FabSwingers.com forum: Messages

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all just after advice on messages!

I’ve tried sending all sorts of messages to different females but just seem to get ignored or deleted, ( not being pushy or perverted) and I’m not desperate but just wondering what sort of things would be a good start message? If I do get a reply very rare, it’s no sorry not for me which is fine I understand I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, but I’m guessing I’m probably messaging the wrong things!

Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you say in your messages OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send a few messages out that never get a reply, what I have found is if you are just true to who you are and what you’re looking for in your message eventually you will get an answer, don’t sweat it

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Different women will like different things, and their profiles will often be a clue. I'm pretty clear on mine, although I have no idea how typical I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all just after advice on messages!

Thanks in advance "

Do you read their profiles?

If people read ours, and add something from it, it makes us more inclined to answer( if they are looking for the same things as us of course)

We can usually tell if it’s a copy and paste message sent to 20 people at a time.

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By *ev and TrevCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

For us, a message from someone who has clearly read the profile will always get a reply, even if its a thanks but no thanks.

For example, we can't accommodate, so if someone messages us that also doesn't accommodate we'd likely ignore unless some solution to the logistics of meeting were mentioned.

A message purely aimed at one of us usually gets ignored too (I despise messages like 'your missus has great tits')

And never send a cock pic unless requested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm also getting hacked off, I always read the profile, make sure we have something in common. Never cut and paste, I'm polite, complimentary, and usually make a reference to something in the profile. Usually it's just deleted straight away.

It is especially frustrating when someone says " put (insert stupid phrase) in the message title and I promise I'll reply coz I'll know you read the whole profile.

And then delete your message....

Sorry to rant

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Someone posted the exact same thing the other day. If you press the green arrow next to my name it will show you what threads I've posted to. There was some good advice on there.....

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By *leaseContinueMan
over a year ago

Surbiton

Just got to get used to it, it's a buyers market.

Just be polite, normal & show you've read their profile. You'll get some replies.

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By *awtymarkyMan
over a year ago

chester

Well OP I do feel your emotions about this but also you have to look from a ladys point of view who you reply too. As most of them from my lady friends on here get so many messages that they become blinded by volume.

You have to think in terms of numbers on here and try doing a role reversals how would you feel if you had to do 300 mails a day?

I am sure some ladies have their own criteria’s on how they vet mails so it’s knowing what they want is the key to success. Also if you send a mail are they seeing it straight away that intrigues them or does it get lost in the pile of other mail which is being sent to them.

I am sure ladies that find you attractive and want to meet will get in touch also making friends on here is another good way to get meetings as believe it people do talk outside fab either at clubs on socials or as real life friends so if your a good guy then you will be spotted.

So my advice is don’t get too hung up on if a lady doesn’t reply as they might delete it but that could be a mass deletion. If they aren’t interested I find ladies do tell you. Be patient and just be yourself.

Hope it helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm also getting hacked off, I always read the profile, make sure we have something in common. Never cut and paste, I'm polite, complimentary, and usually make a reference to something in the profile. Usually it's just deleted straight away.

It is especially frustrating when someone says " put (insert stupid phrase) in the message title and I promise I'll reply coz I'll know you read the whole profile.

And then delete your message....

Sorry to rant"

It's just their bullshit way of trying to exert power and control. I'd ignore any profile expecting a key word in the message title

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for advice people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is especially frustrating when someone says " put (insert stupid phrase) in the message title and I promise I'll reply coz I'll know you read the whole profile.

And then delete your message....

Sorry to rant

It's just their bullshit way of trying to exert power and control. I'd ignore any profile expecting a key word in the message title

We send messages, don’t include the secret phrase, then take the pew when they reply to us

Childish, but fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is especially frustrating when someone says " put (insert stupid phrase) in the message title and I promise I'll reply coz I'll know you read the whole profile.

And then delete your message....

Sorry to rant"
maybe the hi viz jacket pic isn't helping your cause

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is especially frustrating when someone says " put (insert stupid phrase) in the message title and I promise I'll reply coz I'll know you read the whole profile.

And then delete your message....

Sorry to rant

It's just their bullshit way of trying to exert power and control. I'd ignore any profile expecting a key word in the message title

We send messages, don’t include the secret phrase, then take the pew when they reply to us

Childish, but fun. "
yes I have done that in the past but generally it's a block ha

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare

It is especially frustrating when someone says " put (insert stupid phrase) in the message title and I promise I'll reply coz I'll know you read the whole profile.

And then delete your message....

Sorry to rantmaybe the hi viz jacket pic isn't helping your cause "

Well... he is trying to get noticed

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Hi all just after advice on messages!

Thanks in advance

Do you read their profiles?

If people read ours, and add something from it, it makes us more inclined to answer( if they are looking for the same things as us of course)

We can usually tell if it’s a copy and paste message sent to 20 people at a time."

Agree with this

Referring to something in my profile is more likely to get my attention and show you have read what i'm after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a message an hour ago that read.... "hi x"

Those messages are the worst.

My reply was

Hey, I just met you

And this is crazy

Put more effort in

Coz that was lazy

No response back

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By *harliebluestockingsCouple
over a year ago

london

"Someone posted the exact same thing the other day. If you press the green arrow next to my name it will show you what threads I've posted to. There was some good advice on there....."

Wow. Never knew the green arrow trick. Thank you.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I had a message an hour ago that read.... "hi x"

Those messages are the worst.

My reply was

Hey, I just met you

And this is crazy

Put more effort in

Coz that was lazy

No response back

I love you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a message an hour ago that read.... "hi x"

Those messages are the worst.

My reply was

Hey, I just met you

And this is crazy

Put more effort in

Coz that was lazy

No response back

I love you. "

You're using that now aren't you x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I had a message an hour ago that read.... "hi x"

Those messages are the worst.

My reply was

Hey, I just met you

And this is crazy

Put more effort in

Coz that was lazy

No response back

I love you.

You're using that now aren't you x

I might steal it

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By *ivelaughlove16Couple
over a year ago

norfolk/Suffolk border

We have messages that are directed to the female only as if she is the one that is reading and replying,if single guys can't be bothered to read the profile that states it's a couples profile then they have no chance,be polite;send more than a one line message and you will get a response even if it's a no thanks

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