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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We have had a lot of people send friend invites without a simple hello. We find this very rude and ignorant.

Would it really hurt to talk first?

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Desperados wanting to see more/private pics. Ignore, delete, enjoy fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens to everybody even guys quite annoying though especially when you look at there’s and am interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It is very frustrating, as they block you when you say you won't accept until spoken first.

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By *ave-and-LouiseCouple
over a year ago

Torquay

God they do my head in. Especially when they're 100+ miles away. We're never going to meet, ever, why on earth would we accept that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If it's pics they want there's plenty on Google lol or in porn mags.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

Haha, we had somebody do this and accepted it, two minutes later we get a message, but you don't have any pictures there.

No shit sherlock.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

They are just pic hunters.

We just leave their invite there so they can't send another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I disagree. I sometimes send out a wink and request so if you’re interested you can look at my pics and respond. As a single guy we waste a lot of time sending messages without reply. I find it cuts that bit out

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Just ignore them and leave the request pending so they can't send another.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

We had one yesterday from someone who states on their profile that they don’t like facial hair. Mrs Absolutebeginner refuses to shave her beard off for anyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have had a lot of people send friend invites without a simple hello. We find this very rude and ignorant.

Would it really hurt to talk first? "

We have a few freind only photo but definitely prefer to chat first before acpectin freinds we have other photos but we don't share them on here

Mrs c

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester


"We have had a lot of people send friend invites without a simple hello. We find this very rude and ignorant.

Would it really hurt to talk first? "

Just ignore them most do I have hundreds not accepted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just ignore them and leave the request pending so they can't send another. "

This

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"It is very frustrating, as they block you when you say you won't accept until spoken first."

Keep them on the list, if you delete they can keep re-adding you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get many of either but Friend requests without a chat, at least, first is pointless and annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it's pics they want there's plenty on Google lol or in porn mags. "

Do people still buy porn mags!? How retro

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have had a lot of people send friend invites without a simple hello. We find this very rude and ignorant.

Would it really hurt to talk first? "

We just block them straight away. We don’t show our naughty/face pics on our profile they are friends only and believe that people who do this just want to see this type of pic.

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By *ugs and JunkCouple
over a year ago

Bellshill

I find it rude and presumptuous. Our friends pics predominantly have our faces in them so not comfortable having lots of people having access to them

Mrs

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We don't really mind random friend requests but we hardly accept them unless we like the look of the sender and they have private pics of their own

We don't have any face pics on our profile and our private pics are mostly just similar ones to our public shots. Sometimes we're sneaky and will wait until the sender is offline before accepting and having a quick perve at their pics before unfriending them again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete them I always expect to be mailed first I always chat first then ask when time is right its just plain manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But on the other hand, and as stated in many a thread on here..most messages sent from guys on here never get read and the same with winks,they never get responded to. So the other option for them, is to send a friends request and hope for the best, and maybe if it's excepted they will chat then.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Rude!

It's on my profile, I don't accept random friend requests unless we've chatted first, so anyone who sends one, either hasn't read it or doesn't care.

If they've not read it, why do they want to be my friend?

If they've ignored it, I don't want them as a friend.

Oh, then there's the ones that send "Hi" followed by a friends request - Thst doesn't count as chatting

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

We just ignore and block after checking out their profile. Amazing how many of them have no friends only pics themselves. Some have no pics whatsoever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think I've checked who's sent us a friends request this year. Try just not looking x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have had a lot of people send friend invites without a simple hello. We find this very rude and ignorant.

Would it really hurt to talk first? "
I get that a lot to a woman in forums winked me day before yesterday I replied with a message but message unread unanswered, whats the point I ask myself

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By *angtidy42Couple
over a year ago

Redditch

We wink if we like you. Then if you return the wink, we will DM you and see how things go. Its then 50/50 If we sent a FR. Sometimes say"if you like what you see then why not send a FR".

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

It’s rude and annoying!

We state on our profile that we won’t accept friends requests from people who haven’t spoken to us and we will block the senders. Then we do exactly that if people choose not to read our profile or to ignore what’s written on there

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"It’s rude and annoying!

We state on our profile that we won’t accept friends requests from people who haven’t spoken to us and we will block the senders. Then we do exactly that if people choose not to read our profile or to ignore what’s written on there"

Beginning to think the same about blocking.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"It’s rude and annoying!

We state on our profile that we won’t accept friends requests from people who haven’t spoken to us and we will block the senders. Then we do exactly that if people choose not to read our profile or to ignore what’s written on there"

Same here. We clearly state we won't meet smokers or males with facial hair, but the number of messages we get from smokers who have huge beards is ridiculous. They almost always claim to have read our profile too but get all shirty when we say we don't meet males with beards. They only have themselves to blame.

We'll be accused of being beardist before much longer with all the other PC crap that's going on at the moment.

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

i just leaving it hanging in the friend request box then they cant send another

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We get random friends requests now and then. We don't even have any private/ friends only pics either.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth


"It’s rude and annoying!

We state on our profile that we won’t accept friends requests from people who haven’t spoken to us and we will block the senders. Then we do exactly that if people choose not to read our profile or to ignore what’s written on there

Same here. We clearly state we won't meet smokers or males with facial hair, but the number of messages we get from smokers who have huge beards is ridiculous. They almost always claim to have read our profile too but get all shirty when we say we don't meet males with beards. They only have themselves to blame.

We'll be accused of being beardist before much longer with all the other PC crap that's going on at the moment."

The ones that really make me roll my eyes are those who state their preference for slimmer ladies on their profile but message or friend request us. It’s more than a little obvious just by looking at our photos that I’m the opposite of what they find attractive. If we respond and point it out to them that I’m a fatty they get all shirty about it. I think Fab should offer free literacy lessons to some, then maybe they would actually read profiles

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By *oldenskyWoman
over a year ago

london

Hate it, no need for it at all. We have also had a first message saying “I’ve sent you a friends request”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete friend requests straight away. Majority of men just want to see my private pictures. If they wanted to get to know me and possibly meet me, they would open their mouth...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens all the time to us. We just delete them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I accept and have a perve then delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A friend in need is a friend indeed

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

It’s the digital equivalent of walking in a pub spotting someone you like the look of and lifting their top to look at their boobs/moobs without even chatting them up first!

Entirely unacceptable and always a blckable offence in our book

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

We find it annoying as it states on our profile don't friend request without chatting, we even say no porno pics on there so obviously not reading the profile, just random invites. We don't usually do friends until we have met to be fair, only rare occasion we do before meeting if we get a good feel for people

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over a year ago

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon


"I accept and have a perve then delete "

Not just me then!

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I delete as it makes me feel cluttered to have them sat on my profile. If someone persistently adds, they get blocked - they must know they've added 4 or so times so they must also know it's deleted; if they can't take a hint...

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We've been getting so many lately we have started to use the block button. Didn't use it much in the past but we rather like this new addition to our fab behaviour

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By *he witch returnsWoman
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow in SW Devon

I detest that when it happens. I leave their invites on the request and this prevents them resending again.

Most are from guys who either live miles away or I would never have any interest in meeting them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have had a lot of people send friend invites without a simple hello. We find this very rude and ignorant.

Would it really hurt to talk first? "

Hate this!!!! Instant delete no matter how nice they look xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sending you all requests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And not even a wink

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"We have had a lot of people send friend invites without a simple hello. We find this very rude and ignorant.

Would it really hurt to talk first? "
Normally from blank and unverified profiles

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol


"We have had a lot of people send friend invites without a simple hello. We find this very rude and ignorant.

Would it really hurt to talk first? "

Get use to it, happens all the time

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon


"I’m sending you all requests "

I'm waiting for you to go offline so I can perve your friends pics then unfriend again (unless they're really good in which case you can stay)

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