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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i am 58 years old, and i have probably had sex about 50 times in my whole life, if i fell in a barrel full of nipples i would come out sucking my thumb, if i met a nymphomaniac she would suddenly fall ill or go off sex, there is nothing anyone can do about it, its just the way life is for me, but boy do i miss naked cuddles and feeling close to someone, its currently 10 years since i last had sex with my partner, she just dont like sex, i have been faithful in all that time, but i"m getting really fed up about it all, i wont leave her because i believe she genuinely loves me and i love her, and people keep telling me theres more to a relationship than just sex. i"ve been on this site and other sex dating sites for a couple of years and had just 2 replies, both saying no thankyou, i"m not looking for sympathy or advice as i know from reading other forum comments that most replies would be sarcastic and another long word that i cant think of, but i just needed to write things down, if anyone knows of a lady in the whole wide world that would have sex with me please pass on my details

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you just see an escort or go to a brothel if that's really how you feel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i am 58 years old, and i have probably had sex about 50 times in my whole life, if i fell in a barrel full of nipples i would come out sucking my thumb, if i met a nymphomaniac she would suddenly fall ill or go off sex, there is nothing anyone can do about it, its just the way life is for me, but boy do i miss naked cuddles and feeling close to someone, its currently 10 years since i last had sex with my partner, she just dont like sex, i have been faithful in all that time, but i"m getting really fed up about it all, i wont leave her because i believe she genuinely loves me and i love her, and people keep telling me theres more to a relationship than just sex. i"ve been on this site and other sex dating sites for a couple of years and had just 2 replies, both saying no thankyou, i"m not looking for sympathy or advice as i know from reading other forum comments that most replies would be sarcastic and another long word that i cant think of, but i just needed to write things down, if anyone knows of a lady in the whole wide world that would have sex with me please pass on my details"
she's mine you can't have her sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why don't you just see an escort or go to a brothel if that's really how you feel? "

This. You can ask for naked cuddles, it's not always about sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually while there is more to relationships than sex...that only works if u are both happy like that. Otherwise it's a friendship.

I'm guessing you haven't told her u are looking for a sex life elsewhere... if not why not? It is something that you should discuss.

If one person unilaterally makes a major decision for the relationship they have to know the consequences of that decision. Not as an ultimatum or a threat but to understand that they are a partnership.

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By *ensualguy70TV/TS
over a year ago

paisley

Great answer

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By *ugs and JunkCouple
over a year ago

Bellshill

I note that you don’t mention that you’re married on your profile. You should really include this and allow people to make their own mind up about meeting you. I know if I met someone I thought was single and they turned out to be married I’d be furious

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually while there is more to relationships than sex...that only works if u are both happy like that. Otherwise it's a friendship.

I'm guessing you haven't told her u are looking for a sex life elsewhere... if not why not? It is something that you should discuss.

If one person unilaterally makes a major decision for the relationship they have to know the consequences of that decision. Not as an ultimatum or a threat but to understand that they are a partnership. "

His wife doesn't wants sex with him. She should be explaining to him why she doesn't and perhaps she should be the one to suggest he looks elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thats just the sort of sarcastic and patronising response i was expecting,just to point out a few things, nowhere in my post or profile do i mention i am married, thats because i am not. we do talk about it a lot and she knows i am on here, and yes, i guess i will have to pay for it eventually, thats if the escorts dont turn me away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thats just the sort of sarcastic and patronising response i was expecting,just to point out a few things, nowhere in my post or profile do i mention i am married, thats because i am not. we do talk about it a lot and she knows i am on here, and yes, i guess i will have to pay for it eventually, thats if the escorts dont turn me away"

I dont see any sarcastic replies actually probably what most wouldd suggest including me. Working girls like said offer all sorts not just a quick fuck.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"thats just the sort of sarcastic and patronising response i was expecting,just to point out a few things, nowhere in my post or profile do i mention i am married, thats because i am not. we do talk about it a lot and she knows i am on here, and yes, i guess i will have to pay for it eventually, thats if the escorts dont turn me away

I dont see any sarcastic replies actually probably what most wouldd suggest including me. Working girls like said offer all sorts not just a quick fuck."

I didn't see any sarcasm either, I think you are so caught up in your situation that you are seeing things that don't exist! And probably feeling hypersensitive after posting and expecting it. There are a lot of supportive people on the site who have been through loads of different situations, so best not projecting what you expect rather than what has actually been said

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Why don't you just see an escort or go to a brothel if that's really how you feel? "

He will probably lose his wallet before he gets there lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why don't you just see an escort or go to a brothel if that's really how you feel?

This. You can ask for naked cuddles, it's not always about sex. "

male

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

That’s not even 2 months worth. Bless someone help him out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why don't you just see an escort or go to a brothel if that's really how you feel?

He will probably lose his wallet before he gets there lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I've just read your post and I found it quite upsetting as you sound very down and I sympathise with you. I've looked on your profile and your status isn't exactly inviting,it's very negative.

Seems you are stuck in a rut?

Maybe do some work on yourself first and find some self worth and with that will come confidence and women might find you a bit more approachable.

Hope things get better for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps you need to have a thorough discussion with your partner before you go any further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can someone give this man some loving?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say your a cheeky chappy but nothing about this post or your profile screams that.

If you stopped going for the poor me, you might have some luck.

I don't fuck people through attraction, only person attractive to me is my husband. Personality goes along way.

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

You say you’ve been faithful and have not strayed . But the mere fact you have s profile on here and looking without her knowledge means you are being unfaithful .

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Op,

Perhaps you should look at your expectations of Fab. This is a swingers' site, not a sex site. There is a massive difference, which you don't appear to understand.

Look at your profile. I cannot offer you advice, since you haven't asked for it, but its' not at all appealing.

Finally, sort out your attitude. Complaining about your lack of sex will not achieve anything. Your sense of entitlement is most unpleasant.

And please don't acuse me of being sarcastic or mean. My advice is kindly meant, if you would just see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You say you’ve been faithful and have not strayed . But the mere fact you have s profile on here and looking without her knowledge means you are being unfaithful . "

No it doesn't. He hasn't physically done anything with anyone.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

As adverts go, you're not doing yourself any favours -try play with your expectations (i.e. glass half full) rather than focussing and highlighting everything that is wrong with your used car advert -it's like saing "ex taxi owner, low mileage, needs attention, no mot or insurance, engine ceased, handling crap, awful colour and rusted to shit"

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham


"You say you’ve been faithful and have not strayed . But the mere fact you have s profile on here and looking without her knowledge means you are being unfaithful .

No it doesn't. He hasn't physically done anything with anyone."

It’s called intent . If I intend to commit a crime ,,,, I can be charged with that . The fact he hasn’t had sex means nothing . She doesn’t know he’s on here , which in my opinion is unfair . Shouldn’t she have an informed choice ?

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"thats just the sort of sarcastic and patronising response i was expecting,just to point out a few things, nowhere in my post or profile do i mention i am married, thats because i am not. we do talk about it a lot and she knows i am on here, and yes, i guess i will have to pay for it eventually, thats if the escorts dont turn me away"

Who is "she"?

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


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Who is "she"? "

Cat's mother

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Granted Op has been a little clumsy with words and profile. Guy needs cutting some slack though.

Op if this place isn’t working for you go see a sex worker who will be able to provide the girlfriend experience for you.

Good luck.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"go see a sex worker who will be able to provide the girlfriend experience for you. "

Doesn't say much for the quality of "girlfriend experiences" you've experienced tho -just saying like

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks for all your replies, its a good job i got a thick skin, but it appears that not all of you have read the posts properly, i am not married and nowhere does it say i am.....my partner does know i am on here as i have said in a previous reply, and we do often talk about it, she always apologisis but says she just isnt interested in sex. i do agree with you that i come over as a bit negative, but 10 years is a long time just waiting and waiting and waiting and hoping that she finds the time to give me a little bit of attention, i guess everybody has their breaking point and i have reached mine, up until this moment i have still been faithful, for the person who wrote it doesnt matter because the intents their, i guess just by thinking about it the intents there, i"ve often thought about robbing a bank, but that dont make a criminal, so that theory doesnt make any sense to me. so given the advise from some people on here i will delete my profile and come back with something more cheerful, but i still feel no matter what i write if you dont like the photo you wont meet, the competition on here is to strong for me to compete. before i sign out i would just like to say i have recieved about 30 abusive private messages, and i dont think i deserve that.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"thanks for all your replies, its a good job i got a thick skin, but it appears that not all of you have read the posts properly, i am not married and nowhere does it say i am.....my partner does know i am on here as i have said in a previous reply, and we do often talk about it, she always apologisis but says she just isnt interested in sex. i do agree with you that i come over as a bit negative, but 10 years is a long time just waiting and waiting and waiting and hoping that she finds the time to give me a little bit of attention, i guess everybody has their breaking point and i have reached mine, up until this moment i have still been faithful, for the person who wrote it doesnt matter because the intents their, i guess just by thinking about it the intents there, i"ve often thought about robbing a bank, but that dont make a criminal, so that theory doesnt make any sense to me. so given the advise from some people on here i will delete my profile and come back with something more cheerful, but i still feel no matter what i write if you dont like the photo you wont meet, the competition on here is to strong for me to compete. before i sign out i would just like to say i have recieved about 30 abusive private messages, and i dont think i deserve that."

Is £80 a lot of money to you? If yes then you need to dump your girlfriend. If no, go get laid for 30 minutes.

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By *he Stuff Of LegendMan
over a year ago

Hadfield


"thanks for all your replies, its a good job i got a thick skin, but it appears that not all of you have read the posts properly, i am not married and nowhere does it say i am.....my partner does know i am on here as i have said in a previous reply, and we do often talk about it, she always apologisis but says she just isnt interested in sex. i do agree with you that i come over as a bit negative, but 10 years is a long time just waiting and waiting and waiting and hoping that she finds the time to give me a little bit of attention, i guess everybody has their breaking point and i have reached mine, up until this moment i have still been faithful, for the person who wrote it doesnt matter because the intents their, i guess just by thinking about it the intents there, i"ve often thought about robbing a bank, but that dont make a criminal, so that theory doesnt make any sense to me. so given the advise from some people on here i will delete my profile and come back with something more cheerful, but i still feel no matter what i write if you dont like the photo you wont meet, the competition on here is to strong for me to compete. before i sign out i would just like to say i have recieved about 30 abusive private messages, and i dont think i deserve that."

You can only make your own decisions on this mate your life not ours up to you if you hurt people or not if sex is the be all or not you are the master of your own life and the direction you take with it. Good luck with what ever you decide to do.

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By *ig9incherforuMan
over a year ago

Welwyn


"thanks for all your replies, its a good job i got a thick skin, but it appears that not all of you have read the posts properly, i am not married and nowhere does it say i am.....my partner does know i am on here as i have said in a previous reply, and we do often talk about it, she always apologisis but says she just isnt interested in sex. i do agree with you that i come over as a bit negative, but 10 years is a long time just waiting and waiting and waiting and hoping that she finds the time to give me a little bit of attention, i guess everybody has their breaking point and i have reached mine, up until this moment i have still been faithful, for the person who wrote it doesnt matter because the intents their, i guess just by thinking about it the intents there, i"ve often thought about robbing a bank, but that dont make a criminal, so that theory doesnt make any sense to me. so given the advise from some people on here i will delete my profile and come back with something more cheerful, but i still feel no matter what i write if you dont like the photo you wont meet, the competition on here is to strong for me to compete. before i sign out i would just like to say i have recieved about 30 abusive private messages, and i dont think i deserve that."
I think you have shown great patience waiting ten years

I wish you luck there is someone for everyone Just be patient or maybe try other sites etc

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"thats just the sort of sarcastic and patronising response i was expecting,just to point out a few things, nowhere in my post or profile do i mention i am married, thats because i am not. we do talk about it a lot and she knows i am on here, and yes, i guess i will have to pay for it eventually, thats if the escorts dont turn me away"

Wrong site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who you're messaging. Sometimes you need to have a realistic expectation of who might find YOU attractive. I'm not sure if this is a problem but just putting it out there

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

OP...please report any abusive messages.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"i am 58 years old, and i have probably had sex about 50 times in my whole life, if i fell in a barrel full of nipples i would come out sucking my thumb, if i met a nymphomaniac she would suddenly fall ill or go off sex, there is nothing anyone can do about it, its just the way life is for me, but boy do i miss naked cuddles and feeling close to someone, its currently 10 years since i last had sex with my partner, she just dont like sex, i have been faithful in all that time, but i"m getting really fed up about it all, i wont leave her because i believe she genuinely loves me and i love her, and people keep telling me theres more to a relationship than just sex. i"ve been on this site and other sex dating sites for a couple of years and had just 2 replies, both saying no thankyou, i"m not looking for sympathy or advice as i know from reading other forum comments that most replies would be sarcastic and another long word that i cant think of, but i just needed to write things down, if anyone knows of a lady in the whole wide world that would have sex with me please pass on my details"

Sorry to read this OP. Hope you are ok and eventually find happiness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends who you're messaging. Sometimes you need to have a realistic expectation of who might find YOU attractive. I'm not sure if this is a problem but just putting it out there"

Attraction is all about personality on Fab... The Op might not be attractive to some on Fab but someone will find him attractive... We are all beautiful in our own way...

Try going to a few socials and clubs ... Being face to face is a lot better than online for single men... you will make new friends and get a few verifications...

Also you can try a sex surrogate.... this is a licensed therapist, that helps couples with their sexual problems...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok white knight. I wasn't criticising his appearance, just highlighting he might be trying with people that in a realistic world might not fancy him

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Ok white knight. I wasn't criticising his appearance, just highlighting he might be trying with people that in a realistic world might not fancy him"

If we're being honest. This is not the site for single men to build confidence they don't already have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You certainly don't deserve to get private message abuse, report them.

However I feel like your not getting the point, it's not all about "looks".. there's plenty of guys I have meet in my 4 years on here and they haven't been pin ups.

It's about the way you sell yourself.

I still get the vibe of negativity and maybe you need to work on your self esteem before trying for a meet.

Everyone is on here for abit of light hearted fun.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi

I looked at your profile after reading your post. I understand that you love your lady however after ten years I’d be asking myself if she doesn’t want or need sex and you do... can a leopard change her spots?

In other words can you wait forever for something that doesn’t happen?

What you have with her is a deep loving platonic relationship but it’s unfair to expect you to give up sex if it’s important to you. But in the end it’s upto you to decide... just don’t look back in another ten years time with bitter regrets.

Good luck Op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok white knight. I wasn't criticising his appearance, just highlighting he might be trying with people that in a realistic world might not fancy him"

Please don’t body shame.... we are all beautiful on Fab..

What is this realistic world you speak of?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i think they are implying that in a realistic world no one would fancy me, talk about kicking a man when he"s down, i forgot what i was going to say now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok white knight. I wasn't criticising his appearance, just highlighting he might be trying with people that in a realistic world might not fancy him

Please don’t body shame.... we are all beautiful on Fab..

What is this realistic world you speak of?"

No one is body shaming. Jheez.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"i think they are implying that in a realistic world no one would fancy me, talk about kicking a man when he"s down, i forgot what i was going to say now."

What you need is a devil may care attitude and a whole bunch of happy pills -that's what gets me the best slaps on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

somebody likened me to eeyore from winnie the pooh, i"ll accept that, he"s a legend

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"somebody likened me to eeyore from winnie the pooh, i"ll accept that, he"s a legend"

Again -small steps I know -but there is a lot left to do in the old marketting department

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Is it just me or has the OP already improved their profile text?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, as you are bi stick to taking cock, always a demand for that

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"Why don't you just see an escort or go to a brothel if that's really how you feel?

He will probably lose his wallet before he gets there lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok white knight. I wasn't criticising his appearance, just highlighting he might be trying with people that in a realistic world might not fancy him

Please don’t body shame.... we are all beautiful on Fab..

What is this realistic world you speak of?

No one is body shaming. Jheez."

They are implying he is not being realistic about his looks and they people he is trying to engage with on Fab...

I find it very rude and out of order.....

We need to build people’s confidence on the forums not knock them down.....

Now Op try to get to a social, search for one close to you in the forums...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me or has the OP already improved their profile text? "

Looks the same to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You say you’ve been faithful and have not strayed . But the mere fact you have s profile on here and looking without her knowledge means you are being unfaithful .

No it doesn't. He hasn't physically done anything with anyone.

It’s called intent . If I intend to commit a crime ,,,, I can be charged with that . The fact he hasn’t had sex means nothing . She doesn’t know he’s on here , which in my opinion is unfair . Shouldn’t she have an informed choice ? "

She has withdrawn the sex. Did she consider his feelings?

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Is it just me or has the OP already improved their profile text?

Looks the same to me "

Starts badly, ends well.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"You say you’ve been faithful and have not strayed . But the mere fact you have s profile on here and looking without her knowledge means you are being unfaithful .

No it doesn't. He hasn't physically done anything with anyone.

It’s called intent . If I intend to commit a crime ,,,, I can be charged with that . The fact he hasn’t had sex means nothing . She doesn’t know he’s on here , which in my opinion is unfair . Shouldn’t she have an informed choice ?

She has withdrawn the sex. Did she consider his feelings? "

Women get bored in long relationships, its not great for the libido

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You can have intimate times with your wife even if she doesn’t want sex.

My advice (which you don’t want) is to go to a social and make sure people chat to you. That way, you won’t be relying on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks again for the replies, just to answer a few points, my profile has not been changed, but it will get deleted soon, and a new one will spring up from the ashes, a vibrant happy go lucky profile with witty one liners, and a new user name, and for the 23rd time i am not married, and to the person who suggested we can be intimate without sex, oh no you cant, not with my partner, i cant go anywhere near here, if i could get so much as a naked cuddle once a month i wouldnt have started this forum post.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks for that man who pointed out my profile says i am bisexual, thats a mistake and it should say straight, so with everybodys permission i will change it.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"thanks again for the replies, just to answer a few points, my profile has not been changed, but it will get deleted soon, and a new one will spring up from the ashes, a vibrant happy go lucky profile with witty one liners, and a new user name, and for the 23rd time i am not married, and to the person who suggested we can be intimate without sex, oh no you cant, not with my partner, i cant go anywhere near here, if i could get so much as a naked cuddle once a month i wouldnt have started this forum post."

Whatever you do, coming to this site hoping to "get sex" or as an alternative to paying for sex is not a good look.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"thanks again for the replies, just to answer a few points, my profile has not been changed, but it will get deleted soon, and a new one will spring up from the ashes, a vibrant happy go lucky profile with witty one liners, and a new user name, and for the 23rd time i am not married, and to the person who suggested we can be intimate without sex, oh no you cant, not with my partner, i cant go anywhere near here, if i could get so much as a naked cuddle once a month i wouldnt have started this forum post."

Do you consider £80 a lot of money?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

of course £80 is a lot of money, but i would pay it if it helped me through my current crisis

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"of course £80 is a lot of money, but i would pay it if it helped me through my current crisis "

Well how often can you afford to spend £80 on a luxury treat (i.e. hooker)? Personally, if it's was less than 3 times a month then I'd dump your girlfriend.

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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago

London

theres always a cost if you want to cut the chase splash the cash and get that ass!!!

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"of course £80 is a lot of money, but i would pay it if it helped me through my current crisis "

But you are still here.

Why?

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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago

London

good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok white knight. I wasn't criticising his appearance, just highlighting he might be trying with people that in a realistic world might not fancy him

If we're being honest. This is not the site for single men to build confidence they don't already have. "

this if you are not confident this site will strip you of what confidence you do have so i would say take some find something that will build you up not pull you down if you dont and keep on going you will just end up in a very bad place. Good luck what ever you do tho.

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you still physically attracted to your partner?

Try to make a go of things, will the sexual aspect of your relationship develop again?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"of course £80 is a lot of money, but i would pay it if it helped me through my current crisis

But you are still here.

Why?"

Because it's shared money I suspect and quite rightly she would go nuts.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"thanks for all your replies, its a good job i got a thick skin, but it appears that not all of you have read the posts properly, i am not married and nowhere does it say i am.....my partner does know i am on here as i have said in a previous reply, and we do often talk about it, she always apologisis but says she just isnt interested in sex. i do agree with you that i come over as a bit negative, but 10 years is a long time just waiting and waiting and waiting and hoping that she finds the time to give me a little bit of attention, i guess everybody has their breaking point and i have reached mine, up until this moment i have still been faithful, for the person who wrote it doesnt matter because the intents their, i guess just by thinking about it the intents there, i"ve often thought about robbing a bank, but that dont make a criminal, so that theory doesnt make any sense to me. so given the advise from some people on here i will delete my profile and come back with something more cheerful, but i still feel no matter what i write if you dont like the photo you wont meet, the competition on here is to strong for me to compete. before i sign out i would just like to say i have recieved about 30 abusive private messages, and i dont think i deserve that."

Nobody deserves to receive abusive messages. The people who sent them should be ashamed of themselves. Report and block them OP. As regards to your problem, perhaps counselling with your partner may help to get to the root of the problem. Also as she knows you are on here, perhaps state that on your profile so people can make an informed choice as to whether to meet you or not. Good luck and try to stay positive.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"of course £80 is a lot of money, but i would pay it if it helped me through my current crisis

But you are still here.

Why?

Because it's shared money I suspect and quite rightly she would go nuts. "

How on earth would she be in the right!? If she was he, people would be saying it was emotionally abusive behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanks for all your replies, its a good job i got a thick skin, but it appears that not all of you have read the posts properly, i am not married and nowhere does it say i am.....my partner does know i am on here as i have said in a previous reply, and we do often talk about it, she always apologisis but says she just isnt interested in sex. i do agree with you that i come over as a bit negative, but 10 years is a long time just waiting and waiting and waiting and hoping that she finds the time to give me a little bit of attention, i guess everybody has their breaking point and i have reached mine, up until this moment i have still been faithful, for the person who wrote it doesnt matter because the intents their, i guess just by thinking about it the intents there, i"ve often thought about robbing a bank, but that dont make a criminal, so that theory doesnt make any sense to me. so given the advise from some people on here i will delete my profile and come back with something more cheerful, but i still feel no matter what i write if you dont like the photo you wont meet, the competition on here is to strong for me to compete. before i sign out i would just like to say i have recieved about 30 abusive private messages, and i dont think i deserve that.

Nobody deserves to receive abusive messages. The people who sent them should be ashamed of themselves. Report and block them OP. As regards to your problem, perhaps counselling with your partner may help to get to the root of the problem. Also as she knows you are on here, perhaps state that on your profile so people can make an informed choice as to whether to meet you or not. Good luck and try to stay positive. "

Couldn't agree more some comments are just embarrassing at best and vile at worst I really don't know what gives with people on here at times.

So OP keep your chin up I hope you find a good solution to your situation everyone deserves so me happiness in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanks for all your replies, its a good job i got a thick skin, but it appears that not all of you have read the posts properly, i am not married and nowhere does it say i am.....my partner does know i am on here as i have said in a previous reply, and we do often talk about it, she always apologisis but says she just isnt interested in sex. i do agree with you that i come over as a bit negative, but 10 years is a long time just waiting and waiting and waiting and hoping that she finds the time to give me a little bit of attention, i guess everybody has their breaking point and i have reached mine, up until this moment i have still been faithful, for the person who wrote it doesnt matter because the intents their, i guess just by thinking about it the intents there, i"ve often thought about robbing a bank, but that dont make a criminal, so that theory doesnt make any sense to me. so given the advise from some people on here i will delete my profile and come back with something more cheerful, but i still feel no matter what i write if you dont like the photo you wont meet, the competition on here is to strong for me to compete. before i sign out i would just like to say i have recieved about 30 abusive private messages, and i dont think i deserve that.

Nobody deserves to receive abusive messages. The people who sent them should be ashamed of themselves. Report and block them OP. As regards to your problem, perhaps counselling with your partner may help to get to the root of the problem. Also as she knows you are on here, perhaps state that on your profile so people can make an informed choice as to whether to meet you or not. Good luck and try to stay positive.

Couldn't agree more some comments are just embarrassing at best and vile at worst I really don't know what gives with people on here at times.

So OP keep your chin up I hope you find a good solution to your situation everyone deserves so me happiness in life. "

Vile?? What's vile on this thread?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"of course £80 is a lot of money, but i would pay it if it helped me through my current crisis

But you are still here.

Why?

Because it's shared money I suspect and quite rightly she would go nuts.

How on earth would she be in the right!? If she was he, people would be saying it was emotionally abusive behaviour. "

I don't think so, you cannot make people want to or have sex with you.

We do not know the whole story either just, that he wants sex and she doesn't. It's very common.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"of course £80 is a lot of money, but i would pay it if it helped me through my current crisis

But you are still here.

Why?

Because it's shared money I suspect and quite rightly she would go nuts.

How on earth would she be in the right!? If she was he, people would be saying it was emotionally abusive behaviour.

I don't think so, you cannot make people want to or have sex with you.

We do not know the whole story either just, that he wants sex and she doesn't. It's very common."

We know that the OP:

"miss(es) naked cuddles and feeling close to someone, its currently 10 years since i last had sex with my partner"

It's simply abusive to deny your partner such a basic component of a relationship. I know they aren't married but the obligations are laid out in marriage vows. It's no different to a man who controls a woman and doesn't allow her to have friends and leave the house. Both deny a basic right. Not only should she not mind the OP spending £80 to get someone to do her job for her, she should be paying for it herself as a thank you for him putting up with her as the number of men that would is minute.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I would suggest they are far from partners.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"of course £80 is a lot of money, but i would pay it if it helped me through my current crisis

But you are still here.

Why?

Because it's shared money I suspect and quite rightly she would go nuts. "

But she would not go nuts if you found free sex from one of the female users of a swingers' website.

Correct?

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london

Sounds like we married the same women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself down to a local club and ask a member of staff to make an introduction for you to a well known couple or lady.

Go with absolutely no expectations of sex and just enjoy the company of other visitors.

You should be able to get verified this way and build up some knowledge of the local scene along with some confidence.

I would caution though that what you appear to be seeking is more than sex, naked cuddles sounds a little more intimate and could lead to unwanted feelings developing on you side.

I would advise that most people here are already in committed relationships and are not seeking a connection that goes beyond friendship and good sex.

Chip up and keep trying.

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By *mbertexCouple
over a year ago

coalville

Keep you chin up life can sometimes feel a lot worse than it already is after suffering from PTSD last year i personally know things are looking up. As for nobody wanting to have sex with you its how you portray yourself Kez does not go on looks alone as long as she can connect with somebody and can make her laugh and feel comfortable she would quite happily fuck them.

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By *mbertexCouple
over a year ago

coalville

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

UK


"Get yourself down to a local club and ask a member of staff to make an introduction for you to a well known couple or lady.

Go with absolutely no expectations of sex and just enjoy the company of other visitors.

You should be able to get verified this way and build up some knowledge of the local scene along with some confidence.

I would caution though that what you appear to be seeking is more than sex, naked cuddles sounds a little more intimate and could lead to unwanted feelings developing on you side.

I would advise that most people here are already in committed relationships and are not seeking a connection that goes beyond friendship and good sex.

Chip up and keep trying."

This is great advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get yourself down to a local club and ask a member of staff to make an introduction for you to a well known couple or lady.

Go with absolutely no expectations of sex and just enjoy the company of other visitors.

You should be able to get verified this way and build up some knowledge of the local scene along with some confidence.

I would caution though that what you appear to be seeking is more than sex, naked cuddles sounds a little more intimate and could lead to unwanted feelings developing on you side.

I would advise that most people here are already in committed relationships and are not seeking a connection that goes beyond friendship and good sex.

Chip up and keep trying.

This is great advice "

I'm good at other things too

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

UK


"Get yourself down to a local club and ask a member of staff to make an introduction for you to a well known couple or lady.

Go with absolutely no expectations of sex and just enjoy the company of other visitors.

You should be able to get verified this way and build up some knowledge of the local scene along with some confidence.

I would caution though that what you appear to be seeking is more than sex, naked cuddles sounds a little more intimate and could lead to unwanted feelings developing on you side.

I would advise that most people here are already in committed relationships and are not seeking a connection that goes beyond friendship and good sex.

Chip up and keep trying.

This is great advice

I'm good at other things too"

Oh really?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I try really really hard I can tell its not butter

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Get yourself down to a local club and ask a member of staff to make an introduction for you to a well known couple or lady.

Go with absolutely no expectations of sex and just enjoy the company of other visitors.

You should be able to get verified this way and build up some knowledge of the local scene along with some confidence.

I would caution though that what you appear to be seeking is more than sex, naked cuddles sounds a little more intimate and could lead to unwanted feelings developing on you side.

I would advise that most people here are already in committed relationships and are not seeking a connection that goes beyond friendship and good sex.

Chip up and keep trying."

From what I read in the forum lots of singles are looking for more than friendship and sex. It's regularly claimed that people need a connection, that hugs and cuddles and intimacy are what they're after and personality is far more important to them than looks.

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

UK


"If I try really really hard I can tell its not butter "

That is real talent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get yourself down to a local club and ask a member of staff to make an introduction for you to a well known couple or lady.

Go with absolutely no expectations of sex and just enjoy the company of other visitors.

You should be able to get verified this way and build up some knowledge of the local scene along with some confidence.

I would caution though that what you appear to be seeking is more than sex, naked cuddles sounds a little more intimate and could lead to unwanted feelings developing on you side.

I would advise that most people here are already in committed relationships and are not seeking a connection that goes beyond friendship and good sex.

Chip up and keep trying.

From what I read in the forum lots of singles are looking for more than friendship and sex. It's regularly claimed that people need a connection, that hugs and cuddles and intimacy are what they're after and personality is far more important to them than looks.

"

That's not a bad thing, its a great thing for two people to find that connection. I just felt that reading the post's this gentleman has written, that he is struggling with confidence and could easily mistake flirting and sex for something more.

He says he is in a loving relationship but I would be worried that if someone was too nice to him he could become attached and find that after the sex has finished and playmates want to go their way, he could feel even more rejected than he seems to at present.

We all love NSA fun but it can at times it can be hard on us all.

he has been without intimacy for over 10 years so concerned the line might be too easily blurred.

I do wish the OP nothing but the absolute best luck on here and with swinging just want him to be prepared for what is likely to happen afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks again for some very interesting posts, but i"m going back to the title of this thread unlucky in sex, so now you all know about my current predicament, but going back about 20 years a met a lovely lady on a blind date, she was a bit on the cuddly side, but i like the larger ladies so i wasnt complaining, after a few drinks i invited her back to my place and luckily she said yes, as soon as we got through the door she started unzipping my trousers, we went upstairs and she threw herself on the bed, she fell straight off again and dislocated her shoulder, so that was the end of that.....on another occasion this lovely girl invited me back to her place for a romantic meal,it was a lovely evening and she asked me if i wanted to stay the night, of course i said yes, so she said " stay there i am just going in to the bedroom i will be back in a minute" so i stupidly thought she was going to put something sexy on to wear, but she came out with a duvet cover and said " you can sleep on the sofa".......i guess i am just unlucky with sex.

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

UK


"thanks again for some very interesting posts, but i"m going back to the title of this thread unlucky in sex, so now you all know about my current predicament, but going back about 20 years a met a lovely lady on a blind date, she was a bit on the cuddly side, but i like the larger ladies so i wasnt complaining, after a few drinks i invited her back to my place and luckily she said yes, as soon as we got through the door she started unzipping my trousers, we went upstairs and she threw herself on the bed, she fell straight off again and dislocated her shoulder, so that was the end of that.....on another occasion this lovely girl invited me back to her place for a romantic meal,it was a lovely evening and she asked me if i wanted to stay the night, of course i said yes, so she said " stay there i am just going in to the bedroom i will be back in a minute" so i stupidly thought she was going to put something sexy on to wear, but she came out with a duvet cover and said " you can sleep on the sofa".......i guess i am just unlucky with sex."

I’m not sure what you are trying to get at OP? People have given you some constructive advice but you don’t seem that interested?

More you’d just like to wallow in your “unluckiness”?

To me, you make your own luck in life! Chin up and start thinking about it being half full rather than broken and empty!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanks again for some very interesting posts, but i"m going back to the title of this thread unlucky in sex, so now you all know about my current predicament, but going back about 20 years a met a lovely lady on a blind date, she was a bit on the cuddly side, but i like the larger ladies so i wasnt complaining, after a few drinks i invited her back to my place and luckily she said yes, as soon as we got through the door she started unzipping my trousers, we went upstairs and she threw herself on the bed, she fell straight off again and dislocated her shoulder, so that was the end of that.....on another occasion this lovely girl invited me back to her place for a romantic meal,it was a lovely evening and she asked me if i wanted to stay the night, of course i said yes, so she said " stay there i am just going in to the bedroom i will be back in a minute" so i stupidly thought she was going to put something sexy on to wear, but she came out with a duvet cover and said " you can sleep on the sofa".......i guess i am just unlucky with sex."

Please forgive me but that was funny....

Don’t worry we have all been there....

When I was at University, I used to binge drink a lot. I was at a party and this girl wanted to hook up. But I was 3 sheets to the wind , blurred vision and couldn’t walk straight... we ended up back in her room and I went down on her...

Next thing I know she is screaming and woke up her roommate and suite mates up... I threw up all over her vagina , body , bed and floor. She was a real bitch and just threw me out into the hallway...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanks again for some very interesting posts, but i"m going back to the title of this thread unlucky in sex, so now you all know about my current predicament, but going back about 20 years a met a lovely lady on a blind date, she was a bit on the cuddly side, but i like the larger ladies so i wasnt complaining, after a few drinks i invited her back to my place and luckily she said yes, as soon as we got through the door she started unzipping my trousers, we went upstairs and she threw herself on the bed, she fell straight off again and dislocated her shoulder, so that was the end of that.....on another occasion this lovely girl invited me back to her place for a romantic meal,it was a lovely evening and she asked me if i wanted to stay the night, of course i said yes, so she said " stay there i am just going in to the bedroom i will be back in a minute" so i stupidly thought she was going to put something sexy on to wear, but she came out with a duvet cover and said " you can sleep on the sofa".......i guess i am just unlucky with sex."

That sure isn't much luck fella I hope you can smile about it now.

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Why don't you just see an escort or go to a brothel if that's really how you feel? "

Seeing a escorts will be cheaper than wining and dining a lady or few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I note that you don’t mention that you’re married on your profile. You should really include this and allow people to make their own mind up about meeting you. I know if I met someone I thought was single and they turned out to be married I’d be furious

Mrs "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanks again for some very interesting posts, but i"m going back to the title of this thread unlucky in sex, so now you all know about my current predicament, but going back about 20 years a met a lovely lady on a blind date, she was a bit on the cuddly side, but i like the larger ladies so i wasnt complaining, after a few drinks i invited her back to my place and luckily she said yes, as soon as we got through the door she started unzipping my trousers, we went upstairs and she threw herself on the bed, she fell straight off again and dislocated her shoulder, so that was the end of that.....on another occasion this lovely girl invited me back to her place for a romantic meal,it was a lovely evening and she asked me if i wanted to stay the night, of course i said yes, so she said " stay there i am just going in to the bedroom i will be back in a minute" so i stupidly thought she was going to put something sexy on to wear, but she came out with a duvet cover and said " you can sleep on the sofa".......i guess i am just unlucky with sex.

I’m not sure what you are trying to get at OP? People have given you some constructive advice but you don’t seem that interested?

More you’d just like to wallow in your “unluckiness”?

To me, you make your own luck in life! Chin up and start thinking about it being half full rather than broken and empty!!! "

I agree.

There’s only so many times you can keep talking about the past and all the bad luck you’ve had until it gets boring.

Move forward. If your partner doesn’t even touch you maybe you need to have a chat about your feelings.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Do you still hold hands, show your partner that you still care for her? I’d suggest couples counselling for you both. You say you still love her but your living like flatmates not partners.

I don’t think that seeking any form of non-sexual contact would help even though you think it would. If it’s not from the person you want it from you may feel worse about yourself. A hug from a friend isn’t the same as one from a lover that cares about you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I note that you don’t mention that you’re married on your profile. You should really include this and allow people to make their own mind up about meeting you. I know if I met someone I thought was single and they turned out to be married I’d be furious

Mrs

"

thays because i am not married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I note that you don’t mention that you’re married on your profile. You should really include this and allow people to make their own mind up about meeting you. I know if I met someone I thought was single and they turned out to be married I’d be furious

Mrs

thays because i am not married"

Yes I see you said.

The original post I still agree with.

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Chill out stick a suit on, people want fun and laughs make your profile sound that kick the feeling sorry for myself grab the balls, sound like a man folks want to meet.

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

UK


"I note that you don’t mention that you’re married on your profile. You should really include this and allow people to make their own mind up about meeting you. I know if I met someone I thought was single and they turned out to be married I’d be furious

Mrs

thays because i am not married"

But you ARE in a long term relationship. From my perspective you are just splitting hairs. The simple fact is you are attached, you’re not single and I think it’s only fair you are upfront about that

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"of course £80 is a lot of money, but i would pay it if it helped me through my current crisis

But you are still here.

Why?

Because it's shared money I suspect and quite rightly she would go nuts.

But she would not go nuts if you found free sex from one of the female users of a swingers' website.

Correct?"

Both I would imagine, who knows really its their relationship of sorts

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"of course £80 is a lot of money, but i would pay it if it helped me through my current crisis

But you are still here.

Why?

Because it's shared money I suspect and quite rightly she would go nuts.

How on earth would she be in the right!? If she was he, people would be saying it was emotionally abusive behaviour.

I don't think so, you cannot make people want to or have sex with you.

We do not know the whole story either just, that he wants sex and she doesn't. It's very common.

We know that the OP:

"miss(es) naked cuddles and feeling close to someone, its currently 10 years since i last had sex with my partner"

It's simply abusive to deny your partner such a basic component of a relationship. I know they aren't married but the obligations are laid out in marriage vows. It's no different to a man who controls a woman and doesn't allow her to have friends and leave the house. Both deny a basic right. Not only should she not mind the OP spending £80 to get someone to do her job for her, she should be paying for it herself as a thank you for him putting up with her as the number of men that would is minute. "

Great post. Well said

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I note that you don’t mention that you’re married on your profile. You should really include this and allow people to make their own mind up about meeting you. I know if I met someone I thought was single and they turned out to be married I’d be furious

Mrs

thays because i am not married

But you ARE in a long term relationship. From my perspective you are just splitting hairs. The simple fact is you are attached, you’re not single and I think it’s only fair you are upfront about that "

Agree with this point.

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