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By *rotica OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

What percent of people on FAB do you think are married?

Do you think there are more married men or women on here?

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By *aiseaneyebrowMan
over a year ago

Fylde

I’d guess over half are married/attached

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Big percentage I’d say

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By *auradCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

We are a married man and woman ??

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london

50/50 Marriedmen are scorned on but married women are seen differently

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I'm attached but not married.

Dunno if marraige is that popular any more?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happily married couple here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What percent of people on FAB do you think are married?

Do you think there are more married men or women on here?"
63%

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think as high as 85% and I think there are more married men than women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The question is what percent of married men or women don’t say they are married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The question is what percent of married men or women don’t say they are married "
81%

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By *eeowlsMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Married and have been married for 28 yrs next month used to play as a cpl but only most likely play alone now as Mrs isn’t well enough to meet

She knows I’m on here and knows I have single profile as regards percentage of who’s married female and guys I would say 60/40 on those who are married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband and I are both married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The question is what percent of married men or women don’t say they are married "

90%

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By *ukeuk888Man
over a year ago

hastings

And what percentage is this an issue for?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I am if we are doing a count ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a large percentage. I just wish some were more honest with their situation. It's quite frustrating. I'm guessing there are more married men than women, just based on gender ratios.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hands up I'm a married guy playing discreetly....I'll get ready for the beating!!!

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By *am62Woman
over a year ago

Bristol

Not sure couple's can be that happy, if I married a man and I was madly in love with him, then I wouldn't want him being touched by other women or him going with women. Surely you can have fun together without third parties involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure couple's can be that happy, if I married a man and I was madly in love with him, then I wouldn't want him being touched by other women or him going with women. Surely you can have fun together without third parties involved. "

Are you sure this is the right site for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure couple's can be that happy, if I married a man and I was madly in love with him, then I wouldn't want him being touched by other women or him going with women. Surely you can have fun together without third parties involved. "
i enjoy seeing my wife with other men. It is society that says that that is wrong not me

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By *am62Woman
over a year ago

Bristol

One of the ten commandments though shall not commit adultery. And when you're married and go with others that's what it is.

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By *am62Woman
over a year ago

Bristol

Marriage should be sacred .

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By *am62Woman
over a year ago

Bristol

This is just my opinion. People are free to do what they wish with their own lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the ten commandments though shall not commit adultery. And when you're married and go with others that's what it is. "

Where you a virgin before you were married?

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By *am62Woman
over a year ago

Bristol


"Not sure couple's can be that happy, if I married a man and I was madly in love with him, then I wouldn't want him being touched by other women or him going with women. Surely you can have fun together without third parties involved. i enjoy seeing my wife with other men. It is society that says that that is wrong not me"
Then where's your respect for your wife if you let other men touch her, you should stay single as marriage is a commitment, I don't hear in marriage vows, I promise to love honour and fook any one I want to.

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By *am62Woman
over a year ago

Bristol


"One of the ten commandments though shall not commit adultery. And when you're married and go with others that's what it is.

Where you a virgin before you were married?"
I am single Thankyou. My choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the ten commandments though shall not commit adultery. And when you're married and go with others that's what it is.

Where you a virgin before you were married? I am single Thankyou. My choice. "

I understand.... but are you a swinger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hands up I'm a married guy playing discreetly....I'll get ready for the beating!!! "

I'd meet you if you weren't so far away!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure couple's can be that happy, if I married a man and I was madly in love with him, then I wouldn't want him being touched by other women or him going with women. Surely you can have fun together without third parties involved.

Are you sure this is the right site for you?"

Swinging, sometimes called wife swapping, husband swapping or partner swapping, is a non-monogamous behavior in which both singles and partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity.

Pretty sure you're on the wrong site with those views

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By *opsy71Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"The question is what percent of married men or women don’t say they are married "

You mean people lie on here? No never I refuse to believe it!!

?? ?? ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hands up I'm a married guy playing discreetly....I'll get ready for the beating!!!

I'd meet you if you weren't so far away!! "

And i would...looking hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, married here - now judge me like your life depended on it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And what percentage is this an issue for? "
31.5%

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"Not sure couple's can be that happy, if I married a man and I was madly in love with him, then I wouldn't want him being touched by other women or him going with women. Surely you can have fun together without third parties involved. "

Sometimes you read things on this site that just leave you opened mouthed with aghast. Clearly you're not a swinger and looking for sex only as a single but, please show a little bit of respect for the swingers whose community you've chosen to be part of whilst looking for said sex. Believe it or not there ARE very happy, LIBERATED couples here enjoying themselves as they see fit not as others the likes of yourself who think they should behave otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t see loads of profiles where men or women admit to being married, but I do see a lot of forums posts complaining about how many (not openly) married people there are on the site, so can only assume that the percentage is quite high.

I have made my situation clear on my profile and personally I don’t really understand why you wouldn’t... if you intend on meeting someone then it’s only going to make the situation a lot more awkward at some point down the line. Also, I’d only want to engage with people who are comfortable with it, as clearly it puts a lot of people off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because if the combination of profiles you can have I would imagine over 70% are married. male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most men are married or attached which is why it's so difficult for single guys in here. It's not easy to get across in a message that you are genuine which is why clubs are a better way to meet genuine people. We have a chat app that we use and most guys claim to be single but then strangely can't meet up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There will be more married men purely because of the number of "single" male profiles. I suspect the percentage of women who are married/attached and cheating is probably the same as the men, the women are just more open about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am and here discretely. Know that may not be to everyone's liking but it is what it is.

Prepared for the onslaught now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think it matters as long as there is honesty and discretion between you and no one gets hurt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married or not isnt a problem for us, honesty is. Its usually harder and more complex to arrange meets we find though, plus we don't want to be named on any legal papers or have distraught partners banging on our door. We never accomdate singles at home for this reason until we know them well. male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married and both on here separately. We play together but are also open too, works for us.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"This is just my opinion. People are free to do what they wish with their own lives. "
They sure are, and it's fantastic that they can and wish to do so.

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn

Did you know that 92% of surveys can be altered to give the results you want.

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By *eeowlsMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"Not sure couple's can be that happy, if I married a man and I was madly in love with him, then I wouldn't want him being touched by other women or him going with women. Surely you can have fun together without third parties involved.

Sometimes you read things on this site that just leave you opened mouthed with aghast. Clearly you're not a swinger and looking for sex only as a single but, please show a little bit of respect for the swingers whose community you've chosen to be part of whilst looking for said sex. Believe it or not there ARE very happy, LIBERATED couples here enjoying themselves as they see fit not as others the likes of yourself who think they should behave otherwise."

Couldn’t agree more and definitely think your in the wrong place and in the wrong site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure couple's can be that happy, if I married a man and I was madly in love with him, then I wouldn't want him being touched by other women or him going with women. Surely you can have fun together without third parties involved. "

Did you get lost and end up on this site by accident?

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By *aucy SouthernersCouple
over a year ago

Honiton

We are happily married and what we do just enhances it further x

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By *adyinred696969Couple
over a year ago

Brecon


"Not sure couple's can be that happy, if I married a man and I was madly in love with him, then I wouldn't want him being touched by other women or him going with women. Surely you can have fun together without third parties involved. "

I'm madly, passionately, head over heels in love with Mart, and he is with me, and we have been together for 32 years.

We got into swinging because I wanted to play with other women, you cant do that if you are an MF couple unless you add a third lol.

There are other things you cant do as a couple too. I also love to see him playing with other women, especially if I can join in.

I don't own him, I cant tell him what to do, but we do discuss everything, and we have rules about swinging. It's something that adds another dimension to our fantastic relationship, and its something we do together.

If you don't "get" it, I would suggest swinging isn't for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure couple's can be that happy, if I married a man and I was madly in love with him, then I wouldn't want him being touched by other women or him going with women. Surely you can have fun together without third parties involved.

Did you get lost and end up on this site by accident? "

I’m not convinced it’s not a blag profile to be honest

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I am married, I don’t hide it. My reasons for being here are very clear on my profile.

I don’t give a toss as to people I meet are married or not. Most are though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are happily married and what we do just enhances it further x"

Its the married ones who are cheating that i can't stand.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"One of the ten commandments though shall not commit adultery. And when you're married and go with others that's what it is. "

I didn't know I was in church...

Adultery is having sex with someone without their partners knowledge or consent. If a couple choose to swing then how is it adultery?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What percent of people on FAB do you think are married?

Do you think there are more married men or women on here?"

More Men we reckon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met married women.

Can't complain about it.

Been great.

As to percentage. Difficult.

Men say they at work while banging.

Women have the lover around while he at work banging.

And they live happily together without each other knowing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What percent of people on FAB do you think are married?

Do you think there are more married men or women on here?"
83.5%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the ten commandments though shall not commit adultery. And when you're married and go with others that's what it is.

Where you a virgin before you were married? I am single Thankyou. My choice. "

And still a virgin, because "The Book" tells us we should save ourselves into marriage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happily divorced x

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By *he VansCouple
over a year ago

mullingar

We are not married .

We are happy lol .

Just saying .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So - to the guys that are married or in a couple, what changed for it to be ok to have sex with people outside the relationship and how do you not feel hurt watching someone else please YOUR partner?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are happily married and would prefer to meet similar or at least happily loved up. Maybe we are asking too much lol. Any of you happily attached couples out there (especially in South Wales) get in touch.

To answer the OP's question the percentage of married or attached men or women on here as "single people" without the consent of their partners is pretty high, which is why we don't indulge in singles. Similarly fuck buddies many of them are playing away from home. Minefield isn't it lol. If you have a conscience swinging may not be for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you worry to much you will find a reason not to meet anyone.

Get out there and have fun.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

I'd say about 80% of the alleged single men on here have an unknowing significant other of some sort.

The proportion of attached single women will be less as women tend to be less bothered about playing tg the field when they have a partner.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I'd say about 80% of the alleged single men on here have an unknowing significant other of some sort.

The proportion of attached single women will be less as women tend to be less bothered about playing tg the field when they have a partner. "
A lot of single women's profiles on here are not really single stating that their partner will be there.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

ide say 95% of the men ive met on here have been married or has a gf

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I'd say about 80% of the alleged single men on here have an unknowing significant other of some sort.

The proportion of attached single women will be less as women tend to be less bothered about playing tg the field when they have a partner. A lot of single women's profiles on here are not really single stating that their partner will be there."

Yes, that's true. I should rephrase that there are not that many secretly attached women.

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

UK


"Not sure couple's can be that happy, if I married a man and I was madly in love with him, then I wouldn't want him being touched by other women or him going with women. Surely you can have fun together without third parties involved. "

Surely this must be a troll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A better question OP is whether it matters? I'm guessing that it's a high value on here but let's be fair at least 80% of all people on here are lying in one form or another. A good amount of people looking for meets don't actually want to meet.

I suppose yes there are a high amount of married on here. But whether it matters is up to yourselves.

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By *hegreyMan
over a year ago

Ripon

I suspect the numbers high with married guys im one of them im ducking down ,in my defence ive not met anyone yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it really matter its a swingers site where people meet other people either with or without their partners for sex. And yes I'm married and it says so in my profile. And if my wife would swing then I would welcome it but she is not interested

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By *tmuMan
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I think it’s a personal choice everybody has different reasons for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it really matter its a swingers site where people meet other people either with or without their partners for sex. And yes I'm married and it says so in my profile. And if my wife would swing then I would welcome it but she is not interested "

She know you on here or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

90%......The rest are liars lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are using this site as a genuine couple then thats absolutley fine. If you are married to someone else and they have no idea what you are up to?? Not fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it really matter its a swingers site where people meet other people either with or without their partners for sex. And yes I'm married and it says so in my profile. And if my wife would swing then I would welcome it but she is not interested

She know you on here or not "
yes she knows but doesn't want to know anything about it. As long as I only have safe sex and if she asks me to stop that I will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure couple's can be that happy, if I married a man and I was madly in love with him, then I wouldn't want him being touched by other women or him going with women. Surely you can have fun together without third parties involved. "

Ermmmmm, you've joined a swinging site where lots of people on here are married and swinging

No offence meant but if you font understand the concept of swinging, why did you join?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the percentage of people who are actually married but playing as single will be quite high. I also feel that there will be more married men but that's because of the number of men on here is higher.

I don't have an issue with married people playing but I do appreciate being told before I have sex with them.

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton


"I think most men are married or attached which is why it's so difficult for single guys in here. It's not easy to get across in a message that you are genuine which is why clubs are a better way to meet genuine people. We have a chat app that we use and most guys claim to be single but then strangely can't meet up."

Thats an oxymoron as married people in clubs find it far easier to get away with it there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant believe the amount of judgemental fems n cpls on this "swinging site"

I always admit my position in the first few messages and im increasingly suprised by the times i get dropped like a hot potato

I thought we are all just here for "recreational" sex?

Why the f**k are people hung up on a guys (or girls) personal situation?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"What percent of people on FAB do you think are married?

Do you think there are more married men or women on here?"

Quite a lot. I’d say 90% of the couples I’ve met have been married.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"I cant believe the amount of judgemental fems n cpls on this "swinging site"

I always admit my position in the first few messages and im increasingly suprised by the times i get dropped like a hot potato

I thought we are all just here for "recreational" sex?

Why the f**k are people hung up on a guys (or girls) personal situation? "

Maybe because in the past their husband was fucking someone behind their back, and it destroyed their marriage and damaged their trust , self belief and confidence for the next 5 or 6 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure couple's can be that happy, if I married a man and I was madly in love with him, then I wouldn't want him being touched by other women or him going with women. Surely you can have fun together without third parties involved.

Sometimes you read things on this site that just leave you opened mouthed with aghast. Clearly you're not a swinger and looking for sex only as a single but, please show a little bit of respect for the swingers whose community you've chosen to be part of whilst looking for said sex. Believe it or not there ARE very happy, LIBERATED couples here enjoying themselves as they see fit not as others the likes of yourself who think they should behave otherwise."

I thought more troll looking for a reaction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant believe the amount of judgemental fems n cpls on this "swinging site"

I always admit my position in the first few messages and im increasingly suprised by the times i get dropped like a hot potato

I thought we are all just here for "recreational" sex?

Why the f**k are people hung up on a guys (or girls) personal situation? "

We can be as judgmental or as choosy as we like when it comes to fucking someone.

Just because we are all here for sex, not all of us want to be having sex with someone else’s boyfriend or husband. I certainly don’t & there are many others who don’t.

Nothing you can do about it, simply move on to women who don’t care that you’re married.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I never ask, so haven't a clue how many people are married.

Maybe it's a bid deal for some or others who use this as a dating site..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant believe the amount of judgemental fems n cpls on this "swinging site"

I always admit my position in the first few messages and im increasingly suprised by the times i get dropped like a hot potato

I thought we are all just here for "recreational" sex?

Why the f**k are people hung up on a guys (or girls) personal situation?

Maybe because in the past their husband was fucking someone behind their back, and it destroyed their marriage and damaged their trust , self belief and confidence for the next 5 or 6 years. "

And they came here to rebuild their shattered self belief and confidence!?........ Really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never ask, so haven't a clue how many people are married.

Maybe it's a bid deal for some or others who use this as a dating site..

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I don’t use this as a dating site and it’s a big deal for me.

I don’t agree with cheating for whatever reason so I want to meet men who are single just like myself.

I have been lied to before by a man who claimed to be single and then got harsssed and threatened by his angry wife. I don’t want any dealings with attached people thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry i just find it all hypocritical...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry i just find it all hypocritical..."

How exactly?

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By *ightyandLeftyCouple
over a year ago

Funtown


"Hands up I'm a married guy playing discreetly....I'll get ready for the beating!!!

Lol go into hiding if i was you."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be blunt, this being a "swinging" site, surely we are all just here for sex fun in whatever form it takes, an individuals personal position should have no real bearing on this, and it should be nobodys right to judge.

Maybe this is one reason why this site in general seems to have gone to s**t!

In my humble opinion.......

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Im single and choose not to meet married men as I don't want to be part of any deceit

I will only meet single guys

I dont want to use a dating site

So I dont class my self as a swinger ... so should I not be here ?...

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I imagine at least half are married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be blunt, this being a "swinging" site, surely we are all just here for sex fun in whatever form it takes, an individuals personal position should have no real bearing on this, and it should be nobodys right to judge.

Maybe this is one reason why this site in general seems to have gone to s**t!

In my humble opinion....... "

This being a swinging site doesn’t mean people aren’t allowed no preferences.

Some of us won’t meet with people who do drugs ir have “420 friendly” on their profile, or should we also ignore that? Some of us won’t meet with barebackers for whatever reason, or should we ignore that too?

The wonderful thing about sites like this is we are all entitled to preferences, and we should be allowed to have preferences without being abused, judged or insulted for them.

I don’t judge married people, but I do avoid them because I don’t want to get involved. Plenty others do the same and there isn’t anything anyone can do about that.

Best to move on to someone who wants to meet you and doesn’t care for your personal choices or your relationship status.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im single and choose not to meet married men as I don't want to be part of any deceit

I will only meet single guys

I dont want to use a dating site

So I dont class my self as a swinger ... so should I not be here ?..."

Again in my humble opinion, no you shouldnt, the clue is in the sites name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey people, Happy Swinging

or not........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im single and choose not to meet married men as I don't want to be part of any deceit

I will only meet single guys

I dont want to use a dating site

So I dont class my self as a swinger ... so should I not be here ?..."

According to some we should all fuck off to Tinder & POF because those of us who won’t meet with married men or women are judgmental narrow minded pricks... or similar lol!

In my opinion those who shout about people not meeting married people just cannot stand the rejection. There are plenty married men and women playing away who don’t feel the need to judge or insult others who choose not to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im single and choose not to meet married men as I don't want to be part of any deceit

I will only meet single guys

I dont want to use a dating site

So I dont class my self as a swinger ... so should I not be here ?...

Again in my humble opinion, no you shouldnt, the clue is in the sites name "

I don’t class myself as a swinger since I’m single. Yet I’m still allowed to use this site thanks to Fabswingers not having rules on who can join in regards to their relationship status and personal preference!

Maybe if you feel there is a gap in the market for married/attached only people on a swinger site, you should make a website?

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

I wonder if unicorns have this same problem ....

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"Not sure couple's can be that happy, if I married a man and I was madly in love with him, then I wouldn't want him being touched by other women or him going with women. Surely you can have fun together without third parties involved.

Sometimes you read things on this site that just leave you opened mouthed with aghast. Clearly you're not a swinger and looking for sex only as a single but, please show a little bit of respect for the swingers whose community you've chosen to be part of whilst looking for said sex. Believe it or not there ARE very happy, LIBERATED couples here enjoying themselves as they see fit not as others the likes of yourself who think they should behave otherwise.

I thought more troll looking for a reaction"

Yes! That's a possibility, who knows eh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder if unicorns have this same problem .... "
they're a myth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant believe the amount of judgemental fems n cpls on this "swinging site"

I always admit my position in the first few messages and im increasingly suprised by the times i get dropped like a hot potato

I thought we are all just here for "recreational" sex?

Why the f**k are people hung up on a guys (or girls) personal situation? "

I don’t want to meet a married man, they can’t give me what I require. I like to spend all night or weekends with a guy I meet and that is not possible with an attached person. I also don’t want drama at my door. I would hate someone to cheat on me so prefer not to get involved with someone cheating. We are allowed to meet who we want and who we feel comfortable meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What percent of people on FAB do you think are married?

Do you think there are more married men or women on here?"
No equal amounts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never ask, so haven't a clue how many people are married.

Maybe it's a bid deal for some or others who use this as a dating site..

I don’t use this as a dating site and it’s a big deal for me.

I don’t agree with cheating for whatever reason so I want to meet men who are single just like myself.

I have been lied to before by a man who claimed to be single and then got harsssed and threatened by his angry wife. I don’t want any dealings with attached people thanks! "

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im single and choose not to meet married men as I don't want to be part of any deceit

I will only meet single guys

I dont want to use a dating site

So I dont class my self as a swinger ... so should I not be here ?...

Again in my humble opinion, no you shouldnt, the clue is in the sites name "

The same reason why you can’t swing with your partner instead of playing as a single guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes a woman I knew on another site said she'd never meet married guys she was seeing a guy I said was married she refused to believe me and his wife got her telephone number and gave her a load of abuse, she didn’t hang up because ultimately she fealt guilty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What percent of people on FAB do you think are married?

Do you think there are more married men or women on here?"

Tbh i think at least 90% of"single" man are married.

N bout 40% women possibly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is very easy to figure out.....

Just cross reference all Fab profiles with dating site profiles to see who is truly single.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is very easy to figure out.....

Just cross reference all Fab profiles with dating site profiles to see who is truly single....."

How would that prove who is truly single? Do people not lie on dating sites?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im single and choose not to meet married men as I don't want to be part of any deceit

I will only meet single guys

I dont want to use a dating site

So I dont class my self as a swinger ... so should I not be here ?...

Again in my humble opinion, no you shouldnt, the clue is in the sites name

The same reason why you can’t swing with your partner instead of playing as a single guy? "

Great response!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im single and choose not to meet married men as I don't want to be part of any deceit

I will only meet single guys

I dont want to use a dating site

So I dont class my self as a swinger ... so should I not be here ?...

Again in my humble opinion, no you shouldnt, the clue is in the sites name

The same reason why you can’t swing with your partner instead of playing as a single guy?

Great response! "

Thank you. By his own definition, he’s no swinger either.

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By *hakeurlegsMan
over a year ago

everywhere. and nowhere baby

I'm attached and i always mention it as lying will always get u caught out... Some people are quick to judge without knowing all the facts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm attached and i always mention it as lying will always get u caught out... Some people are quick to judge without knowing all the facts."
exactly welcome to fab forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant believe the amount of judgemental fems n cpls on this "swinging site"

I always admit my position in the first few messages and im increasingly suprised by the times i get dropped like a hot potato

I thought we are all just here for "recreational" sex?

Why the f**k are people hung up on a guys (or girls) personal situation?

Maybe because in the past their husband was fucking someone behind their back, and it destroyed their marriage and damaged their trust , self belief and confidence for the next 5 or 6 years. "

or maybe they had a "wife" phoning them at all hours and have had to change their number ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm attached and i always mention it as lying will always get u caught out... Some people are quick to judge without knowing all the facts."

I don’t think anybody needs to know all the “facts”. If someone is on here without their wife knowing, I personally don’t want to meet them. Each to their own, but regardless of their reason for cheating it would still be a no.

I think cheaters trying to justify their cheating is pointless, they should just explain they are playing away and leave it at that. The reasons why are nobody’s business and many people as harsh as it may sound, don’t actually care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm attached and i always mention it as lying will always get u caught out... Some people are quick to judge without knowing all the facts.

I don’t think anybody needs to know all the “facts”. If someone is on here without their wife knowing, I personally don’t want to meet them. Each to their own, but regardless of their reason for cheating it would still be a no.

I think cheaters trying to justify their cheating is pointless, they should just explain they are playing away and leave it at that. The reasons why are nobody’s business and many people as harsh as it may sound, don’t actually care. "

I feel the same, don't want to know and don't care what people do, I just don't want to be the third person, not getting into that situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the ten commandments though shall not commit adultery. And when you're married and go with others that's what it is. "

Good thing most of us aren't religious nor care about them books. Were a couple doing our toes in. Not sure if it's for us but who's to judge a consenting couple? I don't agree with people having sex behind their partners back...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is very easy to figure out.....

Just cross reference all Fab profiles with dating site profiles to see who is truly single.....

How would that prove who is truly single? Do people not lie on dating sites?"

Smart married people don’t have profiles on dating sites....

There is no excuse for being on a dating site when you get exposed.....

If you’re caught on a swinging website with a blank profile and no pictures.... you can explain it to your wife as you were looking at pictures or doing research to see if it’s something they wanted to do together....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the ten commandments though shall not commit adultery. And when you're married and go with others that's what it is.

Good thing most of us aren't religious nor care about them books. Were a couple doing our toes in. Not sure if it's for us but who's to judge a consenting couple? I don't agree with people having sex behind their partners back..."
that's what the threads about though and of course you're a consenting couple but why would you say that?

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By *am62Woman
over a year ago

Bristol

I haven't an wouldn't disrespect any member on this site. We all have opinions, and it's an open forum to express your opinion. I did say it's the people's choice what they do. Good luck to those that enjoy it. But it's just my personal opinion, I suppose its because I was badly hurt that I now have these views. But yes fab is for me and I love it but just not with a married gentleman. Because there are married men on the site and I wouldn't want any woman to feel the hurt I felt that's all. But if couples to enjoy it and both agree then it's all good for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure couple's can be that happy, if I married a man and I was madly in love with him, then I wouldn't want him being touched by other women or him going with women. Surely you can have fun together without third parties involved.

Sometimes you read things on this site that just leave you opened mouthed with aghast. Clearly you're not a swinger and looking for sex only as a single but, please show a little bit of respect for the swingers whose community you've chosen to be part of whilst looking for said sex. Believe it or not there ARE very happy, LIBERATED couples here enjoying themselves as they see fit not as others the likes of yourself who think they should behave otherwise."

Well said. XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re married but we sometimes meet alone. We don’t ask other people about their status, though they often tell us over the course of a few meets.

I’d guess 70%+ of single men on her have a partner and perhaps 50% of single women.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

People are often scared to end long term relationships. They stay, but want others to make it better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are often scared to end long term relationships. They stay, but want others to make it better. "

And perhaps it isn’t only that, perhaps some people just relish variety in bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’re married but we sometimes meet alone. We don’t ask other people about their status, though they often tell us over the course of a few meets.

I’d guess 70%+ of single men on her have a partner and perhaps 50% of single women."
but it's a guess you don't know and will never know even if you met 100 people

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"People are often scared to end long term relationships. They stay, but want others to make it better.

And perhaps it isn’t only that, perhaps some people just relish variety in bed."

True...the dishonesty of many towards their partner is amazing. Trust no one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’re married but we sometimes meet alone. We don’t ask other people about their status, though they often tell us over the course of a few meets.

I’d guess 70%+ of single men on her have a partner and perhaps 50% of single women.but it's a guess you don't know and will never know even if you met 100 people "

The question was “what percentage of people do you think...” and I’ve answered in those terms. As I start out by saying “I’d guess” your post is doubly irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are often scared to end long term relationships. They stay, but want others to make it better.

And perhaps it isn’t only that, perhaps some people just relish variety in bed.

True...the dishonesty of many towards their partner is amazing. Trust no one "

Perhaps good advice but a bit bleak for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’re married but we sometimes meet alone. We don’t ask other people about their status, though they often tell us over the course of a few meets.

I’d guess 70%+ of single men on her have a partner and perhaps 50% of single women.but it's a guess you don't know and will never know even if you met 100 people

The question was “what percentage of people do you think...” and I’ve answered in those terms. As I start out by saying “I’d guess” your post is doubly irrelevant."
yes but every answer is a guess that's my point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’re married but we sometimes meet alone. We don’t ask other people about their status, though they often tell us over the course of a few meets.

I’d guess 70%+ of single men on her have a partner and perhaps 50% of single women.but it's a guess you don't know and will never know even if you met 100 people

The question was “what percentage of people do you think...” and I’ve answered in those terms. As I start out by saying “I’d guess” your post is doubly irrelevant."
own your guess

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

Were married and both happy on here about 80% are married and probably 75% of partners don't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Were married and both happy on here about 80% are married and probably 75% of partners don't know. "

Married guys also don’t tend to get so clingy, at least in our experience.

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By *hunkyThighsMan
over a year ago

Gloucester

I got asked if I was married yesterday after initial conversation, being honest I said I legally was but seperated. And that was that! Didn’t get a reply. Strange .

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I'd say about 80% of the alleged single men on here have an unknowing significant other of some sort.

The proportion of attached single women will be less as women tend to be less bothered about playing tg the field when they have a partner. A lot of single women's profiles on here are not really single stating that their partner will be there."

That makes sense in a way. The sheer number of nutjobs, weirdos and downright horrible males on FAB is growing day by day. Maybe the females in question are happy playing on their own, but with the added security of their partner being nearby.

That's exactly what we do. However we have a couples profile (makes sense as we're a couple) but primarily the female plays alone. The male is always in the house while play ensues for the above mentioned reasons.

If that's an issue for some then so be it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the ten commandments though shall not commit adultery. And when you're married and go with others that's what it is. "

That’s only if your religious in the first place then really even single people shouldn’t be having casually sex as sexual activity is meant for married people. Also if you look up about adultery it says it’s not adultery if you spouse knows and encourages you to have sex with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel sorry for those with partners that don’t know. Not just for the partners but for them themselves.

I have a partner and he’s not interested but knows where everywhere I go and what I get up to.

Imagine spending your life lying and worrying. There’s only so many ‘stag do’s’ and ‘working lates’ you can do really isn’t there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads are married but you’d be pulling figures out of thin air, it doesn’t bother me if they are or not, I’m single and I’m meeting to have nsa sex although I do club meets so it’s not something that comes up in conversation normally.

When I first started in this way of life I’d only meet married guys, you could guarantee discretion. Single guys could shoot their mouth off and I didn’t want to chance that (yes it happened to a friend of mine who used to be on here, I was with her - walked into a pub for him to shout us over, got closer and announced he’d shagged her to all his mates).

At the end of the day if they are married and playing away from home it’s their business and their business only, this is after all a swinging site and not a dating one.

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By *hakeurlegsMan
over a year ago

everywhere. and nowhere baby


"Loads are married but you’d be pulling figures out of thin air, it doesn’t bother me if they are or not, I’m single and I’m meeting to have nsa sex although I do club meets so it’s not something that comes up in conversation normally.

When I first started in this way of life I’d only meet married guys, you could guarantee discretion. Single guys could shoot their mouth off and I didn’t want to chance that (yes it happened to a friend of mine who used to be on here, I was with her - walked into a pub for him to shout us over, got closer and announced he’d shagged her to all his mates).

At the end of the day if they are married and playing away from home it’s their business and their business only, this is after all a swinging site and not a dating one.

"

My thoughts exactly .. Bang on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads are married but you’d be pulling figures out of thin air, it doesn’t bother me if they are or not, I’m single and I’m meeting to have nsa sex although I do club meets so it’s not something that comes up in conversation normally.

When I first started in this way of life I’d only meet married guys, you could guarantee discretion. Single guys could shoot their mouth off and I didn’t want to chance that (yes it happened to a friend of mine who used to be on here, I was with her - walked into a pub for him to shout us over, got closer and announced he’d shagged her to all his mates).

At the end of the day if they are married and playing away from home it’s their business and their business only, this is after all a swinging site and not a dating one.

My thoughts exactly .. Bang on "

Exactly we all have baggage and secrets that’s why it’s such fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads are married but you’d be pulling figures out of thin air, it doesn’t bother me if they are or not, I’m single and I’m meeting to have nsa sex although I do club meets so it’s not something that comes up in conversation normally.

When I first started in this way of life I’d only meet married guys, you could guarantee discretion. Single guys could shoot their mouth off and I didn’t want to chance that (yes it happened to a friend of mine who used to be on here, I was with her - walked into a pub for him to shout us over, got closer and announced he’d shagged her to all his mates).

At the end of the day if they are married and playing away from home it’s their business and their business only, this is after all a swinging site and not a dating one.

My thoughts exactly .. Bang on

Exactly we all have baggage and secrets that’s why it’s such fun "
tell me a secret cmon I love a good secret

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

Happily married here fab is just my guilty pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happily married here fab is just my guilty pleasure "
do you feel guilty then?

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By *ereforgigglesMan
over a year ago

Scotland

How about (and this may be a radical idea) just doing what you like and not judging anyone else? for the simple fact that it's got nothing to do with anyone what others get up to?

If you're happy meeting married folk then do it, if you're not then don't.

Just an idea...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been together 40 years , married 37 of them , and been swingers together with others for 36 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are married . Both enjoy seeing each other with other people. Certain things are formus only. When we play it’s different when we alone. Not better not worse ...different .

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London


"How about (and this may be a radical idea) just doing what you like and not judging anyone else? for the simple fact that it's got nothing to do with anyone what others get up to?

If you're happy meeting married folk then do it, if you're not then don't.

Just an idea..."

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

Wish I was married...

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By *van ArdenMan
over a year ago

Coleford, Forest of Dean, Gloucestershire.

As a guestimate I'd say 65% of men are married and 25% of women.

Though I don't have any data to back it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure couple's can be that happy, if I married a man and I was madly in love with him, then I wouldn't want him being touched by other women or him going with women. Surely you can have fun together without third parties involved.

i enjoy seeing my wife with other men. It is society that says that that is wrong not me

Then where's your respect for your wife if you let other men touch her, you should stay single as marriage is a commitment, I don't hear in marriage vows, I promise to love honour and fook any one I want to. "

Swinging ha absolutely nothing to do with marriage vows they are not mutually exclusive of one another. Coupes (whether married or not) in most cases are usually very loving with healthy sex lives with each other first and foremost, and trust each other impeccably. Yes there are those here (and every other walk of life) who are single yet married and cheating... that’s their own choice. But calling out married couples for not respecting each other is a bit draconian a view at best! It’s the 21st century, people started to become more socially liberated during the 1960s, and although swinging is not accepted in the wider social environment (just think neither was homosexuality either until very recently... even that hasn’t been fully accepted!!!!) there is a hell of a lot of people involved in the scene... DONT JUDGE!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about (and this may be a radical idea) just doing what you like and not judging anyone else? for the simple fact that it's got nothing to do with anyone what others get up to?

If you're happy meeting married folk then do it, if you're not then don't.

Just an idea..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re married and both meet others separately. Works well for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure couple's can be that happy, if I married a man and I was madly in love with him, then I wouldn't want him being touched by other women or him going with women. Surely you can have fun together without third parties involved. "

When you have been married/together for 22 years, still very much in love but want to spice up your sex life by adding others, then come back and tell me if you feel any differently. Until then, you have no idea how you will feel about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant believe the amount of judgemental fems n cpls on this "swinging site"

I always admit my position in the first few messages and im increasingly suprised by the times i get dropped like a hot potato

I thought we are all just here for "recreational" sex?

Why the f**k are people hung up on a guys (or girls) personal situation? "

Choice! Get over it, they have assessed you're not for them, it's not personal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry i just find it all hypocritical..."

Your opinion won't matter to them, only you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im single and choose not to meet married men as I don't want to be part of any deceit

I will only meet single guys

I dont want to use a dating site

So I dont class my self as a swinger ... so should I not be here ?...

Again in my humble opinion, no you shouldnt, the clue is in the sites name "

Labels, schmabels . Are you a swinger or a cheater?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 03/11/18 12:43:35]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm attached and i always mention it as lying will always get u caught out... Some people are quick to judge without knowing all the facts."

They have every right to judge your situation in relation to themselves and what they want.

People forget that to judge has two distinct meanings - to assess and to condemn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is very easy to figure out.....

Just cross reference all Fab profiles with dating site profiles to see who is truly single.....

How would that prove who is truly single? Do people not lie on dating sites?

Smart married people don’t have profiles on dating sites....

There is no excuse for being on a dating site when you get exposed.....

If you’re caught on a swinging website with a blank profile and no pictures.... you can explain it to your wife as you were looking at pictures or doing research to see if it’s something they wanted to do together....

"

And she sees the research has been continuing for over a year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads are married but you’d be pulling figures out of thin air, it doesn’t bother me if they are or not, I’m single and I’m meeting to have nsa sex although I do club meets so it’s not something that comes up in conversation normally.

When I first started in this way of life I’d only meet married guys, you could guarantee discretion. Single guys could shoot their mouth off and I didn’t want to chance that (yes it happened to a friend of mine who used to be on here, I was with her - walked into a pub for him to shout us over, got closer and announced he’d shagged her to all his mates).

At the end of the day if they are married and playing away from home it’s their business and their business only, this is after all a swinging site and not a dating one.

"

But can be used as one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about (and this may be a radical idea) just doing what you like and not judging anyone else? for the simple fact that it's got nothing to do with anyone what others get up to?

If you're happy meeting married folk then do it, if you're not then don't.

Just an idea..."

The majority do just that, sadly there are those who feel all members should be accessible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops I killed the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads are married but you’d be pulling figures out of thin air, it doesn’t bother me if they are or not, I’m single and I’m meeting to have nsa sex although I do club meets so it’s not something that comes up in conversation normally.

When I first started in this way of life I’d only meet married guys, you could guarantee discretion. Single guys could shoot their mouth off and I didn’t want to chance that (yes it happened to a friend of mine who used to be on here, I was with her - walked into a pub for him to shout us over, got closer and announced he’d shagged her to all his mates).

At the end of the day if they are married and playing away from home it’s their business and their business only, this is after all a swinging site and not a dating one.

But can be used as one "

It’s not called Fabswingers dating.com. There are plenty of other sites for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads are married but you’d be pulling figures out of thin air, it doesn’t bother me if they are or not, I’m single and I’m meeting to have nsa sex although I do club meets so it’s not something that comes up in conversation normally.

When I first started in this way of life I’d only meet married guys, you could guarantee discretion. Single guys could shoot their mouth off and I didn’t want to chance that (yes it happened to a friend of mine who used to be on here, I was with her - walked into a pub for him to shout us over, got closer and announced he’d shagged her to all his mates).

At the end of the day if they are married and playing away from home it’s their business and their business only, this is after all a swinging site and not a dating one.

But can be used as one

It’s not called Fabswingers dating.com. There are plenty of other sites for that. "

But people can use this site for dating if they wish. Many people on here have met on here and are now established couples. There are no rules on how it's used. Each to their own I say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel sorry for those with partners that don’t know. Not just for the partners but for them themselves.

I have a partner and he’s not interested but knows where everywhere I go and what I get up to.

Imagine spending your life lying and worrying. There’s only so many ‘stag do’s’ and ‘working lates’ you can do really isn’t there "

Come on.... give us guys some credit....

We have better excuses than that to get a night out...

Poker night with the guys

Flat tire on the motor way

To d*unk to drive , so I will sleep it off

Friend just got arrested

The car got towed , so I’m waiting at the car lot to retrieve it...

I can go on and on... men are not stupid

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I feel sorry for those with partners that don’t know. Not just for the partners but for them themselves.

I have a partner and he’s not interested but knows where everywhere I go and what I get up to.

Imagine spending your life lying and worrying. There’s only so many ‘stag do’s’ and ‘working lates’ you can do really isn’t there

Come on.... give us guys some credit....

We have better excuses than that to get a night out...

Poker night with the guys

Flat tire on the motor way

To d*unk to drive , so I will sleep it off

Friend just got arrested

The car got towed , so I’m waiting at the car lot to retrieve it...

I can go on and on... men are not stupid "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel sorry for those with partners that don’t know. Not just for the partners but for them themselves.

I have a partner and he’s not interested but knows where everywhere I go and what I get up to.

Imagine spending your life lying and worrying. There’s only so many ‘stag do’s’ and ‘working lates’ you can do really isn’t there "

I think the married "fab single" ones don't have to worry as the majority of single men say they struggle to get meets so only need 4-6 excuses a year.

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By *unning LinguistMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

67% at least. Some of us are honest about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads are married but you’d be pulling figures out of thin air, it doesn’t bother me if they are or not, I’m single and I’m meeting to have nsa sex although I do club meets so it’s not something that comes up in conversation normally.

When I first started in this way of life I’d only meet married guys, you could guarantee discretion. Single guys could shoot their mouth off and I didn’t want to chance that (yes it happened to a friend of mine who used to be on here, I was with her - walked into a pub for him to shout us over, got closer and announced he’d shagged her to all his mates).

At the end of the day if they are married and playing away from home it’s their business and their business only, this is after all a swinging site and not a dating one.

But can be used as one

It’s not called Fabswingers dating.com. There are plenty of other sites for that. "

Funny, Match and POF don't have dating in their URL, so your point is moot.

Also, I've used it for dating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"67% at least. Some of us are honest about it. "

If women meet a great guy on here , please expect him to be attached in some way.....

You can’t expect to be the only woman attracted to him.....

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

65% married

Of which 40% are married men

25% married women

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By *illy big bolloxMan
over a year ago

Newark

Married here and honest about it.

Now you can tear me to shreds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im single and choose not to meet married men as I don't want to be part of any deceit

I will only meet single guys

I dont want to use a dating site

So I dont class my self as a swinger ... so should I not be here ?...

Again in my humble opinion, no you shouldnt, the clue is in the sites name

Labels, schmabels . Are you a swinger or a cheater? "
I'm a sweater

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im single and choose not to meet married men as I don't want to be part of any deceit

I will only meet single guys

I dont want to use a dating site

So I dont class my self as a swinger ... so should I not be here ?...

Again in my humble opinion, no you shouldnt, the clue is in the sites name

Labels, schmabels . Are you a swinger or a cheater? I'm a sweater "

Well I have hot flushes and night sweats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"67% at least. Some of us are honest about it.

If women meet a great guy on here , please expect him to be attached in some way.....

You can’t expect to be the only woman attracted to him....."

Good point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What percent of people on FAB do you think are married?

Do you think there are more married men or women on here?"

90% married men

23% married women

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