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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've been a fairly active member on this website for over a year now.

Had a few replies here and there but no outcome.

What am I doing wrong? I mean I don't mind chatting and stuff but I haven't been lucky enough for a meet or anything so far yet

Any help would be appreciated

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By *im L FuckitMan
over a year ago

Dumfriesshire

Not sure, mate, but this...

"My biggest turn on has got to be watching a girl play with herself, if it's with a toy then even better!"

implies that maybe your services aren't required if you know what I mean? Maybe the girls don't want to play solo?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with the above, and a personal hate if ours is Snapchat filters on anyone over the age of 16

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been here a while and don't get very far but I keep going and tried a few different things now iam getting somewere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smile

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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago

Bury/Bolton

You have uploaded face pics which is a big plus, can accomodate which others will see as a plus.

Other than preferences the main reason we would pass you by is, 2 year old profile without a verification from a meet. Plus the advice previously given about your profile wording, it's all about you and what works for you.

There are clubs and socials where getting a veri would be easy so there's no excuse.

We have heard the 'I wouldn't be comfortable' 'I'm scared to go alone' etc etc

Our logic is if you can't be found at a social gathering or a club to get yourself verified for whatever reason, you probably won't have the nerve to meet any other way.

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Smile "

Was going to say just this.

OP your profile pic looks rather miserable

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Agree with the above, and a personal hate if ours is Snapchat filters on anyone over the age of 16"

Your pics are ok obviously excepting the snapchat one. I read your profile and after reading it realised I knew nothing about you from it. Are you a generous lover or selfish? Do you talk? Is intellect attractive to you? Do you like quick meets or all night sweaty sensuality. What haven't you done sexually that you'd love to try.

Sadly the 50 to 1 ratio means for guys to get a meet they need to be distinctive or niche. You are neither. I liked your profile name and wondered if you were a bit geeky but that was it.

Get out there, go to a club or a social event.

It's your best shot.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the input everyone, it's appreciated a lot! I'm taking everybody's advice on board!

Updated my profile picture and took the one with the Snapchat filter off.

How does my profile picture look now?

Cheers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh forgot to mention I'll be updating my profile text too with the advice given just in the morning as I'm too tired right now and hitting bed!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

As already said, get yourself to some socials and clubs. Good luck x

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"As already said, get yourself to some socials and clubs. Good luck x"

For anyone, but especially a single guy, this has to be the most important piece of advice they will get.

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By *utton SimonMan
over a year ago

Sutton

Refresh your bio,, add some body pictures,,all a good start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the input everyone, it's appreciated a lot! I'm taking everybody's advice on board!

Updated my profile picture and took the one with the Snapchat filter off.

How does my profile picture look now?

Cheers "

There are still filtered and a weird glasses one. You still don't smile, to be honest you just look miserable.

And your wording is terrible. Pretend your a couple or a single girl for a second and read thst, look at the sad pictures where you seem to be trying to look like the character you have as a username instead of attracting women and ask yourself if you would be excited about meeting you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the input everyone, it's appreciated a lot! I'm taking everybody's advice on board!

Updated my profile picture and took the one with the Snapchat filter off.

How does my profile picture look now?

Cheers "

Unless you wear really stupid glasses, the Snapchat pic is still up, but that's your call

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One or 2 face pics are enough. Preferrably with a smile on. Nobody wants to see a grumpy/fed up/bored etc photo.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

For someone who says ‘athletic’ body, show a bit of that instead of countless unhappy face pictures.

There, you have plenty of advice from this thread.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you going to Fab social events and clubs to get yourself 'out there' and known in the scene?

It honestly is the best way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have revised my profile, could I get some new opinions please?

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have revised my profile, could I get some new opinions please?

Thank you "

Its very, Er, brief

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By *im L FuckitMan
over a year ago

Dumfriesshire


"Its very, Er, brief "

A foretaste of things to come?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been a fairly active member on this website for over a year now.

Had a few replies here and there but no outcome.

What am I doing wrong? I mean I don't mind chatting and stuff but I haven't been lucky enough for a meet or anything so far yet

Any help would be appreciated"
Some have been here years this is an endurance test

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 pics, neither showing your body. We want to see what we're getting.

Your bio looks lazy and like you can't be arsed.

You've been here 2 years, that's ample time to look at other profiles for ideas on photos and what to write.

If after 2 years you still haven't managed to figure out even a half decent profile then I honestly don't know what miraculous advice you're expecting from this post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete it.

Start again.

Put some real effort in.

Good luck. And remember smile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What's the purpose of deleting it? Surely I can jut amend it?

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"2 pics, neither showing your body. We want to see what we're getting.

Your bio looks lazy and like you can't be arsed.

You've been here 2 years, that's ample time to look at other profiles for ideas on photos and what to write.

If after 2 years you still haven't managed to figure out even a half decent profile then I honestly don't know what miraculous advice you're expecting from this post. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's the purpose of deleting it? Surely I can jut amend it?"

For sure but many users will tend to avoid a old profile with 1 old veri.

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By *uicylucy76Woman
over a year ago

thornton cleveleys

In all honesty if I came across your profile? Your pictures don’t look quite right to me.. like a different face pic has been put on top of another.. just my first impression.. I may be wrong.

I think you need to add more about yourself, make your profile sound like meeting you would be better than washing my hair. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty if I came across your profile? Your pictures don’t look quite right to me.. like a different face pic has been put on top of another.. just my first impression.. I may be wrong.

I think you need to add more about yourself, make your profile sound like meeting you would be better than washing my hair. Good luck."

Because he's still using filters.

How on earth can you have a very oval face in one pic and a very round in another. Are these even of you? Everybody has told you they are bad, yet you just repost variants on the same picture group

Nobody wants to see you looking miserable in your golf gear.

Take some new real pictures of you, don't alter them, and post them,

Then write some text that looks like it took more than 2 minutes to write and you put some thought into it. I can honestly say you've been given good advice and your profile is gradually getting worse, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we search for single bi men we get over a thousand profiles in a 30 mile radius, single straight men is far more, needless to say we have a good choice and can afford to be fussy. If you tell us nothing in your profile we just move on to the next one. Your best chance of a meet is to put the work in, mail couples, single women that are compatible with you but make sure it's a good in-depth message not the usual one line shit like , nice tits I want to cum over them or hi are you free today between 4 and 6 or my personal favourite my wife is in today but would you like to meet up tomorrow when she goes shopping. We ain't desperate and won't jump into bed with the first man that messages us so make sure your messages catch people's attention and tell people about yourself, don't be like the 99% that can't be arsed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been a fairly active member on this website for over a year now.

Had a few replies here and there but no outcome.

What am I doing wrong? I mean I don't mind chatting and stuff but I haven't been lucky enough for a meet or anything so far yet

Any help would be appreciated"

More pics might help. Women like too see what's on offer. And a bit more about yourself. Also try events

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By *inkylovers09Couple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire


"When we search for single bi men we get over a thousand profiles in a 30 mile radius, single straight men is far more, needless to say we have a good choice and can afford to be fussy. If you tell us nothing in your profile we just move on to the next one. Your best chance of a meet is to put the work in, mail couples, single women that are compatible with you but make sure it's a good in-depth message not the usual one line shit like , nice tits I want to cum over them or hi are you free today between 4 and 6 or my personal favourite my wife is in today but would you like to meet up tomorrow when she goes shopping. We ain't desperate and won't jump into bed with the first man that messages us so make sure your messages catch people's attention and tell people about yourself, don't be like the 99% that can't be arsed "

So true , we dont like to chat for months but we like a good convo about things that turn you on or what you would like to do in a met, not just "yer im into most things"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it's already been mentioned, but get yourself to some social events, you are in the north west. Lots happens up there, you have lots of different clubs at your disposal. Make use of them

If you are waiting for someone to invite you a long you are likely to have a very long wait !!!

You get out what you put in

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