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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My boss at work has recognised me from a picture I have now taken down which showed my face in a naked pose.

He messaged to compliment the picture using my real name!

So he has seen me naked having sex and read my graphic verifications.

I am worried but at the same time turned on!

hubby also feels the same !

He has liked all my pictures and keeps looking at my profile!

Also he sent a friends message

Anyone else had a similar experience?

Hubby says it’s my call as I have to work with him !!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Don't mix work and fab. It could cause problems. I would block your boss after sending him a message explaining that you don't want the two to get mixed up. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice would be dont shit on your doorstep. You could have a meet and have sex or whatever, but you would probably feel you always have to oblige when he comes asking for it because hes your boss. I would just send a polite message that you dont want to mix work with play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be very awkward. Depends if you think he is a problem or not. We don't know your boss. If he's a bit of a Pervy shit then you are in it too. If he's a kind, respectful guy then might be a bit of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there any chance of a promotion

Seriously though I wouldn't sweat it, he has initiated the contact and make you aware of who he is....he didn't have too, he could have just scrolled on by

Is he on as a couple or just himself, is he married etc I would prob not friend him at this stage but engage in conversation until you've figured out if your comfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My boss at work has recognised me from a picture I have now taken down which showed my face in a naked pose.

He messaged to compliment the picture using my real name!

So he has seen me naked having sex and read my graphic verifications.

I am worried but at the same time turned on!

hubby also feels the same !

He has liked all my pictures and keeps looking at my profile!

Also he sent a friends message

Anyone else had a similar experience?

Hubby says it’s my call as I have to work with him !!

"
you can get a wage rise out of this for sure

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By *randmrsminxyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Easy to cure this. Is he on here with a single profile and married . If so you hold all the aces

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By *aptain VMan
over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester


"My boss at work has recognised me from a picture I have now taken down which showed my face in a naked pose.

He messaged to compliment the picture using my real name!

So he has seen me naked having sex and read my graphic verifications.

I am worried but at the same time turned on!

hubby also feels the same !

He has liked all my pictures and keeps looking at my profile!

Also he sent a friends message

Anyone else had a similar experience?

Hubby says it’s my call as I have to work with him !!

"

I know a couple who were outted in this site now they have appeared on tv and newspapers about their swinging life style

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I will do nothing I think and see how it goes at work tomorrow!

After all I have seen him naked too!

He is married so playing with this wife’s knowledge but half the men on here are as well !

Hubby says it will be funny when he reads our next reviews!

I will post what happens tomorrow!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont understand why people would take time to block all faces on their pics

But just leave one showing

Seems a bit mad to me

Ho hum. The crayzee world of Fab

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I think that’s really really creepy. I’d hate my professional life to drift into here.

Each to there own

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now Pandora’s box has been opened, it will be very hard to close. Careless.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ime thinking a s someone said earlier as he’s married I sort of have the upper hand!

We met someone we knew in a club once I was in just my undies at the bar when we noticed him.

Similar story his wife didn’t know so discretion was maintained.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You're all adults so hopefully none of you will want to get involved in playing power games either way.

Personally I would either message him or chat face to face and say that you think it's best if you have no contact on fab. He holds power over you at work, you hold power over him outside of work as long as his wife is unaware (maybe she knows). I wouldn't want things to get awkward or messy.

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By *ikeC2012Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

I’d keep a screenshot of his message to you. If it gets messy at work you can show he initiated the contact

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By *orny girl xWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Could be fun though

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By *astings SocialWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

Don't mix work and pleasure.

Very politely let him know your fab life is not available to him and block him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is one of those things that I truly believe is best left as a fantasy. Yes, it could be excellent fun, but if there is the slightest chance it might go tits up, the consequences of a few hours of fun can be devastating. Is it really worth the risk? Maybe you'll think so, maybe not. Whatever you decide, I truly hope all ends well

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"My boss at work has recognised me from a picture I have now taken down which showed my face in a naked pose.

He messaged to compliment the picture using my real name!

So he has seen me naked having sex and read my graphic verifications.

I am worried but at the same time turned on!

hubby also feels the same !

He has liked all my pictures and keeps looking at my profile!

Also he sent a friends message

Anyone else had a similar experience?

Hubby says it’s my call as I have to work with him !!

"

Myself I never mix business and pleasure they're uneasy bed fellows.

If it goes wrong there's a jezza Kyle type show in the making

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

My boss knows about my lifestyle though she hasn’t seen my profile here (as far as I know) therefore slightly different to your situation OP.

I have open conversation with her, yet keep the explicit details out. She was absolutely fascinated about my visits to clubs. Though not a swinger, she is married and she is poly so is more understanding and accepting of an alternative lifestyle.

Knowing clear boundaries on what detail is given is important. Of course we would seem to have already crossed professional boundaries but we see it as no less of an issue than say two female staff members discussing menstruation.

The other important thing, is that we both remain conscious not to discuss things in earshot of other staff; who may be offended or judgemental about both our lifestyle choices. It’s often others, not those directly involved in these situations who can be the ones that end up causing trouble some way down the line.

With your boss being on here, there is a bit of “what happens in Vegas stays” and it may be worth broaching that and your reiterating this mutual secret with him.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"My boss knows about my lifestyle though she hasn’t seen my profile here (as far as I know) therefore slightly different to your situation OP.

I have open conversation with her, yet keep the explicit details out. She was absolutely fascinated about my visits to clubs. Though not a swinger, she is married and she is poly so is more understanding and accepting of an alternative lifestyle.

Knowing clear boundaries on what detail is given is important. Of course we would seem to have already crossed professional boundaries but we see it as no less of an issue than say two female staff members discussing menstruation.

The other important thing, is that we both remain conscious not to discuss things in earshot of other staff; who may be offended or judgemental about both our lifestyle choices. It’s often others, not those directly involved in these situations who can be the ones that end up causing trouble some way down the line.

With your boss being on here, there is a bit of “what happens in Vegas stays” and it may be worth broaching that and your reiterating this mutual secret with him. "

I'd say the best course of action with this is that you can say, that we are adults that know what we both do in our spare time and that for the sake of our working relationship, you will block him and keep the two things separate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now Pandora’s box has been opened, it will be very hard to close. Careless."

Hardly careless.

You would like to think that discretion rules on here. But sadly it doesn't.

No point blaming the OP for the actions of another. It is a small world and you would think people would be adult enough to do the right thing. I'd block if I found someone I knew or worked with on here.

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London


"My boss knows about my lifestyle though she hasn’t seen my profile here (as far as I know) therefore slightly different to your situation OP.

I have open conversation with her, yet keep the explicit details out. She was absolutely fascinated about my visits to clubs. Though not a swinger, she is married and she is poly so is more understanding and accepting of an alternative lifestyle.

Knowing clear boundaries on what detail is given is important. Of course we would seem to have already crossed professional boundaries but we see it as no less of an issue than say two female staff members discussing menstruation.

The other important thing, is that we both remain conscious not to discuss things in earshot of other staff; who may be offended or judgemental about both our lifestyle choices. It’s often others, not those directly involved in these situations who can be the ones that end up causing trouble some way down the line.

With your boss being on here, there is a bit of “what happens in Vegas stays” and it may be worth broaching that and your reiterating this mutual secret with him.

I'd say the best course of action with this is that you can say, that we are adults that know what we both do in our spare time and that for the sake of our working relationship, you will block him and keep the two things separate. "

Agree with this - and I’d say your boss should not have initiated the contact in the first place.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Don't mix work and fab. It could cause problems. I would block your boss after sending him a message explaining that you don't want the two to get mixed up. Good luck x"

So this. Surprised the question even needs to be asked.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I think that’s really really creepy. I’d hate my professional life to drift into here.

Each to there own

V x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op I have a similar dilemma not quite like yours but similar,I met a couple that own one of the local businesses bin my village and it turned out she knew my ex and her boy went to school with mine but we agreed it was in everyone's best interest if we kept our life choices to ourselves and didn't openly acknowledge one another in public or actively seek the other out when I call into their business premises ,this has worked well no one is any the wiser the wiser and we can meet up when they want some fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YIKES that's awkward!

A colleague at work keeps recognising me on here. Even in the past, I've given him a veri, just to keep the peace! BUT he never stops talking at work about Fab and how he can't get meets.

I've been on/off with different accounts because of him.

Doing my nut in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will he be seeing this forum post ..sounds like one of them boss fucks wife fantasies..and as with the many post on here regarding face pics, especially nude and face, this is a great example of why not to have them on show..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d keep a screenshot of his message to you. If it gets messy at work you can show he initiated the contact"

Excellent idea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're all adults so hopefully none of you will want to get involved in playing power games either way.

Personally I would either message him or chat face to face and say that you think it's best if you have no contact on fab. He holds power over you at work, you hold power over him outside of work as long as his wife is unaware (maybe she knows). I wouldn't want things to get awkward or messy."

Probably too late now if the boss is a forum user

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"YIKES that's awkward!

A colleague at work keeps recognising me on here. Even in the past, I've given him a veri, just to keep the peace! BUT he never stops talking at work about Fab and how he can't get meets.

I've been on/off with different accounts because of him.

Doing my nut in! "
u should take him aside and say hey look you need to calm down

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"My boss knows about my lifestyle though she hasn’t seen my profile here (as far as I know) therefore slightly different to your situation OP.

I have open conversation with her, yet keep the explicit details out. She was absolutely fascinated about my visits to clubs. Though not a swinger, she is married and she is poly so is more understanding and accepting of an alternative lifestyle.

Knowing clear boundaries on what detail is given is important. Of course we would seem to have already crossed professional boundaries but we see it as no less of an issue than say two female staff members discussing menstruation.

The other important thing, is that we both remain conscious not to discuss things in earshot of other staff; who may be offended or judgemental about both our lifestyle choices. It’s often others, not those directly involved in these situations who can be the ones that end up causing trouble some way down the line.

With your boss being on here, there is a bit of “what happens in Vegas stays” and it may be worth broaching that and your reiterating this mutual secret with him. "

We are all different but I believe in boundaries. I can't imagine any situation where discussing my sex life with my boss would ever be appropriate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"YIKES that's awkward!

A colleague at work keeps recognising me on here. Even in the past, I've given him a veri, just to keep the peace! BUT he never stops talking at work about Fab and how he can't get meets.

I've been on/off with different accounts because of him.

Doing my nut in! u should take him aside and say hey look you need to calm down "

Done a that...

Apparently he's found someone in the vanilla world now. I am however, restricted with public photos, just in case he makes another account!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"YIKES that's awkward!

A colleague at work keeps recognising me on here. Even in the past, I've given him a veri, just to keep the peace! BUT he never stops talking at work about Fab and how he can't get meets.

I've been on/off with different accounts because of him.

Doing my nut in! u should take him aside and say hey look you need to calm down

Done a that...

Apparently he's found someone in the vanilla world now. I am however, restricted with public photos, just in case he makes another account! "
then I'd suggest open a new account tell your fab friends about it and close this one bit get your verification s to receive submit there versus x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As regards to a private and fab life divide I think it becomes a bit blurred as when you post a face pic on your public profile for any member to see, then rightly or wrongly people you may not want to see it will, and if they know you will be tempted to get in touch. As for your boss seeing well that could get awkward in so many ways. Not sure I would get involved with my boss as could end badly. But ultimately it's your decision and hope it goes ok.

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects


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We are all different but I believe in boundaries. I can't imagine any situation where discussing my sex life with my boss would ever be appropriate.

"

Either could I until beginning this job.

In a wider sense, the subject of “Sex life” is now a specific special category in GDPR (the new data protection law) where you cannot legally have information about your sex life stored (paper, electronically including work emails) in an employment situation without your explicit permission.

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By *ustful desiresCouple
over a year ago

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Be careful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My advice would be dont shit on your doorstep. You could have a meet and have sex or whatever, but you would probably feel you always have to oblige when he comes asking for it because hes your boss. I would just send a polite message that you dont want to mix work with play "

Totally agree with this. He is in a position to misuse power if things don't go his way. Kill it here!

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"YIKES that's awkward!

A colleague at work keeps recognising me on here. Even in the past, I've given him a veri, just to keep the peace! BUT he never stops talking at work about Fab and how he can't get meets.

I've been on/off with different accounts because of him.

Doing my nut in!

Tell him his obsession with this lifestyle bleeds into his persona, women hate that and prefer a low key, laid back attitude. He's coming across as desperate and might do better to get a girlfriend to share a real life with, rather than a fantasy one that will never meet his expectations. "

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By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4

You famous now boy Hi5!

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"My advice would be dont shit on your doorstep. You could have a meet and have sex or whatever, but you would probably feel you always have to oblige when he comes asking for it because hes your boss. I would just send a polite message that you dont want to mix work with play "

Has the boss asked to ‘play’? I think he is just enjoying making OP feel uncomfortable.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"I will do nothing I think and see how it goes at work tomorrow!

After all I have seen him naked too!

He is married so playing with this wife’s knowledge but half the men on here are as well !

Hubby says it will be funny when he reads our next reviews!

I will post what happens tomorrow!!"

Does this wife know though? Really? Not unheard of for men to use this line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand why people say don’t mix work with pleasure but we did and the world didn’t end I would just say to do whatever you feel is right.

We were in a club one night when someone from his work walked in, we avoided each other all night to save awkwardness...thought no more of it until a few months later when we got chatting to a couple on here and after swapping face pics we realised it was the colleague and their partner. We were adult about it and discussed either forgetting we had ever seen each other and blocking or meeting up, we opted for the latter and have had some amazing nights out with them both. They bump into each other a lot at work but it’s never awkward as we are all adults and we’ve made some really good friends out of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think what your boss did is very very creepy. Don't mix work with pleasure. It was also very creepy of him to message a friends request.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely leave this as a fantasy and don't follow through with anything.

If he mentions this at work just make it clear you don't mix work and pleasure.

Imagine how awkward it could be at work if he turns out to be pants in bed too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d nip that in the bud. Too many potentially bad consequences.

There’s so many men to choose from, leave this man out. This is how you pay your bills, and you spend more time at work/with working colleagues than friends or family...I’d be careful if it were me.

And maybe consider setting face pics to private. Who else might find you? He might even show your profile to other people at work...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d nip that in the bud. Too many potentially bad consequences.

There’s so many men to choose from, leave this man out. This is how you pay your bills, and you spend more time at work/with working colleagues than friends or family...I’d be careful if it were me.

And maybe consider setting face pics to private. Who else might find you? He might even show your profile to other people at work... "
I don't think he would as this could lead to a tribunal which would cost him financially and publicly

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"My advice would be dont shit on your doorstep. You could have a meet and have sex or whatever, but you would probably feel you always have to oblige when he comes asking for it because hes your boss. I would just send a polite message that you dont want to mix work with play

Totally agree with this. He is in a position to misuse power if things don't go his way. Kill it here!"

Definitely x

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

I can smell the smoke hmm

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By *weetandHungMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Bit of a tricky one for you love, you may like each other and want to play, but as he is your boss he could demand you to play at anytime.

Is it worth putting your job at risk?

Think cautiously good luck OP stunning lady x

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

It's your boss, explain you want to keep swinging separate from work and it would be wholly unprofessional to have a sexual relationship and politely decline his friend request ask him never be discuss it in the workplace as this could constitute sexual harassment.

Leave it at that and for God sake be careful at the work Christmas party.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My boss at work has recognised me from a picture I have now taken down which showed my face in a naked pose.

He messaged to compliment the picture using my real name!

So he has seen me naked having sex and read my graphic verifications.

I am worried but at the same time turned on!

hubby also feels the same !

He has liked all my pictures and keeps looking at my profile!

Also he sent a friends message

Anyone else had a similar experience?

Hubby says it’s my call as I have to work with him !!

"

Unbelievable. I would be tempted to kick the cheeky bastard in the bollocks. As he is your boss probably not best to do that.

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By *olfAndKittenCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Look at the ways it could go wrong rather than the other aspects... It is better to have a plan and never use it than be caught unaware.

Whilst my bosses know i enjoy an "alternative" sexual lifestyle they do not need to know the ins and outs of it all.

1) i dont need my boss or collegues asking "how was your meet the other night"

2) if i wanted them involved in my sex life i would...but i keep a strict work/private life divide for a reason (especially with the extreme bdsm play i do with kitten)

Just on point 1 alone id be polite but explain the conversation ends there and block them. I would also have a quiet word face to face to ensure no hard feelings, be polite, be respectful and walk away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My boss at work has recognised me from a picture I have now taken down which showed my face in a naked pose.

He messaged to compliment the picture using my real name!

So he has seen me naked having sex and read my graphic verifications.

I am worried but at the same time turned on!

hubby also feels the same !

He has liked all my pictures and keeps looking at my profile!

Also he sent a friends message

Anyone else had a similar experience?

Hubby says it’s my call as I have to work with him !!

"

I'd say no for playing with him but him knowing you're in the lifestyle isn't a bad thing. At least you know it wouldn't be used against you at work.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This why I don't show my face. My employer would place me on a disciplinary, I would lose my job.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

So you are not really called Allen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you are not really called Allen?"
Allen ,who the fuck is Allen

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"So you are not really called Allen?Allen ,who the fuck is Allen"

Wasn’t that a song lyric? Ahh it was Alice who the f**k is Alice.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire


"So you are not really called Allen?Allen ,who the fuck is Allen"

Read their profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thank you for that feedback....

he now has a girlfriend, and this is my new account he knows nothing about ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say thanks for the compliments but you don’t want to mix work with pleasure, job done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I woujd save all messages and take screenshots of profile just in case you know . Never know when some leverage could be required if he got above his station

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I woujd save all messages and take screenshots of profile just in case you know . Never know when some leverage could be required if he got above his station "

That is just devious, premeditated and downright evil.

What would you define as above his station?

I had a friend who got into a scenario she tried to back out of gently. The fucking nut job informed her boss and caused as much aggro as possible because "If I can't have you, no fucker will". Messages, including selectively edited message trails, photo's, the works got sent on in revenge.

Fucking sick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now Pandora’s box has been opened, it will be very hard to close. Careless.

Hardly careless.

You would like to think that discretion rules on here. But sadly it doesn't.

No point blaming the OP for the actions of another. It is a small world and you would think people would be adult enough to do the right thing. I'd block if I found someone I knew or worked with on here."

Putting a face pic in the public domain when there are people out there that you don’t want to recognise you is either stupid, or careless. I go with the latter.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"I woujd save all messages and take screenshots of profile just in case you know . Never know when some leverage could be required if he got above his station

That is just devious, premeditated and downright evil.

What would you define as above his station?

I had a friend who got into a scenario she tried to back out of gently. The fucking nut job informed her boss and caused as much aggro as possible because "If I can't have you, no fucker will". Messages, including selectively edited message trails, photo's, the works got sent on in revenge.

Fucking sick."
maybe if it was rephrased as insurance against being victimised as they go "Above their station "

Like it or not, some people can't be trusted to be left with your fate in their hands... Self protection is your responsibility, not for others to decide, or how.

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Don't mix work and fab. It could cause problems. I would block your boss after sending him a message explaining that you don't want the two to get mixed up. Good luck x"

Best advice here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met someone from work who recognised me I went for a coffee and a chat and we agreed not to meet up for sex ad not to mix work with fab, I felt better having chatted and so I could be reassured there woukd be no awkwardness at work and there never has, we are all adults and if he is in the site I am sure he would want discretion too. Best to talk rather than ignore..

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I think that’s really really creepy. I’d hate my professional life to drift into here.

Each to there own

V x"

I agree, the decent thing to do on his part would have been to ignore you and block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d keep a screenshot of his message to you. If it gets messy at work you can show he initiated the contact"

Good idea

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Now Pandora’s box has been opened, it will be very hard to close. Careless.

Hardly careless.

You would like to think that discretion rules on here. But sadly it doesn't.

No point blaming the OP for the actions of another. It is a small world and you would think people would be adult enough to do the right thing. I'd block if I found someone I knew or worked with on here.

Putting a face pic in the public domain when there are people out there that you don’t want to recognise you is either stupid, or careless. I go with the latter."

I wouldn’t say they are stupid, just too trusting. One could, for example, see a work colleague at a club. In this lifestyle one has to expect the chance of seeing someone they know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now Pandora’s box has been opened, it will be very hard to close. Careless.

Hardly careless.

You would like to think that discretion rules on here. But sadly it doesn't.

No point blaming the OP for the actions of another. It is a small world and you would think people would be adult enough to do the right thing. I'd block if I found someone I knew or worked with on here.

Putting a face pic in the public domain when there are people out there that you don’t want to recognise you is either stupid, or careless. I go with the latter.

I wouldn’t say they are stupid, just too trusting. One could, for example, see a work colleague at a club. In this lifestyle one has to expect the chance of seeing someone they know "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a similar problem on here about 8 years ago.

A girl I worked with contacted me on here, she was part of my team and as I didn’t have a face pic on my public page she didn’t know I was her boss.

She sent a friend request primarily to see my private pics and tried hard to initiate a chat as we had similar interests

One quiet afternoon I asked her into my office and over a cup of coffee we sat as adults and discussed the situation.

That was the end of it, we maintained a great working relationship up until the company was bought out and we both were made redundant but nothing more about this site was ever brought up again.

She got married and left the site and as far as I’m aware is no longer in the swinging lifestyle

Doesn’t mean I haven’t mixed business with pleasure as I have had meets with ladies from our other offices especially as far away from Glasgow as I can and have played with clients but never one of my own team

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t put face pics on unless you’re prepared for anyone that comes into contact with you to recognise you ! Simple really .

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Rubbish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Denay it

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

Personally, I`d thank him for the compliments but say you hope he agrees that while you`re still in the same workplace that work and private life are separate and whilst feelings may be mutual (if they are) that anything further would not be sensible.

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By *urabriteMan
over a year ago

stafford

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By *AM2214Man
over a year ago

Manchester Area


"I think that’s really really creepy. I’d hate my professional life to drift into here.

Each to there own

V x"

Well make sure you get that report completed on time or report to my office at 1300 prompt

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By *AM2214Man
over a year ago

Manchester Area


"Don’t put face pics on unless you’re prepared for anyone that comes into contact with you to recognise you ! Simple really . "

Funny i recognised someone from their tattoo and A N Other whose hubby I used to work with by their distinctive phone cover which appeared in a shot..

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By *AM2214Man
over a year ago

Manchester Area


"I had a similar problem on here about 8 years ago.

A girl I worked with contacted me on here, she was part of my team and as I didn’t have a face pic on my public page she didn’t know I was her boss.

She sent a friend request primarily to see my private pics and tried hard to initiate a chat as we had similar interests

One quiet afternoon I asked her into my office and over a cup of coffee we sat as adults and discussed the situation.

That was the end of it, we maintained a great working relationship up until the company was bought out and we both were made redundant but nothing more about this site was ever brought up again.

She got married and left the site and as far as I’m aware is no longer in the swinging lifestyle

Doesn’t mean I haven’t mixed business with pleasure as I have had meets with ladies from our other offices especially as far away from Glasgow as I can and have played with clients but never one of my own team

"

Strong leadership there ...well done ...i am sure the lady in question was grateful for a mature balanced approach ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a similar problem on here about 8 years ago.

A girl I worked with contacted me on here, she was part of my team and as I didn’t have a face pic on my public page she didn’t know I was her boss.

She sent a friend request primarily to see my private pics and tried hard to initiate a chat as we had similar interests

One quiet afternoon I asked her into my office and over a cup of coffee we sat as adults and discussed the situation.

That was the end of it, we maintained a great working relationship up until the company was bought out and we both were made redundant but nothing more about this site was ever brought up again.

She got married and left the site and as far as I’m aware is no longer in the swinging lifestyle

Doesn’t mean I haven’t mixed business with pleasure as I have had meets with ladies from our other offices especially as far away from Glasgow as I can and have played with clients but never one of my own team

Strong leadership there ...well done ...i am sure the lady in question was grateful for a mature balanced approach .."

As a manager I would say this was an incredibly stupid thing to do. If it had gone wrong you could well have been pulled straight into an HR disciplinary for sexual misconduct. And you would probably be rightly found guilty.

I totally get the ethos behind the “quiet” chat but to bring it into a work environment is fraught with other danger.

If she had not recognised him on here then he should have left it or communicated it through here so that it would be clear that this is where it stays.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is exactly the reason why I don't understand people posting their face photos. Did you not think that things like this could happen?

It's happened now though, so there's no point worrying about it. If he mentions anything just say you want your personal life and professional life keeping seperate. You're all adults so surely it can be swiftly dealt with and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is exactly the reason why I don't understand people posting their face photos. Did you not think that things like this could happen?

It's happened now though, so there's no point worrying about it. If he mentions anything just say you want your personal life and professional life keeping seperate. You're all adults so surely it can be swiftly dealt with and move on."
yes but I'd recognise you from your bum pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is exactly the reason why I don't understand people posting their face photos. Did you not think that things like this could happen?

It's happened now though, so there's no point worrying about it. If he mentions anything just say you want your personal life and professional life keeping seperate. You're all adults so surely it can be swiftly dealt with and move on.yes but I'd recognise you from your bum pics "

Not with my clothes on you wouldn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant wait to hear what you decide

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By *ot so innocent mindCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

I randomly decided on Saturday to put a face pic of me on here which I haven’t had since I joined over a year ago. My reasoning is that I’m not hurting anyone and if anyone does see me then well that’s ok because they are on here too! I’m not hurting anyone and I’m not ashamed of what I do in my spare time. I have had a couple of messages from people I know in real life saying that they were shocked when they saw me on here but we just laughed it off that we are both on here. It is however, the reason I don’t have any naughty pics of me on here. It’s one thing people from work knowing I’m on here, it’s another thing them passing round a naughty pic of me. That happened to a female colleague on another site as the guys found it and passed it round. So that’s a definite no no for me. But, yeah, am I bothered that people will know I’m bi, into BDSM and enjoy playing with multiple people, nah, not really x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is exactly the reason why I don't understand people posting their face photos. Did you not think that things like this could happen?

It's happened now though, so there's no point worrying about it. If he mentions anything just say you want your personal life and professional life keeping seperate. You're all adults so surely it can be swiftly dealt with and move on.yes but I'd recognise you from your bum pics

Not with my clothes on you wouldn't "
I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I randomly decided on Saturday to put a face pic of me on here which I haven’t had since I joined over a year ago. My reasoning is that I’m not hurting anyone and if anyone does see me then well that’s ok because they are on here too! I’m not hurting anyone and I’m not ashamed of what I do in my spare time. I have had a couple of messages from people I know in real life saying that they were shocked when they saw me on here but we just laughed it off that we are both on here. It is however, the reason I don’t have any naughty pics of me on here. It’s one thing people from work knowing I’m on here, it’s another thing them passing round a naughty pic of me. That happened to a female colleague on another site as the guys found it and passed it round. So that’s a definite no no for me. But, yeah, am I bothered that people will know I’m bi, into BDSM and enjoy playing with multiple people, nah, not really x"

A clothed face pic is not really a problem..it's nude and face together that could cause some trouble..We are not ashamed of our swinging life, we have been at it for over 25 years, me, Mike, more with my first wife.We have managed to keep it private all this time from folk in our none swinging lifes..but has you get older and have kids, and of course the fact that everyone now has access to the internet, it was not around when I first started, we do feel we now have a responsibility to others in our family to protect them from any embarrassment or upset caused by our actions on sites like this..We have grown up boys who no doubtably use the internet for porn and their friends too..it's great being free and easy with pics..but consider further down the line and the effect it could have on our lifes..jobs, family, new partners ..

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By *AM2214Man
over a year ago

Manchester Area


"I randomly decided on Saturday to put a face pic of me on here which I haven’t had since I joined over a year ago. My reasoning is that I’m not hurting anyone and if anyone does see me then well that’s ok because they are on here too! I’m not hurting anyone and I’m not ashamed of what I do in my spare time. I have had a couple of messages from people I know in real life saying that they were shocked when they saw me on here but we just laughed it off that we are both on here. It is however, the reason I don’t have any naughty pics of me on here. It’s one thing people from work knowing I’m on here, it’s another thing them passing round a naughty pic of me. That happened to a female colleague on another site as the guys found it and passed it round. So that’s a definite no no for me. But, yeah, am I bothered that people will know I’m bi, into BDSM and enjoy playing with multiple people, nah, not really x"

Passing pics on without express pwrmission is the premise behind revenge porn laws ....stupid and dangerpus thing to do ...glad your friends were grown up about it all..ps your face pic says so much more than jjst a rude one ..

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"This why I don't show my face. My employer would place me on a disciplinary, I would lose my job. "

Your face is visible on you avatar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This why I don't show my face. My employer would place me on a disciplinary, I would lose my job.

Your face is visible on you avatar. "
so is yours did you know Brucie?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I randomly decided on Saturday to put a face pic of me on here which I haven’t had since I joined over a year ago. My reasoning is that I’m not hurting anyone and if anyone does see me then well that’s ok because they are on here too! I’m not hurting anyone and I’m not ashamed of what I do in my spare time. I have had a couple of messages from people I know in real life saying that they were shocked when they saw me on here but we just laughed it off that we are both on here. It is however, the reason I don’t have any naughty pics of me on here. It’s one thing people from work knowing I’m on here, it’s another thing them passing round a naughty pic of me. That happened to a female colleague on another site as the guys found it and passed it round. So that’s a definite no no for me. But, yeah, am I bothered that people will know I’m bi, into BDSM and enjoy playing with multiple people, nah, not really x

A clothed face pic is not really a problem..it's nude and face together that could cause some trouble..We are not ashamed of our swinging life, we have been at it for over 25 years, me, Mike, more with my first wife.We have managed to keep it private all this time from folk in our none swinging lifes..but has you get older and have kids, and of course the fact that everyone now has access to the internet, it was not around when I first started, we do feel we now have a responsibility to others in our family to protect them from any embarrassment or upset caused by our actions on sites like this..We have grown up boys who no doubtably use the internet for porn and their friends too..it's great being free and easy with pics..but consider further down the line and the effect it could have on our lifes..jobs, family, new partners .. "

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan


"This why I don't show my face. My employer would place me on a disciplinary, I would lose my job. "

Whose face is that on your avatar?????

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan

Ok just saw the others lol

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Is there any chance of a promotion

Seriously though I wouldn't sweat it, he has initiated the contact and make you aware of who he is....he didn't have too, he could have just scrolled on by

Is he on as a couple or just himself, is he married etc I would prob not friend him at this stage but engage in conversation until you've figured out if your comfortable. "

Accept his friend request when he's not online. Screenshot all his pics and profile then unfriend. You now have him in the same grip as he thinks he has you. Is he married/in a relationship? If he is and he starts getting troublesome just ask him if is other half would like to see his profile and pics.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I woujd save all messages and take screenshots of profile just in case you know . Never know when some leverage could be required if he got above his station

That is just devious, premeditated and downright evil.

What would you define as above his station?

I had a friend who got into a scenario she tried to back out of gently. The fucking nut job informed her boss and caused as much aggro as possible because "If I can't have you, no fucker will". Messages, including selectively edited message trails, photo's, the works got sent on in revenge.

Fucking sick."

Are you her boss lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get recognised because of my tattoos and the good ones will come up and say ive seen you on fabs quietly and we giggle.

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Had a former colleague walk up to me whilst I was giving serious attention to Mrs W who was in the swing at Chams. Shook my hand and spoke about work. It did rather kill the moment.

Thankfully not seen him again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all comes down to discretion

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"My boss at work has recognised me from a picture I have now taken down which showed my face in a naked pose.

He messaged to compliment the picture using my real name!

So he has seen me naked having sex and read my graphic verifications.

I am worried but at the same time turned on!

hubby also feels the same !

He has liked all my pictures and keeps looking at my profile!

Also he sent a friends message

Anyone else had a similar experience?

Hubby says it’s my call as I have to work with him !!

you can get a wage rise out of this for sure"

And a promotion!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I went for my last job I got a text from a T girl I know saying I’ve just seen your C.V at our directors board meeting and had to declare I knew you as a friend of your husbands.

He now my boss and he knows about me and I know about him and the two just don’t mix now. I did get a £7k payrise though!!

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By *uicy Lucy and percyCouple
over a year ago

wales


"My boss at work has recognised me from a picture I have now taken down which showed my face in a naked pose.

He messaged to compliment the picture using my real name!

So he has seen me naked having sex and read my graphic verifications.

I am worried but at the same time turned on!

hubby also feels the same !

He has liked all my pictures and keeps looking at my profile!

Also he sent a friends message

Anyone else had a similar experience?

Hubby says it’s my call as I have to work with him !!

"

Don’t forget he’s on fab too lol so I recon it’s touché x

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London


"Had a former colleague walk up to me whilst I was giving serious attention to Mrs W who was in the swing at Chams. Shook my hand and spoke about work. It did rather kill the moment.

Thankfully not seen him again. "

Discuss - is it worse to mention swinging while at work, or to mention work while swinging?

The latter, I’d contend.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

Go and ask for a pay rise ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go and ask for a pay rise ... "
ask for a desk job

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall


"Go and ask for a pay rise ... ask for a desk job"

or an "over the desk job" maybe

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

I recognised someone that I work with and his partner use to work with us.I sent a message saying hi and I regretted it so next morning I apologise for sending them a message he did not know what I was going on about even when I showed him the face pictures of him and his partner he was shocked and spoke to his partner.We have never discussed it since under the profile name they had there is none thing there now.In future anyone I recognise I will view their profile and leave it up to them if they want to contact me.

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By *ommyxyzMan
over a year ago

Crawley


"Had a former colleague walk up to me whilst I was giving serious attention to Mrs W who was in the swing at Chams. Shook my hand and spoke about work. It did rather kill the moment.

Thankfully not seen him again.

Discuss - is it worse to mention

swinging while at work, or to mention

work while swinging?

The latter, I’d contend. "

I like my job but wouldn’t mix it with swinging so I geus both!

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

So what happened when you went back to work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes op what's the score

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok since he sent the original message we talked that monday in work. He said he won’t mention it to anyone and I has said she won’t mention it to his wife.

Hubby has just accepted his friends invite and there was one full face shot naked which he has downloaded as security!!

Hubby is turned on by it all and to be honest I am.

He has looks at me legs and boobs al lot more now without hiding it when I notice but he lets no one else notice.

I have been naughty and wear hold ups more which I know he’s noticed as I’ve given an accidental flash a few times when no one else is there.

It’s only a part time job so not a lot to loose but at the moment it’s fun !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a raise or promotion in this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The whole thing makes me horny that he has seen our profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has he seen this thread ..if so what does he think..if not why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My boss at work has recognised me from a picture I have now taken down which showed my face in a naked pose.

He messaged to compliment the picture using my real name!

So he has seen me naked having sex and read my graphic verifications.

I am worried but at the same time turned on!

hubby also feels the same !

He has liked all my pictures and keeps looking at my profile!

Also he sent a friends message

Anyone else had a similar experience?

Hubby says it’s my call as I have to work with him !!

"

Disaster waiting to happen. Don't go there. The fact he knows your on here is bad enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My boss at work has recognised me from a picture I have now taken down which showed my face in a naked pose.

He messaged to compliment the picture using my real name!

So he has seen me naked having sex and read my graphic verifications.

I am worried but at the same time turned on!

hubby also feels the same !

He has liked all my pictures and keeps looking at my profile!

Also he sent a friends message

Anyone else had a similar experience?

Hubby says it’s my call as I have to work with him !!

Disaster waiting to happen. Don't go there. The fact he knows your on here is bad enough. "

You should have read back up the thread fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My boss at work has recognised me from a picture I have now taken down which showed my face in a naked pose.

He messaged to compliment the picture using my real name!

So he has seen me naked having sex and read my graphic verifications.

I am worried but at the same time turned on!

hubby also feels the same !

He has liked all my pictures and keeps looking at my profile!

Also he sent a friends message

Anyone else had a similar experience?

Hubby says it’s my call as I have to work with him !!

Disaster waiting to happen. Don't go there. The fact he knows your on here is bad enough.

You should have read back up the thread fella"

Just have done...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My boss at work has recognised me from a picture I have now taken down which showed my face in a naked pose.

He messaged to compliment the picture using my real name!

So he has seen me naked having sex and read my graphic verifications.

I am worried but at the same time turned on!

hubby also feels the same !

He has liked all my pictures and keeps looking at my profile!

Also he sent a friends message

Anyone else had a similar experience?

Hubby says it’s my call as I have to work with him !!

Disaster waiting to happen. Don't go there. The fact he knows your on here is bad enough.

You should have read back up the thread fella

Just have done... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

go fo it!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The whole thing makes me horny that he has seen our profile "

You do know he hasn't just looked at your profile right? He's probably wanked himself silly cumming all over your pictures and thinking of pulling you into his office, bending you over his desk, pulling your knickers to one side and slipping his hard cock deep into your pussy

Enjoy every minute of it guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its when someone prints out your profile and sticks it on the staff notice board you got problems.

and yes it happened to me years ago

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Nothing kills the evening at a club like the question "Can you do some overtime?"

Keep work and play separate.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"its when someone prints out your profile and sticks it on the staff notice board you got problems.

and yes it happened to me years ago"

Sounds like harassment to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something kinda similar happened to me many many years ago where I got a message from a couple on another site saying they knew who I was and where I worked which freaked me out. They came clean in the next message a few minutes later about who they were and it was a couple who I'd repaired their very expensive computer after the person who built it for them made a total mess of it and couldn't be contacted to repair it.

We did talk more and did play once and kept in touch but I can understand if it was someone I worked with, particuarly in a position of authority it could be very different.

One of the key tennants of being a swinger is discretion so I would hope your boss would be discrete as anything that might affect you could equally affect him if not more so.

Best thing I can advise is have a chat out of work if you want to and make your position on your swinging lifestyle known whether that be you want to keep work/fab seperate or you might want to try playing but there are boundaries not just in play but outside too.

Wishing you the best of luck in whatever you decide x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me. I'm reckless. I see it's just a part time job. So I'd flirt and tease the guy to bursting point and just enjoy the eroticism of it. Until he can't hold back and begs to fuck you. Don't dispel the eroticism by explaining things to him or trying to plan a meet. Let it bubble up naturally.

These kinds of raw erotic experiences don't come along much in life and many people never ever have them. Just roll with it, revel in it, fuck him, then move jobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d keep a screenshot of his message to you. If it gets messy at work you can show he initiated the contact"

This ad fab don't like controversy and have removed the ability to report abuse especiallt by repeat offenders with the immediately removal of all messages when someone deletes. You then cannot report or follow up. Screen shot is now the only way to protect yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My boss at work has recognised me from a picture I have now taken down which showed my face in a naked pose.

He messaged to compliment the picture using my real name!

So he has seen me naked having sex and read my graphic verifications.

I am worried but at the same time turned on!

hubby also feels the same !

He has liked all my pictures and keeps looking at my profile!

Also he sent a friends message

Anyone else had a similar experience?

Hubby says it’s my call as I have to work with him !!

"
sounds like bollocks and pure fantasy to be honest.

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By *ordon89Man
over a year ago

London


"My boss at work has recognised me from a picture I have now taken down which showed my face in a naked pose.

He messaged to compliment the picture using my real name!

So he has seen me naked having sex and read my graphic verifications.

I am worried but at the same time turned on!

hubby also feels the same !

He has liked all my pictures and keeps looking at my profile!

Also he sent a friends message

Anyone else had a similar experience?

Hubby says it’s my call as I have to work with him !!

"

That’s hot

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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago

London

wow!!!

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath


"Don't mix work and fab. It could cause problems. I would block your boss after sending him a message explaining that you don't want the two to get mixed up. Good luck x"

Don't even aknowledge. Don't discuss. Ignore. He cannot bring up the subject at work. It never happened.

Everyone recognise's someone from work etc. Instant block

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Most people who I know know what I'm like so would not give a flying fuck, you want to force me into sex I'll usually give it a go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was in your shoes I would block them after messaging a polite no thanks and that I don’t mix work with pleasure.

When you mix the both together then it can end in tears more often than not.

Besides there is plenty of other members to connect and have fun with on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Consider taking some time out of the scene and reevaluate your experiences and lifestyle. Maybe reflect on your balance between real life / reality / the lifestyle. Talk to each other and ask the difficult questions and think about this situation and your post.

Why do we say this ?

There is potential that you might have blurred the lines between real life / reality etc. We say this as you talk about a boss finding out, it being a turn on and your call. You might have stopped to consider his feelings, his position and his wife's but you don't mention it.

Reflect, communicate and make sure haven't gone to far into your own lifestyle choices. Some choices in life you can't undo and the impact can take a life of it's own.

Keep yourself and others safe when making choices for yourself. Those choices have impacts on others.

Just Sayin'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Consider taking some time out of the scene and reevaluate your experiences and lifestyle. Maybe reflect on your balance between real life / reality / the lifestyle. Talk to each other and ask the difficult questions and think about this situation and your post.

Why do we say this ?

There is potential that you might have blurred the lines between real life / reality etc. We say this as you talk about a boss finding out, it being a turn on and your call. You might have stopped to consider his feelings, his position and his wife's but you don't mention it.

Reflect, communicate and make sure haven't gone to far into your own lifestyle choices. Some choices in life you can't undo and the impact can take a life of it's own.

Keep yourself and others safe when making choices for yourself. Those choices have impacts on others.

Just Sayin'"

They have updated further back up the thread ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Consider taking some time out of the scene and reevaluate your experiences and lifestyle. Maybe reflect on your balance between real life / reality / the lifestyle. Talk to each other and ask the difficult questions and think about this situation and your post.

Why do we say this ?

There is potential that you might have blurred the lines between real life / reality etc. We say this as you talk about a boss finding out, it being a turn on and your call. You might have stopped to consider his feelings, his position and his wife's but you don't mention it.

Reflect, communicate and make sure haven't gone to far into your own lifestyle choices. Some choices in life you can't undo and the impact can take a life of it's own.

Keep yourself and others safe when making choices for yourself. Those choices have impacts on others.

Just Sayin'

They have updated further back up the thread .."

??? have re-read cannot align any response to our points , are we missing something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Consider taking some time out of the scene and reevaluate your experiences and lifestyle. Maybe reflect on your balance between real life / reality / the lifestyle. Talk to each other and ask the difficult questions and think about this situation and your post.

Why do we say this ?

There is potential that you might have blurred the lines between real life / reality etc. We say this as you talk about a boss finding out, it being a turn on and your call. You might have stopped to consider his feelings, his position and his wife's but you don't mention it.

Reflect, communicate and make sure haven't gone to far into your own lifestyle choices. Some choices in life you can't undo and the impact can take a life of it's own.

Keep yourself and others safe when making choices for yourself. Those choices have impacts on others.

Just Sayin'

8

They have updated further back up the thread ..

??? have re-read cannot align any response to our points , are we missing something"

She has said how it as turned out, so your points are irrelevant to her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basically she's ok with him knowing she's on fab they won't advertise it too others and she's now teasing him by flashing her panties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She has said how it as turned out, so your points are irrelevant to her

I think you might have missed the point of our post, the post by the OP and the points we made about reflecting are not mutually exclusive, they can exist in the same space. The OP is still in the fun space, and our post remians relevant, especially in this lifestyle. Being OK in the moment and carrying on can often seem the best choice in the right now. Our point was this particular set of circumstances as described has complexity and consequences embedded in it.

For sure it seems all grand and fun right now, the potential for future fallout still exists.

Experience suggests the ride isn't over, neither is the situation, which means neither the OP, the boss, you, nor I can substantiate any opinion as as matter of fact or be correctness.

Let's just agree to enjoy the popcorn and wait for the thrilling climax.

See what we did there with thrilling climax, oh the joy of words !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

She has said how it as turned out, so your points are irrelevant to her

I think you might have missed the point of our post, the post by the OP and the points we made about reflecting are not mutually exclusive, they can exist in the same space. The OP is still in the fun space, and our post remians relevant, especially in this lifestyle. Being OK in the moment and carrying on can often seem the best choice in the right now. Our point was this particular set of circumstances as described has complexity and consequences embedded in it.

For sure it seems all grand and fun right now, the potential for future fallout still exists.

Experience suggests the ride isn't over, neither is the situation, which means neither the OP, the boss, you, nor I can substantiate any opinion as as matter of fact or be correctness.

Let's just agree to enjoy the popcorn and wait for the thrilling climax.

See what we did there with thrilling climax, oh the joy of words !

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a group fuck with a woman n 4 other guys at a club before spending a few hours alone fucking her in a private room on a Friday the following Monday I was at work like normal and bumped right in to her She turned white as a ghost but lucky we were alone so reassured her I wasn't going to say anything to any one at work

Saw n fucked her a few more times at the club after n if we saw each at worked we'd just grin at each other

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By *hatnameWoman
over a year ago

Near You


"My boss at work has recognised me from a picture I have now taken down which showed my face in a naked pose.

He messaged to compliment the picture using my real name!

So he has seen me naked having sex and read my graphic verifications.

I am worried but at the same time turned on!

hubby also feels the same !

The next time anyone asks me why I don't have a face pic, I'll be directing them to this thread.

He has liked all my pictures and keeps looking at my profile!

Also he sent a friends message

Anyone else had a similar experience?

Hubby says it’s my call as I have to work with him !!

"

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By *angtidy42Couple
over a year ago

Redditch

Save everything you have and keep it safe.

Use it if you need to only to protect yourself. If he's on here then you should also be safe.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"My boss at work has recognised me from a picture I have now taken down which showed my face in a naked pose.

He messaged to compliment the picture using my real name!

So he has seen me naked having sex and read my graphic verifications.

I am worried but at the same time turned on!

hubby also feels the same !

He has liked all my pictures and keeps looking at my profile!

Also he sent a friends message

Anyone else had a similar experience?

Hubby says it’s my call as I have to work with him !!

"

Should be in the fantasy section

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"I had a group fuck with a woman n 4 other guys at a club before spending a few hours alone fucking her in a private room on a Friday the following Monday I was at work like normal and bumped right in to her She turned white as a ghost but lucky we were alone so reassured her I wasn't going to say anything to any one at work

Saw n fucked her a few more times at the club after n if we saw each at worked we'd just grin at each other "

Fantasy

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I had a group fuck with a woman n 4 other guys at a club before spending a few hours alone fucking her in a private room on a Friday the following Monday I was at work like normal and bumped right in to her She turned white as a ghost but lucky we were alone so reassured her I wasn't going to say anything to any one at work

Saw n fucked her a few more times at the club after n if we saw each at worked we'd just grin at each other

Fantasy"

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"When I went for my last job I got a text from a T girl I know saying I’ve just seen your C.V at our directors board meeting and had to declare I knew you as a friend of your husbands.

He now my boss and he knows about me and I know about him and the two just don’t mix now. I did get a £7k payrise though!! "

And at any future interviews, when they ask you what your hobbies are; do you mention swinging?

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