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"Just block them... no need to say anything more... the conversation will only turn negative " I agree i used to reply back and say no thanks and yes i got hit with abuse so now i just block ,i dont know them so it does not bother me x | |||
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"I hate saying no especially when the message has been polite. I usually say im not planning on meeting anyone new as have enough arranged which is usually true. I dont meet many but always plan ahead. My profile also states that i would rather find myself a suitable meet but men still constantly ask." One should not have to give a reason why...just say not for me, wish them well and good luck on here | |||
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"We're wracking our brains over how to say no to people we don't want to meet. How do you say it politely and without causing offence? Quite a simple question you might think ... but not to us " sorry you're not our type but good luck | |||
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"Just block them... no need to say anything more... the conversation will only turn negative " Nope ... that's just rude and, for us, out of order. | |||
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"As a single guy, I do appreciate a thanks, no thanks or your not for us, or even no thank you, happy fabbing! Yes as a someone intrested in another’s profile and attracted to the photos / description etc it can be somewhat disheartening.... but I’d prefer to know rather than a block as I don’t think I’m that bad to deserve that! Bit harsh!! But I also understand that some people apparently get rude, of which isn’t on! Those should be banned from the site! Or better still, a warning on the profile of which others can se and be warned off, especially if you then saw them at a club!!! " This is how we feel ... if someone has taken the time to message us they deserve the courtesy of a reply. | |||
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"I hate saying no especially when the message has been polite. I usually say im not planning on meeting anyone new as have enough arranged which is usually true. I dont meet many but always plan ahead. My profile also states that i would rather find myself a suitable meet but men still constantly ask." We like this Thanks to everyone for the advice. Much appreciated xxx | |||
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"Just block them... no need to say anything more... the conversation will only turn negative Nope ... that's just rude and, for us, out of order." Well thank God their are still people around with a sense of etiquette | |||
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"Just block them... no need to say anything more... the conversation will only turn negative Nope ... that's just rude and, for us, out of order.Well thank God their are still people around with a sense of etiquette " | |||
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"Just block them... no need to say anything more... the conversation will only turn negative Nope ... that's just rude and, for us, out of order." No worries..... I’ve turned down a few couples and got some abuse.... | |||
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"Wow ?? Am shocked that a few polite people still exist on Fab Thanks " | |||
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"We're wracking our brains over how to say no to people we don't want to meet. How do you say it politely and without causing offence? Quite a simple question you might think ... but not to us " Just say thanks but no thanks its a clear but polite message. | |||
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"We're wracking our brains over how to say no to people we don't want to meet. How do you say it politely and without causing offence? Quite a simple question you might think ... but not to us " Some folk no matter how you say it will take offence.. personally I send .. thank you for the message and picture(s) I'm sure you'll find lots of fun on fab however it's not with me. Best wishes | |||
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"Just block them... no need to say anything more... the conversation will only turn negative Nope ... that's just rude and, for us, out of order. No worries..... I’ve turned down a few couples and got some abuse...." That's harsh treating everyone the same as the rude that you've had the misfortune of messaging. Very harsh. | |||
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"Just block them... no need to say anything more... the conversation will only turn negative Nope ... that's just rude and, for us, out of order." Well said... just take a look at there profile and say..Hi thanks for getting in touch..we have looked at your profile, but we feel, you are not what we are looking for meet wise..thanks | |||
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"We're wracking our brains over how to say no to people we don't want to meet. How do you say it politely and without causing offence? Quite a simple question you might think ... but not to us " If you say no thank you in a polite way any offence caused is not by you. | |||
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"Just block them... no need to say anything more... the conversation will only turn negative Nope ... that's just rude and, for us, out of order." | |||
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"We're wracking our brains over how to say no to people we don't want to meet. How do you say it politely and without causing offence? Quite a simple question you might think ... but not to us If you say no thank you in a polite way any offence caused is not by you. " | |||
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"We use a simple, thanks but you're not for us. Only a few times has anyone questioned why or got arsey, most accept with a thanks for replying. " This is what we do. If people get arsey block them. | |||
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"We're wracking our brains over how to say no to people we don't want to meet. How do you say it politely and without causing offence? Quite a simple question you might think ... but not to us " I simply reply with "Thanks for your message but no thanks. Happy swinging". Sometimes, I get a load of abuse back and occasionally I get a reply thanking me for my reply! | |||
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"We're wracking our brains over how to say no to people we don't want to meet. How do you say it politely and without causing offence? Quite a simple question you might think ... but not to us If you say no thank you in a polite way any offence caused is not by you. " | |||
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"We're wracking our brains over how to say no to people we don't want to meet. How do you say it politely and without causing offence? Quite a simple question you might think ... but not to us " I always say Nice but not for me. And leave it at that. Think I've only had two arsey messages after that in over a year. | |||
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"We reply to everyone. We usually say " sorry but not looking for anyone new at the moment " Which is true. We wish them all the best etc.etc. But some people just keep coming back at you. Sometimes 3 or 4 times. We've also had seemingly nice messages from a single guy who s sent us the exact same copy/ paste message 4 times!" Those ones crack me up. Is that they have zero recollection of prior messages, or are they just optimistic, or what? : ) | |||
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"We reply to everyone. We usually say " sorry but not looking for anyone new at the moment " Which is true. We wish them all the best etc.etc. But some people just keep coming back at you. Sometimes 3 or 4 times. We've also had seemingly nice messages from a single guy who s sent us the exact same copy/ paste message 4 times!" I had that within 24 hrs from 1 guy. Felt like groundhog day lol. | |||
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"Just block them... no need to say anything more... the conversation will only turn negative Nope ... that's just rude and, for us, out of order." Totally agree with you! Also thank you for posting this question, we’ve wondered what’s the best way to politely say “no” | |||
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"I’ve tried replying to everyone but it became a full time job, it’s too much and I know it’s not the fault of whoever is sending me a message but if all I did was reply to everyone I wouldn’t enjoy anything else here like the forums, I know in person it would be considered rude to ignore but I would also consider it rude if in person someone’s opening line to me was a faf message, imagine being in a bar and someone walking up to you saying ‘hey, you’re hot, let’s fk’ would I be considered rude by simply walking away? Even in a sex club that scenario would be them being rude, not me, luckily a lot here do send well thought out messages and I will reply with a no thank you when that happens but then there are others who try to strike up a conversation hoping it will lead to meets when I know I won’t meet them, if I do reply in that case I get abuse and end up blocking so yes, sometimes I will read and not reply simply because I get this daily and to be honest, as selfish as it sounds, I’m not here to placate others, I’m here for myself, I’ve gotten to a point that I see pm’s here as mail through a letter box, I don’t reply to everything, only some that are of interest to me, would you reply to every pizza restaurant wanting you to order their food even if you don’t want a pizza? That’s not rude, that’s standard, you don’t run after the guy in the street who just posted the flyer and say thanks but I don’t like the pizzas you serve, that would be weird right? I can see why people want a reply but the reality is it’s not always possible and sometimes better to simply accept you’re not everyone’s cup of tea " Very well put xx | |||
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"Just block them... no need to say anything more... the conversation will only turn negative Nope ... that's just rude and, for us, out of order. Well said... just take a look at there profile and say..Hi thanks for getting in touch..we have looked at your profile, but we feel, you are not what we are looking for meet wise..thanks " This is good! | |||
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"Thanks for the interest, but you are not what I'm looking for at the moment. I type it so often, my predictive text picks it up after the first word." I like that. It’s nice but fair. I’ve had a few replies that are just plain rude. No need for it | |||
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"Thanks for the interest, but you are not what I'm looking for at the moment. I type it so often, my predictive text picks it up after the first word." | |||
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"We use a simple, thanks but you're not for us. Only a few times has anyone questioned why or got arsey, most accept with a thanks for replying. " | |||
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"When I first joined, I did reply to every single message with a polite, thanks but no thanks, even explained why not, again politely. I was raised to be polite & courteous to treat others as you'd like to be treated, but soon found it was more hard work than it was worth. A lot just read & deleted my message, and thst was the end of it. But I recieved abuse, name calling, even threats from some. Others chose to try convince me to change my mind, giving reasons why I was wrong, telling me what I was missing out on. I soon developed a 'lack of conscience' in replying. Now, if soneone sends me what is obviously a well thought out, personal message I will send a polite reply but those kind of messages are rare. The rest get marked unread, left a few days then deleted. I've also learnt how to spot the ones I know will send a follow up (usually ranty) message when I do this, so I block them at the same time. I appreciate that it can be hard for some single guys on here, seems like all they get is ignored messages, but if I spent my time dealing with them I'd have no time to actually do anything else. " To add to this, if they've been rude enough to ignore a profile before messaging why should we have to be polite and message back to say no thanks? | |||
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"When I first joined, I did reply to every single message with a polite, thanks but no thanks, even explained why not, again politely. I was raised to be polite & courteous to treat others as you'd like to be treated, but soon found it was more hard work than it was worth. A lot just read & deleted my message, and thst was the end of it. But I recieved abuse, name calling, even threats from some. Others chose to try convince me to change my mind, giving reasons why I was wrong, telling me what I was missing out on. I soon developed a 'lack of conscience' in replying. Now, if soneone sends me what is obviously a well thought out, personal message I will send a polite reply but those kind of messages are rare. The rest get marked unread, left a few days then deleted. I've also learnt how to spot the ones I know will send a follow up (usually ranty) message when I do this, so I block them at the same time. I appreciate that it can be hard for some single guys on here, seems like all they get is ignored messages, but if I spent my time dealing with them I'd have no time to actually do anything else. To add to this, if they've been rude enough to ignore a profile before messaging why should we have to be polite and message back to say no thanks? " because one wrong doesn't beget another | |||
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"When I first joined, I did reply to every single message with a polite, thanks but no thanks, even explained why not, again politely. I was raised to be polite & courteous to treat others as you'd like to be treated, but soon found it was more hard work than it was worth. A lot just read & deleted my message, and thst was the end of it. But I recieved abuse, name calling, even threats from some. Others chose to try convince me to change my mind, giving reasons why I was wrong, telling me what I was missing out on. I soon developed a 'lack of conscience' in replying. Now, if soneone sends me what is obviously a well thought out, personal message I will send a polite reply but those kind of messages are rare. The rest get marked unread, left a few days then deleted. I've also learnt how to spot the ones I know will send a follow up (usually ranty) message when I do this, so I block them at the same time. I appreciate that it can be hard for some single guys on here, seems like all they get is ignored messages, but if I spent my time dealing with them I'd have no time to actually do anything else. To add to this, if they've been rude enough to ignore a profile before messaging why should we have to be polite and message back to say no thanks? because one wrong doesn't beget another " What is wrong with not replying? Do you reply to every piece of junk mail that comes through your door? Ever unsolicited email every cold caller who calls you because my money isn't you don't like everyone dosn't . Not replying isn't rude or a wrong ask admin. | |||
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"I always prefer a polite refusal - it makes me feel like I am dealing with a fellow human being rather than being a commodity. Having said that I do also completely understand why many of the women on here don’t reply given how many messages they get but I think the instant block is offensive and unnecessary. " 100% with this! | |||
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"Just block them... no need to say anything more... the conversation will only turn negative Nope ... that's just rude and, for us, out of order. Well said... just take a look at there profile and say..Hi thanks for getting in touch..we have looked at your profile, but we feel, you are not what we are looking for meet wise..thanks " That would be the perfect way of putting it for me. How could anyone feel upset after being let down in such a positive and well thought out way. Brill!! | |||
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"We're wracking our brains over how to say no to people we don't want to meet. How do you say it politely and without causing offence? Quite a simple question you might think ... but not to us " I just say "you're not what I'm looking for, best of luck and stay safe, good bye" However it is actually not very often I have to say that, but it has been said. I have had it said to me, to which I always respond with "thank you for taking the time to reply, take care and best of luck" So far I have only once ever received any abuse and I have certainly never ever given any out.. to do so is pointless and counterproductive, not to mention bad manners. As regards blocking, I can understand why people do it, it is a useful function, however I can't help but think that sometimes it enflames the problem too, a person who is likely to hurl abuse is likely to become more abusive the more they are blocked, that being said it is still a simple and effective way to stop the abuse. | |||
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"We're wracking our brains over how to say no to people we don't want to meet. How do you say it politely and without causing offence? Quite a simple question you might think ... but not to us " A polite no should do the trick. If they react negatively to it, you thank yourself for being discerning. | |||
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"We're wracking our brains over how to say no to people we don't want to meet. How do you say it politely and without causing offence? Quite a simple question you might think ... but not to us sorry you're not our type but good luck " like wise x storm x | |||
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"We're wracking our brains over how to say no to people we don't want to meet. How do you say it politely and without causing offence? Quite a simple question you might think ... but not to us " Normally if the message was well thought out and effort we just say not for us thanks. If it was the standard hi how are you, delete and block, if its rude or coarse normal take the piss in a similar tone. | |||
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"We're wracking our brains over how to say no to people we don't want to meet. How do you say it politely and without causing offence? Quite a simple question you might think ... but not to us A polite no should do the trick. If they react negatively to it, you thank yourself for being discerning." After you have been abused a dozen or so times you tend to avoid the no thanks message you can actually predict many of the people who get abusive after a while and besides if you don't reply to an unverified person or non site supporter they can't mail you again so that raises another quandary. | |||
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"When I first joined, I did reply to every single message with a polite, thanks but no thanks, even explained why not, again politely. I was raised to be polite & courteous to treat others as you'd like to be treated, but soon found it was more hard work than it was worth. A lot just read & deleted my message, and thst was the end of it. But I recieved abuse, name calling, even threats from some. Others chose to try convince me to change my mind, giving reasons why I was wrong, telling me what I was missing out on. I soon developed a 'lack of conscience' in replying. Now, if soneone sends me what is obviously a well thought out, personal message I will send a polite reply but those kind of messages are rare. The rest get marked unread, left a few days then deleted. I've also learnt how to spot the ones I know will send a follow up (usually ranty) message when I do this, so I block them at the same time. I appreciate that it can be hard for some single guys on here, seems like all they get is ignored messages, but if I spent my time dealing with them I'd have no time to actually do anything else. To add to this, if they've been rude enough to ignore a profile before messaging why should we have to be polite and message back to say no thanks? because one wrong doesn't beget another What is wrong with not replying? Do you reply to every piece of junk mail that comes through your door? Ever unsolicited email every cold caller who calls you because my money isn't you don't like everyone dosn't . Not replying isn't rude or a wrong ask admin. " Precisely.. Have you seen my current status? Still doesn't stop messages, very obviously from people who CBA to read my profile. Why should I reply | |||
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"We're wracking our brains over how to say no to people we don't want to meet. How do you say it politely and without causing offence? Quite a simple question you might think ... but not to us " I say either Thanks for the message but we are set up for meets but have a lovely night tho or Thanks for the message but your not for us. Have a lovely night tho Never had abuse. More often than not they say thank you x | |||
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"Typical message ladies have to deal with ...: “I’m starving” Men of Fab: “I’ve got something for you to eat” Lady: “I didn’t sleep a wink last night” Mof: “I know how to put you to sleep” Lady: “I’m so depressed, my dog just died” Mof: “I’ve got a bone that cheer you up” " Ha ha yes so true.... | |||
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"As a single guy, I do appreciate a thanks, no thanks or your not for us, or even no thank you, happy fabbing! Yes as a someone intrested in another’s profile and attracted to the photos / description etc it can be somewhat disheartening.... but I’d prefer to know rather than a block as I don’t think I’m that bad to deserve that! Bit harsh! But I also understand that some people apparently get rude, of which isn’t on! Those should be banned from the site! Or better still, a warning on the profile of which others can se and be warned off, especially if you then saw them at a club!!! " Totally agree, it takes very little effort to say thanks for the interest but you’re not for us/me. Saves people wondering as if a msg is just deleted I think it’s just bad manners. Someone has bothered to msg and express an interest, flattering but yeah not for us. 90% reply with thanks for letting us know....then move on. We’re all meant to be adults on here after all | |||
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"We're wracking our brains over how to say no to people we don't want to meet. How do you say it politely and without causing offence? Quite a simple question you might think ... but not to us " ‘ Thank you for your messages but not what I’m looking for - happy swinging ‘ That’s what I say | |||
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"We're wracking our brains over how to say no to people we don't want to meet. How do you say it politely and without causing offence? Quite a simple question you might think ... but not to us ‘ Thank you for your messages but not what I’m looking for - happy swinging ‘ That’s what I say " you never said that to me, you said how quickly can you get here | |||
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"We're wracking our brains over how to say no to people we don't want to meet. How do you say it politely and without causing offence? Quite a simple question you might think ... but not to us ‘ Thank you for your messages but not what I’m looking for - happy swinging ‘ That’s what I say you never said that to me, you said how quickly can you get here " Haha and then you woke up Jokes | |||
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"I just say they seem nice, but they are unfortunately not my type. I usually end it with something positive, like I hope they have fun on the site and to take care " Glad i didn't get that reply from you .lol . Hope you are well lovely xxx | |||
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"As a single guy, I do appreciate a thanks, no thanks or your not for us, or even no thank you, happy fabbing! Yes as a someone intrested in another’s profile and attracted to the photos / description etc it can be somewhat disheartening.... but I’d prefer to know rather than a block as I don’t think I’m that bad to deserve that! Bit harsh! But I also understand that some people apparently get rude, of which isn’t on! Those should be banned from the site! Or better still, a warning on the profile of which others can se and be warned off, especially if you then saw them at a club!!! Totally agree, it takes very little effort to say thanks for the interest but you’re not for us/me. Saves people wondering as if a msg is just deleted I think it’s just bad manners. Someone has bothered to msg and express an interest, flattering but yeah not for us. 90% reply with thanks for letting us know....then move on. We’re all meant to be adults on here after all " Interesting view on how busy other people's lives are So how many unsolicited mails and messages do you reply to every single day, that includes any emails at work, I get about 300 of those a day, sales nonsense. Now ask Scarlettx the same question, or any couple with a de ent looking woman and tell them how much of their day they should spend replying to messages, wspe ially when their profile already says please don't message me. I would like to know how I should manage my time if you can help out? I would estimate it would take me two hours a day, when should I do it? | |||
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"As a single guy, I do appreciate a thanks, no thanks or your not for us, or even no thank you, happy fabbing! Yes as a someone intrested in another’s profile and attracted to the photos / description etc it can be somewhat disheartening.... but I’d prefer to know rather than a block as I don’t think I’m that bad to deserve that! Bit harsh! But I also understand that some people apparently get rude, of which isn’t on! Those should be banned from the site! Or better still, a warning on the profile of which others can se and be warned off, especially if you then saw them at a club!!! Totally agree, it takes very little effort to say thanks for the interest but you’re not for us/me. Saves people wondering as if a msg is just deleted I think it’s just bad manners. Someone has bothered to msg and express an interest, flattering but yeah not for us. 90% reply with thanks for letting us know....then move on. We’re all meant to be adults on here after all Interesting view on how busy other people's lives are So how many unsolicited mails and messages do you reply to every single day, that includes any emails at work, I get about 300 of those a day, sales nonsense. Now ask Scarlettx the same question, or any couple with a de ent looking woman and tell them how much of their day they should spend replying to messages, wspe ially when their profile already says please don't message me. I would like to know how I should manage my time if you can help out? I would estimate it would take me two hours a day, when should I do it? " Ok well here it is .... been on here for 5 years and every day since then never less than 100 messages a day. Putting a pic up (because I do actually want to have a meet) means an overnight 1 thousand messages + That’s not me blowing smoke up my arse that’s absolute fact for anyone popular on here (Ask them) And I can tell you that 95% of messages are nothing like my preferences I try to reply to as many as I can but I work full time and just don’t get time I appreciate all messages but it’s a harsh reality I can’t reply to all | |||
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"As a single guy, I do appreciate a thanks, no thanks or your not for us, or even no thank you, happy fabbing! Yes as a someone intrested in another’s profile and attracted to the photos / description etc it can be somewhat disheartening.... but I’d prefer to know rather than a block as I don’t think I’m that bad to deserve that! Bit harsh! But I also understand that some people apparently get rude, of which isn’t on! Those should be banned from the site! Or better still, a warning on the profile of which others can se and be warned off, especially if you then saw them at a club!!! Totally agree, it takes very little effort to say thanks for the interest but you’re not for us/me. Saves people wondering as if a msg is just deleted I think it’s just bad manners. Someone has bothered to msg and express an interest, flattering but yeah not for us. 90% reply with thanks for letting us know....then move on. We’re all meant to be adults on here after all Interesting view on how busy other people's lives are So how many unsolicited mails and messages do you reply to every single day, that includes any emails at work, I get about 300 of those a day, sales nonsense. Now ask Scarlettx the same question, or any couple with a de ent looking woman and tell them how much of their day they should spend replying to messages, wspe ially when their profile already says please don't message me. I would like to know how I should manage my time if you can help out? I would estimate it would take me two hours a day, when should I do it? Ok well here it is .... been on here for 5 years and every day since then never less than 100 messages a day. Putting a pic up (because I do actually want to have a meet) means an overnight 1 thousand messages + That’s not me blowing smoke up my arse that’s absolute fact for anyone popular on here (Ask them) And I can tell you that 95% of messages are nothing like my preferences I try to reply to as many as I can but I work full time and just don’t get time I appreciate all messages but it’s a harsh reality I can’t reply to all " exactly and that's the same for many women and couples here not enough time, so bulk delete | |||
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"As a single guy, I do appreciate a thanks, no thanks or your not for us, or even no thank you, happy fabbing! Yes as a someone intrested in another’s profile and attracted to the photos / description etc it can be somewhat disheartening.... but I’d prefer to know rather than a block as I don’t think I’m that bad to deserve that! Bit harsh! But I also understand that some people apparently get rude, of which isn’t on! Those should be banned from the site! Or better still, a warning on the profile of which others can se and be warned off, especially if you then saw them at a club!!! Totally agree, it takes very little effort to say thanks for the interest but you’re not for us/me. Saves people wondering as if a msg is just deleted I think it’s just bad manners. Someone has bothered to msg and express an interest, flattering but yeah not for us. 90% reply with thanks for letting us know....then move on. We’re all meant to be adults on here after all Interesting view on how busy other people's lives are So how many unsolicited mails and messages do you reply to every single day, that includes any emails at work, I get about 300 of those a day, sales nonsense. Now ask Scarlettx the same question, or any couple with a de ent looking woman and tell them how much of their day they should spend replying to messages, wspe ially when their profile already says please don't message me. I would like to know how I should manage my time if you can help out? I would estimate it would take me two hours a day, when should I do it? " I also have a busy life...single parent, working momma etc but we can all take 5 mins when doing other things to send a reply | |||
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"As a single guy, I do appreciate a thanks, no thanks or your not for us, or even no thank you, happy fabbing! Yes as a someone intrested in another’s profile and attracted to the photos / description etc it can be somewhat disheartening.... but I’d prefer to know rather than a block as I don’t think I’m that bad to deserve that! Bit harsh! But I also understand that some people apparently get rude, of which isn’t on! Those should be banned from the site! Or better still, a warning on the profile of which others can se and be warned off, especially if you then saw them at a club!!! Totally agree, it takes very little effort to say thanks for the interest but you’re not for us/me. Saves people wondering as if a msg is just deleted I think it’s just bad manners. Someone has bothered to msg and express an interest, flattering but yeah not for us. 90% reply with thanks for letting us know....then move on. We’re all meant to be adults on here after all Interesting view on how busy other people's lives are So how many unsolicited mails and messages do you reply to every single day, that includes any emails at work, I get about 300 of those a day, sales nonsense. Now ask Scarlettx the same question, or any couple with a de ent looking woman and tell them how much of their day they should spend replying to messages, wspe ially when their profile already says please don't message me. I would like to know how I should manage my time if you can help out? I would estimate it would take me two hours a day, when should I do it? Ok well here it is .... been on here for 5 years and every day since then never less than 100 messages a day. Putting a pic up (because I do actually want to have a meet) means an overnight 1 thousand messages + That’s not me blowing smoke up my arse that’s absolute fact for anyone popular on here (Ask them) And I can tell you that 95% of messages are nothing like my preferences I try to reply to as many as I can but I work full time and just don’t get time I appreciate all messages but it’s a harsh reality I can’t reply to all " Love it when people moan about so many messages yet fail to do the simple thing and just block everyone from messaging them and go look themselves, a far better use of time | |||
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"Just block them... no need to say anything more... the conversation will only turn negative I agree i used to reply back and say no thanks and yes i got hit with abuse so now i just block ,i dont know them so it does not bother me x" Yep I do too now. Never used to. Tried to be nice but it doesnt seem to work | |||
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"As a single guy, I do appreciate a thanks, no thanks or your not for us, or even no thank you, happy fabbing! Yes as a someone intrested in another’s profile and attracted to the photos / description etc it can be somewhat disheartening.... but I’d prefer to know rather than a block as I don’t think I’m that bad to deserve that! Bit harsh! But I also understand that some people apparently get rude, of which isn’t on! Those should be banned from the site! Or better still, a warning on the profile of which others can se and be warned off, especially if you then saw them at a club!!! Totally agree, it takes very little effort to say thanks for the interest but you’re not for us/me. Saves people wondering as if a msg is just deleted I think it’s just bad manners. Someone has bothered to msg and express an interest, flattering but yeah not for us. 90% reply with thanks for letting us know....then move on. We’re all meant to be adults on here after all Interesting view on how busy other people's lives are So how many unsolicited mails and messages do you reply to every single day, that includes any emails at work, I get about 300 of those a day, sales nonsense. Now ask Scarlettx the same question, or any couple with a de ent looking woman and tell them how much of their day they should spend replying to messages, wspe ially when their profile already says please don't message me. I would like to know how I should manage my time if you can help out? I would estimate it would take me two hours a day, when should I do it? Ok well here it is .... been on here for 5 years and every day since then never less than 100 messages a day. Putting a pic up (because I do actually want to have a meet) means an overnight 1 thousand messages + That’s not me blowing smoke up my arse that’s absolute fact for anyone popular on here (Ask them) And I can tell you that 95% of messages are nothing like my preferences I try to reply to as many as I can but I work full time and just don’t get time I appreciate all messages but it’s a harsh reality I can’t reply to all Love it when people moan about so many messages yet fail to do the simple thing and just block everyone from messaging them and go look themselves, a far better use of time" I didn't see it as moaning. Just an explanation behind not being able to reply to all. | |||
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"As a single guy, I do appreciate a thanks, no thanks or your not for us, or even no thank you, happy fabbing! Yes as a someone intrested in another’s profile and attracted to the photos / description etc it can be somewhat disheartening.... but I’d prefer to know rather than a block as I don’t think I’m that bad to deserve that! Bit harsh! But I also understand that some people apparently get rude, of which isn’t on! Those should be banned from the site! Or better still, a warning on the profile of which others can se and be warned off, especially if you then saw them at a club!!! Totally agree, it takes very little effort to say thanks for the interest but you’re not for us/me. Saves people wondering as if a msg is just deleted I think it’s just bad manners. Someone has bothered to msg and express an interest, flattering but yeah not for us. 90% reply with thanks for letting us know....then move on. We’re all meant to be adults on here after all Interesting view on how busy other people's lives are So how many unsolicited mails and messages do you reply to every single day, that includes any emails at work, I get about 300 of those a day, sales nonsense. Now ask Scarlettx the same question, or any couple with a de ent looking woman and tell them how much of their day they should spend replying to messages, wspe ially when their profile already says please don't message me. I would like to know how I should manage my time if you can help out? I would estimate it would take me two hours a day, when should I do it? Ok well here it is .... been on here for 5 years and every day since then never less than 100 messages a day. Putting a pic up (because I do actually want to have a meet) means an overnight 1 thousand messages + That’s not me blowing smoke up my arse that’s absolute fact for anyone popular on here (Ask them) And I can tell you that 95% of messages are nothing like my preferences I try to reply to as many as I can but I work full time and just don’t get time I appreciate all messages but it’s a harsh reality I can’t reply to all Love it when people moan about so many messages yet fail to do the simple thing and just block everyone from messaging them and go look themselves, a far better use of time" I’m guessing your comment is directed at those that actually moan rather than tagging it to the end of mine as if it were for me ? As my name was mentioned I wanted to answer what the gentleman was questioning And in fact i did in a very matter of fact way - no moaning at all ... that’s why I said I appreciate any messages , try to reply but can’t always manage it ‘ | |||
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"As a single guy, I do appreciate a thanks, no thanks or your not for us, or even no thank you, happy fabbing! Yes as a someone intrested in another’s profile and attracted to the photos / description etc it can be somewhat disheartening.... but I’d prefer to know rather than a block as I don’t think I’m that bad to deserve that! Bit harsh! But I also understand that some people apparently get rude, of which isn’t on! Those should be banned from the site! Or better still, a warning on the profile of which others can se and be warned off, especially if you then saw them at a club!!! Totally agree, it takes very little effort to say thanks for the interest but you’re not for us/me. Saves people wondering as if a msg is just deleted I think it’s just bad manners. Someone has bothered to msg and express an interest, flattering but yeah not for us. 90% reply with thanks for letting us know....then move on. We’re all meant to be adults on here after all Interesting view on how busy other people's lives are So how many unsolicited mails and messages do you reply to every single day, that includes any emails at work, I get about 300 of those a day, sales nonsense. Now ask Scarlettx the same question, or any couple with a de ent looking woman and tell them how much of their day they should spend replying to messages, wspe ially when their profile already says please don't message me. I would like to know how I should manage my time if you can help out? I would estimate it would take me two hours a day, when should I do it? Ok well here it is .... been on here for 5 years and every day since then never less than 100 messages a day. Putting a pic up (because I do actually want to have a meet) means an overnight 1 thousand messages + That’s not me blowing smoke up my arse that’s absolute fact for anyone popular on here (Ask them) And I can tell you that 95% of messages are nothing like my preferences I try to reply to as many as I can but I work full time and just don’t get time I appreciate all messages but it’s a harsh reality I can’t reply to all Love it when people moan about so many messages yet fail to do the simple thing and just block everyone from messaging them and go look themselves, a far better use of time I didn't see it as moaning. Just an explanation behind not being able to reply to all. " | |||
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