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  nice profile ... I just peeked xx | |||
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"I am new to Fab but over the few weeks I have been on I have had replies to messages and friend invites sent to me which I accepted once we have chatted Some just send messages which never go anywhere or after giving times I am available I don’t get a reply back etc I have a few friends only pics I am not comfortable everyone seeing (yet) which they can see as I am giving them some trust but why bother sending a friend invite and going to the trouble of messaging? I don’t get it Anyone else had this problem or can give me an insight into this?" I don't understand the question | |||
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"You're probably putting people off by giving times you're available...kinda sounds like you're booking an appointment for sex?" I only say when I am available when asked so I doubt it’s that But on a positive note I have had one woman message me back explaining my message was deleted in a mass message clear out and another say she isn’t looking for hook ups at the moment | |||
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"How YOU doin’??? "I am doing ok thanks How are you doing | |||
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"Yeah this site is pointless 
I pretty much agree! "I wouldn’t say that ever If guys use just for messaging to get a shag then it’s next to useless however if used correctly to find out what’s going on where and when with whom it’s really useful and effort in the right areas will up the fun levels. That said there was a black guy on here with about 500 veris who posted on a thread that he was willing to help people struggling and guess what he got very few replies . | |||
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"Yeah this site is pointless "Really? I'm sure the ladies who verified you 6 times wouldn't be happy with that comment. I only hope they aren't reading this, otherwise it will be even more pointless for you! | |||
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"If you guys think this site is pointless, you need to take a look at yourselves as well. No one is forcing you to stay. "Nail head and hit come to mind | |||
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"If you guys think this site is pointless, you need to take a look at yourselves as well. No one is forcing you to stay.
Nail head and hit come to mind"Thankyou. It's not the sites fault for people's lack of success. They need to put the effort in themselves. | |||
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"If you guys think this site is pointless, you need to take a look at yourselves as well. No one is forcing you to stay.
Nail head and hit come to mind
Thankyou. It's not the sites fault for people's lack of success. They need to put the effort in themselves. "I know there’s a few of people like yourself who have given advice on such things but as I keep saying who listens? While I’m sometimes willing to get on my white horse to defend the persecuted single men species other times I think why bother? | |||
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"Yeah this site is pointless "but it’s a good game show | |||
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"Yeah this site is pointless
I pretty much agree! "Bottom lip hanging convention | |||
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"Looks like I kicked up a bit of a hornets nest here sorry I didn’t mean to do that My OP was just to get feedback whether this was a common problem and if there might be genuine reasons people send a friend invite and message you and then go cold and I got two good reasons why today off the ladies who messaged me I will keep at it I am a decent guy and I will find the right people for me for sure also someone gave me a piece of advice,”think of it as a filter for the wrong ones” I was already thinking of joining the Townhouse so thanks for the suggestion" Probably just because they want to see your friends only pics OP. I don't add people I haven't met to friends. | |||
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"Yeah this site is pointless
I pretty much agree!
Bottom lip hanging convention"Well that pretty much sums up the attitude of the majority of fems, thats why i normally dont even bother to contribute | |||
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"If you guys think this site is pointless, you need to take a look at yourselves as well. No one is forcing you to stay.
Nail head and hit come to mind
Thankyou. It's not the sites fault for people's lack of success. They need to put the effort in themselves.
I know there’s a few of people like yourself who have given advice on such things but as I keep saying who listens?
While I’m sometimes willing to get on my white horse to defend the persecuted single men species other times I think why bother?"I do try to help a lot of newbies with advice on my profile and pm's if they need, I'm rapidly beginning to wonder why I'm bothering at all tbh. | |||
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"Yeah this site is pointless
I pretty much agree!
Bottom lip hanging convention
Well that pretty much sums up the attitude of the majority of fems, thats why i normally dont even bother to contribute "Actually it doesn't. I think people are getting a bit fed up with helping people who refuse to help themselves but feel fab owes them meets and should do all the work for them. | |||
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"Yeah this site is pointless
I pretty much agree!
Bottom lip hanging convention"You so funny and I don’t have tickets for that convention...bummer!!! | |||
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"Yeah this site is pointless
I pretty much agree!
Bottom lip hanging convention
You so funny and I don’t have tickets for that convention...bummer!!! "That's excellent news OP, you wouldn't want those tickets.  | |||
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"Yeah this site is pointless
I pretty much agree!
Bottom lip hanging convention
You so funny and I don’t have tickets for that convention...bummer!!!
That's excellent news OP, you wouldn't want those tickets. "I would be grateful for any advice you can give me on finding my feet on Fab check over my profile etc | |||
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"Oooooooo I say nice profile ... I just peeked xx"I know! Ding dong | |||
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"Yeah this site is pointless
I pretty much agree!
Bottom lip hanging convention
You so funny and I don’t have tickets for that convention...bummer!!!
That's excellent news OP, you wouldn't want those tickets.
I would be grateful for any advice you can give me on finding my feet on Fab check over my profile etc "Your profile looks fine to me, nice pics and a good bio. Maybe a few more torso or bum shots in public ones would help. Keep smiling and I wish you the best of luck. xx | |||
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"Oooooooo I say nice profile ... I just peeked xx
I know! Ding dong "I think we should have a FFFM with the OP ladies. | |||
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"Oooooooo I say nice profile ... I just peeked xx
I know! Ding dong "Why thank you Kitty | |||
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"Oooooooo I say nice profile ... I just peeked xx
I know! Ding dong
I think we should have a FFFM with the OP ladies. "I’m game | |||
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"Oooooooo I say nice profile ... I just peeked xx
I know! Ding dong
Why thank you Kitty "I wouldn’t kick you out of bed! Might tie you to it and keep you there | |||
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"Yeah this site is pointless
I pretty much agree!
Bottom lip hanging convention
You so funny and I don’t have tickets for that convention...bummer!!!
That's excellent news OP, you wouldn't want those tickets.
I would be grateful for any advice you can give me on finding my feet on Fab check over my profile etc
Your profile looks fine to me, nice pics and a good bio. Maybe a few more torso or bum shots in public ones would help. Keep smiling and I wish you the best of luck. xx"Thanks for that and I will try to get some more pics on it’s hard when you’re the photographer and need to use a mirror And a FFFM my luck seems to have changed | |||
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"Yeah this site is pointless
I pretty much agree!
Bottom lip hanging convention
Well that pretty much sums up the attitude of the majority of fems, thats why i normally dont even bother to contribute "That just sounds even more defeatist and makes you get passed over even quicker. Having a laugh and a smile goes a long way in this world. | |||
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"Oooooooo I say nice profile ... I just peeked xx
I know! Ding dong
Why thank you Kitty
I wouldn’t kick you out of bed! Might tie you to it and keep you there "If you are ever in Wales that’s an offer I would be mad to refuse | |||
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"Yeah this site is pointless
I pretty much agree!
Bottom lip hanging convention
You so funny and I don’t have tickets for that convention...bummer!!! "Its a bit sombre | |||
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"Yeah this site is pointless
I pretty much agree!
Bottom lip hanging convention
You so funny and I don’t have tickets for that convention...bummer!!!
That's excellent news OP, you wouldn't want those tickets.
I would be grateful for any advice you can give me on finding my feet on Fab check over my profile etc
Your profile looks fine to me, nice pics and a good bio. Maybe a few more torso or bum shots in public ones would help. Keep smiling and I wish you the best of luck. xx"More bum and torso shots just so you can perve them lol | |||
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"Yeah this site is pointless
I pretty much agree!
Bottom lip hanging convention
You so funny and I don’t have tickets for that convention...bummer!!!
Its a bit sombre "I can imagine, lucky my tickets got lost in the post | |||
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"Yeah this site is pointless
I pretty much agree!
Bottom lip hanging convention
You so funny and I don’t have tickets for that convention...bummer!!!
That's excellent news OP, you wouldn't want those tickets.
I would be grateful for any advice you can give me on finding my feet on Fab check over my profile etc
Your profile looks fine to me, nice pics and a good bio. Maybe a few more torso or bum shots in public ones would help. Keep smiling and I wish you the best of luck. xx
More bum and torso shots just so you can perve them lol"Considering how nice she has been I am happy for the lady to have a perv | |||
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"Oooooooo I say nice profile ... I just peeked xx
I know! Ding dong
Why thank you Kitty
I wouldn’t kick you out of bed! Might tie you to it and keep you there
If you are ever in Wales that’s an offer I would be mad to refuse "I’ll hold you to that x | |||
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"Yeah this site is pointless
I pretty much agree! "Really...actually found it very good. .provided u have your fake radar on.. after chatting for a while always good to test if they are interested in meeting..probably not ideal in first reply...  | |||
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"More luck on tinder !!" Then stick with tinder if it works for you! | |||
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"What's the point? It's helpful to have reasonable expectations, so that you don't become disheartened etc - it takes a long time for you new single men to become established here. This inevitably means that a lot of new single guys give up, so established users often prefer people who've been around some time, as you'll potentially be more reliable. Your profile's fairly good - if we were matched, I'd be impressed. In the meantime you'll need to decide if you can stick it out, with lots of effort made, apparently for little short-term reward. As long as you're first messages are targeted well, your profile is top notch and you get known, you're largely doing most of what you can. Attending any Fab socials is a good move too: there are perhaps some before Christmas that would give you a chance to meet others. Having friends and support here is great, so that you don't potentially feel isolated. Other than that, swingers clubs are potentially valuable." Thanks Sophie I appreciate that | |||
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"I am new to Fab but over the few weeks I have been on I have had replies to messages and friend invites sent to me which I accepted once we have chatted Some just send messages which never go anywhere or after giving times I am available I don’t get a reply back etc I have a few friends only pics I am not comfortable everyone seeing (yet) which they can see as I am giving them some trust but why bother sending a friend invite and going to the trouble of messaging? I don’t get it Anyone else had this problem or can give me an insight into this?" If you're not comfortable with everyone seeing your private pictures why are you accepting friends requests from people of the slightest acquaintance? | |||
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"I am new to Fab but over the few weeks I have been on I have had replies to messages and friend invites sent to me which I accepted once we have chatted Some just send messages which never go anywhere or after giving times I am available I don’t get a reply back etc I have a few friends only pics I am not comfortable everyone seeing (yet) which they can see as I am giving them some trust but why bother sending a friend invite and going to the trouble of messaging? I don’t get it Anyone else had this problem or can give me an insight into this?" If you really want to get rid of pic collector types put all your friends only pics to private. S | |||
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"Welcome to the reality of Fab Op Don’t waste time on hear it’s full of time wasters Get yourself out to clubs and meet the real swingers and learn about the lifestyle then you’ll have lots of fun. " Completely agree.  | |||
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"If you guys think this site is pointless, you need to take a look at yourselves as well. No one is forcing you to stay.
Nail head and hit come to mind
Thankyou. It's not the sites fault for people's lack of success. They need to put the effort in themselves. " | |||
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"I am new to Fab but over the few weeks I have been on I have had replies to messages and friend invites sent to me which I accepted once we have chatted Some just send messages which never go anywhere or after giving times I am available I don’t get a reply back etc I have a few friends only pics I am not comfortable everyone seeing (yet) which they can see as I am giving them some trust but why bother sending a friend invite and going to the trouble of messaging? I don’t get it Anyone else had this problem or can give me an insight into this? If you're not comfortable with everyone seeing your private pictures why are you accepting friends requests from people of the slightest acquaintance?" I am just not comfortable with everyone seeing them yet as I am new to the site and as I had been speaking via message before accepting I thought it would be rude not to accept the request | |||
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"I am new to Fab but over the few weeks I have been on I have had replies to messages and friend invites sent to me which I accepted once we have chatted Some just send messages which never go anywhere or after giving times I am available I don’t get a reply back etc I have a few friends only pics I am not comfortable everyone seeing (yet) which they can see as I am giving them some trust but why bother sending a friend invite and going to the trouble of messaging? I don’t get it Anyone else had this problem or can give me an insight into this? If you really want to get rid of pic collector types put all your friends only pics to private. S" Not a bad idea but I was happy for genuine friends to see the pics and still am maybe I shouldn’t be such a prude and shrug it off I have nothing to be ashamed of | |||
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"Op you have a really good profile there and have come across polite and approachable which shall stead you well here. Putting you on our hotlist to watch your journey and ladies be gentle with him. Enjoy darling. Psyche "This. Nice pm's as well. Very polite. | |||
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"Op, your profile is good and makesyou seem very approachable, the will fill in later brigade could learn alot from you. The only thing that might hold you back is the fact that you can't accommodate. Accommodation doesn't need to be your home, could be a hotel for the night ect ." Once again thank you all for your feedback and nice comments | |||
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I reckon you could do quite well and should get yourself to clubs.
Nita | |||
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"Nice bum op "Thanks and right back at you very nice behind and some cool tats I mean tattoos | |||
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"Polite, friendly, sense of humour, fit, good profile and easy on the eye
I reckon you could do quite well and should get yourself to clubs.
Nita"Thanks my male ego is getting a major boost | |||
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"Yeah this site is pointless
Really? I'm sure the ladies who verified you 6 times wouldn't be happy with that comment. I only hope they aren't reading this, otherwise it will be even more pointless for you!"Word!! | |||
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"I am new to Fab but over the few weeks I have been on I have had replies to messages and friend invites sent to me which I accepted once we have chatted Some just send messages which never go anywhere or after giving times I am available I don’t get a reply back etc I have a few friends only pics I am not comfortable everyone seeing (yet) which they can see as I am giving them some trust but why bother sending a friend invite and going to the trouble of messaging? I don’t get it Anyone else had this problem or can give me an insight into this?" Mate look at the other threads? Half of them are about how to get meets? Your in the same position as virtually everyone else? My advice join pof and match.com you will definitely get more action. Go to clubs is also much better. Your wasting your time on fab | |||
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"I am new to Fab but over the few weeks I have been on I have had replies to messages and friend invites sent to me which I accepted once we have chatted Some just send messages which never go anywhere or after giving times I am available I don’t get a reply back etc I have a few friends only pics I am not comfortable everyone seeing (yet) which they can see as I am giving them some trust but why bother sending a friend invite and going to the trouble of messaging? I don’t get it Anyone else had this problem or can give me an insight into this? Mate look at the other threads? Half of them are about how to get meets? Your in the same position as virtually everyone else? My advice join pof and match.com you will definitely get more action. Go to clubs is also much better. Your wasting your time on fab " Most on dating sites are on here in my experience. | |||
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"I am new to Fab but over the few weeks I have been on I have had replies to messages and friend invites sent to me which I accepted once we have chatted Some just send messages which never go anywhere or after giving times I am available I don’t get a reply back etc I have a few friends only pics I am not comfortable everyone seeing (yet) which they can see as I am giving them some trust but why bother sending a friend invite and going to the trouble of messaging? I don’t get it Anyone else had this problem or can give me an insight into this? Mate look at the other threads? Half of them are about how to get meets? Your in the same position as virtually everyone else? My advice join pof and match.com you will definitely get more action. Go to clubs is also much better. Your wasting your time on fab Most on dating sites are on here in my experience. " Yep I see plenty of women on both as well, fab used to be great but not anymore, I'm just talking from experience? Not even close to getting a meet on here for weeks but last 2 weekends I've had dates with 2 absolute stunner, the one from last night is a definite keeper will be coming off fab again because of dating her but to be honest it's no loss and I can't see me coming back. | |||
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"I am new to Fab but over the few weeks I have been on I have had replies to messages and friend invites sent to me which I accepted once we have chatted Some just send messages which never go anywhere or after giving times I am available I don’t get a reply back etc I have a few friends only pics I am not comfortable everyone seeing (yet) which they can see as I am giving them some trust but why bother sending a friend invite and going to the trouble of messaging? I don’t get it Anyone else had this problem or can give me an insight into this? Mate look at the other threads? Half of them are about how to get meets? Your in the same position as virtually everyone else? My advice join pof and match.com you will definitely get more action. Go to clubs is also much better. Your wasting your time on fab Most on dating sites are on here in my experience. Yep I see plenty of women on both as well, fab used to be great but not anymore, I'm just talking from experience? Not even close to getting a meet on here for weeks but last 2 weekends I've had dates with 2 absolute stunner, the one from last night is a definite keeper will be coming off fab again because of dating her but to be honest it's no loss and I can't see me coming back. "Good luck to you xxx | |||
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"Thanks Welshsuns good to know the profile is ok " | |||
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"Your profile could be improved - both photos and text. I don’t know what your level of written communication is like but keeping a convo going is a skill. " How could they be improved? And my written conversation skills are pretty good | |||
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"Your profile could be improved - both photos and text. I don’t know what your level of written communication is like but keeping a convo going is a skill. How could they be improved? And my written conversation skills are pretty good " It’s a case of Social Darwinism in some ways. Your profile starts each little bit with “I” - it’s very much about what you want. Nothing much about what you can offer. Why would a lady choose you and not me? Think about your unique selling point. | |||
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"It’s a case of Social Darwinism in some ways. Your profile starts each little bit with “I” - it’s very much about what you want. Nothing much about what you can offer. Why would a lady choose you and not me? Think about your unique selling point. " Hi Steve | |||
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"Your profile could be improved - both photos and text. I don’t know what your level of written communication is like but keeping a convo going is a skill. How could they be improved? And my written conversation skills are pretty good It’s a case of Social Darwinism in some ways. Your profile starts each little bit with “I” - it’s very much about what you want. Nothing much about what you can offer. Why would a lady choose you and not me? Think about your unique selling point. " You make an excellent point I will see what I can do that Thanks for the advice | |||
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"It’s a case of Social Darwinism in some ways. Your profile starts each little bit with “I” - it’s very much about what you want. Nothing much about what you can offer. Why would a lady choose you and not me? Think about your unique selling point. Hi Steve "Hello, light of Grantham  | |||
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"Your profile could be improved - both photos and text. I don’t know what your level of written communication is like but keeping a convo going is a skill. How could they be improved? And my written conversation skills are pretty good It’s a case of Social Darwinism in some ways. Your profile starts each little bit with “I” - it’s very much about what you want. Nothing much about what you can offer. Why would a lady choose you and not me? Think about your unique selling point. " Well I have done my best to present myself honestly and eliminated a ton of I’s have a look and see what you think Constructive criticism is always welcome | |||
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"Your profile could be improved - both photos and text. I don’t know what your level of written communication is like but keeping a convo going is a skill. How could they be improved? And my written conversation skills are pretty good It’s a case of Social Darwinism in some ways. Your profile starts each little bit with “I” - it’s very much about what you want. Nothing much about what you can offer. Why would a lady choose you and not me? Think about your unique selling point. Well I have done my best to present myself honestly and eliminated a ton of I’s have a look and see what you think Constructive criticism is always welcome "It’s an improvement | |||
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