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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi to anybody that reads this, advice/opinions would be grateful to my situation and I’d like to say that I’m thick skinned so say what you want as I’d rather hear the truth.

So basically I’m a 41 year old male been on here for a while now with the usual 0 luck, I did meet a friendly female and we chatted and met but as no real physical attraction nothing came of it, we remained in contact so at least something came from it good.

So the point of this post is that I’m a paralysed man so I’m confined to a wheelchair but that hasn’t stopped my desire for company and intimacy, I understand that no women wakes up in the morning and decides that they want to get with a man in a chair and I also understand that I can’t tick the box for a tall man or a six pack but ladies I meet in normal day to day tell me I’m a good guy blah blah, there is nothing wrong with the top half of my body in the sense of hands tongue and mind and I have enough toys for someone to have fun with, so how do I translate that into my profile/message when to be honest the ones that I have sent 95% are just deleted and not even opened it would seem, I also understand that ladies are swamped with messages and they can pick and choose who they want.

Anyway I should stop talking shite and get to the point, is this the wrong environment for me do you think ? I was looking to make friends with benefits (which I think is a myth now) as not interested in a full on relationship as just been dumped after 20 or so years, I’ve been tempted to try going to a club but I have seen others write about first time awkwardness well imagine how I feel being in the chair and wondering if I’ll get around the club and the last thing I want to do is make anyone else feel uncomfortable having someone like me watching or approaching them, starting to think I should just enter the world of using escorts but as I’ve never done this before, I’m also a bit nervous of approaching that but at least I’ll get the fun part, but a friendship that you pay for maybe isn’t quite as fulfilling as others but I could be wrong.

Anyway this is in no way a post to get sympathy as I’ve been in the chair for nearly 15 years so quite used to it but being single and in the chair I didn’t think would ever happen again so I’m just trying to figure it all out.

If you have managed to read through all this dribble then any advice would be appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP. Your anguish in your post comes across and I hope you find a good solution to your situation, that works for you, whatever that may be.

If you, and everyone you met, saw you as a decent person, what would you be hoping for? And how would you go about trying to get it. There isn’t any reason why you shouldn’t be able to get it, and those that dismiss you because your chair quite frankly don’t deserve your time, or concern. But it is a choice for them. A book called Time to Think has been very good for me recently in helping me challenge those assumptions that I have about what people may or may not think of me, and to get to a place where I can ‘reset’ those assumptions.

Good luck

I wish you well.

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By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4

Get on the chat rooms you'll have a blast !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a club. Your very handsome. If you have chat too I'm sure you'll do well x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the responses to my post, I shall take a look for that book to see what it’s all about and also try the chat rooms, I will try and get myself to a club when I’ve finally found my bottle

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP I can't offer you much advice apart from the usual that is given to single men who struggle to get meets. That advice is usually to go to clubs and organised social events.

Unfortunately club visits may not be as easy for you as they are for others because many clubs just aren't wheelchair accessible. They are often on multiple levels with no lifts available.

The only club I'm aware of that is fully accessible is quest. I believe one of the owners is a wheelchair user.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re a good looking fella OP and your profile is good.

I’ve never been to a Club so can’t offer much help there.

I’d say you’ve been upfront and honest in what you can and are offering and i’d just say keep on keeping on. Maybe join a few other sites as well so all your apples aren’t just in this cart and see how it goes.

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By *ugs and JunkCouple
over a year ago

Bellshill

You’re a good looking guy and your profile is well written. I’d say try a club or organised social to get in amongst things. For what it’s worth if I was single and local I’d meet you

Mrs

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