveling all over the UK for meets can get expensive....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"While I've not been to a social, I'm not sure why it's bad advice. A bunch of veris saying "great guy, good looking, great sense of humour, easy to talk to" would really help guys who can't get any.

I'm wary of people without veris, because I use them to judge whether a person is a decent human being. Social veris would be enough for me... and it wouldn't come with the (perceived) problems that going to a club as a single guy has.

I didn't say it was bad advice it's more that it is largely inappropriate when it is dispensed as a one size fits all advice reply.

The verification's aspect is another thing altogether. I would have thought that one decent meet verification would trump 5 'nice guy' social verification's?

Perhaps, but a nice guy veri might get you a meet veri. Socials are easier to access for many. "

Dogging is easier to access and a lot less inhibiting than a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My advice.... Don't expect to get a meet straight away.

You need to work at it.

Personally, I chat to guys for weeks sometimes months before meeting due to my work and personal commitments.

Good luck x"
i would agree with this person because i been here a long time and not meet anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to an organised Fab social event or to a club. Get yourself known on the scene and a few verifications.

Your profile is also your 'shop window' so you need to make it the best you can.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"I'm pretty new to this so any advice you can offer me would be a great help.

I would like to find a woman that's not shy in the bedroom.

I'm open minded for any new experiences, you only live once after all

Yeah here is the best advice I can give you don't treat this site as a sex site if you do you will find it easier to go to town on a weekend and pull there , as people have already stated the best way to get on in this site is to go to some organised events socials , karaoke socials , etc that way you meet a lot of people who are on the site and form a friendship that way the next time you are out you will see friendly faces and it won't be so intimidating , but when you do go don't just stand by the bar go have a laugh have a few drinks and be yourself if you are shy and quiet then people ain't normally going to be drawn to you in any setting if you are smiling and quite funny and can have a laugh then you will be all good and you will find things easy and the more events you go to the more people you meet then you can meet people who look for the same things you do , if all you are looking for is sex then yeah keep messaging and a few will say yeah but if you want to play out a few things get out there and meet the people of the fab community

Happy fabbing

Just my opinion by the way if anyone disagrees "

I agree

There's nothing worse than a group of guys following you around a club but not actually willing to interact...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm pretty new to this so any advice you can offer me would be a great help.

I would like to find a woman that's not shy in the bedroom.

I'm open minded for any new experiences, you only live once after all "

Try Match.com and Pof you will have more success?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm relatively new to the world of swinging but have had a few fantastic meets however now I seem to be getting nowhere any message I send either goes unread or deleted and blocked anything I should change about my profile ? Any advice is greatly appreciated

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