FabSwingers.com forum: Getting blocked for politely declining

By *na and Hubby OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

You would have thought a lot of us on here would be adult enough to accept rejection. Emotional and sexual immaturity is a dangerous thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I use it if I know I’m not interested in someone etc. Or I’ve said I’m not interested and they message again a couple weeks later. People take offence at blocking on here, no need.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Its a good way for him to make sure he doesnt bother you again ..or waste his time

Nuthin personal

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By *herrySnickersWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Sometimes it’s just as simple as you don’t want to see those pics in your feed or they remind you of someone you want to forget...it’s not all bad...X c

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

Nah, with that attitude I think that they had a lucky escape

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

They are doing me a favour and saving my time and energy

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By *ustalittleKinkWoman
over a year ago

in the shadows

I see blocking as a positive thing. It means they've taken on board what you've said and blocked you to make sure they don't bother you again

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

If everyone I ignored or declined blocked me, it would save me blocking them a week later when they send another, often identical message.

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

I use the block button as a filter!

A polite no thanks or the message read and deleted to me says they are not interested.

A block then stops their profile popping up in my searches, also stops the temptation of a repeat message, especially when you look six months later and see you have messaged and they have replied, but you can't remember what was said!

It's not throwing the teddy out of the pram it is responsible block usage!

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

If you have declined them, you are not interested so they are being sensible and ensuring they don't bother you again.

You are not interested so why does it matter if they block you? They are trying not to waste your time or theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If everyone I ignored or declined blocked me, it would save me blocking them a week later when they send another, often identical message. "

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By *na and Hubby OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Some interesting views and some we hadn't considered, thanks

There was slightly more too it than just a block but we see the logic in using it as a filter, maybe something we will try to do more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is that the same when I block men after declining them?

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By *orny billingham bangersCouple
over a year ago

butlins skegness

"Its a good way for him to make sure he doesnt bother you again ..or waste his time

Nuthin personal

Ditto! Thats how we see it

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By *osco78Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

I use the block button as a filter!

A polite no thanks or the message read and deleted to me says they are not interested.

It's not throwing the teddy out of the pram it is responsible block usage!"
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I've done this too, makes me laugh when you have to check availability with work/childcare commitments and you get blocked for not being available at someone's demand...thankfully this site is just fun and not my top priority

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By *ooking4funnowMan
over a year ago

Essex

I have started doing this, if i send a message and its either deleted or a message back saying no thanks i block them saves sending them more messages in future when you know they are not interested anyway.

Apologies to those i have not got round to blocking yet hehe.

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

My blocked list is bigger than fabs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

I use the block button as a filter!

A polite no thanks or the message read and deleted to me says they are not interested.

It's not throwing the teddy out of the pram it is responsible block usage!"

Totally agree and saves repeated embarrassment on either side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

Lost here, if you've declined you aren't interested, so surely blocking is the sensible thing to do so they don't ask again by mistake.

But even more confusing, how would you know, if you aren't interested why are you going back on their profile?

We block everybody we turn down, it just makes sense.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

i just don't get why people are bothered by the actions of other people they were never intending on meeting....

if they block they never get in contact with you again... accidently or otherwise!!

isn't that in effect... job done and completed?

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

It's better than getting an identical message in the run up to the weekend - hoping you've changed your mind..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

well u decline they block you and voila now the search narrows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

well u decline they block you and voila now the search narrows"

Some Fab guys do it after they send an abusive reply to your polite "no thanks" .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

I don't see any problem with being blocked after declining someone at all it stops them pestering you in the future and could be seen as a polite option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

i just don't get why people are bothered by the actions of other people they were never intending on meeting....

if they block they never get in contact with you again... accidently or otherwise!!

isn't that in effect... job done and completed?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

to block or not that is the question..our block list is empty thats nill.. you would be surprised just how many get in contact after deleting message then blocking us, a few weeks later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we are not interested or vice versa then we block, saves contacting them accidentally again, simple

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"If we are not interested or vice versa then we block, saves contacting them accidentally again, simple"

Exactly!

If you're not interested in someone or vice versa why on earth is being blocked a problem?

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Being an optimist, I rarely block people who I've messaged even if they deleted it.

I do use the private notes, so if they change their user name and profile pic, I don't email again in error, but they can message me if they change their mind.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

It wasn't a guy called Kev was it?

No, seriously people like that, ruin it for everyone here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not really. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I use it if I know I’m not interested in someone etc. Or I’ve said I’m not interested and they message again a couple weeks later. People take offence at blocking on here, no need. "

This

We do it a fair bit, it's nothing personal and nothing to be offended about OP.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Maybe we just need a no-thank-you-button added to the mailbox, that way the rejection is handled with some tact.

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By *na and Hubby OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

No offence was taken to being blocked, there are only so many ways you can say no thank you to some fairly persistent messaging

We will be more liberal with the block button ourselves in the future

Thank you everyone for your opinions

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I use it if someone says no thank you. It’s not me throwing my toys out of the pram I use it so I don’t message them again in the future. It’s my way of reminding myself.

On another note if someone messes me about I use the block button with great delight.

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By *ucia932Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s used as a filter by many, I doubt there are any hard feelings.

I do it too, if I’m not interested in someone and they can’t take no for an answer or someone who I’ve never met is getting far too intense I will block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just happened to us

But after an abusive message, we blocked them too

If it’s just after we say no we aren’t bothered and would very rarely notice anyway

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

That's unnecessarily rude , why call the man trash ?

If a profile has no interest in me I block them, simple clean and efficient . Why would I want to see in my searchs profiles whom I shall never meet ?

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

That's unnecessarily rude , why call the man trash ?

If a profile has no interest in me I block them, simple clean and efficient . Why would I want to see in my searchs profiles whom I shall never meet ?

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"I see blocking as a positive thing. It means they've taken on board what you've said and blocked you to make sure they don't bother you again

Exactly like I see it.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

From what I've read the op hadn't said what gender it was.. the assumption is it's a guy (rightly possibly wrongly just as possible) with the usual I've had abuse from guys after saying no thanks so I block ..well couple's and ladies can be just as abusive.and yep they get blocked as well.

Op.It's a site tool folk use for different reasons. I suggest it often.. why worry about those that exclude ..put your time energy and focus on those that include.

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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago

South Fife

I must admit to blocking people for many reasons...but mainly if we are never going to meet reason for whatever I might block them...such as this case. It helps to unclutter ny status feed and my browsing and keep it relevant. I don`t mean to give offence by it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fantastic analogy op, happens a lot

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

I use the block button as a filter!

A polite no thanks or the message read and deleted to me says they are not interested.

It's not throwing the teddy out of the pram it is responsible block usage!"

I think (and do) exactly the same mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

I use the block button as a filter!

A polite no thanks or the message read and deleted to me says they are not interested.

It's not throwing the teddy out of the pram it is responsible block usage!

I think (and do) exactly the same mate "

Exactly what I do

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

If you'd declined, why would you want them to contact you again? By blocking you they can avoid this happening as you won't show in updates or srarching. I can't see the problem. Move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's gratuitously rude and the cowards way out. It's NOT acceptable

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

It's gratuitously rude and the cowards way out. It's NOT acceptable "

It's really not. It saves wasted time on BOTH sides. Why engage with people you don't wish to meet or converse with. It's just another filter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's gratuitously rude and the cowards way out. It's NOT acceptable

It's really not. It saves wasted time on BOTH sides. Why engage with people you don't wish to meet or converse with. It's just another filter. "

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

It's gratuitously rude and the cowards way out. It's NOT acceptable

It's really not. It saves wasted time on BOTH sides. Why engage with people you don't wish to meet or converse with. It's just another filter.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

Not really if we get rejected or have social with a couple and we don't get on then we will block it avoids any confusion later on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is a good thing. If a guy is sending out hundreds of messages he’s going to forget who has said no to him. By him blocking you, it means he won’t accidenatlly message you again

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

It's gratuitously rude and the cowards way out. It's NOT acceptable "

For some, me included, it is acceptable and a good idea. Use the site tools to run your profile how you like.

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

It's gratuitously rude and the cowards way out. It's NOT acceptable "

Why is it gratuitously rude to not contact people who don't want you to contact them? If people don't want to meet you then it is perfectly acceptable to block them so no more messages are exchanged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's gratuitously rude and the cowards way out. It's NOT acceptable

Why is it gratuitously rude to not contact people who don't want you to contact them? If people don't want to meet you then it is perfectly acceptable to block them so no more messages are exchanged. "

I am in total agreement on that people who don't like it are the ones who find themselves blocked while attempting to send some nasty abuse for being rejected. Admin advice people to block others to prevent problems.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

So why would that bother you? After all you weren't interested!

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By *DKinkyJenTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

Literally had one of the more bizarre ‘I’ve been blocked so can’t respond to this message’ experiences today because I’d been direct (told them that if they kept up putting x’s after every sentence i’d quickly lose interest), then they decided to (I think) try and insult me by insinuating I am ‘self indulgent’ (possibly true but my prerogative surely when I’m on a site like this) and after ‘fat hairy old men’ (which I don’t know where they got and I’m not btw, with no offence meant to any fat hairy old men out there).

Not complaining in any way but just found it amusing and thought I’d search the forums for any similar experiences

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By *art123Man
over a year ago

Stoke

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all like different things what floats someone’s boat is not another persons cuppa, but when someone approaches we feel bad for not being there cuppa it’s easier to block them recieve there reply as we feel bad for rejecting, we all deal with things differently xxx

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

That happened to me kept emailing me even though I asked him not to .....told him to block me he wouldn't so I blocked him what an arsehole said it wasn't his thing blocking people and as it bothered me so much block him he was just a pain who didn't know what NO meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ops original post was funny but a bit crass. I think being politely declined is perfectly acceptable and then blocking to save embarrassment all round works well but I also use the block to filter out anybody who doesn’t want to meet men of my age, colour, height, etc or any unwanted attention. I used to think it was rude to block but now I have discovered how useful it is and how much less full the local updates is I think it’s really rather fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see blocking as a positive thing. It means they've taken on board what you've said and blocked you to make sure they don't bother you again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t see the problem if people block us. We do the same so we don’t encounter them again. It’s not nasty or vindictive just sorting wheat from chaff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no issues being blocked, I block people if their not what I’m looking for, it is annoying when they message you off another profile or a singles profile being childish after you have blocked them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

Other than when they send you a shitty message calling you all sorts and THEN block you with no retaliation.

Happens loads with couples who won’t send a face pic because they’re ‘professionals’ and I refuse to meet in case I don’t fancy her and it being awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you thought that maybe it’s because they don’t want to bother you again . Most people who spend a lot of time on here look at so many profiles they can’t Rember who has declined. Just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you rather they kept messaging or winking after forgetting your previous rejection. It also stops you coming up in their searches. Don't understand why people take is as a personal slight... Or actually care at all tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens to me all the time but I'm an ugly git so its no surprise lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

Surely if they block you after you have said no then they are making sure they do not contact you again

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By *losguygl3Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

I use the block button as a filter!

A polite no thanks or the message read and deleted to me says they are not interested.

It's not throwing the teddy out of the pram it is responsible block usage!"

Yep I do this. Saves repeat messaging by mistake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you thought that maybe it’s because they don’t want to bother you again . Most people who spend a lot of time on here look at so many profiles they can’t Rember who has declined. Just a thought "

This does happen. I also use it to get rid of people from showing up in my searches if I don’t fancy them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

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It's difficult remembering who you've spoken to on here, so if you've been rejected it's easiest way to stop messaging someone who's not interested in you, women use this method for men all the time

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Without reading the whole thread...

Blocking is not necessarily an emotional action or aimed at anyone personally. Some of us block everyone they are not interested in talking to, just so they do not message again and waste their time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Without reading the whole thread...

Blocking is not necessarily an emotional action or aimed at anyone personally. Some of us block everyone they are not interested in talking to, just so they do not message again and waste their time."
I just said that am I here can anybody see me? Help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If everyone I ignored or declined blocked me, it would save me blocking them a week later when they send another, often identical message. "

Exactly this. People can block me as much as they like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If everyone I ignored or declined blocked me, it would save me blocking them a week later when they send another, often identical message.

Exactly this. People can block me as much as they like."
blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

Comparing those you refuse to trash? Stay classy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If everyone I ignored or declined blocked me, it would save me blocking them a week later when they send another, often identical message.

Exactly this. People can block me as much as they like.blocked"

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If everyone I ignored or declined blocked me, it would save me blocking them a week later when they send another, often identical message.

Exactly this. People can block me as much as they like.blocked

Ditto

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

"I see blocking as a positive thing. It means they've taken on board what you've said and blocked you to make sure they don't bother you again

The alternative is to save the message to remind you that you were turned down or make a private note (my preference).

In 6 months time when all you have to go on is the record of an exchange of messages,you'll be tempted to write again.

Upon rejection Women often get whining messages or worse so hit the block button to avoid the grief.

If a profile is of no interest to you, the block button saves wasting time for all concerned.

Currently 3 single women on the fab radar within 50 miles lol.

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

Why not rename the block button. Call it the "never gonna happen" button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

Comparing those you refuse to trash? Stay classy

When talking about my gaping hole and shitting in my mouth, they are comparable to trash

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out

Comparing those you refuse to trash? Stay classy

When talking about my gaping hole and shitting in my mouth, they are comparable to trash

They are rare ones though.... I would hope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one likes being turned down.

But blocking after a refusal is a good way to not bother that person again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Without reading the whole thread...

Blocking is not necessarily an emotional action or aimed at anyone personally. Some of us block everyone they are not interested in talking to, just so they do not message again and waste their time.I just said that am I here can anybody see me? Help "

Who said that ? Hehehehehehehe!!!!!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It’s a good way to remind yourself they are not interested and not to message them again. I use I for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very well put. We use ours simply as a way to reduce the pool and don’t intend offence. Likewise we don’t get offended if it happens to us.

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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

Private notes are also our preferred method of reminders, but I think they are only available to site supporters, so it's easy to understand where the block button becomes a handy tool.

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By *oliath AwaitsMan
over a year ago

Gateshead

They do and often people block so they don't mail or pester someone who sin't interested you can't win at times.

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Never gave it much thought but if someone blocks someone else it avoids inbox conflict so it is hardly a bad thing is it?

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