FabSwingers.com forum: Lifestyle Crossdresser Partner

By *aimeSmith OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cliss

I'd love to find someone who'd like me as a partner. I need to work and see my kids in guy mode, but the rest of the time I'd like to be kept as Lola or as much as partner wished.

Does anyone have any experience of this?

Does anyone want a submissive gurl, I'm great at cleaning and cooking, as well as giving massages!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m more of a lifestyle kinda woman. I told my kids. Came out at work. It really isn’t the life changing nightmare you fear.

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By *aimeSmith OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cliss

Thanks Rach, my kids are still young. Work wouldn't be thrilled!

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By *rmbtsTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

For me it’s a lifestyle but would not put kids through the torment but I’m lucky have wife that loves me dressed and sees me as two people in her life very lucky have girly nights out too in town and she buys some of my stuff too

Wife buys me lingerie dresses clothing boots heels stockings makeup etc so very lucky

Like a lot of people dressed from a very early age and then tried to be normal and conform but almost cost me with dark times but my true self always comes out

Took a long time to get a good life balance and find a wife that loves me for being me so know where your coming from with kids

Emma

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By *aimeSmith OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cliss

"For me it’s a lifestyle but would not put kids through the torment but I’m lucky have wife that loves me dressed and sees me as two people in her life very lucky have girly nights out too in town and she buys some of my stuff too

Wife buys me lingerie dresses clothing boots heels stockings makeup etc so very lucky

Like a lot of people dressed from a very early age and then tried to be normal and conform but almost cost me with dark times but my true self always comes out

Took a long time to get a good life balance and find a wife that loves me for being me so know where your coming from with kids

Emma "

Emma,

You look amazing!

Does wife mind you meeting for sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a very understanding wife who loves all the facets of me.

I crossdress and wish to be the best woman can be. For me it is not a lifestyle change, but my alter ego evil bitch..

My children are young also and with the previous history of exs I

would never be able to tell them about any of my kinky goings on and Amelia too until they were much much older.

Because it us not a lifestyle for me, I do not feel the urges or need to tell others. I suppose that is the difference between being a fantasy crossdresser compared to a cross dresser moving forward to transitioning and becoming a woman fully.

All will depend on what you think your future is or will become.

Mistress Amelia x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think your all very brave..

Take my hat off to you all

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By *aimeSmith OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cliss

"I have a very understanding wife who loves all the facets of me.

I crossdress and wish to be the best woman can be. For me it is not a lifestyle change, but my alter ego evil bitch..

My children are young also and with the previous history of exs I

would never be able to tell them about any of my kinky goings on and Amelia too until they were much much older.

All will depend on what you think your future is or will become.

Mistress Amelia x

Alter ego is quite true. Lola thrives on the oxygen of depilation, makeup and dressing, especially when meeting.

Greg is totally different and thinks differently, holds body posture differently and isn’t really attracted to guys at all.

I think Greg and Lola would provide a therapist hours of endless amusement!

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By *aimeSmith OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cliss

Still keen for permanent partner x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a lovely thread this is, all the best ladies x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *aimeSmith OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cliss

Want to know what you said Ms Bignbold ! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think Mrs N finds it a bit difficult that I like to dress a little. I try not to be too intrusive about it. I only do it when She's not around most of the time as I know she's not desperately keen.

However she does know about it and we have done things together and she seems to imply that it's OK as long as not too much of a habit.

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By *aimeSmith OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cliss

"I think Mrs N finds it a bit difficult that I like to dress a little. I try not to be too intrusive about it. I only do it when She's not around most of the time as I know she's not desperately keen.

However she does know about it and we have done things together and she seems to imply that it's OK as long as not too much of a habit."

Great outfits and pics xx

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

I'm lucky in that I recently met my partner. She really does enjoy having both a boyfriend and girlfriend. Strangely before we met through a mutual friend. She had been on my hotlist for months, I just kept putting off sending that opening message. Hope you find what you're looking for OP

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By *aimeSmith OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cliss

"I'm lucky in that I recently met my partner. She really does enjoy having both a boyfriend and girlfriend. Strangely before we met through a mutual friend. She had been on my hotlist for months, I just kept putting off sending that opening message. Hope you find what you're looking for OP

Thanks hun, you look great x

XX "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love it if my other half could accept that I like dressing, and how it makes me feel, but having been one messy divorce because of it I do not want to raise the subject. Especially as she has come from a very sheltered background with a limited knowledge of the wider world in respect to sex. We have a very loving relationship but it is vanilla. I wish it could be otherwise but do not want to spoil what we already have

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By *aimeSmith OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cliss

Totally understand, but it’s difficult when you’re femme side gets repressed. That’s what I think xx

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By *DKinkyJenTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

I’m happy enough with dressing on my own, but don’t deny that the thought of finding a female partner (even though I’m bi I still have a minor preference for females) who accepts both sides would be nice as a longer term thing.

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By *aimeSmith OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cliss

"I’m happy enough with dressing on my own, but don’t deny that the thought of finding a female partner (even though I’m bi I still have a minor preference for females) who accepts both sides would be nice as a longer term thing."

I thought I had a minor preference for females but for a full time partner I’d rather have a smooth assertive yet kind guy who is able to accommodate me easily enough with all my clothes xx

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By *DKinkyJenTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

I thought I had a minor preference for females but for a full time partner I’d rather have a smooth assertive yet kind guy who is able to accommodate me easily enough with all my clothes xx"

I suppose I’m just too used to the guys I’ve come across who would want me to be in permanent femme mode (which I don’t have a desire to do)

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By *aimeSmith OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cliss

I've no wish to transition but asides from work and seeing my children, I'd like to be full time x

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By *DKinkyJenTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

I like the advantages of switching, because I class Jennifer as an anthropomorphised version of my female side.

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By *dsindyTV/TS
over a year ago

East Lancashire

Like many (it seems), I am in the category (how I hate to use THAT word) of "wife knows but does not approve".

To live your life more on the female side is quite different from living dressed up as a female though.

I would just say, be as happy as you can doing what you do. As a good tv friend of mine puts it....everyone do their own little bit and enjoy.

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By *aimeSmith OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cliss

To live your life more on the female side is quite different from living dressed up as a female though.."

That's very true x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I just say that the wife/gf/partner has just as much as a right to not like their other half cross dressing just as the cross dresser thinks they have a right to.

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By *DKinkyJenTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Can I just say that the wife/gf/partner has just as much as a right to not like their other half cross dressing just as the cross dresser thinks they have a right to. "

Absolutely, and if I do find a partner then I would be looking for someone who would be comfortable with both sides of me (I’m a pretty open book so would introduce it fairly early on if it looked like we were to be becoming serious)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's something that needs to be addressed from time to time within the crossdresser themselves and in their relationship with their partner as crossdressing can be a selfish behaviour. (no offence to anyone)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's something that needs to be addressed from time to time within the crossdresser themselves and in their relationship with their partner as crossdressing can be a selfish behaviour. (no offence to anyone) "
i totally agree with you. I like to cross dress myself but keep it to myself as i am worried what people will think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it is fine when you are single but once you enter into a relationship,it's a whole different ballgame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, it is fine when you are single but once you enter into a relationship,it's a whole different ballgame. "
again i agree with you. But its hard to stop doing something you have been doing for long time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Equally as difficult (and as long) for the wife to come to terms with it. I'm only trying to put my opinion across and I'm not arguing with you or anybody else!

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By *aimeSmith OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cliss

"Equally as difficult (and as long) for the wife to come to terms with it. I'm only trying to put my opinion across and I'm not arguing with you or anybody else! "

Yes you’re quite right

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By *hezzie BikersCouple
over a year ago

Chesterfield

However she does know about it and we have done things together and she seems to imply that it's OK as long as not too much of a habit."

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

Wife buys me lingerie dresses clothing boots heels stockings makeup etc so very lucky

Like a lot of people dressed from a very early age and then tried to be normal and conform but almost cost me with dark times but my true self always comes out

Took a long time to get a good life balance and find a wife that loves me for being me so know where your coming from with kids

Emma "
It's great to hear it works for you. I've chatted to so many married tv and they are just too scared to tell their wife.

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By *aimeSmith OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cliss

I'm just desperate to be a slutwife x

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"I'm just desperate to be a slutwife x"
Hopefully it happens for you..You look amazing,the perfect sissy look...

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

"Can I just say that the wife/gf/partner has just as much as a right to not like their other half cross dressing just as the cross dresser thinks they have a right to. "

^^^ This

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By *aimeSmith OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cliss

"I'm just desperate to be a slutwife xHopefully it happens for you..You look amazing,the perfect sissy look...

Xxxx

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

There are a few TV & Male couples on here, you might get lucky one day. The TV part of the couple is part time, in most of them as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Want to know what you said Ms Bignbold ! Xx"

It was just the same message repeated, bit of a glip with the system. Sorry x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I truly hope that all you lovely people find what you deserve, whether it’s a new partner or a current partner to understand, accept and enjoy the wonderful diversity that you offer.

Having a partner who is a TS/TV/TG/CD etc is the best of both worlds. That strong feminine side of you brings out an empathy and makes you a more loving partner.

I can only talk from my experience of life with Abby of course. She doesn’t dress 24/7 with full make up but when we are at home together she is feminised to some extent

We meet together on Fab but she also has solo meets with other gurls and men too. There are times she needs their company and I totally get that and have no problem with it.

I know it’s hard for some people to understand how a relationship like this could possibly work but it does. Perfectly.

Is there maybe a group out there for females who would love to have this type of relationship?

Miss V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And to clarify, I met Abby years ago when she was in male form. The changes have come about in the last couple of years. There have been huge periods of adjustment on both sides. I was perhaps the driving force behind it all but the uncertain times were more than worth it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And to clarify, I met Abby years ago when she was in male form. The changes have come about in the last couple of years. There have been huge periods of adjustment on both sides. I was perhaps the driving force behind it all but the uncertain times were more than worth it x"

Abby is very lucky to have you.

I've wanted to transform my whole life, I've managed to keep it under control for a good few years now but as I get older I find the woman in me growing by the day. I get days of deep depressions because the need builds up to silly levels; I would love to transform but i fit into the category who are scared to tell their wives. As much as I want to transform losing her isn't an option. I would so love to talk to her about it but I have no idea how to even start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Abby is very lucky to have you.

Hi Chrissy,

We are both lucky to have each other. She has also changed my life and allowed me to be the person I always wanted to be.

You have a beautiful profile which obviously reflects your personality.Im going to message you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Chrissy,

We are both lucky to have each other. She has also changed my life and allowed me to be the person I always wanted to be.

You have a beautiful profile which obviously reflects your personality.Im going to message you xx"

Thank you so much XXX

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

Dressing for many is an escape or a release x

It’s a large leap to that full time experience x

Even between couples with a cross dressing partner x it’s an enhancement to playtime x but do you really want to be walking round Tesco?

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

It’s a large leap to that full time experience x

Even between couples with a cross dressing partner x it’s an enhancement to playtime x but do you really want to be walking round Tesco?

Nah I'm to posh for Tesco ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dressing for many is an escape or a release x

It’s a large leap to that full time experience x

Even between couples with a cross dressing partner x it’s an enhancement to playtime x but do you really want to be walking round Tesco?

There is nothing more on this earth I wan't than to walk around Tesco as the person I really am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shopping in female form is such a lovely freeing experience. Particularly when it involves cloths, shoes and makeup shopping. What is not to like about that!

Generally I feel safe and care free.

You do feel sometimes the eyes staring. Sometimes its uncomfortable. But think of it this way.

A woman has to deal with men staring and feeling uncomfortable every single day in her life! This is why woman are so strong emotionally..

I suppose the positive (if a positive can be taken from such a thing), from a cross dressing point of view, you can feel more complete as a female.

However, I would never venture to the local pub. The unexplained frightens people and can create a violent response which nobody needs.

When I go out and about. I tend to be in very public places during the daytime. Public transport, planes (security can be fun), shops and on occasions nightlife. but venues and nights that are save for all.

As a cross dresser you should not be scared to spread your wing's...

Mistress Amelia x

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By *aimeSmith OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Cliss

"Shopping in female form is such a lovely freeing experience. Particularly when it involves cloths, shoes and makeup shopping. What is not to like about that!

Generally I feel safe and care free.

You do feel sometimes the eyes staring. Sometimes its uncomfortable. But think of it this way.

A woman has to deal with men staring and feeling uncomfortable every single day in her life! This is why woman are so strong emotionally..

I suppose the positive (if a positive can be taken from such a thing), from a cross dressing point of view, you can feel more complete as a female.

However, I would never venture to the local pub. The unexplained frightens people and can create a violent response which nobody needs.

As a cross dresser you should not be scared to spread your wing's...

Mistress Amelia x

Totally concur, women do face so much unwanted attention from men.

Flying while dressed must be interesting! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love exactly that too, you described it perfectly

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