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By *iss Penny Tration OP   Woman
over a year ago

NW

As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable? "

Confident.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable? "
As prey Nah seriously it does take a lot of confidence for a woman to go a club on her own. So they are not gonna be stupid or suffer fools. A lot could easily bring a a guy as well so it is usually their choice to go alone. I have found most to be social butterflies.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Confident and someone we’d like to talk to

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I get a lot of clubs by myself, I try to chat to people. I think occasionally couples may feel a little bit awkward, but most people see it is quite normal I think.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Thinking about it it's probably actually me that can feel awkward occasionally around couples rather than them with me. I find it hard enough to find one person I'm attracted to nevermind two, so although I mostly socialise at clubs any way, I can sometimes feel slightly awkward if they for example I'm only attracted to the female or the couple as I wouldn't like to take their time away if there might be other people who could give them a more fulfilling night, if that's what they were looking for.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable? As prey Nah seriously it does take a lot of confidence for a woman to go a club on her own. So they are not gonna be stupid or suffer fools. A lot could easily bring a a guy as well so it is usually their choice to go alone. I have found most to be social butterflies."

Does it really take confidence for a woman to go on her own or like me, they just like going to clubs?

I quite like taking one of my swing pals with me but sadly, it’s often a logistical nightmare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find going to clubs on my own liberating. I can watch or play or socialise or chill out. Come and go as I please. I think other single women who go confident.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable? As prey Nah seriously it does take a lot of confidence for a woman to go a club on her own. So they are not gonna be stupid or suffer fools. A lot could easily bring a a guy as well so it is usually their choice to go alone. I have found most to be social butterflies.

Does it really take confidence for a woman to go on her own or like me, they just like going to clubs?

I quite like taking one of my swing pals with me but sadly, it’s often a logistical nightmare."
Yeah I think so, people expect men to go alone but not women. I think confidence in the club they go to is also a factor.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I quite often get people saying 'oh you're brave.' Not at all, I'm just doing something I enjoy. I've had some of my best club nights alone, pleasing myself as to what I do - don't get me wrong it's great fun going with someone but a very different type of night.

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By *ack_greenfinchMan
over a year ago

bristol

In reply to the OP, confident and in control of her own desires is what first comes to mind. (Which is hugely attractive!)

And anything else depends purely on how the person is - apparently women aren't all the same...

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By *greygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham


"In reply to the OP, confident and in control of her own desires is what first comes to mind. (Which is hugely attractive!)

And anything else depends purely on how the person is - apparently women aren't all the same... "
well said jack this k and as you know we play as a couple .i think all females that go to clubs on there own are fantastic they go the same as us all to meet [mybe have fun]with folks there .thats why chams is such a great place as people talk to each other .not seen you for a while will pop in soon

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By *mm and HerCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire


"As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable? "

Come to Flaunt on the 17th in Blackpool and we'll tell you in person

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Honestly it’s the easiest thing in the world for me to go clubbing on my own. If I went to the pub or a nightclub I’d probably be largely ignored . Walk into a swingers club and I’m the most popular person there, it’s a huge ego boost (accepting it for what it is of course which is largely temporary and somewhat unreal).

I can chat, dance, laugh, mingle and occasionally I may get filthy but I always have a great night out.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find going to clubs on my own liberating. I can watch or play or socialise or chill out. Come and go as I please. I think other single women who go confident. "

I feel the same way as you...

Love the freedom and all the attention too....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a world absolutely over run by over confident blokes who seem to think they can just stick it in the first woman they see... regardless of the situation I think it takes quite a lot of balls for a single woman to attend a club alone. Someone said above that they become the most popular person there when they walk in, for a lot of people that would trigger a serious feeling of anxiety. It's got to be like running through a cornfield and being hit in the face by the corn... except it's more of a cock field and being hit with cocks. Honestly upon re-reading it sounded better in my head. Once they're in the moment then yeah, the attention has got to be flattering but that first time... I'd be too nervous to do it myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always get told I'm confident. And ballsy.

Some men I've met won't go alone x

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I go alone ... took a lot to make the first couple of visits but now guys admire me for doing it ... and it makes me feel confident ... I go away alone which is a confidence boost as well

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By *launt Thy CurvesCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Pandora Club, Leeds, 15th Mar 25


"In a world absolutely over run by over confident blokes who seem to think they can just stick it in the first woman they see... regardless of the situation I think it takes quite a lot of balls for a single woman to attend a club alone. Someone said above that they become the most popular person there when they walk in, for a lot of people that would trigger a serious feeling of anxiety. It's got to be like running through a cornfield and being hit in the face by the corn... except it's more of a cock field and being hit with cocks. Honestly upon re-reading it sounded better in my head. Once they're in the moment then yeah, the attention has got to be flattering but that first time... I'd be too nervous to do it myself."

If you find blokes that over bearing in a club then you are in the wrong clubs.... A lady should have plenty of attention but in a good way, not feel like she is a piece of meat surrounded by hungry dogs. Club staff should sort out places like that as its generally fairly easy to spot. I've worked in a couple clubs and I know I certainly wouldn't let it carry on x

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By *launt Thy CurvesCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Pandora Club, Leeds, 15th Mar 25


"As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable?

Come to Flaunt on the 17th in Blackpool and we'll tell you in person "

WELL SAID THAT COUPLE!!

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By *mm and HerCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire


"As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable? "

A more sensible answer this time. I think the more immediate response would be that they're brave. But a good club should make everyone feel welcome and safe. I don't just mean the staff (though obviously they're key) but the other guests too. Our local club has a thread solely for single women first timers so they have a friendly face at the club. And of course saying No loudly should get lots of people coming to your aid.

So to answer your question...not much other than we think you're another *potentially* interested in having fun, and we hope you do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have gone as a single female before, mainly to socialise. Never had any problems. But then I go to a club where I know alot of people as well.

But then again it could be that my resting bitch face scares most people away. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're a pain they follow men around giving them leering looks and some just won't take no for an answer

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

Don't go to clubs anymore but go to house parties regularly where I know a few but many are unknown to me. I am quite happy to go alone no issues. I go for the sex don't care what anyone thinks of me LOL

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

I think we need to chat and see if we click.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confident Definetly and someone to admire, although it can be daunting for guys as well going to club. Male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't go to clubs anymore but go to house parties regularly where I know a few but many are unknown to me. I am quite happy to go alone no issues. I go for the sex don't care what anyone thinks of me LOL"

That's the way to do it! Love your attitude, I've got a similar one myself which surprises people a lot when it looks to them as if I'm entirely fearless!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to clubs alone but it can be daunting, but I'm a 'go-getter' in life. You have to go after what you want in life, it isn't handed to you on a plate.

I take a deep breath, walk in with my head held high and smile.

Hoping to venture to a new club on Monday as it happens.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I go to clubs alone but it can be daunting, but I'm a 'go-getter' in life. You have to go after what you want in life, it isn't handed to you on a plate.

I take a deep breath, walk in with my head held high and smile.

Hoping to venture to a new club on Monday as it happens."

Let us know how it goes.

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By *rikey25Man
over a year ago

mids

Does it really take confidence for a woman to go on her own or like me, they just like going to clubs?

I quite like taking one of my swing pals with me but sadly, it’s often a logistical nightmare.

Yes... but you are fabulous, and sociable and funny... most people are pretty shy, even me sometimes ??

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


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Does it really take confidence for a woman to go on her own or like me, they just like going to clubs?

I quite like taking one of my swing pals with me but sadly, it’s often a logistical nightmare.

Yes... but you are fabulous, and sociable and funny... most people are pretty shy, even me sometimes ??"

I don’t believe that for a second! Unless it was all a cover up but that’s not what I observed

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Where?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable? "

Should be banned, along with single men.

Plus, all those who bring nothing to the party.

What’s the difference between reality and cyber sh*t. Smiles.

Just love a confident lady, with vulnerability of a sexually open minded sensuality (well L certainly does, okay, I agree).

Fun is the name of the play to us.

Cannot understand, why it is so focused and less expansive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who's never been to a club and no intention of going to my first thought would be cheating on her husband

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone who's never been to a club and no intention of going to my first thought would be cheating on her husband "

She might be single

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable?

Come to Flaunt on the 17th in Blackpool and we'll tell you in person "

You tell her, I'll show her

Seriously tho, I admire single ladies that go to clubs on their own and I feel it's far safer to go to a club for some fun than it is to take someone home from a pub or nightclub. More single ladies should go to clubs xx

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

Women got more balls than men xxx go girl power

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone who's never been to a club and no intention of going to my first thought would be cheating on her husband

She might be single "

She should be down the pub then

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"As someone who's never been to a club and no intention of going to my first thought would be cheating on her husband "

What a silly conclusion. We don’t all have husbands.

Vx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone who's never been to a club and no intention of going to my first thought would be cheating on her husband

What a silly conclusion. We don’t all have husbands.

Vx "

They asked a question. What's your impression. That's my first impression

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"As someone who's never been to a club and no intention of going to my first thought would be cheating on her husband

What a silly conclusion. We don’t all have husbands.

Vx "

I did loads of at that conclusion too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone who's never been to a club and no intention of going to my first thought would be cheating on her husband "

I'm single thank you very much! Never cheated in my life! I resent that implication. Plenty of other single women attend clubs on their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable? "

Confident.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone who's never been to a club and no intention of going to my first thought would be cheating on her husband

I'm single thank you very much! Never cheated in my life! I resent that implication. Plenty of other single women attend clubs on their own. "

That's great

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"As someone who's never been to a club and no intention of going to my first thought would be cheating on her husband "

Because, of course, all women are married? What a truly bizarre thing to come out with?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable? "
Surely all of them could apply depends on the woman also. ' horny ' would come into the equation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone who's never been to a club and no intention of going to my first thought would be cheating on her husband "

What a narrow minded attitude to have.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.


"As someone who's never been to a club and no intention of going to my first thought would be cheating on her husband "

Why would you think that?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Women got more balls than men xxx go girl power"

Nonsense

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By *DKinkyJenTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

Confident i’d say (I’ve met a few single females who have used it to rebuild confidence after the end of relationships, etc.)

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By *rikey25Man
over a year ago

mids

Fabulous, sexy, strong, confident, horny and self assured x

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"As someone who's never been to a club and no intention of going to my first thought would be cheating on her husband

She might be single

She should be down the pub then "

I’m single and the pub bores me shitless as I don’t drink .... rather be at a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confident, although we're always too shy to approach because she's probably had a lot of guys bothering her.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Confident, although we're always too shy to approach because she's probably had a lot of guys bothering her. "

Always worth having a friendly, respectful chat. One of the things I love about clubs is the chance to chat to people even where there is no intention to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have gone to clubs both alone and with friends. Being alone in a club has always been fine for me Personally. I think it depends how chatty or confident a person is. I know men suffer the same insecurities as us ladies do.

I always feel safe and the staff in clubs I've been to have always made sure I'm ok too as they do with others . Xx

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By *riskyfillyCouple
over a year ago

Sandbach

As a single lady too, I think you have to be a tad confident a bit gutsy. I only tend to go to clubs I know on my own but when lucky enough go with couples don’t mind new clubs.. the more you go, you meet new buddies you feel safe in the environment and have more fun : ) xx

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I enjoy going to my regular club on my own. I feel safe and love the relaxed fun sexy atmosphere. Would not be as confident walking into a regular pub, as I think it's more of an unknown how the evening will be.

If going to a new club, I make sure I know someone who I can meet there.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable?

Confident. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable?

Confident.

This "
are they? Or you're saying they are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable?

Confident.

This "
are they? Or you're saying they are?

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable?

Confident.

This are they? Or you're saying they are?"

I often go on a Monday as it's Bi night.

Confidence is key.

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

-3

I go to clubs on my own and always have done. I love it and feel free and sexy, very liberating. I never feel alone and always have someone to talk with. Never had a bad night and I've been going to different ones for 5 years now.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Confident, although we're always too shy to approach because she's probably had a lot of guys bothering her.

Always worth having a friendly, respectful chat. One of the things I love about clubs is the chance to chat to people even where there is no intention to play. "

Me too. Some of my best nights out have been in clubs with my clothes both off and on.

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By *iss Penny Tration OP   Woman
over a year ago

NW

Read *most* of the replies first of all, I don’t have a husband. Or partner. I please myself. So now that’s cleared up ....

I used to go alone because I’d gone with ‘meets’ in the past and found it awkward so I decided to go on my own so I could do my own thing. I could talk to who I wanted, play with who I wanted (if they wanted to of course haha). I just found that a lot of people must have thought I was vulnerable or ‘desperate’ because I went alone but believe me, I can hold my own and that definitely isn’t the case haha. I also had the ‘omg your so brave’ comments but I like to do my own thing and do whatever makes me happy if that makes sense.

Just wanted to ask the question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read *most* of the replies first of all, I don’t have a husband. Or partner. I please myself. So now that’s cleared up ....

I used to go alone because I’d gone with ‘meets’ in the past and found it awkward so I decided to go on my own so I could do my own thing. I could talk to who I wanted, play with who I wanted (if they wanted to of course haha). I just found that a lot of people must have thought I was vulnerable or ‘desperate’ because I went alone but believe me, I can hold my own and that definitely isn’t the case haha. I also had the ‘omg your so brave’ comments but I like to do my own thing and do whatever makes me happy if that makes sense.

Just wanted to ask the question "

Were you ever followed by the wanking train of men? Did any man touch you without first asking permission?

I worry most about those points.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to clubs alone ... i can chat to most people, friendly and feel im confident enough to do so.. met lots of great people ....and many interesting conversations which can lead to lots of fun

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By *iss Penny Tration OP   Woman
over a year ago

NW


"Read *most* of the replies first of all, I don’t have a husband. Or partner. I please myself. So now that’s cleared up ....

I used to go alone because I’d gone with ‘meets’ in the past and found it awkward so I decided to go on my own so I could do my own thing. I could talk to who I wanted, play with who I wanted (if they wanted to of course haha). I just found that a lot of people must have thought I was vulnerable or ‘desperate’ because I went alone but believe me, I can hold my own and that definitely isn’t the case haha. I also had the ‘omg your so brave’ comments but I like to do my own thing and do whatever makes me happy if that makes sense.

Just wanted to ask the question

Were you ever followed by the wanking train of men? Did any man touch you without first asking permission?

I worry most about those points."

Ooooh yes. Many times. Because I’m on my own and seen as ‘vulnerable’ to the creeps. But like I said, I can hold my own lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable? "

Confident and liberated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read *most* of the replies first of all, I don’t have a husband. Or partner. I please myself. So now that’s cleared up ....

I used to go alone because I’d gone with ‘meets’ in the past and found it awkward so I decided to go on my own so I could do my own thing. I could talk to who I wanted, play with who I wanted (if they wanted to of course haha). I just found that a lot of people must have thought I was vulnerable or ‘desperate’ because I went alone but believe me, I can hold my own and that definitely isn’t the case haha. I also had the ‘omg your so brave’ comments but I like to do my own thing and do whatever makes me happy if that makes sense.

Just wanted to ask the question

Were you ever followed by the wanking train of men? Did any man touch you without first asking permission?

I worry most about those points.

Ooooh yes. Many times. Because I’m on my own and seen as ‘vulnerable’ to the creeps. But like I said, I can hold my own lol. "

I'd end up giving one a black eye and I'm not the violent type. What I mean is, I find it disgusting how those types of guys think touching a woman in a club without permission is acceptable. Yet would they touch a woman in public without permission? No! Just because where us single ladies are doesn't give them the right to grope our bodies without permission. I wouldn't stand for it. It's no different to sexual assault somewhere else, yet it's kind of tolerated because us girls are in that type of club!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Read *most* of the replies first of all, I don’t have a husband. Or partner. I please myself. So now that’s cleared up ....

I used to go alone because I’d gone with ‘meets’ in the past and found it awkward so I decided to go on my own so I could do my own thing. I could talk to who I wanted, play with who I wanted (if they wanted to of course haha). I just found that a lot of people must have thought I was vulnerable or ‘desperate’ because I went alone but believe me, I can hold my own and that definitely isn’t the case haha. I also had the ‘omg your so brave’ comments but I like to do my own thing and do whatever makes me happy if that makes sense.

Just wanted to ask the question

Were you ever followed by the wanking train of men? Did any man touch you without first asking permission?

I worry most about those points.

Ooooh yes. Many times. Because I’m on my own and seen as ‘vulnerable’ to the creeps. But like I said, I can hold my own lol.

I'd end up giving one a black eye and I'm not the violent type. What I mean is, I find it disgusting how those types of guys think touching a woman in a club without permission is acceptable. Yet would they touch a woman in public without permission? No! Just because where us single ladies are doesn't give them the right to grope our bodies without permission. I wouldn't stand for it. It's no different to sexual assault somewhere else, yet it's kind of tolerated because us girls are in that type of club! "

As we are talking about ladies, there are some (usually inebriated) who have been known to help themselves in clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve gone on my own more than I’ve gone with someone and it doesn’t bother me at all, I’ll happily walk in a club solo and go find myself some fun.

I’m a bit of an independent person in real life so why should swinging be any different, note i said independent not confident, I still have little internal freak outs about it and despite getting laughed at when I say it, I can be quite shy but if I want some fun and an orgasm that isn’t by a battery operated device I’ll head to a club and tend to get what I want/need without someone holding my hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish I was confident enough to go alone,used to go to Chams with a previous fwb, my current fwb doesn't want to go.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

I prefer to go on my own there I don't feel beholden to anyone. The first time at a new club can be daunting but then I tend to go when I know someone else is going. Clubs are a social thnig for me its not just for play its good to meet like-minded people.

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By *launt Thy CurvesCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Pandora Club, Leeds, 15th Mar 25


"As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable?

Come to Flaunt on the 17th in Blackpool and we'll tell you in person

You tell her, I'll show her

Seriously tho, I admire single ladies that go to clubs on their own and I feel it's far safer to go to a club for some fun than it is to take someone home from a pub or nightclub. More single ladies should go to clubs xx"

Agreed!

And yes we shall see you on 17th!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single woman, I have gone along to clubs alone many times. But not in the past few years. Life and all that. But I’m just curious what men, couples and even other women (and all other new and developing genders in between ) think when they see a single woman who has gone along to a club, alone? Stupid? Confident? Vulnerable?

Confident.

This are they? Or you're saying they are?

I often go on a Monday as it's Bi night.

Confidence is key."
ahhhh so youre confident then, you look them in the eye and smile

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By *harliebluestockingsCouple
over a year ago

london

Most definitely confident. We would certainly say hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may be going on my own Saturday. Let's hope someone wants to play with a single woman.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Tbh I don’t judge - I am single guy in a club

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By *ifem4bifemsWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

Swinging clubs are a safe environment for women on their own. Most reputable clubs look after single women and make sure they are ok throughout the night. Much safer than going to a normal night club, and at least if you do click with someone you have somewhere decent to have fun, with people around you to help keep you safe, not down an alley way, in a loo or back to a strangers place on your own. Staff will call cabs at the end of the night. You can get to explore fantasies like 3somes or larger group sex or fun with a couple as well as men on their own. You also get to dress up in very little, which you could not get away with in normal clubs. I would recommend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women got more balls than men xxx go girl power"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women got more balls than men xxx go girl power

"
they havnt got more balls than me it's physically impossible

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I'd think you were confident

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Well I’m off to Milf Monday at Townhouse today a daytime event... on my own ... so while the rest of the world has the Monday commute I shall be elsewherev

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Confident, they always appear to have lots of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Confident, they always appear to have lots of fun "
I can imagine it would be fun with you there fi and I'm not just saying that because you have great breasts and look so sexy in that blue dress

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Confident, they always appear to have lots of fun I can imagine it would be fun with you there fi and I'm not just saying that because you have great breasts and look so sexy in that blue dress "

Fun is where its at for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Confident, they always appear to have lots of fun I can imagine it would be fun with you there fi and I'm not just saying that because you have great breasts and look so sexy in that blue dress

Fun is where its at for sure "
and you have fun don't you fi?

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Confident, they always appear to have lots of fun I can imagine it would be fun with you there fi and I'm not just saying that because you have great breasts and look so sexy in that blue dress

Fun is where its at for sure and you have fun don't you fi? "

As much as possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Confident, they always appear to have lots of fun I can imagine it would be fun with you there fi and I'm not just saying that because you have great breasts and look so sexy in that blue dress

Fun is where its at for sure and you have fun don't you fi?

As much as possible "
Can I help?

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Confident, they always appear to have lots of fun I can imagine it would be fun with you there fi and I'm not just saying that because you have great breasts and look so sexy in that blue dress

Fun is where its at for sure and you have fun don't you fi?

As much as possible Can I help?"

Have to bump into you first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Confident, they always appear to have lots of fun I can imagine it would be fun with you there fi and I'm not just saying that because you have great breasts and look so sexy in that blue dress

Fun is where its at for sure and you have fun don't you fi?

As much as possible Can I help?

Have to bump into you first "
ok make sure I've got somewhere soft to fall

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Confident, they always appear to have lots of fun I can imagine it would be fun with you there fi and I'm not just saying that because you have great breasts and look so sexy in that blue dress

Fun is where its at for sure and you have fun don't you fi?

As much as possible Can I help?

Have to bump into you first ok make sure I've got somewhere soft to fall "

Ha ha

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