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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anyone finding it a bit difficult to get meets either due to age or single people`s now infamous reputation as being time wasters on site due to some select individuals?

love to hear everyone's view on this.

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By *erminxWoman
over a year ago

Quinton

I don't mind a young guy, and single is my preference, but when messaging me they tend to turn me off by being immature, I know not all are but it does tend to put a girl off, but I do like the stamina they come with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined to meet older couples. So whilst its a nicheè market so to speak i meet quite a few older couples looking for young lads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have teenage daughter, so if people are to young then its abit weird, over 30s is our prefferance, and our experiance is that younger offten meens inexperianced

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

seems there is at least a positive to being young ..How immature? took me a while to get to grips with the site may be its just being overly keen at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iam 24 yrs old and have met up with quite a few older couples but then again as a buisiness manager iam very mature and i have had lots of previous experience sexually so i shold really be a catch lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a good profile with photos good start

hope you meet some lovely prople x

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By *.S.SMan
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

All my meets have been with couples/women who are 35+...Just be yourself, nd txt speak puts ppl off lyk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone finding it a bit difficult to get meets either due to age or single people`s now infamous reputation as being time wasters on site due to some select individuals?

love to hear everyone's view on this."

yeah i get turned down all time for being to old lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anyone finding it a bit difficult to get meets either due to age or single people`s now infamous reputation as being time wasters on site due to some select individuals?

love to hear everyone's view on this.

yeah i get turned down all time for being to old lol"

no way really from your picture i cant believe that to be true

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

THE STICKS

if your struggling to get meets, it's more likely that it's down to something you are doing - or not doing - rather than due to timewasters.

Genuine people are easy to spot - as are those who are less than genuine.

Don't get hung up on your age either - there's a million reasons why someone wouldn't want to meet you - think about why they WOULD

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Anyone finding it a bit difficult to get meets either due to age or single people`s now infamous reputation as being time wasters on site due to some select individuals?

love to hear everyone's view on this."

here we go again......

some people don't fancy playing with someone old enough to be mum or dad...

some people don't fancy playing with people young enough to be son or daughter...

as if someone has 18 to 39 as an age range on there own profile, I don't think they are in much of a position to be questioning other peoples preferences...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anyone finding it a bit difficult to get meets either due to age or single people`s now infamous reputation as being time wasters on site due to some select individuals?

love to hear everyone's view on this.

here we go again......

some people don't fancy playing with someone old enough to be mum or dad...

some people don't fancy playing with people young enough to be son or daughter...

as if someone has 18 to 39 as an age range on there own profile, I don't think they are in much of a position to be questioning other peoples preferences..."

wasn't questioning anyone's preferences was just meant to be an engaging general conversation among swingers. you stated some points as a curious individual that was my main thrust for the post to gain some perspective and peoples view points is all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if your struggling to get meets, it's more likely that it's down to something you are doing - or not doing - rather than due to timewasters.

Genuine people are easy to spot - as are those who are less than genuine.

Don't get hung up on your age either - there's a million reasons why someone wouldn't want to meet you - think about why they WOULD

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great reply but was speaking from my own personal experiences and that has been the main pointers i have received etc hence the post.But i do realize there are a billion reasons one could not get a meet but i was stating reasons relative to me.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Anyone finding it a bit difficult to get meets either due to age or single people`s now infamous reputation as being time wasters on site due to some select individuals?

love to hear everyone's view on this.

here we go again......

some people don't fancy playing with someone old enough to be mum or dad...

some people don't fancy playing with people young enough to be son or daughter...

as if someone has 18 to 39 as an age range on there own profile, I don't think they are in much of a position to be questioning other peoples preferences...

wasn't questioning anyone's preferences was just meant to be an engaging general conversation among swingers. you stated some points as a curious individual that was my main thrust for the post to gain some perspective and peoples view points is all"

but again.. it coming back to age range.... why do you have 18 to 39 on your profile for example.... because probable that is where you feel comfortable...

and the same probably goes for other people and their prospective on age....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone finding it a bit difficult to get meets either due to age or single people`s now infamous reputation as being time wasters on site due to some select individuals?

love to hear everyone's view on this.

yeah i get turned down all time for being to old lol

no way really from your picture i cant believe that to be true "

i dont think ive ever had a meet with someone i have made first contact with i either dont get a reply or a no thanks, everyone i have ever met off here have always contacted me first

To be honest i stopped mailing guys first because it just seemed a waste of time, just because im a single woman dont mean i can pick and choose who i meet like lots of people think it does

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anyone finding it a bit difficult to get meets either due to age or single people`s now infamous reputation as being time wasters on site due to some select individuals?

love to hear everyone's view on this.

yeah i get turned down all time for being to old lol

no way really from your picture i cant believe that to be true

i dont think ive ever had a meet with someone i have made first contact with i either dont get a reply or a no thanks, everyone i have ever met off here have always contacted me first

To be honest i stopped mailing guys first because it just seemed a waste of time, just because im a single woman dont mean i can pick and choose who i meet like lots of people think it does "

i think that's a view most guys would share bit of a surprise its not true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one thing that usually puts people off is no face pic and cannot accom, it maybe true your with housemates, but always counts against you and plenty of couples will think your attached. thats just the way things are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv tried many different message styles and can spot the genuines from the fakes.. However I probably get a reply to 1 in 10 messages. I just think a polite no thanks costs nothing.

When u make an effort with ur pics and profile u should obtain some success

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As admin point out in their Q&A page it is not rude not to reply just means you are not what they are looking for .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age and maturity don't always have a direct correlation! I've met guys and ladies in their very early 20s and had great times. Sadly I'm far too old for the OP ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Iv tried many different message styles and can spot the genuines from the fakes.. However I probably get a reply to 1 in 10 messages. I just think a polite no thanks costs nothing.

When u make an effort with ur pics and profile u should obtain some success"

i do understand where your coming from and to be honest even tho i do not reply to mail from men im not interetsed in i also think a polite no thanks is good manners

which is a bit of a contradiction i know

but

i got so many rude replies from guys i send a no thanks to that i just stopped sending no thaks replies

Lots of guys on here are only polite when they think they are getting somewhere but as soon as they get a message back stating you dont want to meet them all of a sudden their manners change

Ive had messages back asking me who the fuck do i think i am to turn them down, how they can do better than me down the put, how im nothing special myself to be telling them they not my type, one guys called me a two bit used whore who only comes on here because im to ugly to get sex in real life, etc etc etc

and all of these comments come from just sending a polite no thanks to an offer

so how many times do you put up with such abuse before you stop sending no thnaks replies and just ignor men your not interested in

the problem is most of the subjects men moan about are situations they have created themselves, its just sad that the nice ones have to suffer because of the way the childish ones act

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good post naughtynymphos and that was my experience too when I had a single female profile. The guy that called me a whore didn't say I was two bit so my prices must be lower than yours! Lol Ms

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By *awkeye and HotlipsCouple
over a year ago

Takeley

We have had our fair share of interest, from single folk of both sexes. They have been from within, and outside our age range. It's different for everyone. As stated, it is a preference. A bit of what everyone has said rings true: having kids of a similar age, stamina, experience, cougar/toyboy, it all fits. The thing is, this is a site, where ( for the most part ) people know what they are here for. People can choose there preferences, like in life as to what they want or like. There is a profile to suit everyone, out there!

It is not a critisism of someone because your profile/preferences do not fit, it is a choice. We have all had the thanks, but no thanks message. Appreciating honesty is what it's all about and move on! Remember, everyone's different!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what makes me laugh is your a whore because you dont want to fuck them

how does that work

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By *irtyleedsladMan
over a year ago

leeds

it been said before i know, but there are a lot of 'single' guys who are cheating and who just try to play the number game and this in turn puts people off single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been turned down for meets because of my(fem) age usual reasons are, kids, people think im going to be immature, or people think that i am inexperienced and dont know how to have decent sex. all valid reasons for *most* 22 yr olds i guess..

I prefer older women and mark usually prefers older women.. but its a tough market out there as they say...

you just have to hope to find some people who are willing to either look past your age/their prejudices and or want to play with younger people.

we have had fun with loads of older couples and a few elusive single fems alot of the time when we play at a club people are surprised to find out my age afterwards because i dont fit in with the social stereotype of a young person.

but you will find its much harder for young single guys than it is for any other group of people..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont actually have a problem with young people as such, they just make me feel very insecure, and i know thats not their fault and my problem is with me, but theres just no way i getting ,my flabby bits and stretch marks out next to someone in their 20s

When i mail back young guys and say they to young for me i get replies back from them saying how mature they are for their age and how good they are at sex like im someone how putting them down for their age, and im really not, im sure they are great guys but if something makes you feel uncomfy your not going to do it

Im not going to have a good time with a 21 year old if im just feeling self conscious though out the who meet, if im not relaxed im not going to give them a good time as im just going to constantly be trying to hide my saggy bits and trying to keep in possitions where they avoid seeing me, ive done it, ive met younger guys and i just dont enjoy the way it make me feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont actually have a problem with young people as such, they just make me feel very insecure, and i know thats not their fault and my problem is with me, but theres just no way i getting ,my flabby bits and stretch marks out next to someone in their 20s

When i mail back young guys and say they to young for me i get replies back from them saying how mature they are for their age and how good they are at sex like im someone how putting them down for their age, and im really not, im sure they are great guys but if something makes you feel uncomfy your not going to do it

Im not going to have a good time with a 21 year old if im just feeling self conscious though out the who meet, if im not relaxed im not going to give them a good time as im just going to constantly be trying to hide my saggy bits and trying to keep in possitions where they avoid seeing me, ive done it, ive met younger guys and i just dont enjoy the way it make me feel"

take it from someone young.. i would kill for your body, "saggy bits" and all.. you have a gorgeous womanly body.. and beleive me,,, i have saggy bits too.. not all young women have perfectly tight toned bodies like porn stars... some of us dont have surgeons that are that good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Iam 24 yrs old and have met up with quite a few older couples but then again as a buisiness manager iam very mature and i have had lots of previous experience sexually so i shold really be a catch lol "

Being a business manager doesn't make you mature, it just means that you have worked hard and have the ability to do the job

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I do like young men very much, but I've met a few who have given me the impression that they were disappointed when I took my clothes off. I am aware that I am the same age as Julia Roberts, but that's where the resemblance ends.

Not all young men are like that by any means, and I have had some lovely meets, but I do feel that they think a mature lady is a young lady with less hang ups whereas, in my case anyway, I am a young lady with 20 years gravity applied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single people are not the only timewasters but for me the age will get in the way as I prefer my own age group

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By *irtyleedsladMan
over a year ago

leeds


"I do like young men very much, but I've met a few who have given me the impression that they were disappointed when I took my clothes off. I am aware that I am the same age as Julia Roberts, but that's where the resemblance ends.

Not all young men are like that by any means, and I have had some lovely meets, but I do feel that they think a mature lady is a young lady with less hang ups whereas, in my case anyway, I am a young lady with 20 years gravity applied."

for me the attraction in an older woman is in the whole package. Sorry to sound cheesy but its in the mind, body and soul.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wyrdwoman-get your coat coz it looks like you've pulled!!!!

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By *irtyleedsladMan
over a year ago

leeds


"Wyrdwoman-get your coat coz it looks like you've pulled!!!! "

It goes out to any older lady to be honest!! the whole point of some one wanting to meet a mature lady/couple is because of the fact they ARE older. and the things that are assoiciated with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Age and maturity don't always have a direct correlation! I've met guys and ladies in their very early 20s and had great times. Sadly I'm far too old for the OP ms"

lol by that profile picture i regret stating age limit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Age and maturity don't always have a direct correlation! I've met guys and ladies in their very early 20s and had great times. Sadly I'm far too old for the OP ms

lol by that profile picture i regret stating age limit "

Thank you for the compliment. Not bad for an old bird hey???

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"for me the attraction in an older woman is in the whole package. Sorry to sound cheesy but its in the mind, body and soul.

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Obviously I'm not pointing fingers, but thats what the other guys said. One of them stated he'd met older women before. So maybe it's just terror that makes then silent and frowning when I get my kit off.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Wyrdwoman-get your coat coz it looks like you've pulled!!!!

It goes out to any older lady to be honest!! the whole point of some one wanting to meet a mature lady/couple is because of the fact they ARE older. and the things that are assoiciated with it.

"

I think younger people should also be honest. Do they actually want to meet older people, with their saggy bits and years of cynicism, or have they recently watched a porn where the 'cougar' is barely 5 years older than them, and think we're all like that?

Goes both ways.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Age and maturity don't always have a direct correlation! I've met guys and ladies in their very early 20s and had great times. Sadly I'm far too old for the OP ms

lol by that profile picture i regret stating age limit

Thank you for the compliment. Not bad for an old bird hey??? "

yep not bad at all and what old bird..body off a young lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Iv tried many different message styles and can spot the genuines from the fakes.. However I probably get a reply to 1 in 10 messages. I just think a polite no thanks costs nothing.

When u make an effort with ur pics and profile u should obtain some success"

It is polite, yes. At the same time many couples and single women get a great many messages and sometimes they just don't have the time to send every messager a reply. This site needs a "thanks but no thanks' button like another site we use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

at the end of the day i dont see the problem with no replies

dont mean to sound hartless but everyone who cold calls other profiles gets them, male/female and couples.

you can see in sent items if they have read/deleted your message,

I use that message status, combined with how much time has passed to be your polite no thanks!

sitting there thinking about others ruining it for you is the wrong mindset to have to get meets on here, they are not costing you meets at all!

be thick skinned and dont worry about it, coz negativity does not get you meets - even if your comments are justified, all the no reply means is your not what they are looking for.

if you want to improove your chances then look at ways to improove your profile/photos/out going message.

but even with everything to the best possible message and profile you can make, its no guarantee that your going to get instant success,

its best to make friends first and the shags will take care of themselves!

most people who lead in with trying to get a meet in the first few messages i think only ever going to get success with couples who want another man/couple at short notice. they are kinda right place right time meets and down to chance (and being on the website on a night on the right days when alot of couples have fun)

your not going to pull many single women as in my expierence they dont normally do rush meets and most like to feel safe and have some sort of connection as well before they meet someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely agree with your last comment, I like a connection, feel safe, if I am having a conversation with someone and feel rushed, I don't want to meet them as to me, its horny desperation

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I always struggle with anyone age 24 and under.... it just doesn't work in my head. So I run a mile.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Only meet young singles so I guess we are doing our bit. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Only meet young singles so I guess we are doing our bit. Lol"

a contribution i am sure is appreciated

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