FabSwingers.com forum: Soon to be single!

By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I've decided to finally divorce after years of disinterest from the current Mrs Munky.

There's no kids involved, I'll be staying in the house and will be single for the first time in a decade.

To say I'm excited would be an understatement, I've kept fab a secret from her all this time,but have told her I'm poly, have transgressed and need a fresh start, travelling and more clubs are first thing on my agenda!

Any words of encouragement and/or tips would be greatly appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep it civil. Even if no kids are involved is just easier on everyone to be nice.

Other than that try the VA is awesome

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By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I think it'll be civil,we're best friends not lovers.

Ta!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck... And enjoy being single

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By *ulip5567Woman
over a year ago

Swindon

Only bit of advice I can offer is keep a good social circle around you and enjoy yourself.

You can now focus on being you and doing what makes you tick without having to consider someone else, it's a wonderful kind of freedom, embrace it

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By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Cheers, it'll be a long road. I've never broken a heart before, butt it's in both our best interests.

My best mate is back from 10 years in London and I've a fair few ladies I have my eye on.

I fall in love quite quickly. It's the big heart!

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By *ulip5567Woman
over a year ago

Swindon

"Cheers, it'll be a long road. I've never broken a heart before, butt it's in both our best interests.

My best mate is back from 10 years in London and I've a fair few ladies I have my eye on.

I fall in love quite quickly. It's the big heart!

Nooooo! No falling in love, it's too soon!

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By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Well if they're poly too it'll be a happy family..

That's the dream anyway..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone deserves to be happy were the words my Auntie said to me when my marriage was breaking down.

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By *ulip5567Woman
over a year ago

Swindon

"Well if they're poly too it'll be a happy family..

That's the dream anyway.."

Of course, and if that works for you then that's awesome.

I just think you need to be a bit careful with your emotions and allow a bit of time to heal and process stuff after such a long relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best thing I ever did... ex husband and I are still great mates and we both have more suitable lifestyles. Good luck! It's a great weight to lift

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck in your new adventures op....

Have fun and try not to break to many hearts along the way

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By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I hope that'll be the case.

We're so different now, still best buds, butt I need a change of pace.

Fab opened my eyes to a world I feel so at place with. My first time in a club I was at total peace.

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By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm a lovemaker not a heartbreaker. I hope!

I think being in this marriage has broken some hearts to be fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a lovemaker not a heartbreaker. I hope!

I think being in this marriage has broken some hearts to be fair.

Well i hope you have lots of fun x

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By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Me too Pure x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me too Pure x"

Awwwww

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

Wonder if your relationship would have lasted if you'd put as much effort into it if you had on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cheers, it'll be a long road. I've never broken a heart before, butt it's in both our best interests.

My best mate is back from 10 years in London and I've a fair few ladies I have my eye on.

I fall in love quite quickly. It's the big heart!

Do NOT go falling in love again. Enjoy your new found single life and freedom and all the opportunities and fun that can bring.

You don't need do be in love to have a fulfilling life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wonder if your relationship would have lasted if you'd put as much effort into it if you had on here?"

Doubtful as he's already said that they are best friends and not lovers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Main thing is you sound happy, as you were clearly in a situation you didn't want to be in..so congratulations.

Can't say its always easy for the single males though on fab.

I hope you have a great time and good luck along the way with the meets..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take some time for yourself. Keep things simple, stay off fab and complicated fookery. Enjoy rediscovering things you enjoy and whatever they maybe. Laughter, friends and self-interests will give you peace; much more important then happiness.

When you’re ready, give that heart to someone and enjoy loving again x good luck OP X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hope that'll be the case.

We're so different now, still best buds, butt I need a change of pace.

Fab opened my eyes to a world I feel so at place with. My first time in a club I was at total peace.

I had that...it was almost like coming home to a place where everyone was just like me, instead of feeling like and alien in my own world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only advice I'd give is don't be seen to revel in your new found singleness or worse not be tempted to. She may see your new found 'happiness' and take it personally. That will not end well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a hard thing to go through , as said before keep it amicable and you can both do some leg work on the legals saves giving divorce lawyers huge amounts of money

Good luck to you both

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

Just bear in mind that no matter how amicable it seems initially there will be bumps along the way that can really make it hard. Don't expect it all to be plain sailing and if you are going to immediately fall in love again, even if the split is for the best, be discreet about it. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enjoy your new found freedom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wonder if your relationship would have lasted if you'd put as much effort into it if you had on here?"

How do you know he didn't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've decided to finally divorce after years of disinterest from the current Mrs Munky.

There's no kids involved, I'll be staying in the house and will be single for the first time in a decade.

Any words of encouragement and/or tips would be greatly appreciated.

All the best for the future!

You've certainly done the right thing. Enjoy your life and swinging! It's a fabulous adventure for singletons! X

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By *amRod64Man
over a year ago

Gravesend

Never been anything but

Has its pro’s and cons

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By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Cheers gals and guys, fab is a great community for this kind of stuff, things are going to bumpy. Fingers crossed we'll cross sexy paths sometime soon..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a blast making yourself happy OP! It is alot of fun rediscovering yourself for sure!

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Sign the document that keeps your future earnings safe from any clawback.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've decided to finally divorce after years of disinterest from the current Mrs Munky.

There's no kids involved, I'll be staying in the house and will be single for the first time in a decade.

Any words of encouragement and/or tips would be greatly appreciated.

As a single male I fail to see why you are excited at the thought of being single. If you have been on here a while you surely realise being a single male on fab means it is very hard to get meets.

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By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

A single unattached male is better than one playing out on the side..

I'm not new to fab so reckon I'll be dandy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've decided to finally divorce after years of disinterest from the current Mrs Munky.

There's no kids involved, I'll be staying in the house and will be single for the first time in a decade.

Any words of encouragement and/or tips would be greatly appreciated.

Get yourself to north east

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've decided to finally divorce after years of disinterest from the current Mrs Munky.

There's no kids involved, I'll be staying in the house and will be single for the first time in a decade.

Any words of encouragement and/or tips would be greatly appreciated.

As a single male I fail to see why you are excited at the thought of being single. If you have been on here a while you surely realise being a single male on fab means it is very hard to get meets. "

I reckon our Munky will have no shortage of offers! He's already established (so to speak)

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Of course theres two sides to every story , and we are only hearing yours.....

Lets hope the grass remains green for you .....all that glitters is not gold .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I where you I'd have a clean break, move out and live your separate lives, it's never 50/50. You have no reason to be each others lives, that's what think anyway, good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've decided to finally divorce after years of disinterest from the current Mrs Munky.

There's no kids involved, I'll be staying in the house and will be single for the first time in a decade.

Any words of encouragement and/or tips would be greatly appreciated.

I was in exactly the same position, well almost, as swinging was open. But stated single for about 2 days. And that was too long, lol.

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By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

The possibilities are open, we need to make a start on things soon, I've got a lot on my to-do list to do, not just in the swinging world.

Cheers everyone!

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