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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having had and enjoyed a swinging relationship - how, if not from this site, do you find another one?? Clubs as a single guy you’re looking for the golden ticket to find a single attractive female to develop a relationship is pretty much impossible, I’m trying to find someone here - am I going wrong guys??

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

How did your previous swinging relationship come about?

I don't think you can do much more than keep looking.

Good luck.

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By *astings SocialWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

Attend socials regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having had and enjoyed a swinging relationship - how, if not from this site, do you find another one?? Clubs as a single guy you’re looking for the golden ticket to find a single attractive female to develop a relationship is pretty much impossible, I’m trying to find someone here - am I going wrong guys??"

Im no ones golden ticket

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having had and enjoyed a swinging relationship - how, if not from this site, do you find another one?? Clubs as a single guy you’re looking for the golden ticket to find a single attractive female to develop a relationship is pretty much impossible, I’m trying to find someone here - am I going wrong guys??"

As a single female in the lifestyle - word of advice! Referring to us as the golden ticket is offensive. And it’s one of the biggest things that f*cks me off.

My inbox is full every day from guys basically wanting a female just to get them into clubs, or private events so that they can just play and act as a single. It’s a massive no. That creates drama and you become essentially blacklisted as no one wants that.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone


"Having had and enjoyed a swinging relationship - how, if not from this site, do you find another one?? Clubs as a single guy you’re looking for the golden ticket to find a single attractive female to develop a relationship is pretty much impossible, I’m trying to find someone here - am I going wrong guys??

As a single female in the lifestyle - word of advice! Referring to us as the golden ticket is offensive. And it’s one of the biggest things that f*cks me off.

My inbox is full every day from guys basically wanting a female just to get them into clubs, or private events so that they can just play and act as a single. It’s a massive no. That creates drama and you become essentially blacklisted as no one wants that. "

I read it differently to you, I took it as finding an attractive, single woman in a club (who is attracted to him) is like finding a golden ticket. If I’m right then I wouldn’t consider that offensive, he’s just stating they’re hard to come by.

Lou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say you're on the correct site to find one. Like you said, where else is there?

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By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4

Pof or tinder

Put it in your bio and keep us updated on what the turn out is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having had and enjoyed a swinging relationship - how, if not from this site, do you find another one?? Clubs as a single guy you’re looking for the golden ticket to find a single attractive female to develop a relationship is pretty much impossible, I’m trying to find someone here - am I going wrong guys??

As a single female in the lifestyle - word of advice! Referring to us as the golden ticket is offensive. And it’s one of the biggest things that f*cks me off.

My inbox is full every day from guys basically wanting a female just to get them into clubs, or private events so that they can just play and act as a single. It’s a massive no. That creates drama and you become essentially blacklisted as no one wants that.

I read it differently to you, I took it as finding an attractive, single woman in a club (who is attracted to him) is like finding a golden ticket. If I’m right then I wouldn’t consider that offensive, he’s just stating they’re hard to come by.

Lou x "

I read it that way also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are SFs on here looking for the same thing and some couples on the forums have met this way; so there’s a chance you could.

My only reservation is that you could miss the initial stages of a relationship which builds the foundation before swinging. On the other hand I understand myself that giving up swinging is difficult too and online dating doesn’t exactly have a Fab tick box

Answer - no idea!

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I dont think its any easier for women.

I, like many are open to enjoying a swinging relationship, but guys on here can be flakey, disingenuous, possessive, and more.

Not all, of course, but I don't feel its definitely easier for a woman.

There are some princes, but plenty of frogs too...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having had and enjoyed a swinging relationship - how, if not from this site, do you find another one?? Clubs as a single guy you’re looking for the golden ticket to find a single attractive female to develop a relationship is pretty much impossible, I’m trying to find someone here - am I going wrong guys??

As a single female in the lifestyle - word of advice! Referring to us as the golden ticket is offensive. And it’s one of the biggest things that f*cks me off.

My inbox is full every day from guys basically wanting a female just to get them into clubs, or private events so that they can just play and act as a single. It’s a massive no. That creates drama and you become essentially blacklisted as no one wants that.

I read it differently to you, I took it as finding an attractive, single woman in a club (who is attracted to him) is like finding a golden ticket. If I’m right then I wouldn’t consider that offensive, he’s just stating they’re hard to come by.

Lou x "

That was how it was intended Lou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having had and enjoyed a swinging relationship - how, if not from this site, do you find another one?? Clubs as a single guy you’re looking for the golden ticket to find a single attractive female to develop a relationship is pretty much impossible, I’m trying to find someone here - am I going wrong guys??"
yes you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having had and enjoyed a swinging relationship - how, if not from this site, do you find another one?? Clubs as a single guy you’re looking for the golden ticket to find a single attractive female to develop a relationship is pretty much impossible, I’m trying to find someone here - am I going wrong guys??

As a single female in the lifestyle - word of advice! Referring to us as the golden ticket is offensive. And it’s one of the biggest things that f*cks me off.

My inbox is full every day from guys basically wanting a female just to get them into clubs, or private events so that they can just play and act as a single. It’s a massive no. That creates drama and you become essentially blacklisted as no one wants that.

I read it differently to you, I took it as finding an attractive, single woman in a club (who is attracted to him) is like finding a golden ticket. If I’m right then I wouldn’t consider that offensive, he’s just stating they’re hard to come by.

Lou x

That was how it was intended Lou x"

I read it like Lou too. You sound very inoffensive. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How many of you couples have actually met as singles in swing clubs? Or had it been the fruition of a relationship where one had introduced the other to the scene?

It surely must be easier if you’re both open to the idea and into it rather than trying to get someone into it. Not many people are cool with their partners being with other people if they’ve never had the idea themselves I would say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you in the right place, yes you are. Will you find the person you are looking for, possibly. It will take time, effort and dollop of luck. Social meets are the way forward and generally getting out and meeting people. Good luck to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How did your previous swinging relationship come about?

I don't think you can do much more than keep looking.

Good luck."

Talking about the idea initially, though after I’d brought it up the admission came they’d tried it before. Slightly older and a while ago, though I’ve tried to ignore it and have ‘normal’ relationships but there’s something missing.

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By *eltic KinkstersCouple
over a year ago

Manchester/Leeds


"How many of you couples have actually met as singles in swing clubs? Or had it been the fruition of a relationship where one had introduced the other to the scene?

It surely must be easier if you’re both open to the idea and into it rather than trying to get someone into it. Not many people are cool with their partners being with other people if they’ve never had the idea themselves I would say."

We met as singles in a club, as have several couples I know, so it's definitely possible.

Alex x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We did it so anything is possible..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is possible. Been there before. It just needs some stars to align. It’s way better attending clubs with someone you can play with, for and alongside. To trust and know what turns you both on but then go back and curl your feet round on another’s and fall asleep in vanilla land.... #stillhoping.

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East


"It is possible. Been there before. It just needs some stars to align. It’s way better attending clubs with someone you can play with, for and alongside. To trust and know what turns you both on but then go back and curl your feet round on another’s and fall asleep in vanilla land.... #stillhoping.

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This is the dream having spent 10 years in a swinging relationship being here as a single, for me, just isn't as much fun. And when I get home from a club the house is empty, wouldn't mind someone to curl up with!

Although I know the chance of finding this is like rocking horse poop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rocking horse poop - Don’t give up It comes along once in a blue moon. And If you find it hold on to it. I wish I had been able to. Fingers crossed it comes back again for me.

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By *sianMancMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Well I joined this site many years ago seeking the one and I'm still seeking her.

I still have fun and I'm chilled out rather than trying to create something but just shows it can indeed be a long ride indeed.

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By *irtySekretsCouple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

Me and Ess met on Tinder. In the early stages of our relationship we were both discussing things we have done sexually and what turns us on. Easy for us as we are both open.

Turned out that BOTH of us had swung in previous relationships. Both still wanted to Swing. And so now we do. Together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Me and Ess met on Tinder. In the early stages of our relationship we were both discussing things we have done sexually and what turns us on. Easy for us as we are both open.

Turned out that BOTH of us had swung in previous relationships. Both still wanted to Swing. And so now we do. Together "

Good for both of you. If it works then it works

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

This is the best place I would say to find what your looking for. After all only a small % of the population are swingers and at least most people on here are swingers. I met my other half on here.

As to finding someone not on FAB I guess that's a matter being honest about what your after with people and having good feel for identifying people who may be wired that way. Could you go forward into a relationship without swinging.

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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

My ex partner and I met on here as singles, had a 1 to 1 and from there became FWB's, 3 years later we were living together playing as a couple which we did for another 3 years...

Sadly nothing to do with swinging we went our separate ways 18 months ago..

I recently started playing again as a single lady but have stopped again I find it so shallow now... I would love to find someone to have a normal relationship with the added benefit of swinging....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having had and enjoyed a swinging relationship - how, if not from this site, do you find another one?? Clubs as a single guy you’re looking for the golden ticket to find a single attractive female to develop a relationship is pretty much impossible, I’m trying to find someone here - am I going wrong guys??

The way i read it the op is refering to the clubs useing males as the golden ticket ie the amount they charge for single males.

I sure most males wouldnt be so disrespectful to the ladies.

As a single female in the lifestyle - word of advice! Referring to us as the golden ticket is offensive. And it’s one of the biggest things that f*cks me off.

My inbox is full every day from guys basically wanting a female just to get them into clubs, or private events so that they can just play and act as a single. It’s a massive no. That creates drama and you become essentially blacklisted as no one wants that. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a golden ticket is it like a unicorn a myth

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By *i winkersCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We both met through swinging I (hayley) winked neil on Fab, hence the username. We are getting married now, I didn’t expect it and wouldn’t of wanted it back when we met it just developed.

I would agree about meeting at socials means you get to talk more. Also I would say in a club environment go talk to women, guys who make the effort to do that meet great female wing persons and good friends. The silent ones are the ones who normally end up in the corner on their own.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sounds like clubs is the best way to go, never been on my own, always thought of it as a bit of a stigma, ‘oh look there’s the single guy looking for sex’. Also, chances of finding a single woman (obvs one you’re attracted to and have other things in common for a relationship outside of swinging) are the unicorns - maybe should have said golden ticket before - was just trying to get across how hard it is to find.

So, been partners in Bury a long while ago, decent but as a couple. Can anyone recommend clubs or nights that have attractive/athletic 30 to 40 something women that are looking for relationships ??????

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By *..TheCurvyPetrolHead...Woman
over a year ago

St Helens

This is the reason I am here aswell. I want a vanilla/swing relationship. The best of both world's as it were. I know I will find him here... hopefully...

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I think one of the keys to any good relationship is ability to totally be your self without fear or judgment. So it follows that important factor of a relationship is being able to express yourself tottally sexually. A relationship should supportive and liberating not a prison. So if the freedom to explore in the lifestyle is important to you then you need to be honest about it and set it as a must have requeirment in a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

CPH, I’m a PH too, and a geek lol - could I message you please? Read the profile and it ticks a lot of boxes x

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