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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So as we all know the, the first message is the crucial to grabbing attention. Now, what is the general consensus to a good first message? I personally go for a slightly tame but respectable first message that isn't vulgar or too vivid to try and be a little chivalrous to start with, however they very rarely have success. These things work in the dating world, however they don't seem to work on here anymore, have times changed?

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

I think the 2nd message is more important and where many fall down. I have responded to a simple hello before. You now have my attention 'wuu2' Block.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

There is no catch all magic formula that is guaranteed to work OP - different people like different things - on the rare occasions I send "cold" messages I usually introduce myself, say why I'm writing, pick something out of their profile to comment on and leave a couple of questions dangling to give them something to respond to and invite them to take a look at my profile and chat further if they want to.

Of the 6 cold messages I've sent I've had 5 replies so it works for me.

Remember that people will often look at a profile and pics before deciding to respond so make sure yours is enticing and helps you stand out from the crowd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So as we all know the, the first message is the crucial to grabbing attention. Now, what is the general consensus to a good first message? I personally go for a slightly tame but respectable first message that isn't vulgar or too vivid to try and be a little chivalrous to start with, however they very rarely have success. These things work in the dating world, however they don't seem to work on here anymore, have times changed? "
yes....... Creep right up their sexy butts it's the only way

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By *ommyxyzMan
over a year ago

Crawley


"There is no catch all magic formula that is guaranteed to work OP - different people like different things - on the rare occasions I send "cold" messages I usually introduce myself, say why I'm writing, pick something out of their profile to comment on and leave a couple of questions dangling to give them something to respond to and invite them to take a look at my profile and chat further if they want to.

Of the 6 cold messages I've sent I've had 5 replies so it works for me.

Remember that people will often look at a profile and pics before deciding to respond so make sure yours is enticing and helps you stand out from the crowd"

This poster is right, responding to somthing in someone’s profile or update seems to work with a question worth answering to bring give them a reason to reply.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

You seem to be an attractive, reasonably articulate young man, who doesn't take things too seriously; based on your profile. I would say get yourself to clubs and in the forums.

Both give you an opportunity to get your personality across.

Nita

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Nothing to add. Gemini man has answered your question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So as we all know the, the first message is the crucial to grabbing attention. Now, what is the general consensus to a good first message? I personally go for a slightly tame but respectable first message that isn't vulgar or too vivid to try and be a little chivalrous to start with, however they very rarely have success. These things work in the dating world, however they don't seem to work on here anymore, have times changed? "

A lot of women and couples have said before they read your message they read your profile. If your profile is shit your message is not getting read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing to add. Gemini man has answered your question. "
I answered his question to and what a great question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no catch all magic formula that is guaranteed to work OP - different people like different things - on the rare occasions I send "cold" messages I usually introduce myself, say why I'm writing, pick something out of their profile to comment on and leave a couple of questions dangling to give them something to respond to and invite them to take a look at my profile and chat further if they want to.

Of the 6 cold messages I've sent I've had 5 replies so it works for me.

Remember that people will often look at a profile and pics before deciding to respond so make sure yours is enticing and helps you stand out from the crowd"

This advice is great! As a single female - I am far more likely to respond to something like this - as it shows an effort to read the profile and find a mutual connection point as well as understanding why this person is messaging.

Cold msgs after just looking at pics result in crass and crap pointless msgs being sent - I just delete those!

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