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"Which clubs have you been to so far? " Attic, Chameleons’s, quest, townhouse | |||
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"I'm not sure if this helps but you were on our list of people we were hoping to run into at Raw on Friday. Your photos are fantastic! Sadly the club was so busy I don't think we spotted you. " It was very busy! And we still didn’t play!! Shame we didn’t bump into you | |||
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"We go to clubs quite often but never seem to get any play and not totally sure why. We chat to people but that’s all. We’ve played odd occasions where we’ve arranged to meet there but have never ‘pulled’ in the club. My theory is mr is too fit and I’m not fit enough!! Although I used to get loads of attention as a single girl. Mr is very muscular and I’m not sure if this puts other men off for whatever reason? I’m very curvy and I know that’s not for everyone. Who knows. but it's starting to get a bit demoralising. Any profile advise or advise in general we’d be happy to hear " have you tried going in separately but on same night? | |||
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"We go to clubs quite often but never seem to get any play and not totally sure why. We chat to people but that’s all. We’ve played odd occasions where we’ve arranged to meet there but have never ‘pulled’ in the club. My theory is mr is too fit and I’m not fit enough!! Although I used to get loads of attention as a single girl. Mr is very muscular and I’m not sure if this puts other men off for whatever reason? I’m very curvy and I know that’s not for everyone. Who knows. but it's starting to get a bit demoralising. Any profile advise or advise in general we’d be happy to hear " The same advice that is often suggested to single guys is just as relevant to any gender or demographic. Your profile text tells me very little ![]() | |||
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"Have confidence, we have met you and you're both hot! Tbh honest we weren't entirely sure whether you wanted to play, we thought maybe that you were just wanting a chat. Maybe you could be a little bit more forward and flirty... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Agree with being forward and flirty. Read on another profile recently something to the effect "tell us you want to play, we're not telepathic" and it's so true! It might take you out your comfort zone but it will boost your confidence x | |||
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"We can totally sympathise with you OP We have exactly the same trouble, as singles never had a problem but as a couple we find it very hard and frustrating. We go to local clubs regularly and on many occasions chat but don’t play with others. One suggestion was that ppl assume as Male is Black we only play with other black guys which is not true Have redone profile a few times Any advice would be appreciated x" As before, profile is irrelevant at clubs. But I'm a little confused, are you saying that you get rejected, or people aren't approaching you? From your pictures you're a good looking couple, therefore you will need to do more of the approaching, especially as a couple, you can't just sit there and wait. People will think you are going to reject them so won't make the first move. And if you're both sitting there doing that, nothing happens ![]() | |||
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"We go to clubs quite often but never seem to get any play and not totally sure why. We chat to people but that’s all. We’ve played odd occasions where we’ve arranged to meet there but have never ‘pulled’ in the club. My theory is mr is too fit and I’m not fit enough!! Although I used to get loads of attention as a single girl. Mr is very muscular and I’m not sure if this puts other men off for whatever reason? I’m very curvy and I know that’s not for everyone. Who knows. but it's starting to get a bit demoralising. Any profile advise or advise in general we’d be happy to hear The same advice that is often suggested to single guys is just as relevant to any gender or demographic. Your profile text tells me very little ![]() Meeting people out of clubs isn’t the problem it’s when we are in a club where they won’t be reading our profile! Maybe we have to change our expectations then!! | |||
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"Just to say OP, you've got some lovely photos on your profile. Beautifully shot." I second that. Lovely shots OP. | |||
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"Awesome thread guys... great advice No one approaches us either tbh.... Think its our ink/look Anyway we are adopting a more proactive method by talking to the muggles... fun so far ![]() Great ink! Do you go the VA ever? You won't get a chance to be proactive,, lol. | |||
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"We go to clubs quite often but never seem to get any play and not totally sure why. We chat to people but that’s all. We’ve played odd occasions where we’ve arranged to meet there but have never ‘pulled’ in the club. My theory is mr is too fit and I’m not fit enough!! Although I used to get loads of attention as a single girl. Mr is very muscular and I’m not sure if this puts other men off for whatever reason? I’m very curvy and I know that’s not for everyone. Who knows. but it's starting to get a bit demoralising. Any profile advise or advise in general we’d be happy to hear " What has worked for us in the past, is not being joined at the hip in clubs/parties. Each of us is free to roam around, "scouting" as Miss puts it. If we find anyone that we'd like to play with, we make it clear that we play as a couple and if they're interested, we then introduce them to the OH. We think that sometimes couples can appear too "coupled up" maybe? ![]() | |||
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"We go to clubs quite often but never seem to get any play and not totally sure why. We chat to people but that’s all. We’ve played odd occasions where we’ve arranged to meet there but have never ‘pulled’ in the club. My theory is mr is too fit and I’m not fit enough!! Although I used to get loads of attention as a single girl. Mr is very muscular and I’m not sure if this puts other men off for whatever reason? I’m very curvy and I know that’s not for everyone. Who knows. but it's starting to get a bit demoralising. Any profile advise or advise in general we’d be happy to hear What has worked for us in the past, is not being joined at the hip in clubs/parties. Each of us is free to roam around, "scouting" as Miss puts it. If we find anyone that we'd like to play with, we make it clear that we play as a couple and if they're interested, we then introduce them to the OH. We think that sometimes couples can appear too "coupled up" maybe? ![]() Great if that works for you, in most clubs in a couples evening the guy should be staying with his partner and not wandering around alone though. However we are rarely apart other than loo visits, and not always then, and have no problem finding couples and singles to play with, just be a little proactive. | |||
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"We go to clubs quite often but never seem to get any play and not totally sure why. We chat to people but that’s all. We’ve played odd occasions where we’ve arranged to meet there but have never ‘pulled’ in the club. My theory is mr is too fit and I’m not fit enough!! Although I used to get loads of attention as a single girl. Mr is very muscular and I’m not sure if this puts other men off for whatever reason? I’m very curvy and I know that’s not for everyone. Who knows. but it's starting to get a bit demoralising. Any profile advise or advise in general we’d be happy to hear " Your profile is good, with great photos. Your partner is a big man, but there are plenty that like muscle. Perhaps try and pre arrange to meet some couples that you've chatted to in the forums, the next time you go clubbing. They may help break the ice for you x | |||
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"We go to clubs quite often but never seem to get any play and not totally sure why. We chat to people but that’s all. We’ve played odd occasions where we’ve arranged to meet there but have never ‘pulled’ in the club. My theory is mr is too fit and I’m not fit enough!! Although I used to get loads of attention as a single girl. Mr is very muscular and I’m not sure if this puts other men off for whatever reason? I’m very curvy and I know that’s not for everyone. Who knows. but it's starting to get a bit demoralising. Any profile advise or advise in general we’d be happy to hear The same advice that is often suggested to single guys is just as relevant to any gender or demographic. Your profile text tells me very little ![]() Ahhh..it was your last sentence that asked for profile advice or general advice .. At clubs are you looking for singles m/f or couples.? As a couple looking for a couple I can understand it's difficult you've four people that need to find each other attractive throw in personalities that have to gel.. double difficult.. | |||
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"Awesome thread guys... great advice No one approaches us either tbh.... Think its our ink/look Anyway we are adopting a more proactive method by talking to the muggles... fun so far ![]() Lol thanks We went to FOF and were impressed with the changes they have made in the club since our first, and only, visit.... It's on the list to revisit ![]() | |||
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"We go to clubs quite often but never seem to get any play and not totally sure why. We chat to people but that’s all. We’ve played odd occasions where we’ve arranged to meet there but have never ‘pulled’ in the club. My theory is mr is too fit and I’m not fit enough!! Although I used to get loads of attention as a single girl. Mr is very muscular and I’m not sure if this puts other men off for whatever reason? I’m very curvy and I know that’s not for everyone. Who knows. but it's starting to get a bit demoralising. Any profile advise or advise in general we’d be happy to hear " I love curvy women and the fact that mr is muscular wouldnt put me off at all. You enjoy what you do looking at the pics so I wouldnt worry. Perhaps you need to visit Chams near Walsall as theyre a great lot generally. ![]() | |||
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"Awesome thread guys... great advice No one approaches us either tbh.... Think its our ink/look Anyway we are adopting a more proactive method by talking to the muggles... fun so far ![]() ![]() Now that's why you were familiar, so were we, not much playing then, too much partyimg and drinking, feel like we might have even spoken about your tattoos. Were you in the foam party? | |||
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