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By *ice but naughty80 OP   Man
over a year ago

ayrshire

Hi ladies and couples. I’m Alan. I’ve been on and off here before. I’ve always found it really hard to get meets. I’ve had a handful but nothing to write home about. I was looking for advice on how to word the first message. I’m always polite and courteous in my messages but the replies I get are few and far between. How do you like the first message to read?

And does my profile need tweeked? (Only if you have time and can be arsed reading it lol).

Any help would be gratefully appreciated.

Thanks guys,

Alan

X

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By *ice but naughty80 OP   Man
over a year ago

ayrshire

It’s came to my attention that the way this is worded may make it sound derogatory to my meets. That’s not what I meant. I meant the AMOUNT and meets I’ve had is nothing to write home about, not the meets themselves. Sorry for any confusion.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

That sounds better

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By *ice but naughty80 OP   Man
over a year ago

ayrshire

Thank you

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By *ylonSlutTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

You had at least 2 meets in 8 months which is pretty good for a single bloke. I think getting your profile and pics right is paramount if they ain't right most couples and wonen will just delete your message without reading it

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By *ice but naughty80 OP   Man
over a year ago

ayrshire


"You had at least 2 meets in 8 months which is pretty good for a single bloke. I think getting your profile and pics right is paramount if they ain't right most couples and wonen will just delete your message without reading it "

I get that. But it’s getting the profile and pics just right so it appeals. I only write/take pics of what “I” think people want to read/see.

I’d like some insight as to what is actually WANTED to be seen/read, if you get what I mean.

Thank firvreplying though

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By *ice but naughty80 OP   Man
over a year ago

ayrshire

Any suggestions on how to improve people?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Any suggestions on how to improve people? "

Hi.

Firstly there is loads of great profile advice in the forums already, it is well worth doing a forum search and reading some of them. People are often reluctant to keep repeating the same stuff over and over.

Secondly there is no magic "one size fits all" answer. What works for one person may not have any success for the next.

Thirdly, you need to stand out... there is no point copying others, rather personalise the profile & message advice to fit your own personality and strengths.

Hope this helps.

Cal

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Also... I've just looked at your profile and 3 out of for pics are of your cock. This will put most off... and you start your text with I'm just the typical bloke. Not quite the best way to stand out.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change your pics to start with OP, 3 cock pics out of 4 is OTT. Very generic text too. Look at the numerous threads on here about advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You either appeal to people or you don’t.

You could change your profile 10 times and send the nicest of messages, if someone isn’t interested in you they’re just not interested in you.

Just keep going!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like messages that show some thought, show that a person has read my profile and picked up on things we might have in common. Messages that show a bit of personality and have clearly been written for me as opposed to some copy-pasted paragraph or two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any suggestions on how to improve people? "

Read the profile, make sure you fit their requirements, then personalise it to the individual. There’s no right or wrong way, it depends what they are looking for.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Hi ladies and couples. I’m Alan. I’ve been on and off here before. I’ve always found it really hard to get meets. I’ve had a handful but nothing to write home about. I was looking for advice on how to word the first message. I’m always polite and courteous in my messages but the replies I get are few and far between. How do you like the first message to read?

And does my profile need tweeked? (Only if you have time and can be arsed reading it lol).

Any help would be gratefully appreciated.

Thanks guys,

Alan

X"

How often would you like to meet OP?

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By *ice but naughty80 OP   Man
over a year ago

ayrshire

As often as possible lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say in your profile; " As said, I’ve been here before so I know the drill."

It seems contradictory to then seek profile advice in the forum.

There seems to be an increased theme on profiles recently along the lines of 'back on after a break, leave verification's if you met me before'. But nobody ever explains the reason for the break which leads us to surmise that the previous membership was pretty fruitless and hence we are sceptical that there was ever previous verification's.

It isn't difficult to chase up previous meets for re-verification...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You either appeal to people or you don’t.

You could change your profile 10 times and send the nicest of messages, if someone isn’t interested in you they’re just not interested in you.

Just keep going! "

This x

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"As often as possible lol"

Well...it is possible to "meet" someone pretty much whenever you please.

But it'll cost you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You say in your profile; " As said, I’ve been here before so I know the drill."

It seems contradictory to then seek profile advice in the forum.

There seems to be an increased theme on profiles recently along the lines of 'back on after a break, leave verification's if you met me before'. But nobody ever explains the reason for the break which leads us to surmise that the previous membership was pretty fruitless and hence we are sceptical that there was ever previous verification's.

It isn't difficult to chase up previous meets for re-verification... "

Noticed this too a lot of late. Seems like a line being played. Why leave, if you’re not having fun just hide your account

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