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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is there any single or married bi curious guys that are out there that would like to try being with a man but are a little nervous? I was in that position once and can let you know what its like, how you might feel etc from experiences i've had. Also experiences of saunas. Get intouch and i'll try to help and advise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message sent!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So are you bi or straight then fella?

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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago

belfast


"So are you bi or straight then fella? "
I think he is curious

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

1. Don't call me fella please

2. Why don't you come and ask?

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"1. Don't call me fella please

2. Why don't you come and ask?"

Are you not a fella (aka a male of the species) then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"1. Don't call me fella please

2. Why don't you come and ask?

Are you not a fella (aka a male of the species) then? "

to me its a derogatory term thats all.

its like calling you a prick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So are you straight or bi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So are you straight or bi?"

Aye i wondered to xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"1. Don't call me fella please

2. Why don't you come and ask?

Are you not a fella (aka a male of the species) then?

to me its a derogatory term thats all.

its like calling you a prick"

are you mental????

how is calling someone a fella anything like calling someone a prick!

chill down, its almost christmas matey

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By *acciWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Anyway kiddies winks no fallin out or Santa wont come lol,but u do need to answer hun u Bi or Straight ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

are you mental????

how is calling someone a fella anything like calling someone a prick!

"

I thought that at first, then thought maybe the OP was getting confused with the term 'little fella'

possibly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now, now people. This is Fab, the only place on the planet where "straight" people have same sex experiences every time they meet others for sex. It's "bi playful" don't you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

are you mental????

how is calling someone a fella anything like calling someone a prick!

I thought that at first, then thought maybe the OP was getting confused with the term 'little fella'

possibly? "

He's confused about something!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

are you mental????

how is calling someone a fella anything like calling someone a prick!

I thought that at first, then thought maybe the OP was getting confused with the term 'little fella'

possibly? "

Guess that could be it, perhaps he will enlighten us all about and whether he is bi or straight! It's such a cliff hanger!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

are you mental????

how is calling someone a fella anything like calling someone a prick!

I thought that at first, then thought maybe the OP was getting confused with the term 'little fella'

possibly? "

Was going to mail you direct but i sit outside your age range

Anyway great pics and profile! Hope you feel better soon Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to spell it out clearly for you in case you missed the point, why does your profile say ur straight when ur starting a thread about being bisexual. um HELLOOO? Fs likes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any single or married bi curious guys that are out there that would like to try being with a man but are a little nervous? I was in that position once and can let you know what its like, how you might feel etc from experiences i've had. Also experiences of saunas. Get intouch and i'll try to help and advise"

No one is going to take you seriously posting this message as a 'straight fella'. If you are bi, then it's best to adjust your profile so you attract the right people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree so many confused straight maybe bi maube straight maybe bi maybe straight tick tock talk about swining lol only a few openly admitt keep straight profile as puts alot of couples off mmm i wonder have a kool yule x

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"1. Don't call me fella please

2. Why don't you come and ask?

Are you not a fella (aka a male of the species) then?

to me its a derogatory term thats all.

its like calling you a prick"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

God its like eastenders isn't it.

Well i'm......(cue themetune)

No i'll tell you. I'm bi but some people on here don't like the fact the guy is. Its wrong i know and i shouldn't have changed it but it seems some people are judgemental (or just mental)

And the word fella is frowned upon in my place of work. To "F" bomb someone is not good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"God its like eastenders isn't it.

Well i'm......(cue themetune)

No i'll tell you. I'm bi but some people on here don't like the fact the guy is. Its wrong i know and i shouldn't have changed it but it seems some people are judgemental (or just mental)

And the word fella is frowned upon in my place of work. To "F" bomb someone is not good."

You do realise you'll never appeal to everyone, right? Therefore, why not put on your profile what YOU want. Think of the double fun you can have with a couple with a bi male.

Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"God its like eastenders isn't it.

Well i'm......(cue themetune)

No i'll tell you. I'm bi but some people on here don't like the fact the guy is. Its wrong i know and i shouldn't have changed it but it seems some people are judgemental (or just mental)

And the word fella is frowned upon in my place of work. To "F" bomb someone is not good.

You do realise you'll never appeal to everyone, right? Therefore, why not put on your profile what YOU want. Think of the double fun you can have with a couple with a bi male.

Just a thought."

well according to the opening gambit, he's not here for himself, merely to help and assist and guide the confused and curious men of fab

sorry, but what a load of bollocks !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never heard that calling someone whos name you don't know 'Fella' is insulting, different places/people use sir, mate, pal, lad, mush, la, Mr

Other people please post what is used your way

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"God its like eastenders isn't it.

Well i'm......(cue themetune)

No i'll tell you. I'm bi but some people on here don't like the fact the guy is. Its wrong i know and i shouldn't have changed it but it seems some people are judgemental (or just mental)

And the word fella is frowned upon in my place of work. To "F" bomb someone is not good.

You do realise you'll never appeal to everyone, right? Therefore, why not put on your profile what YOU want. Think of the double fun you can have with a couple with a bi male.

Just a thought.

well according to the opening gambit, he's not here for himself, merely to help and assist and guide the confused and curious men of fab

sorry, but what a load of bollocks !"

what are peoples problem? i literally posted to see if anyone needed to ask whats its like the first time. I wish i hadn't bothered. Quite a few people have actually asked me about it and i have explained what i went through. Whether it helped or not i don't know.

I've now changed profile back again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"God its like eastenders isn't it.

Well i'm......(cue themetune)

No i'll tell you. I'm bi but some people on here don't like the fact the guy is. Its wrong i know and i shouldn't have changed it but it seems some people are judgemental (or just mental)

And the word fella is frowned upon in my place of work. To "F" bomb someone is not good.

You do realise you'll never appeal to everyone, right? Therefore, why not put on your profile what YOU want. Think of the double fun you can have with a couple with a bi male.

Just a thought.

well according to the opening gambit, he's not here for himself, merely to help and assist and guide the confused and curious men of fab

sorry, but what a load of bollocks !

what are peoples problem? i literally posted to see if anyone needed to ask whats its like the first time. I wish i hadn't bothered. Quite a few people have actually asked me about it and i have explained what i went through. Whether it helped or not i don't know.

I've now changed profile back again. "

there is no problem, offering assistance in such a way comes across as somewhat self righteous

maybe that is misinterpreted, but we know how easy it is to misinterpret things on here - such as the use of the innocuous term 'fella'

whilst i have no doubt that during your quest to find your true sexuality, u went on a journey that brought both agony and ectascy.

the journey however, was yours and therefore personal to you.

what worked for you, wont work for everyone as our situations are unique and that is where i feel your intentions are flawed and misguided.

guys need to find their own level in their own time in a manner that suits them.

like you, i have also had a journey of self discovery sexuality wise, but in no way would i profer to provide advice or guidance in the matter.

i am not a trained psychologist, relationship counsellor or sex counsellor and neither am i an expert in laying out paths and plans for other people.

if they ask, i will talk openly about my experience but i never offer and more importantly i will always add 'whatever worked for me, won't necessarily work for you'

when i see 'offers' like the one you made, the first thing that springs to mind is that it is someone who doesn't necessarily want to help, but rather it is someone who fancies bedding himself a few 'first timers' which all bi and gay men assume to be the golden chalice.

if that is not the case, then you have my apologies, but either way, i do not think you are qualified to offer the advice and guidance you seem to offer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"God its like eastenders isn't it.

Well i'm......(cue themetune)

No i'll tell you. I'm bi but some people on here don't like the fact the guy is. Its wrong i know and i shouldn't have changed it but it seems some people are judgemental (or just mental)

And the word fella is frowned upon in my place of work. To "F" bomb someone is not good.

You do realise you'll never appeal to everyone, right? Therefore, why not put on your profile what YOU want. Think of the double fun you can have with a couple with a bi male.

Just a thought.

well according to the opening gambit, he's not here for himself, merely to help and assist and guide the confused and curious men of fab

sorry, but what a load of bollocks !

what are peoples problem? i literally posted to see if anyone needed to ask whats its like the first time. I wish i hadn't bothered. Quite a few people have actually asked me about it and i have explained what i went through. Whether it helped or not i don't know.

I've now changed profile back again.

there is no problem, offering assistance in such a way comes across as somewhat self righteous

maybe that is misinterpreted, but we know how easy it is to misinterpret things on here - such as the use of the innocuous term 'fella'

whilst i have no doubt that during your quest to find your true sexuality, u went on a journey that brought both agony and ectascy.

the journey however, was yours and therefore personal to you.

what worked for you, wont work for everyone as our situations are unique and that is where i feel your intentions are flawed and misguided.

guys need to find their own level in their own time in a manner that suits them.

like you, i have also had a journey of self discovery sexuality wise, but in no way would i profer to provide advice or guidance in the matter.

i am not a trained psychologist, relationship counsellor or sex counsellor and neither am i an expert in laying out paths and plans for other people.

if they ask, i will talk openly about my experience but i never offer and more importantly i will always add 'whatever worked for me, won't necessarily work for you'

when i see 'offers' like the one you made, the first thing that springs to mind is that it is someone who doesn't necessarily want to help, but rather it is someone who fancies bedding himself a few 'first timers' which all bi and gay men assume to be the golden chalice.

if that is not the case, then you have my apologies, but either way, i do not think you are qualified to offer the advice and guidance you seem to offer.

"

thank you for explaining that like you have.

i totally understand where you're coming from and it was totally meant for just explaining what someone might be feeling like that is all.

I really wish i hadn't posted anything now as like you said everyone is different.

It was purely innocent but i should have thought about it first.

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

We thought having read it that it was a lovely gesture. It didn't read in a sense that someone had to meet and for the op were to be rewarded for his grooming.

Opinions seem harsh on this one. Each to their own i guess. But should he be sincere that barrage would be a tad unfair.

Aaaanymay hippy crumble ye' all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not the offer that was an issue more that when you posted you were listed as straight so was a tad confusing.

And also you bizarre loathing of the "F Word" no not Fuck for all those out there joining late but the use of "Fella!"

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

It's an overly used term up here.

Same as ladies that object to love,pet,flower etc.

Personally i'd rather not be addressed as fella.

Mr FJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing is with peoples profiles is they only put what they want others to know

I really cant see a problem with putting your straight if your bi, if someone contacts you saying they are bi when they have straight on their profile it really dont take much working out why they have put it

I myself have straight on my profile when i am bi, this is to stop couples messaging me and i dont meet couples so find it easier to just say im straight rather than go thro why i dont meet couples when im bi with every couple that mails me

does this make me a liar? maybe, does it make me dishonest? maybe, do i care....no lol im not tricking anyone i only meet single guys and let me honest how many of them do you think wouldnt meet me if i did have bi on my profile? i honestly dont think any would care if i was bi or straight, so im not doing it to trick anyone its just to save me repeating myself over and over to couples who mail me

And mybe guys who have straight have their own personal reasons

not everything on here is done for the worse, people just like to think the worse of others

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Agreed. Well said x

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By *ryanythingonce2Man
over a year ago

barnsley


"Thing is with peoples profiles is they only put what they want others to know

I really cant see a problem with putting your straight if your bi, if someone contacts you saying they are bi when they have straight on their profile it really dont take much working out why they have put it

I myself have straight on my profile when i am bi, this is to stop couples messaging me and i dont meet couples so find it easier to just say im straight rather than go thro why i dont meet couples when im bi with every couple that mails me

does this make me a liar? maybe, does it make me dishonest? maybe, do i care....no lol im not tricking anyone i only meet single guys and let me honest how many of them do you think wouldnt meet me if i did have bi on my profile? i honestly dont think any would care if i was bi or straight, so im not doing it to trick anyone its just to save me repeating myself over and over to couples who mail me

And mybe guys who have straight have their own personal reasons

not everything on here is done for the worse, people just like to think the worse of others "

well said most of the bi cpls i meet all have str8 on there profiles but in there 1st few mails they make it very clear they are looking for a bi male i for one have no problem some are happy to have bi some not everyone too there own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing is with peoples profiles is they only put what they want others to know

I really cant see a problem with putting your straight if your bi, if someone contacts you saying they are bi when they have straight on their profile it really dont take much working out why they have put it

I myself have straight on my profile when i am bi, this is to stop couples messaging me and i dont meet couples so find it easier to just say im straight rather than go thro why i dont meet couples when im bi with every couple that mails me

does this make me a liar? maybe, does it make me dishonest? maybe, do i care....no lol im not tricking anyone i only meet single guys and let me honest how many of them do you think wouldnt meet me if i did have bi on my profile? i honestly dont think any would care if i was bi or straight, so im not doing it to trick anyone its just to save me repeating myself over and over to couples who mail me

And mybe guys who have straight have their own personal reasons

not everything on here is done for the worse, people just like to think the worse of others "

I have on my profile in a Domme. If I started a thread offering advice to subs, offering to share my sub experience and how I felt I would expect people to say "erm Sassy, what drugs are you on?" The op stated he was straight but offering advice to bi men.

If people think that doesn't need to be questioned good for them...personally I would. If others find that harsh, c'est la vie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

his profile says he is bi curious!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"his profile says he is bi curious!"

it was changed earlier this morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree some people don't want to advertise to the world that they are bi,because for one if you haven't told your nearest and dearest then i think saying your straight is fine,and only a white lie Merry Christmas everyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Many thanks to the supportive people on here.

It honestly was an innocent gesture, i didn't intend to annoy anyone.

Merry Christmas everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"his profile says he is bi curious!"

It does now...he changed it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's an overly used term up here.

Same as ladies that object to love,pet,flower etc.

Personally i'd rather not be addressed as fella.

Mr FJ"

Like it or hate it, people will still use the term. But it is a little different and less offensive then profit which the OP compared it to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's an overly used term up here.

Same as ladies that object to love,pet,flower etc.

Personally i'd rather not be addressed as fella.

Mr FJ"

Ah, now I see. I guess it's a colloquial/regional thing? Shame that though, cos it must cause people to 'slip up' quite often in an innocent way.

All sorted here though seemingly,

phew! thank goodness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was going to mail you direct but i sit outside your age range

Anyway great pics and profile! Hope you feel better soon Xx"

pesky blockings

Thanks for the good wishes sweety, hopefully next year I'll be 'legs akimbo' again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing is with peoples profiles is they only put what they want others to know

I really cant see a problem with putting your straight if your bi, if someone contacts you saying they are bi when they have straight on their profile it really dont take much working out why they have put it

I myself have straight on my profile when i am bi, this is to stop couples messaging me and i dont meet couples so find it easier to just say im straight rather than go thro why i dont meet couples when im bi with every couple that mails me

does this make me a liar? maybe, does it make me dishonest? maybe, do i care....no lol im not tricking anyone i only meet single guys and let me honest how many of them do you think wouldnt meet me if i did have bi on my profile? i honestly dont think any would care if i was bi or straight, so im not doing it to trick anyone its just to save me repeating myself over and over to couples who mail me

And mybe guys who have straight have their own personal reasons

not everything on here is done for the worse, people just like to think the worse of others "

Wouldn't it be just as easy to be honest about being bi and block couples from contacting you?

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was going to mail you direct but i sit outside your age range

Anyway great pics and profile! Hope you feel better soon Xx

pesky blockings

Thanks for the good wishes sweety, hopefully next year I'll be 'legs akimbo' again "

Oh matron!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care about his sexuality but do think people should just grow a pair and state Thier sexuality and be done with it and if people don't like it though. Seems to be a lot of chameleons on here who change thier sexual preference in order to get meets, what is bothering me is I have a mate from Southampton who for 9 years had called me fella little did I know he was calling me a prick just wait till I speak to that fucking horrible little " fella " .

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

Hahahaha, op is straight again. Some people just can't make their mind up.

*Her*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well as its the season of good will and all that.

Can I help any gorgeous, well endowed, hunky, sexy men who haven't had a lot of experience with couples out. I'm a caring person and am happy to help in any way I can to assist those shy men to achieve a 'smooth entrance' into the world of swinging threesomes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well as its the season of good will and all that.

Can I help any gorgeous, well endowed, hunky, sexy men who haven't had a lot of experience with couples out. I'm a caring person and am happy to help in any way I can to assist those shy men to achieve a 'smooth entrance' into the world of swinging threesomes. "

You gotta be init to win it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally when i look for a guy to join us il look for a bi guy first, not to play with both Red and myself as my Mr is straight but in our mmf experiences Bi guys arent as nervous as straight guys and do perform better We have had a few cases of this but for example we met with a straight boy last year who spent the whole time staring at reds penis and making sure he was atleast 3 feet away from it....this caused him to stay soft and asked to leave lol

In saying that though, a bi guy who says he is straight in his profile is a major turn off

defo change it back to saying bi-curious always better to be who you are, not who you think people will like better xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hahahaha, op is straight again. Some people just can't make their mind up.

*Her*"

Bucks Fizz in the house!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi folks..

When I joined fab I decided to be honest from the start, why start with a lie it will only lead to more.

Im married bi guy looking for nsa discreet fun.Im doing this without the wife knowing ( stop booing at the back ).

Being honest and upfront is easier on everyone.

Yes some couples ( the man ) are scared of the bi bit, but some arent.

So I say if bi say bi from the start....simples

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By *illyFischerMan
over a year ago

sale

It must be regional as fella is not thought of as friendly up her. Bit like friiend . But mate is fine. I know. It doesn't make sense Don't have a go jut like saying. Lived in. Reading for a bit and noticed quite a few differences

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By *illyFischerMan
over a year ago

sale

Up her. I meant up here. Ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That fella thing is a military thing in some parts of armed forces not all being called fella is like taking the piss and a lot of single lads for example in the military have a lot of friends from work on here aswell so don't want to be stating they are bi so they say straight, because it could potentially cause a lot of problems at work, as as most people do this for fun and not a living they don't want it causing unnecessary problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi folks..

When I joined fab I decided to be honest from the start, why start with a lie it will only lead to more.

Im married bi guy looking for nsa discreet fun.Im doing this without the wife knowing ( stop booing at the back ).

Being honest and upfront is easier on everyone.

Yes some couples ( the man ) are scared of the bi bit, but some arent.

So I say if bi say bi from the start....simples

"

If "being honest and upfront is easier", wouldn't it be better to be honest with the person who's supposed to be the most important in your life, rather than a bunch of strangers?

Or does honesty have a need to know basis?

Probably just my take on it.......but I doubt it! R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It must be regional as fella is not thought of as friendly up her. Bit like friiend . But mate is fine. I know. It doesn't make sense Don't have a go jut like saying. Lived in. Reading for a bit and noticed quite a few differences "

Noticed a few differences? Like cars not being parked on bricks at night?

Seriously though, fella is not a malicious word, it think it was more someone wanting to throw their toys out the pram! I know loads of people from up north and its my mates in Liverpool, Stockport and Ireland that use it the most!

Anyway, I think this thread is in danger of being derailed!

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