FabSwingers.com forum: What would you do?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I was talking to a couple on here, they sent a face pic and it's a girl I went school with and speak to on normal social media!

I freaked and blocked the profile.

She doesn't know who I am as I didn't send face pics.

Again i totally freaked out! But also feel bad because I know she's on here and just blocked them.

Anyone got any advice? Has it happened to you and how did you handle it... (Mrs here)

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By *mp411Man
over a year ago

chester

Difficult one I’d say go for it if you fancy her I don’t think she will broadcast she met on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

she will probably just think she is not your type so you dont have to worry

however

if you fancy her , unblock and have a chat .

no harm done .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just feel terribly guilty haha!

They are new to the scene so don't want to spoil it for them but in the message they even mentioned going to our local club (which we are always at)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whats meant to happen as they say.....

you may become good friends

always handy if there local and you get on ........

try not to worry , sounds exciting to me .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it..

I used to chat to a woman that turned out to be my wife's cousin..

I chickened out of meeting but God it was exciting to chat and flirt and god i wish we had met

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I honestly think she will die of embarrassment and leave the site but I know I'm going to bump in her and her fella lol

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By *k2018Couple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

I've just had this with a guy I used to work with. I didn't block him straight away, but did send back a polite message saying I didn't think it would be a good idea to meet and here's a face pic. He replied and then it's been left there.

On the other hand a woman I work with (in a very small company) recognised me from the phone case showing in my pictures and now our previously smutty lunch time chats are much more so!

If you let her know you know her and that you attend that venue, she can at least have a little warning and might surprise you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

They are new to the scene haven't met anyone yet so I'm scared it will put them off,this scene is fun and I don't want to be the reason they run from the scene lol x

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

You've found something else you have in common with her.

I don't suppose either of you will be blabbing about it over Facebook or whatever.

Why not give her a chance and see what happens.

She'll be puzzled why she has been blocked with no explanation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve not chatted with anyone I’ve recognised but have had people that are too close for comfort, as in same village etc.. I’ve always just been honest and given my reasons. Only block people if they are idiots. I’d unblock, tell her you think you know her and see where it leads.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You've found something else you have in common with her.

I don't suppose either of you will be blabbing about it over Facebook or whatever.

Why not give her a chance and see what happens.

She'll be puzzled why she has been blocked with no explanation.

I don't for a second think she would tell anyone about us being on here but I'm just worried it will embarrasse her badly if I told her, it's such a hard one lol

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

We are all here for the same thing give her the benefit of the doubt unblock .

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

How about sending a "This is a bit awkward but..." type message that is full of reassurance of discretion, doesn't mention meeting let alone playing, tell her you thought it only fair to let her know as you both go to the same club and you wouldn't want her being put on the spot in a club environment if you both happened to be there at the same time.

She may well be embarrassed by it but better via a message here than naked in the hot tub at the club.

Also you never know, if she's new to this life she may appreciate having someone she already knows and presumably trusts to discuss it with and possibly learn from.

Handled sensitively I'm sure she'd appreciate it whichever way it pans out

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By *ur1ou2Man
over a year ago

Prudhoe

Natural reaction - but - accept the reaction then stand back and think - she’s on here for same reason as you - so why should either of you feel embarrassed / ashamed / dirty - feel ‘caught out’ doing something ‘naughty’

If she sent a face pic then there was always a risk someone would recognise her - yet she sent it.

This could actually enhance your other relationship- truly a friend with benefits!!

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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow

"So I was talking to a couple on here, they sent a face pic and it's a girl I went school with and speak to on normal social media!

I freaked and blocked the profile.

She doesn't know who I am as I didn't send face pics.

Again i totally freaked out! But also feel bad because I know she's on here and just blocked them.

Anyone got any advice? Has it happened to you and how did you handle it... (Mrs here)"

Ive met at least 10-15 people from our local town on this site. Some that I went to school with, some that I see daily when dropping my kids at school and some that I see when doing my tesco shopping. It is difficult when your trying your best to keep your private life private. We dont put our home town.on profile anymore and we immediatly block anyone we see from there. Inevitably though u probably will cross paths in a club at some point but I guess your all in.the same boat x

Mrs x

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By *ammy and MiaCouple
over a year ago

Dudley

Erm, do you both still have your school uniforms?... hehe, just a thought.

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By *ilkey69Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

"I've just had this with a guy I used to work with. I didn't block him straight away, but did send back a polite message saying I didn't think it would be a good idea to meet and here's a face pic. He replied and then it's been left there.

On the other hand a woman I work with (in a very small company) recognised me from the phone case showing in my pictures and now our previously smutty lunch time chats are much more so!

If you let her know you know her and that you attend that venue, she can at least have a little warning and might surprise you.

K."

I bet most have co workers in the same situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I was talking to a couple on here, they sent a face pic and it's a girl I went school with and speak to on normal social media!

I freaked and blocked the profile.

She doesn't know who I am as I didn't send face pics.

Again i totally freaked out! But also feel bad because I know she's on here and just blocked them.

Anyone got any advice? Has it happened to you and how did you handle it... (Mrs here)"
do you fancy her?

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By *oyeurs DelightCouple
over a year ago

london

"How about sending a "This is a bit awkward but..." type message that is full of reassurance of discretion, doesn't mention meeting let alone playing, tell her you thought it only fair to let her know as you both go to the same club and you wouldn't want her being put on the spot in a club environment if you both happened to be there at the same time.

She may well be embarrassed by it but better via a message here than naked in the hot tub at the club.

Also you never know, if she's new to this life she may appreciate having someone she already knows and presumably trusts to discuss it with and possibly learn from.

Handled sensitively I'm sure she'd appreciate it whichever way it pans out

Totally agree with this. If you frequent the same club, you will probably bump into each other at some point. If you don't say now then you'll be on edge when you go to the club and so not enjoy yourselves as much. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Erm, do you both still have your school uniforms?... hehe, just a thought."

Good thinking.... Mr here

Mrs will answer the rest I just had the same idea as this man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure, but could you arrange to meet her on your usual social media for something innocent, turn up wearing something sexy, drop a few hints, see how she reacts?

If it doesn't look like she's warming to the idea then as long as you haven't been too obvious then you can pass it off as just a bit of joking around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had this with an ex boyfriend. He recognised me without a face.

His profile revealed a double life I had no idea he had.

I blocked and ran a mile.

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