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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone have any advice on the best way to introduce my wife to swinging? I would love her to join in with me and fully explore swinging. The thaght of sharing her and being able to fully explore my bi side with her joining in is so sexy. I want to slowly see if she would be open to having a full sex life with couples or groups of guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone have any advice on the best way to introduce my wife to swinging? I would love her to join in with me and fully explore swinging. The thaght of sharing her and being able to fully explore my bi side with her joining in is so sexy. I want to slowly see if she would be open to having a full sex life with couples or groups of guys."
you've been here a year does she know, I suggest if she doesn't it may be too late

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just show her your profile, that will explain everything to her in one go ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just show her your profile, that will explain everything to her in one go .."

Yes pretty much this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We've watched some swingers programs and i know it turns her on. She gets so horned up when watching black guys porn Her best pal has a profile on here with her husband. Was wondering if i should approach them but he has been my mate since childhhood. I really want her to join in with me, i need a much more adventurios sex life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've watched some swingers programs and i know it turns her on. She gets so horned up when watching black guys porn Her best pal has a profile on here with her husband. Was wondering if i should approach them but he has been my mate since childhhood. I really want her to join in with me, i need a much more adventurios sex life."

Does she know you are on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t tell her anything.....

She might ruin all your fun and tell you to stop swinging....

These wives can sometimes be total cock blockers.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show her your profile and verifications.

Or, have a serious conversation with her. If she says no, respect that. You can’t convince her if she doesn’t want it, so don’t try

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not yet, i really want to tell her and join in with her though. I love her and dont want to lose her but i want her to join in with me. I just dont know how to approach her and see if she would be up for it. She is a bit prudish about sex but i really want her to join me and have a full sex life and try out all our fantasies together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not yet, i really want to tell her and join in with her though. I love her and dont want to lose her but i want her to join in with me. I just dont know how to approach her and see if she would be up for it. She is a bit prudish about sex but i really want her to join me and have a full sex life and try out all our fantasies together."

Ask her if she wants to swing. If she says no, then that’s that.

Maybe should have had the chat with her before making your profile and meeting folk IMO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not yet, i really want to tell her and join in with her though. I love her and dont want to lose her but i want her to join in with me. I just dont know how to approach her and see if she would be up for it. She is a bit prudish about sex but i really want her to join me and have a full sex life and try out all our fantasies together.

Ask her if she wants to swing. If she says no, then that’s that.

Maybe should have had the chat with her before making your profile and meeting folk IMO"
a year ago ha

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By *ornyal138Man
over a year ago

bromley kent

Delete your account on fab and after you have watched some porn suggest you look on the internet for some swingers porn. Find fab and have a look further. Maybe set up a joint profile to see who is nearby and available (hence delete your profile first)

If she wants more then you are in. If she hates it well nothing ventured. You can always re activate your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Delete your account on fab and after you have watched some porn suggest you look on the internet for some swingers porn. Find fab and have a look further. Maybe set up a joint profile to see who is nearby and available (hence delete your profile first)

If she wants more then you are in. If she hates it well nothing ventured. You can always re activate your profile "

You can’t reactivate your profile if you delete it. Once it’s gone, it’s gone. He would have to start afresh.

Be honest with her about everything OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think i might go for a drink with my mate and see if he might be up for letting his wife talk to her about trying it. I know they really open up to each other and she has suggested some sex toys to her in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think i might go for a drink with my mate and see if he might be up for letting his wife talk to her about trying it. I know they really open up to each other and she has suggested some sex toys to her in the past."

Wrong move IMO. YOU want her to try swinging, so YOU need to have a chat with her. If you can’t even bring the subject up with her and be honest with her, it’ll never work

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I will try to bring it up, maybe try and find a good swingers movie, have a few drinks and see what she thinks about maybe going to a club to just watch. Only problem i have is that i have been to most clubs and I would known by people in the clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will try to bring it up, maybe try and find a good swingers movie, have a few drinks and see what she thinks about maybe going to a club to just watch. Only problem i have is that i have been to most clubs and I would known by people in the clubs."

Like I said...you’ll need to be completely honest with her. If you’re known at clubs, someone will eventually tell her you’ve been meeting behind her back. You need complete openness and honesty for this to work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advise, will see if shes up for trying it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the advise, will see if shes up for trying it"
just take her to one of the club's you havnt been going to for the last 4 years just in case somebody says havnt seen you here for a couple of weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been here since 2012 ... that’s 6 years of deceitful behaviour.

Could you honestly see her being ok with it knowing you’ve been Cheating on her for this amount of time?

Good luck whatever you do

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By *r and Mrs P SandCouple
over a year ago

South West

Is this cheating? or swinging?

Because I know how I'd see it if I was the wife.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Is this cheating? or swinging?

Because I know how I'd see it if I was the wife."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my eyes it's to late, you've been cheating behind her back and I for one wouldn't just brush that under the table! Forget trying to get her into swinging you need to tell your wife what you have been doing! Ive seen it many times on this scene that people are on here without the other half knowing and it's simply wrong.

Swinging as a couple takes love, trust and communication I know for sure u don't have 2 of this things in your relationship, think you need to sort your relationship before making it more complicated... sorry if I offend.. (mrs) rant over.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Not yet, i really want to tell her and join in with her though. I love her and dont want to lose her but i want her to join in with me. I just dont know how to approach her and see if she would be up for it. She is a bit prudish about sex but i really want her to join me and have a full sex life and try out all our fantasies together."

Why after 6 years do you want your wife to swing with you? Where you thinking how much you loved her when you were fucking others. I doubt it? So what has changed? Has your time on the scene made you realise the benefits of having a swinging partner, even if that is a wife who is a prude?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think i might go for a drink with my mate and see if he might be up for letting his wife talk to her about trying it. I know they really open up to each other and she has suggested some sex toys to her in the past."

You need to work on communicating with your wife before you can even think of trying swinging. If you genuinely feel you need to get a third party to discuss with your wife this most intimate of questions how on earth will you discuss the things you'll be doing as swingers.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Also how do you think your wife is going to feel when she discovers that you communicate more with your best friends wife than you do with her?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"I think i might go for a drink with my mate and see if he might be up for letting his wife talk to her about trying it. I know they really open up to each other and she has suggested some sex toys to her in the past."

I wouldnt op

She might feel pressured of you involve others...

Talk to her and see what she says

If its a no will you be able to stop or carry on cheating ?.

Be an adult and have the chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone have any advice on the best way to introduce my wife to swinging? I would love her to join in with me and fully explore swinging. The thaght of sharing her and being able to fully explore my bi side with her joining in is so sexy. I want to slowly see if she would be open to having a full sex life with couples or groups of guys.you've been here a year does she know, I suggest if she doesn't it may be too late "

Over six years as photos say 2012.

Too late for sure.

Just show her your profile

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Base your relationship upon fantastic communication between you. You can improve yours bit by bit and will grow from accepting the challenge rather than foist it on your friends. Aim to have a time when you both are completely honest and open with each other - as a goal.

Just talking about sex and sharing fantasies is a good start.

Don't have swinging as the goal, irrespective of her needs, as she may never be interested in it. Aim to swinging your relationship, communication and sex lives. Swinging may or may not happen. She's important, as well as her needs - though it's essential that you don't impose yours as if they are herz.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"Base your relationship upon fantastic communication between you. You can improve yours bit by bit and will grow from accepting the challenge rather than foist it on your friends. Aim to have a time when you both are completely honest and open with each other - as a goal.

Just talking about sex and sharing fantasies is a good start.

Don't have swinging as the goal, irrespective of her needs, as she may never be interested in it. Aim to swinging your relationship, communication and sex lives. Swinging may or may not happen. She's important, as well as her needs - though it's essential that you don't impose yours as if they are herz. "

That should have said

Aim to improve your relationship, communication and sex lives ...

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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow

Whether she agrees to give the lifestyle a try or not you have been on this site without her knowledge for years so I doubt that is the best starting point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suggest a male love doll and during play tell her you would love it if it was a real guy then watch her reaction

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

You should have had this conversation with her 6 years ago OP. I wish you the best of luck.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Is this what they call car crash swinging?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone have any advice on the best way to introduce my wife to swinging? I would love her to join in with me and fully explore swinging. The thaght of sharing her and being able to fully explore my bi side with her joining in is so sexy. I want to slowly see if she would be open to having a full sex life with couples or groups of guys."

Log onto here, pick a profile and ask her if she would be interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You still here and a couple....... Let me know I'm intrigued now 6 years is a long time to be here in this lifestyle and the ball and chain not knowing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She might be into it, you never know, she might even absolutely love it. You’re going to have to be careful when telling her that you’ve been shagging women to their great satisfaction for 6 years though - maybe hire a speechwriter.

Good luck!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

See he hasnt been back on this thread for a while. Maybe she's chopped his dick off and shoved it down his throat lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She might be into it, you never know, she might even absolutely love it. You’re going to have to be careful when telling her that you’ve been shagging women to their great satisfaction for 6 years though - maybe hire a speechwriter.

Good luck!"
I could do that speech but I'd require very good remuneration

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's difficult. Mie has played once for me Wine helped0

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She might be into it, you never know, she might even absolutely love it. You’re going to have to be careful when telling her that you’ve been shagging women to their great satisfaction for 6 years though - maybe hire a speechwriter.

Good luck!I could do that speech but I'd require very good remuneration "

Do you take “Goes on wife” or are you strictly cash only?

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

Op can I be a fly on the wall when you talk to your wife, I’m sure it’ll be a better soap opera than East Enders!

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