FabSwingers.com forum: Chatting on phone b4 a meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it normal for the females to chat b4 a meet. U r genuine if u have veris to say u have met people so y do some females want to chat on phone even tho u r veried.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it's normal I don't meet anyone before speaking on the phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Works for us

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

Because we've been caught with a couples profile that's been verified and turned out that the female wasn't playing any more and was just the guy keeping it running.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i only give my number once a meet is arranged.

or you may have someone who just wants to use you for sexual texting or to sound off at

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We've never phone chatted so far. Worth noting that some veris can be faked so a meet veri is no guarantee.

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By *egs11ABCWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Not sure about normal but have spoken to some of my meets on fone b4 1st meet. X

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I wouldn't speak to anyone on the phone prior to meeting them, feels a bit awkward to me but I can understand why some do.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I think a chat on the phone helps to get a good feel for someone before all parties invest anymore time, energy and money. I would say well worth it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We never talk on the phone before a meet but understand why some do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To get an idea of who you are from how you talk on the phone maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do all my talking on here....never phone,kik,whatsapp etc thankfully never had a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To make sure the woman in the couple is still around and it's not just the man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Understand why some do but not us.

We refuse to give our number out.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I have spoken a couple of times to the female of a couple. It’s not something I do often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't mind speaking on the phone and have done a few times. We have a separate top up sim for it just in case something went wrong so we wouldn't have to change our numbers.

Mrs

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Always chat on the phone before a meet.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Never chat on the phone before a meet. If they dont believe I'm real then that's their issue.

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By *aznlouCouple
over a year ago

co durham

We never do phone chats before, it’s probably why we always meet at club first & our friends have our number. We did once give our number out to one couple & it ended up being in the blokes hand (luckily we gave out the mr’s number ha ha)

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By *ACoupleCouple
over a year ago

Littlehampton

I always make a call before a potential meet to see how we get on...if no click/vibe then no meet! If we dont get on, on the phone then no chance!! Always works for us! X

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

Required

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

Reluctance to speak on the phone is probably a fake

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We never do

I have anxiety so hate speaking on the phone at the best of times.

Also doesn't proove someone will turn up,however I understand why some do,especially with couples ,to make sure there is a lady ...

However if someome is verified ,thats enough for us.

Miss

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

Seriously.. what is this ‘anxiety’ bullshit?

You’re planning to fuck a complete stranger. How can someone be scared of 2 mins chat on the phone with them first?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet unless we chat on the phone, it breaks the ice and adds to the fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seriously.. what is this ‘anxiety’ bullshit?

You’re planning to fuck a complete stranger. How can someone be scared of 2 mins chat on the phone with them first?"

I would totally agree with that if someone won't talk on the phone how do you know they will actually turn up in person. I always chat on the phone first you get a good feel for someone by chatting.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Never chat on the phone before a meet. If they dont believe I'm real then that's their issue."

Just about to say the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reluctance to speak on the phone is probably a fake "

Strange how many reasons some can find to define others as fakes

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Reluctance to speak on the phone is probably a fake "

I’ve been here nearly ten years and I’ve never spoken to any of the people I’ve met on the phone.

I’m also quite prolific.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Is it normal for the females to chat b4 a meet. U r genuine if u have veris to say u have met people so y do some females want to chat on phone even tho u r veried.

BTW, your rules are just that OP. It’s entirely up to you regarding the pre meet phone chat thing.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

"Reluctance to speak on the phone is probably a fake

Strange how many reasons some can find to define others as fakes

But when it’s so easy to prove you’re not!! Hardly difficult

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By *sRedbbwWoman
over a year ago

Amwythig

I get anxiety on the phone too, haven't always had it either - it is a nasty side effect to a difficult period of grief.

Can't say I'm particularly willing to give out my number to someone I might not even get on with in person so it's messages and a quick social for me - never had a problem yet!

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

"Because we've been caught with a couples profile that's been verified and turned out that the female wasn't playing any more and was just the guy keeping it running. "
This is quite common and we have found it to be the case on a number of occasion.It seems to be happening a lot more now. Or maybe we are just unlucky?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We're all different - i chat on this phone before a meet as it allows me to get a feel for someone, in a way that ping pong messaging does not. I trust my sensitivity to a person real-time, to determine how compatible we are too and how much I find them attractive as a person.

You can also fine tune the details of a meet very easily - perhaps deciding to postpone or cancel ever meeting. I rely on prior verifications solely to indicate that someone may have some reliability - not that our current needs match.

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By *herrySnickersWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Love a quick cam chat - gets me super excited as well as calming the nerves somewhat! I know they are real, I know they can string a sentence together and I get to hear their accent and voice which for me can be a big turn on...x

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Is it normal for the females to chat b4 a meet. U r genuine if u have veris to say u have met people so y do some females want to chat on phone even tho u r veried.

Yes it's normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's one of those things some people do due to timewasters people ask for all sorts of proof, nothing really proves they're real as most things can be faked. But if you want the meet you have to respect others wishes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never do. Feels a bit awkward and we always reckon it’s more likely to stop a future meet than to encourage it.

We do respect that some people feel it’s necessary but if it’s a dealbreaker then we don’t meet them.

Socials are much better to judge compatibility in our opinion

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

id never meet without a chat over the phone 1st

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't speak to anyone on the phone prior to meeting them, feels a bit awkward to me but I can understand why some do."

Yeah can agree, you'd hope people are genuine, and get that from chat if you chat to them.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

I use kik to chat on cam to prove we are who and what we say we are.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I wouldn't speak to anyone on the phone prior to meeting them, feels a bit awkward to me but I can understand why some do."

I agree,I have done in the past but someone's dodgy accent put me off.

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By *hedark_knightMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Reassurance? Calm the nerves?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"Seriously.. what is this ‘anxiety’ bullshit?

You’re planning to fuck a complete stranger. How can someone be scared of 2 mins chat on the phone with them first?"

I prefer face to face social,find it easier

Then see how that goes

We all do things our own way

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

"I wouldn't speak to anyone on the phone prior to meeting them, feels a bit awkward to me but I can understand why some do.

I agree,I have done in the past but someone's dodgy accent put me off."

You’re right.. they probably have a different one when they’re not on the phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always thought that's what a social was for?

I have exchanged numbers, but then usually for texting in case of alterations from either party and no internet.

I've yet to insist on chatting first, although I could understand why couples looking at other couples would.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Is it normal for the females to chat b4 a meet. U r genuine if u have veris to say u have met people so y do some females want to chat on phone even tho u r veried.

Yes it's essential, especially when arranging to meet a couple. We like to make sure they're a genuine couple and not some sad lonely male with a multiple personality disorder.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

Thats why I always use an online voice generator when talking over the phone -it confuses the hell out of them when I don't sound anything like Mr T in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it normal for the females to chat b4 a meet. U r genuine if u have veris to say u have met people so y do some females want to chat on phone even tho u r veried.

Being verified doesn’t mean you’re genuine and I either speak on phone or cam before a potential meet. It’s easy and just reassures everyone involved!

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By *J647Couple
over a year ago

Daventry

"Seriously.. what is this ‘anxiety’ bullshit?

You’re planning to fuck a complete stranger. How can someone be scared of 2 mins chat on the phone with them first?"

I can quite understand anxiety on phones,we don't talk chat on phone ,some people do have phobias with phones so not bullshit,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I don’t give my number out.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

We think its important when speaking to a couple, we have had a couple of occasions when Mrs obviously didn't exist, so saved us a journey. You can get some idea of how you will get on, when you speak on the phone

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

"Nope. I don’t give my number out. "
We would never ask a lady to send her number.We have a play phone so would send her our number and she could withhold hers when she contact us.This way both parties are safe.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Nope. I don’t give my number out. We would never ask a lady to send her number.We have a play phone so would send her our number and she could withhold hers when she contact us.This way both parties are safe. "

Yes we use a play phone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don’t want to give out number you can use Skype for a face chat, there’s plenty of options x

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By *iavoloCouple
over a year ago

Bexley/Buxton

We always chat first a payg sim in an old phone keeps thing nice and separate too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you don’t want to give out number you can use Skype for a face chat, there’s plenty of options x "

You can use Skype for a normal chat too without the cam thing on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you don’t want to give out number you can use Skype for a face chat, there’s plenty of options x

You can use Skype for a normal chat too without the cam thing on. "

Yeah

no need to exchange numbers and most can download the skype app onto their mobile no laptop or pc needed

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"We always chat first a payg sim in an old phone keeps thing nice and separate too."

I do the same I wouldn't meet anyone I hadn't had at least a couple of conversations with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I never said i had anxiety. I was asking a question. As a couple want me to ring the woman as they say its normal thingvto do. I have been swinging for over 3 years and never had to ring anybody b4.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never said i had anxiety. I was asking a question. As a couple want me to ring the woman as they say its normal thingvto do. I have been swinging for over 3 years and never had to ring anybody b4.

Its probably because they’ve had a few men pretending to be couples, this has started to become more common recently and people are doing more checks to make sure their time isn’t going to be wasted x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am always surprised people set off to meet someone without talking to them voice to voice I am even more shocked people invite others around without speaking. If someone won't chat for 30 mins then they are best avoided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Safety first. Anything that puts someone at ease is always a good idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why not take advantage of technology such as facetime and whatsapp call...its better than that catfish taking advantage of you!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Never have, doubt we ever will. More than happy to open up verifications and summary for someone, it's a solid very trail, that's good enough in our book. Hardly ever been asked in fairness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it normal for the females to chat b4 a meet. U r genuine if u have veris to say u have met people so y do some females want to chat on phone even tho u r veried.

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I like to chat on phone before I meet its a good way to get a feel for personality

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By *havenpussycatsCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

We used to do this early on now we only speak on phone in advance when requested- typically by the lady of the other couple. We now rely on fact we are well verified and tend to meet couples who are also. We never use Kik as we had some negative experiences when we started out. We are happy on WhatsApp - if we are giving out our home address we don’t mind giving out personal numbers.

Things tend to ebb and flow but recently we have mainly been meeting couples who we have meet before and feel compatible with. Though the pack always gets shuffled!

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