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By *itty Kat AB OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Somerset

There seems to be an increased amount of messages sent from hidden profiles. I have taken a stand and started to block them, after all their one liner/word message was never a head turner. So why do people feel the need to hide?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some are just taking a break and some are stunning you could be blocking a stunner omg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are not meeting all they need to do is say so and change their filters I’m with you OP will delete and block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are the cheating husbands or boyfriends lol, stunning or otherwise

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

We have hidden ours as too much going on with a 320 mile move coming up, When we are in our new home & settled we'll unhide & start afresh. But we wouldn't message while hidden, same as we wouldn't meet without face pics first.

S

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By *itty Kat AB OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Somerset


"Some are just taking a break and some are stunning you could be blocking a stunner omg "

So why message if they are taking a break. As for the stunners I'll take my chances!

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By *itty Kat AB OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Somerset


"We have hidden ours as too much going on with a 320 mile move coming up, When we are in our new home & settled we'll unhide & start afresh. But we wouldn't message while hidden, same as we wouldn't meet without face pics first.

S"

My thoughts exactly. Good luck with the move.

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By *itty Kat AB OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Somerset


"They are the cheating husbands or boyfriends lol, stunning or otherwise "

Well good riddance then

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By *itty Kat AB OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Somerset


"If they are not meeting all they need to do is say so and change their filters I’m with you OP will delete and block. "

I don't have the time for them. Like everyone has said if people are taking a break that is fair enough but I am referring to the ones who are actively messaging sometimes several times if you don't respond within their timescales

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They are the cheating husbands or boyfriends lol, stunning or otherwise "
cynic

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"We have hidden ours as too much going on with a 320 mile move coming up, When we are in our new home & settled we'll unhide & start afresh. But we wouldn't message while hidden, same as we wouldn't meet without face pics first.

S"

Good luck for a smooth move guys x

I don't bother replying to hidden profiles, I don't block though because they might be hot!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine the scenario.

I’m B@nd, Jam3s Bond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they are not meeting all they need to do is say so and change their filters I’m with you OP will delete and block.

I don't have the time for them. Like everyone has said if people are taking a break that is fair enough but I am referring to the ones who are actively messaging sometimes several times if you don't respond within their timescales "

they may be so hot they've had to hide profile to keep message levels down but I to avoid people who get too many messages you can't have conversation or get to know them, so not much point but wouldn't block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a lot of winks from hidden profiles. I’ve never figured that one out.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"We have hidden ours as too much going on with a 320 mile move coming up, When we are in our new home & settled we'll unhide & start afresh. But we wouldn't message while hidden, same as we wouldn't meet without face pics first.

S

My thoughts exactly. Good luck with the move. "

Thank You

S&H

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"We have hidden ours as too much going on with a 320 mile move coming up, When we are in our new home & settled we'll unhide & start afresh. But we wouldn't message while hidden, same as we wouldn't meet without face pics first.

S

Good luck for a smooth move guys x

I don't bother replying to hidden profiles, I don't block though because they might be hot!! "

Thanks, All good so far & we can't wait to be in a much bigger place!

x

S&H

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Difficult to know what to do when someone profile is hidden and you get a message.

Sorry if this sounds bad but if that message comes from woman hidden profile I always think they are a man

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By *iss InnocenceWoman
over a year ago

Coventry/Bristol

Am the same Just don’t see the point in winking or messaging from hidden profiles

I delete and block them too

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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

My profile stays hidden 95% of the time..

1) I have very little time to meet, don't want to waste people's time..

2) I have a particular preference which gets ignored on my profile and I get messages anyway by guys I am not interested in.

When I do get time and I message someone, I will send them a pic and tell them I will happily unhide my profile so they can see for themselves...

Oh and I am single not married or cheating...

Some people have genuine reasons for keeping themselves hidden..

LadyA xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile stays hidden 95% of the time..

1) I have very little time to meet, don't want to waste people's time..

2) I have a particular preference which gets ignored on my profile and I get messages anyway by guys I am not interested in.

When I do get time and I message someone, I will send them a pic and tell them I will happily unhide my profile so they can see for themselves...

Oh and I am single not married or cheating...

Some people have genuine reasons for keeping themselves hidden..

LadyA xx"

That's fair enough

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"My profile stays hidden 95% of the time..

1) I have very little time to meet, don't want to waste people's time..

2) I have a particular preference which gets ignored on my profile and I get messages anyway by guys I am not interested in.

When I do get time and I message someone, I will send them a pic and tell them I will happily unhide my profile so they can see for themselves...

Oh and I am single not married or cheating...

Some people have genuine reasons for keeping themselves hidden..

LadyA xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There seems to be an increased amount of messages sent from hidden profiles. I have taken a stand and started to block them, after all their one liner/word message was never a head turner. So why do people feel the need to hide? "

Because in our case we're taking a break, this is clearly stayed on out profile.

However, many blokes on here don't bother reading profiles before firing off inane one or two word messages.

So to prevent such things happening again we his our profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There seems to be an increased amount of messages sent from hidden profiles. I have taken a stand and started to block them, after all their one liner/word message was never a head turner. So why do people feel the need to hide?

Because in our case we're taking a break, this is clearly stayed on out profile.

However, many blokes on here don't bother reading profiles before firing off inane one or two word messages.

So to prevent such things happening again we his our profile."

PS. Forgot to say, we don't message.

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

It's the hidden profiles that say hope you like what you see that confuse me

I'm hidden but don't message people I don't know,as only meet people I've met before,I will find some new guys at a party when I run out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They are the cheating husbands or boyfriends lol, stunning or otherwise

cynic "

There’s something called “personal experience”. 98% of men on here are attached and looking for something on the side without their partners knowledge. Of course you’d know this because you regularly get messaged by 100’s of men daily

In either case you are either out there looking at profiles and allowing others to look you up, or hide and take a fucking break from fab. Being hidden yet active is such a stalker like behaviour !

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"They are the cheating husbands or boyfriends lol, stunning or otherwise "

Or wives or girlfriends, as the case maybe lol.

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By *reamytitwankCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

No idea. It's not blind date x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They are the cheating husbands or boyfriends lol, stunning or otherwise "

I'd certainly would make this assumption.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile stays hidden 95% of the time..

1) I have very little time to meet, don't want to waste people's time..

2) I have a particular preference which gets ignored on my profile and I get messages anyway by guys I am not interested in.

When I do get time and I message someone, I will send them a pic and tell them I will happily unhide my profile so they can see for themselves...

Oh and I am single not married or cheating...

Some people have genuine reasons for keeping themselves hidden..

LadyA xx"

The point is that you inform them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There seems to be an increased amount of messages sent from hidden profiles. I have taken a stand and started to block them, after all their one liner/word message was never a head turner. So why do people feel the need to hide? "

I agree. Why email somebody if your profile is hidden? Surely you know if they are interested in your message they will want to see your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only play at weekends so hide our profile in the week to stop randomers messaging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always assume they are being proactive in not wanting messages or taking a break.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"There seems to be an increased amount of messages sent from hidden profiles. I have taken a stand and started to block them, after all their one liner/word message was never a head turner. So why do people feel the need to hide?

I agree. Why email somebody if your profile is hidden? Surely you know if they are interested in your message they will want to see your profile. "

what about profiles without face pictures? is this a blind date site?

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Difficult to know what to do when someone profile is hidden and you get a message.

Sorry if this sounds bad but if that message comes from woman hidden profile I always think they are a man"

This if they are hidden they are usually not meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very common I get friend requests from hidden profiles, ‘can I see all of your pictures whilst I don’t hide everything about me?’

This confuses me greatly...

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By *PPROACHABLEMANMan
over a year ago

Wales


"There seems to be an increased amount of messages sent from hidden profiles. I have taken a stand and started to block them, after all their one liner/word message was never a head turner. So why do people feel the need to hide? "

I have no idea, but apparently I can't see your profile either?!

XxX

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By *anana JoeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"There seems to be an increased amount of messages sent from hidden profiles. I have taken a stand and started to block them, after all their one liner/word message was never a head turner. So why do people feel the need to hide? "

A lot of women I have chatted to have had the same thing many think its creepy to mail from a hidden profile and block.

If you are messaging people then there is no need to hide your profile is there.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"There seems to be an increased amount of messages sent from hidden profiles. I have taken a stand and started to block them, after all their one liner/word message was never a head turner. So why do people feel the need to hide?

A lot of women I have chatted to have had the same thing many think its creepy to mail from a hidden profile and block.

If you are messaging people then there is no need to hide your profile is there. "

each too there own

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

It seems a fairly odd thing to do, unless you already know who they are and have communicated previously.

Do you mean people are sending you a first message from a hidden profile? Seems pointless if so, what do they think is going to happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cmon what's the worst that can happen, they like you and if you message back they'll send a pic and an explanation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had some recently - I just delete them no reply, especially if it’s the usual hi how are you rubbish.

I always thought hiding your profile was so you could take a break, not so you could actively persue people whilst giving nothing away.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Cmon what's the worst that can happen, they like you and if you message back they'll send a pic and an explanation "

Why would you bother? There are thousands of people who aren’t hidden - a single woman on Fab will most likely not have the time to deal with messsges from unhidden profiles, let alone hidden ones.

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By *itty Kat AB OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Somerset


"It seems a fairly odd thing to do, unless you already know who they are and have communicated previously.

Do you mean people are sending you a first message from a hidden profile? Seems pointless if so, what do they think is going to happen?"

Yes people send a first message from a hidden profile, in fact sometimes they keep sending as many as 20 messages if I haven't responded within seconds when I sometimes haven't even been online. I'm getting really bored of getting so many when there are so many lovelies on here and friends I've already met to chat to.

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By *itty Kat AB OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Somerset


"There seems to be an increased amount of messages sent from hidden profiles. I have taken a stand and started to block them, after all their one liner/word message was never a head turner. So why do people feel the need to hide?

A lot of women I have chatted to have had the same thing many think its creepy to mail from a hidden profile and block.

If you are messaging people then there is no need to hide your profile is there. "

My thoughts exactly

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By *itty Kat AB OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Somerset


"There seems to be an increased amount of messages sent from hidden profiles. I have taken a stand and started to block them, after all their one liner/word message was never a head turner. So why do people feel the need to hide?

I have no idea, but apparently I can't see your profile either?!

XxX"

That was because I had to block you... remember

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"It seems a fairly odd thing to do, unless you already know who they are and have communicated previously.

Do you mean people are sending you a first message from a hidden profile? Seems pointless if so, what do they think is going to happen?

Yes people send a first message from a hidden profile, in fact sometimes they keep sending as many as 20 messages if I haven't responded within seconds when I sometimes haven't even been online. I'm getting really bored of getting so many when there are so many lovelies on here and friends I've already met to chat to."

Indeed...nothing to do other than block them then, really.

Having said that, is there an option to block messages from hidden profiles, like with new and unverified members?

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By *itty Kat AB OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Somerset


"It seems a fairly odd thing to do, unless you already know who they are and have communicated previously.

Do you mean people are sending you a first message from a hidden profile? Seems pointless if so, what do they think is going to happen?

Yes people send a first message from a hidden profile, in fact sometimes they keep sending as many as 20 messages if I haven't responded within seconds when I sometimes haven't even been online. I'm getting really bored of getting so many when there are so many lovelies on here and friends I've already met to chat to.

Indeed...nothing to do other than block them then, really.

Having said that, is there an option to block messages from hidden profiles, like with new and unverified members?"

I have blocked profiles without public photos but having rechecked you can't block hidden profiles yet sadly.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

That’s a shame, it would be very useful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't look at your winks or read messages as soon as they might have hidden their profile after winking.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

I often have my profile hidden because I get fed up of some of the messages I receive.

If I message while hidden, it's normally on the back of a forum post about that post.

I've had people message me from the forum when hidden.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just ignore them. If they can’t be bothered to “unhide” so we can check them out, we can’t be bothered to reply

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By *itty Kat AB OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Somerset


"We just ignore them. If they can’t be bothered to “unhide” so we can check them out, we can’t be bothered to reply "

That was my approach until the messages kept coming from the same hidden profile not content that you ignore, politely tell them (even though it says so on my profile) I don't respond to hidden or pictures profiles. Now I'm blocking as they don't want to share anything about themselves. Boring!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cmon what's the worst that can happen, they like you and if you message back they'll send a pic and an explanation "

Hahaha that’s the funniest thing I read on here. I really got nothing better to do than messaging back people in hiding

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By *PPROACHABLEMANMan
over a year ago

Wales


"There seems to be an increased amount of messages sent from hidden profiles. I have taken a stand and started to block them, after all their one liner/word message was never a head turner. So why do people feel the need to hide?

I have no idea, but apparently I can't see your profile either?!

XxX

That was because I had to block you... remember"

Nope, had no idea! Have we spoke before? What's the reason why? XxX

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"It seems a fairly odd thing to do, unless you already know who they are and have communicated previously.

Do you mean people are sending you a first message from a hidden profile? Seems pointless if so, what do they think is going to happen?

Yes people send a first message from a hidden profile, in fact sometimes they keep sending as many as 20 messages if I haven't responded within seconds when I sometimes haven't even been online. I'm getting really bored of getting so many when there are so many lovelies on here and friends I've already met to chat to.

Indeed...nothing to do other than block them then, really.

Having said that, is there an option to block messages from hidden profiles, like with new and unverified members?

I have blocked profiles without public photos but having rechecked you can't block hidden profiles yet sadly. "

This would be a good feature to have.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"There seems to be an increased amount of messages sent from hidden profiles. I have taken a stand and started to block them, after all their one liner/word message was never a head turner. So why do people feel the need to hide? "

Health issues are preventing me meeting, others will have their own reasons for taking a break.

It wouldn't cross my mind to send meet requests from my hidden profile, but hey...nowt as queer as folk!

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By *itty Kat AB OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Somerset


"There seems to be an increased amount of messages sent from hidden profiles. I have taken a stand and started to block them, after all their one liner/word message was never a head turner. So why do people feel the need to hide?

I have no idea, but apparently I can't see your profile either?!

XxX

That was because I had to block you... remember

Nope, had no idea! Have we spoke before? What's the reason why? XxX "

Yes we did speak before. I was planning to go to Decs at the time you may recall.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester


"Cmon what's the worst that can happen, they like you and if you message back they'll send a pic and an explanation

Hahaha that’s the funniest thing I read on here. I really got nothing better to do than messaging back people in hiding "

I go with that too time is precious people mailing from hidden profiles are the epitome of a timewaster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK I understand that if they are only sending one liner messages themselves then delete and block but people do hide their profile to stop receiving junk messages themselves so they can concentrate on sending out messages.

I sometimes have my profile hidden that way I can focus on searching for suitable men and message them myself without a mailbox crammed with pointless one liners and men who had clearly not read my profile.

Yes you can have filters but that does not stop the one liners and pointless messages that still come from the people who do fall into your criteria.

....and in any case I really hate having to go further and further with my criteria just to stop the junk mail. I have now stopped anyone who is not a site supporter from contacting me but that could mean I lose out.

So sometimes it is easier for me to hide my profile so that I can actually get around to sending out some messages myself instead of spending all my time managing the junk messages. I would send a message that contained everything the person needed to know so no hardship in not seeing my profile.

But yeah why does someone send out a one liner plus have their profile hidden. Makes no sense to me.

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By *PPROACHABLEMANMan
over a year ago

Wales


"There seems to be an increased amount of messages sent from hidden profiles. I have taken a stand and started to block them, after all their one liner/word message was never a head turner. So why do people feel the need to hide?

I have no idea, but apparently I can't see your profile either?!

XxX

That was because I had to block you... remember

Nope, had no idea! Have we spoke before? What's the reason why? XxX

Yes we did speak before. I was planning to go to Decs at the time you may recall. "

I do not.... So enlighten me further?

Have we met, do we know each other?

Totally confused now! XxX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always had an issue with hidden profiles, seems to be stalkers and people who can remain completely anonymous and sprout nonsense on the forums, think they should not be able to view other profiles or post on the forums, people using the excuse that they are not active, don’t want all the messages blah blah blah is rubbish just block everyone from messaging you, personally find it very creepy people who hide the profile

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