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1st time going to a club

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By *appyfuncpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

telford

We're both very keen on going to a club but scared at the same time , what if we meet people we know or worse, how do we overcome these issues and the neves of being naked and other things ??? Help please xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been to 3 different clubs. Loved one....liked one and hated one

We went spur of the moment and initially just went to look about but ended up playing

Walking in was nerve wracking but once you walk through the door it's honestly fine. We just went to the bar and sat and chatted to each other...got a drink then had a look around

The only thing I would say is don't look too much into it. Just go with the flow when your there and remember yous both might not like the same things and want different things when your there

Be easy going about it and hopefully you'll have a good time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just treat it like going to a bar. There is no pressure to do anything and you can just hang out and chat. Just make sure that you have discussed your limits before and check in with each other to make sure that you are still on the same page and content with whatever is happening. It always feels a bit nervy on approach but as long as it’s a nice club you’ll relax when you get in. Have a good one!

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By *idCheshFunMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

I’d love someone take me a club c

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"We're both very keen on going to a club but scared at the same time , what if we meet people we know or worse, how do we overcome these issues and the neves of being naked and other things ??? Help please xx"

Checkout the reviews on here for AtlantisEVOLUTION in Stoke-on-Trent, sexy nightclub vibe downstairs with playrooms upstairs.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Check out the club online first. Go with no expectations. Have a look round, have a drink, enjoy a chat with people in the social areas. Talk to each other and be very honest in you communication with each other. Let things flow flow naturally. You can do or not do whatever you want in a club, there is no pressure. Just give it a try and see for your self.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was so nervous about going into a club. With two near me I checked reviews and the website of each one and made an informed choice. Plucked up the courage, knocked on the door and was welcomed with open arms. Everyone is so friendly and chatty. I am now a club regular. Decide on a club and take the plunge you will be glad you did

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

You will be nervous, it's something new and unknown, even with everyone on here giving reassuring messages, you will still get nerves.

However, once inside the nerves will probably change to curiosity and possibly even a little bordem.

Unless it's a wild party night you can find the most difficult thing is the lack of people willing to take the first step to open up a conversation. We are fairly shy, but have learned that if you want to have fun you have to be willing to chat and put yourself up for a knock back.

Most places we've been to have a bar area and they are good no pressure places to hang out.

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By *atureMischiefCouple
over a year ago

Lutterworth

A club visit is less daunting than people imagine, in fact we gave up private meets as they proved to be more hassle than going to a club.

A club is a safer environment, less pressure to play than a private meet if it don’t feel right.

If you bump into someone you know they are there for the same reason as you so why worry?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lots of good advice above, couple of things to add.

Chameleons on a couples only night would be a good introduction and because Chams is a dress down club then after the changing rooms people tend to be in just undies or a towel so its more of a level playing field.

Also, especially if you do feel nervous, take minimal alcohol, relax in the jacuzzi or steam room instead.

Work out your boundaries upfront, don't have any expectations, if something happens then great, if not you will still have a good night out and make lots of new friends xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're both very keen on going to a club but scared at the same time , what if we meet people we know or worse, how do we overcome these issues and the neves of being naked and other things ??? Help please xx"

Weve all been there but as is said your in charge of any connection. It's a bit daunting at first and each person will have very different likes or dislikes about clubs. They normally have a social area with seats but don't sit down, as this limits your interactions, unless talking to someone else. Make eye contact then if they return it make a step towards them and just say hi. Bingo

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By *atureMischiefCouple
over a year ago

Lutterworth


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Chameleons on a couples only night would be a good introduction and because Chams is a dress down club then after the changing rooms people tend to be in just undies or a towel so its more of a level playing field.

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Some find the dress down a little daunting on a first visit, if that’s not for you try Liberty Elite as there is no pressure to get undressed or play you can just take it all at your own pace.

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By *appyfuncpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

telford

Thanks guys loads of good advice given xx

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Here is my advice:

First off all read the club info pages on here. Read the reviews as well. This will help you work out if it is a club you would like.

Then have a look at the club website, these are normally informative and have pictures of the club, parking, directions, cost and other general info

Then I would say when you have found a club you like. Make sure you have boundaries set between you both. For example no play on first time just watch , or you will play with yourselves in a private room or join in group fun.

Then call the club. Say your new and you want to come along for a first night. Some clubs would prefer if you didn’t come on a party night and might suggest a quieter night so they can take you around to show you the club. I would say also ask what the dress code is at this point if you haven’t seen it on website.

Then go along. I wouldn’t worry about seeing anyone there. They are there for the same reason you are. I would say don’t drink to much and if you are planning to swap to take own condoms.

Again I would say don’t sit down, as it does detract from people approaching you. Couples tend to do better if standing up. Most good clubs will give you a tour anyway. I would say at first hang around the bar as people will generally chat there.

Anyway I hope that helps. Also I get nerves every time I go to the club and I have been going years. It’s part of the excitement!!!

I hope you enjoy and we look forward for you letting us know how you get on

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!


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Chameleons on a couples only night would be a good introduction and because Chams is a dress down club then after the changing rooms people tend to be in just undies or a towel so its more of a level playing field.

Some find the dress down a little daunting on a first visit, if that’s not for you try Liberty Elite as there is no pressure to get undressed or play you can just take it all at your own pace."

Looking at your location, if the idea of a dress-down club doesn`t appeal, try Xtasia in West Bromwich which is more of a night club feel with no need to dress down.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Here is my advice:

First off all read the club info pages on here. Read the reviews as well. This will help you work out if it is a club you would like.

Then have a look at the club website, these are normally informative and have pictures of the club, parking, directions, cost and other general info

Then I would say when you have found a club you like. Make sure you have boundaries set between you both. For example no play on first time just watch , or you will play with yourselves in a private room or join in group fun.

Then call the club. Say your new and you want to come along for a first night. Some clubs would prefer if you didn’t come on a party night and might suggest a quieter night so they can take you around to show you the club. I would say also ask what the dress code is at this point if you haven’t seen it on website.

Then go along. I wouldn’t worry about seeing anyone there. They are there for the same reason you are. I would say don’t drink to much and if you are planning to swap to take own condoms.

Again I would say don’t sit down, as it does detract from people approaching you. Couples tend to do better if standing up. Most good clubs will give you a tour anyway. I would say at first hang around the bar as people will generally chat there.

Anyway I hope that helps. Also I get nerves every time I go to the club and I have been going years. It’s part of the excitement!!!

I hope you enjoy and we look forward for you letting us know how you get on

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Good advice

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Here is my advice:

First off all read the club info pages on here. Read the reviews as well. This will help you work out if it is a club you would like.

Then have a look at the club website, these are normally informative and have pictures of the club, parking, directions, cost and other general info

Then I would say when you have found a club you like. Make sure you have boundaries set between you both. For example no play on first time just watch , or you will play with yourselves in a private room or join in group fun.

Then call the club. Say your new and you want to come along for a first night. Some clubs would prefer if you didn’t come on a party night and might suggest a quieter night so they can take you around to show you the club. I would say also ask what the dress code is at this point if you haven’t seen it on website.

Then go along. I wouldn’t worry about seeing anyone there. They are there for the same reason you are. I would say don’t drink to much and if you are planning to swap to take own condoms.

Again I would say don’t sit down, as it does detract from people approaching you. Couples tend to do better if standing up. Most good clubs will give you a tour anyway. I would say at first hang around the bar as people will generally chat there.

Anyway I hope that helps. Also I get nerves every time I go to the club and I have been going years. It’s part of the excitement!!!

I hope you enjoy and we look forward for you letting us know how you get on

Good advice "

A small seethrough bag is also useful. For condoms, wetwipes, mints, small toys, handcuffs,lube if you are playing.

Also I find knowing my fab name, small pen and paper to make notes of other peoples fab names helps as well. This can be stored in locker.

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By *iddytoxcplCouple
over a year ago

Stoke/Uttoxeter

All good sound advice. As mentioned there are several clubs not a million miles from you. They all have a different vibe, so try one if it's not for you don't be scared to try another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you see someone you know it’s very unlikely they’ll tell anyone unless they’re admitting they were in there too. We’ve spent the last three and a half years going to clubs and have done quite a few now and only once have we seen someone we knew, that just led to some really fun playtimes and making good friends!

Make sure you check out the club you’re interested in online first to see what is on and make sure it’s somethinf you’d be interested in - the last thing you want is to walk into a fetish party or something if that’s not your thing. It’ll tell you on their websites what to bring and if you’re to bring your own alcohol should you want any. Relax and have a great time - you won’t look back

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By *argudMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

try a club a few miles away, if your that wary, but if you see some one you know, they are there for the same reason, and might be helpful , or just as shocked , and as for being naked , who cares really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're both very keen on going to a club but scared at the same time , what if we meet people we know or worse, how do we overcome these issues and the neves of being naked and other things ??? Help please xx"

Our first ever time swinging was at chams, wasnt sure what to expect but once we got there and saw that it wasn't sordid or anything like that and people were friendly we started to relax and we've not looked back.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

There is more chance someone you know will view your profile. Since you are showing face pics are you really that worried about bumping into people you know? If you do bump into folk you know, just remember, in a club we are all there for the same reason. People viewing your profile is questionable here on fab, as there are folk lurking who have no intention of swinging.

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By *ediMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"We're both very keen on going to a club but scared at the same time , what if we meet people we know or worse, how do we overcome these issues and the neves of being naked and other things ??? Help please xx"

Bare in mind theyre there for similar reasons, maybe slightly embarrassing at first but you’ll soon learn to deal with it except if they’re family members lol

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I’d love someone take me a club c "

Perhaps ask one of your mates to go with you then.

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