FabSwingers.com forum: Couple Ground Rules

By *team7279 OP Couple
over a year ago

London

Just curious, what kind of ground rules do couples on here have for each other?

Our main rules are no play with anyone we know outside of swinging, no contact with play partners without each other's knowledge, either of us can pull the plug at any time and neither of us should pressure the other into anything. Open and honest about it at all times.

In terms of the sex, we don't really operate any rules outside of whatever is comfortable with with any given partner.

How about you?

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Well not as a couple but I think single people have ground rules too.

Mine is don’t do anything that neither party is not comfortable with.

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin

Ours is if either of us, or anyone else is uncomfortable we stop -we want everyone to be having fun, so much hornier that way.

And we come as a pair whether we are meeting singles or couples...after all it's fun to watch!

That's about it other than safe sex.

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By *ants_Nerdy_CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Havant

We basically don't have any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No kissing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to be no people our kids ages...

Used to be.... oops.

Seems like in clubs age doesn't matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was on as a couple our rules were

No play without each other unless it was with someone we had both agreed.

Always safe with others.

And nothing behind the others back.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Used to be no people our kids ages...

Used to be.... oops.

Seems like in clubs age doesn't matter."

We're the same, we won't actively organise a meet with people the same or younger than our kids. BUT we've never asked anyone in a club for ID.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only had 3: no mutual friends, safe sex only, and being open and honest with each other. The ex managed none of them

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By *uicy Lucy and percyCouple
over a year ago

wales

We arrive as a couple we play as a couple and we leave as a couple if either calls halt we both stop simples

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

They're on our profile, except honesty, that's not a ground rule that's expected.

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By *uicy Lucy and percyCouple
over a year ago

wales

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

We only messaged people through our couples profile so we could read each other's messages to people.

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Anal play is for me only

otherwise it’s go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We only had 3: no mutual friends, safe sex only, and being open and honest with each other. The ex managed none of them

Same here!

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

"Just curious, what kind of ground rules do couples on here have for each other?

In terms of the sex, we don't really operate any rules outside of whatever is comfortable with with any given partner.

How about you?"

Pretty identical, except there are exceptions for point one, sadly not all the ones I'd like

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By *team7279 OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"Ours is if either of us, or anyone else is uncomfortable we stop -we want everyone to be having fun, so much hornier that way.

And we come as a pair whether we are meeting singles or couples...after all it's fun to watch!

That's about it other than safe sex."

Oh heck, and safe sex always for us too!

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By *team7279 OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"Pretty identical, except there are exceptions for point one, sadly not all the ones I'd like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The 3 Ds

1, Do not get caught

2, Deny everything

3, Destroy all evidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just curious, what kind of ground rules do couples on here have for each other?

In terms of the sex, we don't really operate any rules outside of whatever is comfortable with with any given partner.

How about you?"

Pretty much the same, nothing behind the others back, its not a rule but if can be helped nothing in our own bed, to me thats our space.

Bella x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always play with each other first ...and last after a play session with others

We only play together in the same room. Safe sex only.

We like kinky stuff but only do that with each other #trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ours are....

1.same room only

2.safe sex

3.no anal (like to keep that for us)

4.if either want to stop we both stop.

5.no extra contact with someone we have played with unless both are aware.

Apart from that then it's just have fun and get kinky lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The 3 Ds

1, Do not get caught

2, Deny everything

3, Destroy all evidence

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By *utie91Woman
over a year ago

Hitchin

Our main rule is never play bare with others, only with each other.

Tell each other what we are doing.

If either of us is uncomfortable then we stop.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"We arrive as a couple we play as a couple and we leave as a couple if either calls halt we both stop simples "

...pretty much our view as well. As well as be nice to people and have a good time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had some great rules. But best one was the if either of us weren’t feeling it in play ‘Need a drink’ was used to signify it wasn’t working and we both stopped.

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By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

1. No outside the scene play

2. ALWAYS safe sex with others

3. No means no. No matter how far it's gone/going

4. No play with kids in the house

5. Open and honest at all times.

6. COMMUNICATION

There is no right way or wrong way to do this kinda thing. Do what's right and what works for you.

And the biggest one HAVE FUN!

Miss C Xx

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By *uicy Lucy and percyCouple
over a year ago

wales

"We arrive as a couple we play as a couple and we leave as a couple if either calls halt we both stop simples

...pretty much our view as well. As well as be nice to people and have a good time

And always safe sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No seperate rooms .

No playing behind each other’s backs.

No really fit couples that make us look shit .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't have any. As long as everyone is consenting then anything goes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just curious, what kind of ground rules do couples on here have for each other?

In terms of the sex, we don't really operate any rules outside of whatever is comfortable with with any given partner.

How about you?"

We sort of do:

- nobody from our village

- no friends

- no colleagues

- we each have a veto (not yet used)

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By *havenpussycatsCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

We keep it simple really. Like listed on our profile. Same room, full swap, kissing. Ideally no drama also!

We do like to push boundaries a bit with delicious consequences. Both of us have to be comfortable but sometimes will let the other lead across a new boundary.

Certainly our age range has changed a little upwards in that if someone’s hot and sexy then age isn’t such a limit. We’re also fine around men who are bi/bi curious as I think the lifestyle tends to make us more open minded. Also we have developed a tiny interest in very light bdsm/bondage. Naturism isn’t something we’d have considered before swinging is another example.

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By *iveshowcoupleCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Simple and uncomplicated here.

First: We always swing/meet as a couple

Two: Anything the other does or wishes to do whilst swinging together is allowed.

Having been on the scene for a number of years and been involved in some wild situations these simple rules work for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just curious, what kind of ground rules do couples on here have for each other?

In terms of the sex, we don't really operate any rules outside of whatever is comfortable with with any given partner.

How about you?"

We’re just a soft swing couple.. Soft swing for us is all in the same room. I’m happy for Mrs V to stroke someone else cock and for the female to grab mine.. nipple sucking and playing for both ladies and possible finger play.. but everyone’s different. We don’t kiss or do oral with others. Any couples Interested? Message us x

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By *havenpussycatsCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

"No seperate rooms .

No playing behind each other’s backs.

No really fit couples that make us look shit . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a fairly simple set of rules for us...

- We only meet together.

- We always play safely.

- Within a meet we're both free to do anything we please.

- If either of us has any concern before or during play, for ant reason, we both stop.

- We reconnect and make love together after the meet.

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By *he witch returnsWoman
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow in SW Devon

With our couple profile the 2 rules we have are, 1. Safe sex

2. Keep each informed of single meets.

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By *DSM - CUCKOLD - COUPLECouple
over a year ago

manchester

I think with simple communication you can live out any fantasy you both want and nobody gets cheated on or hurt

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By *ifeTimeCouple
over a year ago

Grays

"No seperate rooms .

No playing behind each other’s backs.

No really fit couples that make us look shit . "

Number 3 really, really made us laugh.

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By *uicy Lucy and percyCouple
over a year ago

wales

"No seperate rooms .

No playing behind each other’s backs.

No really fit couples that make us look shit .

Number 3 really, really made us laugh. "

Number 3

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By *team7279 OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"1. No outside the scene play

2. ALWAYS safe sex with others

3. No means no. No matter how far it's gone/going

4. No play with kids in the house

5. Open and honest at all times.

6. COMMUNICATION

There is no right way or wrong way to do this kinda thing. Do what's right and what works for you.

And the biggest one HAVE FUN!

Miss C Xx "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We only had 3: no mutual friends, safe sex only, and being open and honest with each other. The ex managed none of them

Funny mine couldn't either

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Communication during play so we know both are having fun - or chillout time

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By *carlet071Woman
over a year ago

bristol

I had a lot more restrictions/rules when we first entered into swinging. Some of them were born out of fear and a lack of confidence...

As time went on and experience grew, I realised staying rigid to some of those rules wasn’t really beneficial to embracing and enjoying those moments

So some of them no longer apply.....

I am a stickler for safe penetration though and absolutely no bareback (me or my fiancé)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just curious, what kind of ground rules do couples on here have for each other?

In terms of the sex, we don't really operate any rules outside of whatever is comfortable with with any given partner.

How about you?"

Pretty much this but the first in the list is the open and honest rule

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

Play safe

Enjoy

Indulge as much as you want or can

Nothing behind each other’s backs (but can play on your own with partners agreement)

If the fun stops so do we

No means no

Keep an open mind

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By *ewhorizonsCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

1. Safe sex only

2. No anal

3. Always tell each other who we are meeting and where.

4. If either want to stop then the other has to agree.

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By *empsey and hotpieceMan
over a year ago

North west

Our rules have evolved over the years.

Basically now, I just let kim decide how things go, I’m open to anything, she can vary depending on many factors, so it’s just easier to let her lead the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After seeing one or two domestics I would say,

Make sure you stick to the rules you make, however temping it may be to go off piste, and

Review boundaries regularly

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"No kissing x"

That wouldn't work for us. Kissing is a huge part of the enjoyment of others for both of us.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"No kissing x

That wouldn't work for us. Kissing is a huge part of the enjoyment of others for both of us.

Us neither, kissing, flirting all part of the fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No kissing x

That wouldn't work for us. Kissing is a huge part of the enjoyment of others for both of us.

Us neither, kissing, flirting all part of the fun

Agreed. And it is so horny to be down on my wife and look up to see her kissing her lover that I couldb’t give it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing above the neck and vaginal penetration are our current rules. We are new and soft swap only. Not to say things won't change but would be pre discussed beforehand. We are married/kids so don't want to endanger that by rushing. Plenty respect it and want to play, some don't and we respect their choices and boundaries.

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By *uicy Lucy and percyCouple
over a year ago

wales

"Kissing above the neck and vaginal penetration are our current rules. We are new and soft swap only. Not to say things won't change but would be pre discussed beforehand. We are married/kids so don't want to endanger that by rushing. Plenty respect it and want to play, some don't and we respect their choices and boundaries."

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By *j123456Couple
over a year ago

cradley heath

Our only real rules are we must stay together at all

times and if either of us feel uncomfortable then it stops except for that not much else

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

One of ours is ifthere is no respect for any of the parties,we don’t want to know

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

When we started out we were nervous about the impact on our relationship, so we were quite tentative until we felt comfortable. Since then we have found that having fun, being together and safe sex are our only real rules.

On here we limit ages, but it in Clubs we never ask! A cheeky smile, making an effort to look good and a bit of gentle flirting helps immensely

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We really only have a couple of rules

We agree everything before hand and do things together, no playing alone and safe sex.

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By *team7279 OP Couple
over a year ago

London

Thanks all! Really interesting to see what others prioritise, and some good ideas to boot!

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By *xxx30Man
over a year ago

york

"Just curious, what kind of ground rules do couples on here have for each other?

In terms of the sex, we don't really operate any rules outside of whatever is comfortable with with any given partner.

How about you?"

I think something more couples should highlight in there profile is the subject of kissing cause I know some people love the passion for example I tend to tease a girl by kissing her inner thighs and neck and mouth but some couple don't agree with it plz help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No anal, no deception.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

1. No-one too close to home.

2. Don't play with the crazy people.

3. Wrap it up.

4. Pics or it didn't happen (not actually a real one, we don't do pics)

5. Tell all of the details (so I can wank to them)

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By *ldhillhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Old Hill

When we started we had all sorts of rules covering anal, kissing, etc.

Soon realised that when you are horny things that you would say "no" to become a "well okay then". By having the rules it often just caused stopped the natural flow of play as Chris intervened as a guy(s) broke a rule that I was happily going along with.

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By *team7279 OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"No anal, no deception."

Punchy! Would look good on a t-shirt.

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By *izaandstuCouple
over a year ago

Wigan

For us it has to be were we both find the meet a turn on. it always got to involve the both of us and we never meet seperate and we both have to be enjoying it either of us can stop it at anytime no matter what reason. we get turned on most the more horny we see each other getting. we dont do anal we keep that as something just for us. we are totaly honest at all times and tell each other everything.. it always has to be about the both of us and neither of us ever feel arkward or pressured. we are on here as a couple so everything we do is about us as a couple

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

thats a good point you have to remember it only you two who know your rules they dont apply to anyone else

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

we started of with lots of rules but after a while it wound up with just one two

safe sex

we had to know where each other were

we had a big group of friends so i knew if i left her to go do my thing somewhere she was still safe at all times so it no longer made sense not to do what ever we wanted or didnt want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No kissing x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only rules we have are I must have a social first and we have to know where the other is.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Just curious, what kind of ground rules do couples on here have for each other?

In terms of the sex, we don't really operate any rules outside of whatever is comfortable with with any given partner.

How about you?"

We are adults and trust each other so we don't have to have rules. If one of us is uneasy we would talk to the other about it.

Its probably because we have been together for so long we know what would make the other uncomfortable and simply avios going there

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By *MNJCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

Agree with the super hot couples thing, we've spoken to couples before and wondered if we'd feel hideous playing with them.

There's some sort of a look/wink code too but I don't understand it.

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Spent 8 years here and played in clubs with my ex as a couple. Our rules were no one takes one for the team, if anyone is uncomfortable we stop and if anyone wants to meet outside of the couple dynamic it's ok as long as the other knows and agrees to it.

Wanker broke the last rule though hense why I'm here as a single pringle now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just curious, what kind of ground rules do couples on here have for each other?

In terms of the sex, we don't really operate any rules outside of whatever is comfortable with with any given partner.

How about you?"

Quite strict and it does restrict. No full sex, no oral sex, no cumming on face or near pussy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Spent 8 years here and played in clubs with my ex as a couple. Our rules were no one takes one for the team, if anyone is uncomfortable we stop and if anyone wants to meet outside of the couple dynamic it's ok as long as the other knows and agrees to it.

Wanker broke the last rule though hense why I'm here as a single pringle now

This is the one we don’t get, there’s no need to be devious and secretive in this kind of relationship, so why would you!

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