FabSwingers.com forum: Newbies dont stand a chance

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield

No!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok explain?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't agree as a newbie you've got as much chance as the next person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

but if you don't put yourself out there, what are you expecting to happen? We all have to do that to find what we want. What other approach do you think will work?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?"

You're screwed, and not in the good way. At some point if you're ever going to meet you have to take a leap of faith and be more open. If you're introvert and don't want to share pics or details people will be unlikely to believe you're legit.

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By *urved HunnyWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I like a newbie now and again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

I fully agree this site is very clicky. Especially the forums. I've been on sites enough times to know it's not who you are but who you friends with

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By *ames WhyteMan
over a year ago

Near Manchester Airport

We were all newbies once.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?"

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key *

*copyright - Shagtonight

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

I don’t entirely agree with you OP. Give yourself a little time. Maybe examine your expectations of the site. Read profiles. Search the forums for profile and photo advice threads. Ditto for social meets in your area so you can start to meet folk face to face in a non pressured and very friendly environment. Good luck. Have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude."

Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

I agree. We don't meet that often so when we do we want someone who's had mmf before. It doesn't mean a newbie will be nervous but if they have been in the situation before it's less likely to happen x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Have had loads of practice in threesomes and a few moresomes but not on this site ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. If someone has a nice profile, seems genuine, and sends a nice message then I don't care if they've been here one hour or for years.

In some ways I find newbies more interesting.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

"I don't agree as a newbie you've got as much chance as the next person "

not reading his profile str8 but has a veri from a guy .confused dot com

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly? I think new women have it worse. They're immediately bombarded, their inboxes filled with pictures of dicks and requests for utter filth. I'm amazed any of them stick it out past the first 48 hours, really.

We newbie chaps just have to, as others have said, put ourselves out there and hope that we appeal to someone.

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

No.... Cos everyone was new at some point.... Don't expect anything to happen today, tonight next week... Just dabble with the site and on some occasion when you least expect it you'll be at the right place at the right time..

I don't publish my meets... But if I said a meet happens every 1to 2half months... Wouldn't be far out... I've never ever met at more than an hours notice ever.. When it happens it's Allways meet now...... Don't waste your breath or head space o anything planned a week or even a day away.. Your host will either disappear or something will come up between now and then..Some crap scatty excuse.... thats my experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you fall into the trap of thinking that because this was a sex site it would be easy to get sex here?

Be patient.

Be nice.

Be respectful

Don’t have any expectations. Then you’ll eventually find your way as a Newbie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally disagree with the OP. For example, Ive followed the adventures of two new guys whiz I’ve been chatting to since they joined a few weeks ago. Both are getting very good meets with very hot people. One has been to a social and networked from that. He, apparently, now has good word of mouth working for him. The other has used the forums. Both give excellent chat and have very good pics. No secret handshakes, no insinuating themselves into cliques, just good communicators who are fun to talk to.

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

You’ve got to be in it to win it so to speak.

You can’t just sit back and expect it to all come running to you. You have to put yourself out there to some degree if you want something back. No good sitting doing nothing and complaining it’s not working

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey OP, just to give you a bit of hope, I have been on here for 7 weeks and I have already had one meet and I am currently arranging another. I am also a big guy!

In terms of advice, I would recommend you read the profile, make sure you have the qualities they are looking for and send them a nice thought out message.

Also worth noting women will most likely look at your profile and pics before opening your message, so make sure it is up to scratch and honest.

Best of luck to you OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

"Putting yourself out there" is an ambiguous term. But every interpretation I can think of, no if you aren;t willing to do that you probably don't stand a chance and are certainly going to struggle. You need to make an effort, be that online or in person.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

Can you explain your first question..genuine single guys don't stand a chance? ..I'd say ..the fakes have a lot less chance.

You say you had some meets from another site, whatever you did on the other site is transferable to fab. .. no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First time I tried swinging I was in my 30s, and I did meet a few nice people. So I’d say that being a newbie shouldn’t hold you back.

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

Maybe because they socialise?

How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

Imeet newbies if they have been respectful I fancy them and im looking

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

Maybe because they socialise?

How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?"

Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.

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By *anana JoeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

Everyone stands a chance if they treat others with respect. Don't get me wrong if you are clunge hanging from all the branches id the Wickkydikky tree you are going to be sadly disappointed but if you communicate respectfully you will get to meet people.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?"

It's not really charityshag.com, this place is a reflection on real life, the demands, insecurities and egos are just the same.

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

Maybe because they socialise?

How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?

Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice."

That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me its all about getting my name on the forums making some new friends iv had a couple of meets and now working on building enough confidence to go to a social or 2

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Every verified, experienced person on here was new at some point.

I have met newbies - the only reason you won't get a meet at some point is if you make no effort - no pics, poor profile, messages that put people off etc. If you're respectful and social on the site or at organised events, you'll get verified and no longer be 'a newbie.'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

Maybe because they socialise?

How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?

Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.

That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming. "

Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were all newbies once , problem for me I found most the fakes and no shows guys wanting pics were newbies , and just disappear so find it very hard to trust what there saying , rather wait and see if still here in a month then maybe , wink back see what happens ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

Maybe because they socialise?

How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?

Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.

That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.

Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out."

That’s totally different to my experience of socials. I’m sorry to read that you’ve had that experience. Organisers in this neck of the woods would go out of their way to ensure a new face felt welcomed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its all about how much effort you put in ....

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

Do you think it is any different for anybody else regardless of how long they have been on the site. Yes we might have a little or large circle of friends but every time we look to meet somebody new we have to put ourselves out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everybody started as newbies. So I don't understand your logic there. Just make sure your profile has a good variety of pictures, has a good write up and send good messages. That's how you will make a dent on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

Maybe because they socialise?

How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?

Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.

That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.

Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.

You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positive Internal Mental Projection - PIMP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

Maybe because they socialise?

How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?

Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.

That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.

Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.

You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable."

Perhaps it depends on the social. The one I've been to is great with any social newbie. Regardless of gender

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

Maybe because they socialise?

How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?

Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.

That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.

Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.

You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable."

I think having that mindset may be linked to the response you've encountered.

Plenty of single men thrive at socials

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I really dont agree OP.

After a spell as a couple on here I came back as a single. I spent the summer of 2017 having a great time meeting some great people in quite a short space of time. I don’t meet anyone at the moment due to my circumstance.

There is no secret other than decent pics and a decent intro message tailored around how you fit into the other persons needs.

Don’t give up this place is fun.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

Maybe because they socialise?

How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?

Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.

That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming. "

I'm in Peterborough, so I'd like to have somewhere to go to that wasn't 30 miles away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

Maybe because they socialise?

How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?

Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.

That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.

Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.

You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable.

I think having that mindset may be linked to the response you've encountered.

Plenty of single men thrive at socials"

The mindset came after the socials, not before.

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

No one stands a chance with that attitude and who says those who have been verified aren't genuine??

You have to put yourself out there to stand out, that's the point.

Laws of attraction are in favour of those who are attractive physically or have a well written profile.

And those that read profile before messaging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

Very true x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

If you're vwe or BBC as newbie, you'll get 10+ messages in 5min

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

No one stands a chance with that attitude and who says those who have been verified aren't genuine??

You have to put yourself out there to stand out, that's the point.

Laws of attraction are in favour of those who are attractive physically or have a well written profile.

And those that read profile before messaging"

Do you think my profile is well written?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

You've only been here 6 weeks and already meet verified. Think yourself lucky, you've done a lot better than most guys on here OP. You make your own luck on fab. Effort in = rewards out.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

Isn't that the point of attending one?!

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By *arry1212Man
over a year ago

london

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

U gotta get out there and go parties bro! Definitely go to parties to socialise! I've left parties at the same time as women (not on purpose) and end up in bed from a little bit of banter and convo

fuck being a keyboard warrior!

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By *overblesanWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun "

Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I disagree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun

Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40..."

Oh how sweet

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun

Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40...

Oh how sweet

A charmer for sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun

Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40...

Oh how sweet

Lol, how's that sweet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

Nope!

I do quite well on here, maybe because I’m an outgoing person, not a boring guy that just types on a computer keyboard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Nope!

I do quite well on here, maybe because I’m an outgoing person, not a boring guy that just types on a computer keyboard. "

Mind looking at my profile and give advice besides mentioning pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun

Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40...

Oh how sweet

A charmer for sure!"

Just gutted I'm a year out of age range

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun

Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40...

Oh how sweet

Lol, how's that sweet?

I may have been a tad sarcastic, in my comment

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By *xDeclanxxMan
over a year ago

Stourbridge

It's just the way it is on here. There are like 10,000 men to 1 woman. A woman that is usually a 5 out of 10 becomes a 9 on here and a guy that is a 9 becomes a 4 or 5 on here.

It's just supply and demand.

If you are black and/or well endowed then your chances of getting some action increase. I am a white athletic male with average sized cawk and have had 2 meets in about 18 months and had to work damn hard to get it lol.

I just come on to perv now tbh and wank a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun

Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40...

Oh how sweet

A charmer for sure!

Just gutted I'm a year out of age range

What a bummer that you only message with site supporters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only advise I can give (and this is to everyone) is be yourself, don’t try and be someone else just to please a particular meet... if they like you for who you are then that’s a great start.

You get out what you put in.... so if you like meeting new people, get yourself to a local club, chat to people, don’t exclude the Male half of a couple.... remember your an EXTRA into their sexy times, NOT an alternative.

Once your known by others to be genuine and also friendly, that’s half the battle won!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun

Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40...

Oh how sweet

Lol, how's that sweet?

I may have been a tad sarcastic, in my comment

I noticed.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

You do realise the reason they've met and verified each other is often they've all attended the same group social.

My advice for what it's worth, stop finding excuses not to do things and start finding reasons to do them.

Yes it's tough for some new members, for others it's a walk in the park.

Those who find it simple are the ones with good profiles, good picture's, a good attitude and a go get 'em PoV.

Good luck.

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

I think of you have the attributes that most women here seek and are mentally stable you will fare ok

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun

Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40...

Oh how sweet

A charmer for sure!

Just gutted I'm a year out of age range

I can see you scrambling to roll back the clock

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

Maybe because they socialise?

How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?

Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice."

As a newbie I went to loads of group socials when I first joined.

Maybe my forum persona helped, I don't whinge and whine or argue at the drop of a hat.

I'm easy going and have (I think) a sense of humour.

I've considered starting social just for newbies, still mulling it over.

I'd suggest if people don't get invited there's a reason.

If in doubt, start your own. People will come.....

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun

Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40...

Oh how sweet

A charmer for sure!

Just gutted I'm a year out of age range

What a bummer that you only message with site supporters.

No its called a preference. A good word for you to learn to respect.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

I fully agree this site is very clicky. Especially the forums. I've been on sites enough times to know it's not who you are but who you friends with "

Definitely true to a large degree. I've been lucky enough to meet some fabulous people, but VERY few from messaging on here. Pretty much everything I post of the forums seems like 'tumble', but also true to say that attending socials and getting known socially appears to be far more successful in my personal experience - with the result that I'm starting to feel like I'm part of a social circle (and becoming more so each month). I suspect a lot of it makes perfect sense as people get to be able to judge you in a more 'real' way. Can't say I feel part of a clique as yet, but I could imagine it appearing that way in a few more months time if things continue as they are. In point of fact I was introduced to the group by one of the few women who'd taken a chance on me and met me based on my messages to her and our 1-1 meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

Nearby genuine single guys who accom and live alone are all I'm looking for. So I feel you're wrong there OP.

Good job I don't have sex just for the sake of having it. What I mean is, finding a gen single guy who fits what I seek is similar to mission impossible. I constantly have my time wasted by single guys who ignore my profile wishes.

That aside, keep looking OP. There's plenty of women who will match what you seek. Fingers crossed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got no experience with women. I come to fab, and unsurprisingly most women are looking for experienced men.

It's like looking for a job, they want experience and since you don't have any, you can't get any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

Maybe because they socialise?

How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?

Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.

That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.

Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.

You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable."

The organisers I know would make an effort for ANY newbie, unless they had a really odd attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm what you could call a newbie to this site, here's my take;

I do find this site more cliquey than others I have had experience of. The conversations in the chat rooms seem closed, even if you try and join in the banter you get ignored.

I've been on other sites where people are far more welcoming in the chatrooms.

Not everybody wants to join the 'scene' either so suggesting you should get out to more socials only applies to some people. Swinging does exist outside of the scene, I have first hand experience.

Not that I'm one to talk as I've not been able to contact anyone yet but the key must to be patient and not pushy.

Profiles are only as good as the reader wants to take them. Different profiles tick different boxes, you just have to wait for someone to stumble over yours.

Good luck, and remember Swinging can take many different forms so take what you want from some advice and ignore the bits that don't fit you iyswim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've got no experience with women. I come to fab, and unsurprisingly most women are looking for experienced men.

It's like looking for a job, they want experience and since you don't have any, you can't get any. "

I a think the issue with this, is that some are looking for fun. Teaching can sometimes feel more like a job than fun. I'm sure there are some who would happily show you the ropes though. You just have to find them, which I know can be difficult

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm honestly not sure if fab is the ideal place for someone with zero experience with women. All you can be is honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Nearby genuine single guys who accom and live alone are all I'm looking for. So I feel you're wrong there OP.

That aside, keep looking OP. There's plenty of women who will match what you seek. Fingers crossed!"

Too bad, out of age range. Or id have not wasted my time on that blubsious ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun

Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40...

Oh how sweet

A charmer for sure!

Just gutted I'm a year out of age range

What a bummer that you only message with site supporters.

No its called a preference. A good word for you to learn to respect. "

Lol, I give no wood of what you say or think. And yes, my personality is who I am and my attitude depends on who you are. And in this case, non existent to me.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

Maybe because they socialise?

How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?

Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.

That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.

Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.

You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable.

The organisers I know would make an effort for ANY newbie, unless they had a really odd attitude."

Certainly true in the case of the Gloucester Social. They've made me feel very welcome over the last few months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill '

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

We were all newbies once upon a time!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill '"

for.examp site supporter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill '

for.examp site supporter

Having filters for site supports decreases the amount of men who join with no interest in meeting, are too stingy to pay the £5 and are just here for a wank. Although, some who are here for just a wank, sometimes do pay the £5. But it helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill '

for.examp site supporter

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill '

for.examp site supporter

Best £5 I ever spent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill '

for.examp site supporter

Best £5 I ever spent

Proud of you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Nearby genuine single guys who accom and live alone are all I'm looking for. So I feel you're wrong there OP.

That aside, keep looking OP. There's plenty of women who will match what you seek. Fingers crossed!

Too bad, out of age range. Or id have not wasted my time on that blubsious ass

Another time waster who ignores women's profiles! You think it's just about age when in fact it's not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I was a newbie once, done just fine thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Nearby genuine single guys who accom and live alone are all I'm looking for. So I feel you're wrong there OP.

That aside, keep looking OP. There's plenty of women who will match what you seek. Fingers crossed!

Too bad, out of age range. Or id have not wasted my time on that blubsious ass

Another time waster who ignores women's profiles! You think it's just about age when in fact it's not! "

I did read your profile.... :/, S have messaged you but out of age range. Doesn't let me message. Smh. You're just too fast to judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill '

for.examp site supporter

Best £5 I ever spent

Me too. Great wank material here. Well worth the fiver

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill '

for.examp site supporter

Best £5 I ever spent

Me too. Great wank material here. Well worth the fiver

5 pounds is wasted when there aren't many people that really want to meet.. plus the site supporter status isn't going to allow you to message those that have age filters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill '

for.examp site supporter

Best £5 I ever spent

Me too. Great wank material here. Well worth the fiver

5 pounds is wasted when there aren't many people that really want to meet.. plus the site supporter status isn't going to allow you to message those that have age filters.

Yet a lot have veris as proof they do meet. Strange that is, isn't It?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill '

for.examp site supporter

Best £5 I ever spent

Me too. Great wank material here. Well worth the fiver

5 pounds is wasted when there aren't many people that really want to meet.. plus the site supporter status isn't going to allow you to message those that have age filters.

Yet a lot have veris as proof they do meet. Strange that is, isn't It?

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I don't find it strange but true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Nearby genuine single guys who accom and live alone are all I'm looking for. So I feel you're wrong there OP.

That aside, keep looking OP. There's plenty of women who will match what you seek. Fingers crossed!

Too bad, out of age range. Or id have not wasted my time on that blubsious ass

Another time waster who ignores women's profiles! You think it's just about age when in fact it's not!

I did read your profile.... :/, S have messaged you but out of age range. Doesn't let me message. Smh. You're just too fast to judge."

Wrong! You haven't at all. If you messages me I'd delete and block without reply! Why? It's clear you haven't read my profile or you have but chosen to ignore it. To me that makes you arrogant. As in my profile wishes can't possibly apply to you!

It's clear I'm looking for a SINGLE guy who LIVES Nearby or no further then 30 mins drive from me, He must ACCOMMODATE and LIVE ALONE. I travel and never accom. I also will not go into a home with other guys there. Safety aspect as well as privacy.

You're also too young. You don't fit what I'm looking for for many reasons but you chose to just see one reason! If you time waste a woman and push side her wishes for her body then you do not deserve a reply. Just like other guys who do the same!

Learn some respect for what women truely seek and you'll reep the rewards!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun

Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40...

Oh how sweet

A charmer for sure!

Just gutted I'm a year out of age range

What a bummer that you only message with site supporters.

No its called a preference. A good word for you to learn to respect.

Lol, I give no wood of what you say or think. And yes, my personality is who I am and my attitude depends on who you are. And in this case, non existent to me.

How not to make friends and influence people

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Nearby genuine single guys who accom and live alone are all I'm looking for. So I feel you're wrong there OP.

That aside, keep looking OP. There's plenty of women who will match what you seek. Fingers crossed!

Too bad, out of age range. Or id have not wasted my time on that blubsious ass

Another time waster who ignores women's profiles! You think it's just about age when in fact it's not!

I did read your profile.... :/, S have messaged you but out of age range. Doesn't let me message. Smh. You're just too fast to judge."

Fast and very accurate judge of character by the look of things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

Maybe because they socialise?

How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?

Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.

That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.

Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.

You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable.

The organisers I know would make an effort for ANY newbie, unless they had a really odd attitude."

My experience has been that it's unusual for an organiser to make any such effort. A couple have, most just dump you in the deep end to sink or swim. They give the impression that they're only organising the social so they're the centre of attention; no interest in doing the actual work of hosting.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

Seeking Pity isn't attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"
if someone fancies you they will meet you...If not..they won't.

Its that simple

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

Maybe because they socialise?

How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?

Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.

That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.

Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.

You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable.

The organisers I know would make an effort for ANY newbie, unless they had a really odd attitude.

My experience of group socials is the exact opposite of yours.

There must be a reason....

Why not organise one yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it very much depends on their mindset and whether they have a genuine interest in/knowledge of the lifestyle. There are plenty of successful single men both on here and in clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

Maybe because they socialise?

How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?

Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.

That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.

Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.

You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable.

The organisers I know would make an effort for ANY newbie, unless they had a really odd attitude.

My experience of group socials is the exact opposite of yours.

There must be a reason....

Why not organise one yourself?"

Because I know my limitations. I couldn't do the job justice, and I won't ask people let me waste their time that way.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"My experience has been that it's unusual for an organiser to make any such effort. A couple have, most just dump you in the deep end to sink or swim. They give the impression that they're only organising the social so they're the centre of attention; no interest in doing the actual work of hosting."

To be honest, the work that can go into organising some events is surely enough - they've taken the time and trouble to find a venue, potentially arrange food, maybe entertainment and certainly done all of the admin of sorting names and numbers.

I certainly don't expect anything of them on the night other than a welcome and at most a quick introduction to a couple of others but ultimately I'm an adult and expect to make my own way. Is it easy to introduce yourself to strangers? No, of course not. But if you want the benefit, you make the effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything in life is about effort if you put some attempt into getting to know what's required of any given situation then with effort you can achieve it, this life requires personality in the meet situation if you're shy or stand offish you will struggle a little and their are many judgemental people here who judge you by your written word, see beyond that make the best of yourself and your potential meets, socials can be clicky yes and the hosts / organisers will naturally levitate to people they know and people that demand their attention but let your personality get that attention it's the most successful weapon you have that and your looks. Nobody has a better chance than anyone else we are all equal at the get go

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By *xDeclanxxMan
over a year ago

Stourbridge

"Everything in life is about effort if you put some attempt into getting to know what's required of any given situation then with effort you can achieve it, this life requires personality in the meet situation if you're shy or stand offish you will struggle a little and their are many judgemental people here who judge you by your written word, see beyond that make the best of yourself and your potential meets, socials can be clicky yes and the hosts / organisers will naturally levitate to people they know and people that demand their attention but let your personality get that attention it's the most successful weapon you have that and your looks. Nobody has a better chance than anyone else we are all equal at the get go

But having a BBC does help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree as a newbie you've got as much chance as the next person

not reading his profile str8 but has a veri from a guy .confused dot com

You are bi yourself, surely you have male friends who are straight??? Small minded people on fab being judgemental and bitchy make it difficult for people to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But having a BBC does help

"
true many things give you an advantage and at the minute with some that's in vogue

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill '

for.examp site supporter

Best £5 I ever spent

Me too. Great wank material here. Well worth the fiver

Where else you'd get a daily inbox of cock pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree as a newbie you've got as much chance as the next person "

Fresh meat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree as a newbie you've got as much chance as the next person

not reading his profile str8 but has a veri from a guy .confused dot com

You are bi yourself, surely you have male friends who are straight??? Small minded people on fab being judgemental and bitchy make it difficult for people to meet. "

Fab hypocrisy strikes again lol

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

Perhaps consider going to a club one night. Have a chat with some couples and get some verifications, anything else that may happen on the night will be a bonus xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?if someone fancies you they will meet you...If not..they won't.

Its that simple

Indeed

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Nearby genuine single guys who accom and live alone are all I'm looking for. So I feel you're wrong there OP.

That aside, keep looking OP. There's plenty of women who will match what you seek. Fingers crossed!

Too bad, out of age range. Or id have not wasted my time on that blubsious ass

Another time waster who ignores women's profiles! You think it's just about age when in fact it's not!

I did read your profile.... :/, S have messaged you but out of age range. Doesn't let me message. Smh. You're just too fast to judge.

Learn some respect for what women truely seek and you'll reep the rewards!"

Is there a burn emoji?

Because you just got lit.

And she's right by the way. You've completely missed the point.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!

What happens if you are more of a private person ?

It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.

I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.

Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.

Maybe because they socialise?

How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?

Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.

That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.

Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.

You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable.

The organisers I know would make an effort for ANY newbie, unless they had a really odd attitude.

My experience of group socials is the exact opposite of yours.

There must be a reason....

Why not organise one yourself?

Because I know my limitations. I couldn't do the job justice, and I won't ask people let me waste their time that way."

You're not a million miles from me, if I organised a social near me, would you attend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you need to give it time. Good tips are; 1. your profile and photos are something you need to constantly work on to make a connection and keep people who might have noticed you interested. 2. Smart happy smiley photos make a greater impact then moody ones and save the cock shots for friends only. 3. Talk on the forums as you make much more interesting connections on there than on the main page. 4. Expect nothing but friendship and when you connect remember that you will if all goes well get some very good and quite unusual sex. 5. Go to clubs or socials and see how you feel about those as they don’t suit everyone but you will make more contacts in one evening than you would in one year. Finally have faith and persevere as there is much pleasure to be had out there. Best of luck

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

Guys,

Are you one of the wank-brigade who follow couples and women around clubs?

Do you lack social and conversational skills?

Do you lack a sense of humour?

Do you feel it's your right to some fun just because you paid your way into a club?

Are you a pest?

If you answered YES to any, or all, of the questions above, then.....well, you don't stand a chance, do you!

On the other hand, be yourself. Be proactive, friendly, non-pushy, respectful, and be welcoming. It goes a long way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

If that's your attitude yes I can almost guarantee you're wasting your time. If you don't put yourself out there then you don't deserve anything. Are you expecting people to throw themselves at you.

And after 12 years I can safely say there aren't any certain circles, so stop looking for them.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

If that's your attitude yes I can almost guarantee you're wasting your time. If you don't put yourself out there then you don't deserve anything. Are you expecting people to throw themselves at you.

And after 12 years I can safely say there aren't any certain circles, so stop looking for them. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were all “newbies” at some point either here or in the wide world of swinging dogging parties and the such...

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs

"I totally disagree with the OP. For example, Ive followed the adventures of two new guys whiz I’ve been chatting to since they joined a few weeks ago. Both are getting very good meets with very hot people. One has been to a social and networked from that. He, apparently, now has good word of mouth working for him. The other has used the forums. Both give excellent chat and have very good pics. No secret handshakes, no insinuating themselves into cliques, just good communicators who are fun to talk to. "

People who can spell 'clique' properly make me go all warm and fuzzy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who can spell 'clique' properly make me go all warm and fuzzy."

And discreet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who can spell 'clique' properly make me go all warm and fuzzy."

I'm more impressed when people pronounce it correctly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who can spell 'clique' properly make me go all warm and fuzzy.

I'm more impressed when people pronounce it correctly."

Same with picturesque

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

Yup, no one is verified.

So chicken and egg...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who can spell 'clique' properly make me go all warm and fuzzy."

Stick with me, I can spell all sorts of words proper, even with a cock up my arse..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who can spell 'clique' properly make me go all warm and fuzzy.

Stick with me, I can spell all sorts of words proper, even with a cock up my arse..

You are a woman of rare and wondrous abilities and I bow down before your eminence.....hello sweetly xxx

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

You're half defeated before you start with that negative attitude.

I'm not getting meets but I'm always a glass half full kinda guy

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs

People who can spell 'clique' properly make me go all warm and fuzzy.

Stick with me, I can spell all sorts of words proper, even with a cock up my arse..

Now that's a TV show I'd like to see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to be patient. We've given new guys a chance and still do.

Just because they're new doesn't make them a time waster. Some have been no more than a social, others have been fantastic fun for all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who can spell 'clique' properly make me go all warm and fuzzy.

Stick with me, I can spell all sorts of words proper, even with a cock up my arse..

You are a woman of rare and wondrous abilities and I bow down before your eminence.....hello sweetly xxx"

I thought you wanted ME to genuflect in front of YOU? And mwah!

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By *etal MickeyMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

I completely disagree.

With my last profile I was here just to browse. When I decided to go for it I got a meet (social first) then she took me to my first club and we did 4 clubs in 2 weeks together!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"

I have been having the same experience, so many profiles read "no veri no chat" How do you put yourself out there if no one engages with you? I was also disappointed to see how many of my messages just go unread, I haven't even had many views. Newbies aren't trusted, true there are a lot of idiots and time wasters, but how do we gain that trust if we're not given the chance, though I am starting to think now that I can't be what people are looking for.

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By *randmrsminxyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We took a peek and ask did you find the site by chance or get told about this site (possibly) by your verification. For us if we were seeking a single guy the alarm bells would ring . With words like been on and off the site can't accommodate and keep my self to my self . It all possibly points to a person who as a partner and they are not aware . That in it self is not a issue but we would prefer up front profiles.

Why not get your self on the Gloucester social now you do have a verification .

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

Go to a club

Mrs

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’ve met some lovely people on this site. Some are now my best friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought everyone stood a chance just some less than others depending on how attracted someone is not their age of their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought everyone stood a chance just some less than others depending on how attracted someone is not their age of their profile. "

Well apparently age matters too....

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

It's really simple.

If you're a single guy, you're up against it from the beginning because of the odds. If you have no verifications, people will probably prefer a verified guy to you. Hence go to clubs and socials and chat to couples and women in a normal sociable way.. Lo and behold they'll verify you saying what a friendly guy you are. Other couples and people will see that and may think you're a good person to meet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's really simple.

Factcheck: No, they won't most of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's really simple.

Factcheck: No, they won't most of the time. "

I'm curious, how many socials have you been too?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Everyone stands a chance here but it's important to understand that you have not been given fixed odds here.

You can't stop other people from being attractive but you can ensure that your odds of success are optimized as much as possible.

You have no chance with zero effort. Delete your account if you won't invest wisely or at all.

People have meets every day. If you are not one of them, evaluate what you may do to make it so that you are. If you are an unreasonable distance from others who might be compatible, there's potential limits to when and where you will have meets. But you could possibly have some influence on this...

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

I fully agree this site is very clicky. Especially the forums. I've been on sites enough times to know it's not who you are but who you friends with "

Same as life really.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

I fully agree this site is very clicky. Especially the forums. I've been on sites enough times to know it's not who you are but who you friends with

Same as life really. "

My forum experience seems totally at odds with a lot of people.

I was invited to my first group social within a few weeks of joining.

Had a great time, people who attended the same social go to others, mentioned me and I got invites to others.

Now if I see a social I fancy going to I PM the host, have a chat and get an invite.

I've been to socials in London, Reading, Brighton, Manchester and got a warm welcome every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's really simple.

Factcheck: No, they won't most of the time.

I'm curious, how many socials have you been too?"

Over 20.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"It's really simple.

Factcheck: No, they won't most of the time.

I'm curious, how many socials have you been too?

Over 20."

Group socials or 1 to 1 socials?

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

As a single guy the odds aren't great, but IF you:

A) Take the time and trouble to have a decent profile.

B) Hear and act on the negatives you hear about what men get wrong with their profiles - and sort it.

C) Do attend good socials - and be relaxed in your demeanour.

D) Leave your ego behind when you set your profile up. (If you get hurt by the rejections or being ignored you're most definitely in the wrong place - it's a numbers game and the single women in particular can be as choosy as they like) .

E) Accept that if you keep doing the right things and remain positive you will on rare occasions get a positive response - but accept these will be few and far between. (Approximately 2% will message based on my experience - mostly to say no).

F) Accept no response or a negative one with good grace.

G) Accept that as a male on here you generally have very little chance by messaging alone.

You may well do OK. I do. So do others, believe me.

Have faith and let people see you in person and they may just get to know you a little. If all goes well opportunities will follow.

Finally........

.......be classy - even if you're just an ordinary bloke.

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By *agariWoman
over a year ago

South Lincs

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?"

If anyone does agree they're likely to be one of those who think that joining up guarantees a wall of naked women flowing their way.

This place doesn't work like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guys are probably the biggest group on here which statistically makes the chances of getting a meet less ... more fish in the pool to choose from.

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By *ediMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

U gotta get out there and go parties bro! Definitely go to parties to socialise! I've left parties at the same time as women (not on purpose) and end up in bed from a little bit of banter and convo

fuck being a keyboard warrior!

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"It's really simple.

Factcheck: No, they won't most of the time.

I'm curious, how many socials have you been too?

Over 20."

As other people don't seem to share your experiences, you may want to look at the common denominator...

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By *ediMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"As a single guy the odds aren't great, but IF you:

A) Take the time and trouble to have a decent profile.

B) Hear and act on the negatives you hear about what men get wrong with their profiles - and sort it.

C) Do attend good socials - and be relaxed in your demeanour.

F) Accept no response or a negative one with good grace.

G) Accept that as a male on here you generally have very little chance by messaging alone.

You may well do OK. I do. So do others, believe me.

Have faith and let people see you in person and they may just get to know you a little. If all goes well opportunities will follow.

Finally........

.......be classy - even if you're just an ordinary bloke. "

True words spoke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's really simple.

Factcheck: No, they won't most of the time.

I'm curious, how many socials have you been too?

Over 20.

Group socials or 1 to 1 socials?

Group

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't agree.. It's how people present themselves that get my attention.

Sorry

Xxxbibaxxx

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"It's really simple.

Factcheck: No, they won't most of the time.

I'm curious, how many socials have you been too?

Over 20.

Group socials or 1 to 1 socials?

Group"

You've been to more than me fella.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's really simple.

Factcheck: No, they won't most of the time.

I'm curious, how many socials have you been too?

Over 20.

Group socials or 1 to 1 socials?

Group

You've been to more than me fella.

Well, apparently it's the best way to get to know people. Allegedly.

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Hate these kind of threads

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"It's really simple.

Factcheck: No, they won't most of the time.

I'm curious, how many socials have you been too?

Over 20.

Group socials or 1 to 1 socials?

Group

You've been to more than me fella.

Well, apparently it's the best way to get to know people. Allegedly. "

I still maintain that it can be one of the best ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone does agree they're likely to be one of those who think that joining up guarantees a wall of naked women flowing their way.

This place doesn't work like that

True, there are undoubtedly some people like that, but it's a bit presumptuous to assume you know someone's thoughts without knowing them. We all have our own inbuilt filters, but some seem to have 1 for newbies or popularity. There are some good points made in the replies, but the 2 most common are put some time in and goto socials. The same could be said about those that instantly dismiss newbies. I read the whole profile, take the time to write an informative message, never a 1 liner and rate their pics, and would take more time getting to know people if they took the time to read my message, but I can see that most haven't been read. Group Socials are a good place to to put a face to a name and get to know some1 better, daunting if you don't know anyone at all. How many on here would walk into a pub alone and hope to strike up conversation with people that are already in a group of friends? If you've already had online chat and are expected at an event, it's easier to engage while there. I do alright in the real world and I'm not referring to sex, but there's always an ice breaker, mums at school, neighbour, woman in the etc, but it seems the ice breaker on here is not applied by a lot of those that already have their circle of friends. I joined this site because there is a small but important part of my life missing, not to line them up and work my way through the available women or couples, but to strike up friendships and see where they lead. At 45 I'm not ready to give up on the thought of sex, or being attractive to some1 that I'm attracted to.

I don't think the original comment was complaining or defeatist, just asking for others observations, I'm not giving up, I'm still here after 3 months of trying to get people's attention lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun "

I would but I'm a bit too young for your age range.

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By *ingerninja999Man
over a year ago

Bedford

The women and couples can take their pick. I mainly get messages from men and some are a bit odd as well. I think their should be another site like this called fabfuckers

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

You need good social skills to become popular in any field & swinging is exactly the same, like being on holiday where no one knows you & its easy to reinvent yourself into that person you want to be.

When we shoot new models we hype them up so by the time footage is released people know that person & want to see them, apply the same principle with swinging by looking at other peoples profiles & studying what makes them popular & creating an image they'll want.

The forums aren't the best place to ask for advise as a big percentage of the people on here have probably never had meets themselves, look through the site & study it before throwing yourself to the wolves on here.

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By *illclimberMan
over a year ago

Bredon

There is a popular 'social' once a month in Gloucester .. get yourself an invite, mingle, chat and maybe you'll get a verification or two if you make the right impression … verifications definitely make life easier as a single guy (not a magic wand though!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?"
No you'll do fine if you're courteous and have a personality and you look OK

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

No you'll do fine if you're courteous and have a personality and you look OK "

I've got 2 out of 3. What's me chances?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?

Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that

Anyone else agree?

No you'll do fine if you're courteous and have a personality and you look OK

I've got 2 out of 3. What's me chances?"
you'll be fine as long as sun's not shining

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums aren't the best place to ask for advise as a big percentage of the people on here have probably never had meets themselves"

Oh how true this is...to be judged by people that do not even swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all! Put yourself out there and do things the right way,respect other users and enjoy it and don’t put any pressure on things.Its supposed to be light hearted fun so let’s enjoy it

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

The forums aren't the best place to ask for advise as a big percentage of the people on here have probably never had meets themselves

Oh how true this is...to be judged by people that do not even swing

No wonder Trump became President

, I think our veri's show we do swing & you proved our point as you give judgement but don't meet.

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