FabSwingers.com forum: Struggling with single men

By *ox_and_Bear OP Couple
over a year ago

Brighton/London

I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Lately, been struggling to get a good conversation out of people. No one seems to want to chat? Pay compliments etc? I sent face pics to a guy yesterday who replied with ‘when will we meet?’ Now I know I have a pretty face

It’s really off putting and making me consider wether it’s worth the effort. Many will say ‘this is a sex site’ no it’s not and we are always looking for chemistry with whoever we meet. Have been fortunate enough over time too meet some fantastic people but when it comes to guys, it’s like a needle in a haystack! And they wonder why they don’t get meets?? Rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

I really hope I have never done this to you... on a more related note.... I'm in Brighton!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think a lot of guys (possibly others, I'm going with my sample which is overwhelmingly guys) aren't prepared to put a small amount of effort in. The ones who do really stand out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is exactly what I was just ranting about too

So disheartening

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

To be fair most men on hear give other more respected and committed men a bad name it doesn’t matter what age they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

I feel your pain. Trying to start a conversation on here is so difficult. I guess it's because fems and couples simply assume you're contacting them with one thing in mind. Shame really.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Yeah it is a shame as most of us don’t message with that intent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Found the same with some women on here lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm totally OK with being messaged for the purposes of eventually getting into my knickers. But, you know, eventually. Not now, nottoday, not tomorrow, maybe not even next week. After we've established mutual respect at a minimum.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Yeah you do have a point and some couples too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ox_and_Bear OP Couple
over a year ago

Brighton/London

"I'm totally OK with being messaged for the purposes of eventually getting into my knickers. But, you know, eventually. Not now, nottoday, not tomorrow, maybe not even next week. After we've established mutual respect at a minimum. "

Precisely

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By *ox_and_Bear OP Couple
over a year ago

Brighton/London

"Found the same with some women on here lol"

Oh yeah, I’m not just saying it’s men

just current experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No chemistry or connection means clinical meet to me, some people want a quick shag and not really interested in getting to know people, would rather have a wank than just put it in some random hole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am on here to make friends and meet like minded people and I like a good conversation. It's is annoying though because when I message people i get the reaction of its another desperate single bloke when that's not the case at all. But I know there is a lot of dodgy men on here I have seen the messages they messages they send I've even received them myself lol.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Some people just can’t see it that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Precisely

Couldn't agree more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

I don't understand why people don't want to chat. I way prefer to chat and get to know the people I meet and find out what they like and dislike.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to get the creepy single men due to the fact I'm trans and I'm ftm; a rarity

. If a guy messages me and he's willing to chat a bit first then I'm all his

. But is hard to find

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By *exual SuperheroesCouple
over a year ago

Watford / York

The ones that reply with the 'wanna fuck right now' messages are doing you a favour as they are showing their true colours early on!

When I used my single profile for meeting single men I would have never met anyone I didn't have a connection with....there ARE decent men on here who care about more than meeting up with anyone who shows the slightest bit of interest in them, you just need to fight your way through the desperados to find them! It will work though my couples profile is testament to that

SubGirl x

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

You get a big

's up from me for being proactive and looking ..you know better than any text description would provide in a profile whom you seek..

If their response is not what you'd like ..delete block move on..

I've said this before .. the good guys the popular guys the ones that are sociable and fun and all things you'd like them to be.. chances are they're already out there having fun..so you might have to sell yourself.. make them want to meet you.

If this was a single guy posting he'd be advised patience is required lower expectations..

Same applies to all genders quantity doesn't always make it easier..

The more niche your requirements the longer you'll search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why people don't want to chat. I way prefer to chat and get to know the people I meet and find out what they like and dislike. "

Totally mystified myself. I guess people are on their guard. Perhaps they feel vulnerable on here.

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Perfect outlook for us!

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By *insbury Park FabberMan
over a year ago

London

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Hi - well, you have several particular requirements, and I see that your profile actually says 'no single white men please' rather than 'preferably black men' (so which is it? And what about asian guys?) so you're limiting your potential pool of guys to some extent to start with. More importantly though, your profile doesn't say anything at all about wanting to chat - and by chat, what exactly do you mean? Online? On the phone? In person at a social meet? In person as part of a meet to play? And regular meets are not mentioned.

From my experience with meeting couples, I'd say that the relative importance of chat, social interaction and 'chemistry' prior to meeting, and indeed immediately prior to play, can vary enormously. And in some cases all my contact prior to meeting a couple has been with the man, the lady preferring to leave him to make all the arrangements.

Your post doesn't come across as a rant but there are certainly decent guys on the site and your chances of engaging with the kind of men you want to would surely be helped if you spell out more clearly exactly what it is that you are looking for. We're not mindreaders

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By *ox_and_Bear OP Couple
over a year ago

Brighton/London

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

I think our profile is pretty clear

it says ‘all others welcome’ and if you read the verifications, you would see there are white guys on there. I jsut prefer to find them myself. In fact prefer to search for single men as a whole myself

It also says we are looking for a reliable which meant regular.

I didn’t realise the profile had to state anything about wanting to chat and by which means? Surely that’s a given?

Each to their own

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By *parksAbiWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere I like

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am despairing with the single males on here at the moment too. I can completely understand it may well be a waste of time sending long, personalised opening messages but profiles tend to have very little information or anything to capture interest and not many men seem to have much interesting to say. If you can't hold my interest in a few messages online it doesn't bode well for actually meeting in person! I'm sure couples and ladies are just as bad.. I have to say pretty much every single lady who I've tried to talk with on here has been like pulling teeth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am despairing with the single males on here at the moment too. I can completely understand it may well be a waste of time sending long, personalised opening messages but profiles tend to have very little information or anything to capture interest and not many men seem to have much interesting to say. If you can't hold my interest in a few messages online it doesn't bode well for actually meeting in person! I'm sure couples and ladies are just as bad.. I have to say pretty much every single lady who I've tried to talk with on here has been like pulling teeth."

I know that feeling.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Clubs are great xx

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London

I could have written this! I’m a slow burner, and like to see how things develop, those that I do click with I stay firm friends (with benefits) with.

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By *insbury Park FabberMan
over a year ago

London

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

I think our profile is pretty clear

It also says we are looking for a reliable which meant regular.

I didn’t realise the profile had to state anything about wanting to chat and by which means? Surely that’s a given?

Each to their own

Thanks for clarifying. Yes, but if you contact single guys directly, they're still going to look at your profile...obviously, you don't *have* to put anything on it about wanting to chat and how, my point was that if this is particularly important to you, it would be helpful to guys for this to be highlighted by your doing so.

It's not a given that all couples, or indeed single girls, looking for meets want to chat beyond the minimum required to arrange the meet, no. Each to their own, as you say.

I would interpret 'reliable' as meaning 'can be relied upon to turn up' not 'to be met on a regular basis'. Perhaps that's just me though?!

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

You get a big

's up from me for being proactive and looking ..you know better than any text description would provide in a profile whom you seek..

If their response is not what you'd like ..delete block move on..

If this was a single guy posting he'd be advised patience is required lower expectations..

Same applies to all genders quantity doesn't always make it easier..

The more niche your requirements the longer you'll search."

Actually, he would be told to be patient, learn the art of conversation and improve profile (pictures and content).

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

I am always respectful and polite, it just the way I am in vanilla life so why wouldn’t be the same on here?

I abhor rudness in any walk of life, on here or anywhere, there is just no need or no call for it.

Whenever I get turned down on here, which is often, I always always reply with a polite grateful response, I appreciate every reply, even if it’s a “no thanks fugly”.

Just to say we aren’t all rude, we can hold conversations and be polite.

Just try me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair most men on hear give other more respected and committed men a bad name it doesn’t matter what age they are. "

To be fair, the idiots help the nice guys stand out. Thinking other people ‘give other men a bad name’ is just making excuses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're the same.

However to some if we want to know more than that he's single and can meet or refuse to answer the question if we're having sex today (without his involvement) we're weirdos

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By *useBoltonMan
over a year ago

Kings Heath

The problem is that you are expecting guys to put in a huge amount of effort for days, weeks, months as the other commenters are saying but then you'll just drop them at any moment.

Couples are generally fat and unattractive but they want a man in the top 1% of attractiveness or better and they treat everyone like shit.

Sure couples can get away with this because you have monopoly control on the market and this has massively inflated your value but in the end you're going to end up worse off because people won't even bother to try.

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

It gets my goat a little, getting the old “it’s in the site rules we don’t have to reply” shoved down your throat when I have the audacity to question how impolite I find the whole ignoring a polite well thought out message I had sent is. Yes I know some ladies are drowning in messages, and know there is no way they can respond to all. But we often see some people moan about the quality of messages and the amount of “I wanna fuck you now” messages, delete those buggers straight away, along with those that clearly haven’t read your profile, and the ones who do not meet what they seek. Then I can’t imagine there will be many messages left to send a polite ‘no thanks’ message to!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always available for a lovely chat ladies come say hello x

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

"Always available for a lovely chat ladies come say hello x"

Me too, always happy to chat to ladies and couples.

On a slightly different slant why do people who apparently don't want to attract single guys, put up 'not looking for single men' but leave 'men' in the list of those who they're looking to meet! …..I used to be indecisive but....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always available for a lovely chat ladies come say hello x

Me too, always happy to chat to ladies and couples.

The site puts not looking for single men when you block them from messaging (it doesn't do that for anyone else), but you can still want to search and message single men yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m pretty sure most blokes would like to chat and get to know the lady, as I would. But after sending so many well thought out messages that don’t get replied to or just deleted it becomes disheartening.

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

but they can also not choose to leave 'men' in the looking for list.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

HG"

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"but they can also not choose to leave 'men' in the looking for list."

Then when a man gets a message from someone they will just delete it because it says we aren't looking for men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah it is a shame as most of us don’t message with that intent "

Here here i agree totally - everybody just thinks its sex sex sex

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?"

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

HG"

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

HG"

But how are we to decide which of the several, dozens or more messages we get that fall short of our standards we should reply to? All of them simply isn't an option.

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?"

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’. "

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But how are we to decide which of the several, dozens or more messages we get that fall short of our standards we should reply to? All of them simply isn't an option. "

As I said, of course you can’t answer all message, a little filtering, especially as you say if the opening messages falls short of what you expect, and you have made clear what your standards are in your profile, then the author of the original message can expect to be ignored.

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!"

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But how are we to decide which of the several, dozens or more messages we get that fall short of our standards we should reply to? All of them simply isn't an option.

Then we would get accused of being fake and a timewaster

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??"

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How as swinging got so complicated..

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But how are we to decide which of the several, dozens or more messages we get that fall short of our standards we should reply to? All of them simply isn't an option.

Then we would get accused of being fake and a timewaster

And that would bother you, to be called fake by someone who can’t be bothered to read your profile.

All I’m trying to say is, with a little Will is easy to filter through the numpties, the charlatans and the insane, after that two words isn’t difficult, “ no thanks”

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted."

And as long as you are clear in your criteria on your profile and the messages are from those that don’t meet your criteria and they clearly haven’t even bothered to read your profile then all well and good, delete unanswered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't matter how nice people are.. how much effort they make...

It's a crap shoot as to whether any opener and pics float a boat or not.. so it's just the luck of the draw. Every one should.just stop complaining and accept that we all just want things (And people as we want them) and as such will invariably not experience what we want as a result.

On a dating site recently... met someone who neither of us would normally have swiped on. Turns out we both really like each other. Moral is.. maybe we just need to give people a chance.. and not be so damn picky without talking with a person... effort goes both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up messaging first with this new profile. Few if any replies meant a lot of time wasted and I mean a lot. Instead I have just chatted on the forums continued meeting those I've met before and waited for the ladies that were proactive and showed an interest - after all its only the ones interested that one possibly ends up meeting anyway. 9 months and don't instigate first message...It works and I'm not even in that sweet spot age of 30 to 45, I'm way outside most age filters.

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

"but they can also not choose to leave 'men' in the looking for list.

Then when a man gets a message from someone they will just delete it because it says we aren't looking for men

Here is one I have just seen for example...

"Not looking for single guys

Men

Aged from 18 to 45 only

Will meet smokers"

So who is it they are looking for?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"How as swinging got so complicated.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very Tough to even get noticed as a single guy, I don't ever get given the chance to have a conversation how is everyone though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chat to ladies about anything. Sex and swinging doesn’t get mentioned unless the lady brings it up. Maybe that’s what I’m doing wrong

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

You get a big

's up from me for being proactive and looking ..you know better than any text description would provide in a profile whom you seek..

If their response is not what you'd like ..delete block move on..

If this was a single guy posting he'd be advised patience is required lower expectations..

Same applies to all genders quantity doesn't always make it easier..

The more niche your requirements the longer you'll search.

Actually, he would be told to be patient, learn the art of conversation and improve profile (pictures and content).

So when I said patience is required you're agreeing with me,

.. and actually guys are often told lower your expectations...I've said it often IP there as well.. the same advice is applicable to all genders and demographics..

if you think the op needs a better profile ..tell them.

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

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By *ox_and_Bear OP Couple
over a year ago

Brighton/London

Just to further Fox's point, I think even more disheartening than the endless tsunami of terrible single male messages, is when WE approach a male we like and they respond in this manner.

This is also a problem on non sex sites, like OK cupid and Tinder. It's got nothing to do with swinging and everything to do with a seemingly uneducated generation of men who are unable to court/seduce/flirt. Guys with communcation skills are the guys who get the girls.

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By *ox_and_Bear OP Couple
over a year ago

Brighton/London

"I chat to ladies about anything. Sex and swinging doesn’t get mentioned unless the lady brings it up. Maybe that’s what I’m doing wrong "

I recommend removing the dick pics. Friendly advice.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Well your opening post really highlights the problem with Fab, doesn’t it? It’s just never really worth the effort.

Except for when it is, and then it’s amazing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we spoken I would not let u down x

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By *eplar32Man
over a year ago

derby

Not for me sorry. Happy fabbing.

Not sure your my type.

I'm pretty your deff not.

Read.

Deleted

Deleted.

So on so on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of guys (possibly others, I'm going with my sample which is overwhelmingly guys) aren't prepared to put a small amount of effort in. The ones who do really stand out. "

Up north we always put the effort in, trying to keep warm lol

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I think a lot of guys (possibly others, I'm going with my sample which is overwhelmingly guys) aren't prepared to put a small amount of effort in. The ones who do really stand out.

Up north we always put the effort in, trying to keep warm lol

There’s a lot of fun ways to keep warm too

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

"Just to further Fox's point, I think even more disheartening than the endless tsunami of terrible single male messages, is when WE approach a male we like and they respond in this manner.

I think you are right, a whole generation, of whom large parts do not know how to communicate with people, it’s all slightly disheartening and a worry. It’s evident in everyday life but I would imagine particularly amplified on a “sex site” like fab.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

You get a big

's up from me for being proactive and looking ..you know better than any text description would provide in a profile whom you seek..

If their response is not what you'd like ..delete block move on..

If this was a single guy posting he'd be advised patience is required lower expectations..

Same applies to all genders quantity doesn't always make it easier..

The more niche your requirements the longer you'll search.

Actually, he would be told to be patient, learn the art of conversation and improve profile (pictures and content).

So when I said patience is required you're agreeing with me,

.. and actually guys are often told lower your expectations...I've said it often IP there as well.. the same advice is applicable to all genders and demographics..

if you think the op needs a better profile ..tell them.

I agree with the patience part, but nothing else in your post.

And I haven't even looked at the OP's profile. Just correcting you on what the standard response is.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x"

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mind wandered a bit on the title.

I dont have anything really helpful to say, except they are out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair most men on hear give other more respected and committed men a bad name it doesn’t matter what age they are. "

Right and we have to sift through them. Does not make if easy for us. We still find them

lurking on forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah it is a shame as most of us don’t message with that intent "

So what intent do you have

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

" We still find them

lurking on forums

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

You get a big

's up from me for being proactive and looking ..you know better than any text description would provide in a profile whom you seek..

If their response is not what you'd like ..delete block move on..

If this was a single guy posting he'd be advised patience is required lower expectations..

Same applies to all genders quantity doesn't always make it easier..

The more niche your requirements the longer you'll search.

Actually, he would be told to be patient, learn the art of conversation and improve profile (pictures and content).

So when I said patience is required you're agreeing with me,

.. and actually guys are often told lower your expectations...I've said it often IP there as well.. the same advice is applicable to all genders and demographics..

if you think the op needs a better profile ..tell them.

I agree with the patience part, but nothing else in your post.

And I haven't even looked at the OP's profile. Just correcting you on what the standard response is."

Good to know you're the oracle of standard responses..

next time I need one I'll come check with you.

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you."

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x

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By *ercurialMan
over a year ago

Maidenhead

I'm outside your age limit but I'd like to apply

Message me if interested, getting to Brighton no biggie - Paul.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Found the same with some women on here lol"

Indeed some are

Both sexes in fact are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree with your points regarding chemistry but others just don't seem interested,

But you are Stunning and pics only confirm this don't beat yourself up or worry too much the right matches will come along soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes the conversation skills are definitely a hard thing to find here. I love a conversation that ebbs and flows and is organic. Forced conversation and small talk ruin it for me.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

it definitely harder to make conversation on here than in person

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think it's likely to be a numbers game - contacting enough people to be able to filter many out, who don't match your requirements, taking time to do so. My experience here is that my pace is much slower than most single guys on contact with me.

You could perhaps consider posting meets for clubs, where you could socialise and get to know some - club users may be more experienced and less pushy for flesh. Maybe a regular monthly club. Social, that could turn to sex at some point.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

I think men are willing to put in the effort but when you've done it soo many times,and either get blanked,blocked,stood up etc..then you can sometimes loose that urge that go that little extra. It's not nice but i can assure you that it happens to men a lot more it does to women. Wouldn't take it personally and maybe hold out on the pictures a bit and build the anticipation a d make them want you

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By *ouplewhoshareherCouple
over a year ago

shardlow

We had this exact conversation a few days ago!!! Xx

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

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over a year ago

Middlesbrough

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x"

I really don't care if it does or not. It was a sarcastic response. As was my last one.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Perhaps you could broaden your preferences? If what/who you are looking for is unobtainable, look for something/someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't struggle just grin and bare us like the rest do

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By *rayson_delverMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I got fed up of making efforr composing well thought out messages for them either not to be read or just deleted straight away.

Waste of time

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"I got fed up of making efforr composing well thought out messages for them either not to be read or just deleted straight away.

Waste of time"

See. And this is going to be a huge factor why^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x

I really don't care if it does or not. It was a sarcastic response. As was my last one."

It was!?!? I’m not sure that’s called for? Amazing how the OP was about how little charm and grace single men have.....

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By *he Vital SparkMan
over a year ago

Preston

To be honest, I have given up hope sending well thought out messages to females / couples anymore. I would most probably go to a club and then if they like what they see , then great! I might put the odd meet me and if I get a wink , wink back and start the conversation that way. Patience is a virtue especially for us single guys, we won't tick everyone's boxes.

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By *rcher69Man
over a year ago

nr Milton Keynes

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Yep, as other folks have said, it's just the few sadly that want to chat, flirt and get on with someone before jumping into bed with them.

Personally I love the chat, the flattering and generally trying to get to know someone or a couple before even meeting up.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x

I really don't care if it does or not. It was a sarcastic response. As was my last one.

It was!?!? I’m not sure that’s called for? Amazing how the OP was about how little charm and grace single men have....."

You had a rant about how I don't reply. That was uncalled for.

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over a year ago

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x

I really don't care if it does or not. It was a sarcastic response. As was my last one.

It was!?!? I’m not sure that’s called for? Amazing how the OP was about how little charm and grace single men have.....

You had a rant about how I don't reply. That was uncalled for."
see it from his point of view

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x

I really don't care if it does or not. It was a sarcastic response. As was my last one.

It was!?!? I’m not sure that’s called for? Amazing how the OP was about how little charm and grace single men have.....

You had a rant about how I don't reply. That was uncalled for."

Rant at you about how you don’t reply? Perhaps you could point it out to me? I can’t see it? And I can’t remember messaging you in the first place for you not to reply to me, when was that?

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x

I really don't care if it does or not. It was a sarcastic response. As was my last one.

It was!?!? I’m not sure that’s called for? Amazing how the OP was about how little charm and grace single men have.....

You had a rant about how I don't reply. That was uncalled for.see it from his point of view

I can, I can see that it is frustrating. I have said to many men that I would hate to be a single man on here.

See it from mine, it's frustrating having a detailed profile (not ranty or shouty) that explains exactly how I go though and decide if an individual meets my criteria, to have people completely ignore it and say "I've read your profile, I think we'll be a good match". I then look at said profile and they can't accommodate, or they live miles away. It doesn't matter that they have written an original message, they have wasted both of our time because they don't fit my criteria. So why do they deserve a response?

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x

I really don't care if it does or not. It was a sarcastic response. As was my last one.

It was!?!? I’m not sure that’s called for? Amazing how the OP was about how little charm and grace single men have.....

You had a rant about how I don't reply. That was uncalled for.

Rant at you about how you don’t reply? Perhaps you could point it out to me? I can’t see it? And I can’t remember messaging you in the first place for you not to reply to me, when was that?"

Not me specifically, it was a rant generally saying because "you" have taken the time to write an original message, you deserve an actual reply.

If you ever have, it would've been deleted without a reply as you live too far away for me.

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x

I really don't care if it does or not. It was a sarcastic response. As was my last one.

It was!?!? I’m not sure that’s called for? Amazing how the OP was about how little charm and grace single men have.....

You had a rant about how I don't reply. That was uncalled for.

Rant at you about how you don’t reply? Perhaps you could point it out to me? I can’t see it? And I can’t remember messaging you in the first place for you not to reply to me, when was that?

Not me specifically, it was a rant generally saying because "you" have taken the time to write an original message, you deserve an actual reply.

If you ever have, it would've been deleted without a reply as you live too far away for me."

So my mentioning the lack of response from some people, and not you, as you previously accused me of, on a thread about how people seem to have lost the art of conversation is, in your opinion, uncalled for??? Classic

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x

I really don't care if it does or not. It was a sarcastic response. As was my last one.

It was!?!? I’m not sure that’s called for? Amazing how the OP was about how little charm and grace single men have.....

You had a rant about how I don't reply. That was uncalled for.

Rant at you about how you don’t reply? Perhaps you could point it out to me? I can’t see it? And I can’t remember messaging you in the first place for you not to reply to me, when was that?

Not me specifically, it was a rant generally saying because "you" have taken the time to write an original message, you deserve an actual reply.

If you ever have, it would've been deleted without a reply as you live too far away for me.

My issue is that you feel like you are entitled to a reply.

Complaining about the lack of replies has got nothing to do with the original post.

But going back to your point, why would I want a conversation with someone who doesn't respect my boundaries? Who thinks they know what I want better than I do?

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over a year ago

We have found this a lot lately. ..either that or they do talk but then stand you up on a meet. I know we like to have socials first which isn't everyone's thing...but i (the socials were with me alone) got stood up 5 times in a fortnight last month. Just been stood up today.

I'm trying to find a guy to have a hot wife thing with...bit more than clinical sex. We message them (we have blocked guys so we only get responses from people we are interested in) then get nothing or stood up or messed around.

I hope you have some luck OP. We know from 12 years of swinging the good guys do exist....altho lately I understand completely why it's getting you down.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"We have found this a lot lately. ..either that or they do talk but then stand you up on a meet. I know we like to have socials first which isn't everyone's thing...but i (the socials were with me alone) got stood up 5 times in a fortnight last month. Just been stood up today.

I hope you have some luck OP. We know from 12 years of swinging the good guys do exist....altho lately I understand completely why it's getting you down.

Xx"
Wow they are fairly stupid to stand you up. If a genuine couple like you instigated a meet wirh me, I'd be there an hour early.

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x

I really don't care if it does or not. It was a sarcastic response. As was my last one.

It was!?!? I’m not sure that’s called for? Amazing how the OP was about how little charm and grace single men have.....

You had a rant about how I don't reply. That was uncalled for.

Rant at you about how you don’t reply? Perhaps you could point it out to me? I can’t see it? And I can’t remember messaging you in the first place for you not to reply to me, when was that?

Not me specifically, it was a rant generally saying because "you" have taken the time to write an original message, you deserve an actual reply.

If you ever have, it would've been deleted without a reply as you live too far away for me.

My issue is that you feel like you are entitled to a reply.

Complaining about the lack of replies has got nothing to do with the original post.

But going back to your point, why would I want a conversation with someone who doesn't respect my boundaries? Who thinks they know what I want better than I do?"

Ah you have an issue, you should have said. I’ll think you’ll find I mentioned I dislike the fact that after sending a well considered and polite message how impolite I find the lack of response.

There is no entitlement question. If you worked in a restaurant and you placed someones meal in front of them and they said nothing, would you consider it impolite, or would you be fine with it because you are not entitled to expect someone to say a simple “thank you”?

Staggers me that we can discuss this for two days and over various backwards and forwards messages, and yet you find it too time consuming to reply “thanks, but no thanks” to the polite, thoughtful messages from people who have read and understood a profile ( when the profile is actually available for someone to view!!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Wow they are fairly stupid to stand you up. If a genuine couple like you instigated a meet wirh me, I'd be there an hour early. "

Thank you. Glad you like. Xx

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

" Wow they are fairly stupid to stand you up. If a genuine couple like you instigated a meet wirh me, I'd be there an hour early.

Thank you. Glad you like. Xx"
Oh I certainly do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think many couples and single females are confusing guys that live in the real world and online keyboard warriors....

Attractive guys in the real world can pull women at bars , gyms, clubs , and walking down the street.....

They only come online for a bit of fun....

Now if this guy has 3 fuck buddy’s , and meets new women weekly.....

When will he have time to seduce you and go on a no sex social?

My point is look at the guys you’re messaging....

He is getting a lot of attention.... what are you saying to him to make him want to meet you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is exactly how I feel, but it’s almost impossible to find a guy that feels the same. Usually I make it clear I want to chat for a few days minimum then after about 4 messages they ask when we’re meeting and I explain what I want again and they’re like “we have chatted!!” Erm no 4 messages doesn’t constitute a conversation and getting to know one another. Usually they disappear for a few days then ask for a meet again stating it’s now been a few days!

I probably speak to at least a couple of new guys a day. And the purpose of chatting is to see if there’s any connection and we want to meet, and out the idiots and fantasists, but they seem to think chatting = definite meet (and almost immediately!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A word has been removed and now my sentence doesn’t make sense

it’s the word you use for unwanted wild plants growing in between your flowers, but it’s also used for drugs

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

I love to chat. Before during and after. I love intimacy and that requires getting to know someone first. The fun is ALWAYS so much better then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The problem is that you are expecting guys to put in a huge amount of effort for days, weeks, months as the other commenters are saying but then you'll just drop them at any moment.

Couples are generally fat and unattractive but they want a man in the top 1% of attractiveness or better and they treat everyone like shit.

Wow!

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x

I really don't care if it does or not. It was a sarcastic response. As was my last one.

It was!?!? I’m not sure that’s called for? Amazing how the OP was about how little charm and grace single men have.....

You had a rant about how I don't reply. That was uncalled for.

Rant at you about how you don’t reply? Perhaps you could point it out to me? I can’t see it? And I can’t remember messaging you in the first place for you not to reply to me, when was that?

Not me specifically, it was a rant generally saying because "you" have taken the time to write an original message, you deserve an actual reply.

If you ever have, it would've been deleted without a reply as you live too far away for me.

My issue is that you feel like you are entitled to a reply.

Complaining about the lack of replies has got nothing to do with the original post.

But going back to your point, why would I want a conversation with someone who doesn't respect my boundaries? Who thinks they know what I want better than I do?

Ah you have an issue, you should have said. I’ll think you’ll find I mentioned I dislike the fact that after sending a well considered and polite message how impolite I find the lack of response.

I've worked as a waitress. No, I wouldn't think it was rude. I'm there to serve their food (politely and with a smile). If someone wanted to thank me, or even chat, I would think of that as an exception rather than the rule.

The last time I had my profile unhidden I didn't get one message from a profile that had truly read my profile. So no, none of the 53 messages I received in 26 hours got a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the nature of this lifestyle some people men and women just think your gonna let them have sex with you. Make zero effort etc, maybe some people have such little self esteem they let this happen. For me I get people wanting to meet but then won't send face pic, which I then refuse to meet. I think this lifestyle should be about mutual respect

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

"The problem is that you are expecting guys to put in a huge amount of effort for days, weeks, months as the other commenters are saying but then you'll just drop them at any moment.

Couples are generally fat and unattractive but they want a man in the top 1% of attractiveness or better and they treat everyone like shit.

Wow! "

Great reply!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"And that would bother you, to be called fake by someone who can’t be bothered to read your profile.

All I’m trying to say is, with a little Will is easy to filter through the numpties, the charlatans and the insane, after that two words isn’t difficult, “ no thanks” "

So, from polite messages, the following happens.

But whyyyyyy

I'm the best fuck you'll have ever had, give me a chance/ this format is unfair I'm so much better in person

Insults/ abuse/ threats

More skilful trying to get me to change my mind

Trying to chat because we're obviously best buddies now.

As a result, of those I say no thank you two, I end up blocking about two thirds of them.

This is one case where the bad people truly do ruin it for the good ones. I can't be dealing with that crap, and I'm not going to. (And those I delete rather than say no thank you to, actually have another chance to have another go, rather than blowing it by not accepting a no graciously)

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

There are some complete diamonds out there, but it is hard work to find them, and to trust it when you do.

Just recently I've been told I'm stubborn for saying no thank you.

Interesting perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And that would bother you, to be called fake by someone who can’t be bothered to read your profile.

All I’m trying to say is, with a little Will is easy to filter through the numpties, the charlatans and the insane, after that two words isn’t difficult, “ no thanks”

So, from polite messages, the following happens.

But whyyyyyy

I'm the best fuck you'll have ever had, give me a chance/ this format is unfair I'm so much better in person

Insults/ abuse/ threats

More skilful trying to get me to change my mind

Trying to chat because we're obviously best buddies now.

As a result, of those I say no thank you two, I end up blocking about two thirds of them.

And..... “my pics don’t do me justice” or “I have a nice personality” meet me to judge for yourself! No sorry, I don’t have the time to meet every guy I don’t fancy in the hope that he’ll be better in person

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"There are some complete diamonds out there, but it is hard work to find them, and to trust it when you do.

Just recently I've been told I'm stubborn for saying no thank you.

Interesting perspective."

Wow. Some guys really do think a woman's lack of consent is a hurdle to overcome, rather than her being an independent person with her own preferences.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I know....entitled much!

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x

I really don't care if it does or not. It was a sarcastic response. As was my last one.

It was!?!? I’m not sure that’s called for? Amazing how the OP was about how little charm and grace single men have.....

You had a rant about how I don't reply. That was uncalled for.

Rant at you about how you don’t reply? Perhaps you could point it out to me? I can’t see it? And I can’t remember messaging you in the first place for you not to reply to me, when was that?

Not me specifically, it was a rant generally saying because "you" have taken the time to write an original message, you deserve an actual reply.

If you ever have, it would've been deleted without a reply as you live too far away for me.

My issue is that you feel like you are entitled to a reply.

Complaining about the lack of replies has got nothing to do with the original post.

But going back to your point, why would I want a conversation with someone who doesn't respect my boundaries? Who thinks they know what I want better than I do?

Ah you have an issue, you should have said. I’ll think you’ll find I mentioned I dislike the fact that after sending a well considered and polite message how impolite I find the lack of response.

The last time I had my profile unhidden I didn't get one message from a profile that had truly read my profile. So no, none of the 53 messages I received in 26 hours got a reply."

Seriously you think it’s acceptable for someone to not say thank you when they have served you food?? Perfect that’s all I need to know, great filter.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I think a lot of guys (possibly others, I'm going with my sample which is overwhelmingly guys) aren't prepared to put a small amount of effort in. The ones who do really stand out. "

I'm quite glad most of the guys on here don't want to put in any effort.

Much of the 'effort', as you describe it, is part of the fun and this makes it so much the better for those of us willing (or wanting) to chat our way into intimacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x

I really don't care if it does or not. It was a sarcastic response. As was my last one.

It was!?!? I’m not sure that’s called for? Amazing how the OP was about how little charm and grace single men have.....

You had a rant about how I don't reply. That was uncalled for.

Rant at you about how you don’t reply? Perhaps you could point it out to me? I can’t see it? And I can’t remember messaging you in the first place for you not to reply to me, when was that?

Not me specifically, it was a rant generally saying because "you" have taken the time to write an original message, you deserve an actual reply.

If you ever have, it would've been deleted without a reply as you live too far away for me.

My issue is that you feel like you are entitled to a reply.

Complaining about the lack of replies has got nothing to do with the original post.

But going back to your point, why would I want a conversation with someone who doesn't respect my boundaries? Who thinks they know what I want better than I do?

Ah you have an issue, you should have said. I’ll think you’ll find I mentioned I dislike the fact that after sending a well considered and polite message how impolite I find the lack of response.

The last time I had my profile unhidden I didn't get one message from a profile that had truly read my profile. So no, none of the 53 messages I received in 26 hours got a reply.

Seriously you think it’s acceptable for someone to not say thank you when they have served you food?? Perfect that’s all I need to know, great filter.

Think what she’s saying is if they don’t say thank you she’s not going to throw a fit, might be pissed off but it’s their prerogative. This is a relatable subject though as they’ve asked for a service and she’s provided that service and didn’t get a thank you. However, we don’t ask men to message us so if we get an unwanted message we have the right to ignore. I’m sure you ignore all your junk emails and menus that come through your door. You don’t ring them and say thank for contacting me but I’m not interested in what you’re selling!!

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"I'm trying to find a guy to have a hot wife thing with...bit more than clinical sex. We message them (we have blocked guys so we only get responses from people we are interested in) then get nothing"

This "we message them then get nothing" lots of ladies have posted about this in this very thread ...

it's not rude to not reply ..

same applies across all genders, if a guy had said that he'd be told "entitled much."

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By *r. JoystickMan
over a year ago

London

I hear you on this; to be hair it definitely happens on the other end of the spectrum too.

If I'm talking to somebody on here I like to have a bit of a flirt, but I like a jest and a little spark of energy between messages back and forth. It doesn't even have to be purely sex talk - just somebody I can get along with.

It's definitely couples profiles more than single women (which of course could be because the male half is the half of the couple messaging...) - but occurs either way.

It definitely sucks the life out of the conversation a bit. Not a huge fan of wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am.

So yeah, if anyone in this thread fancies a chit chat, have at it

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

""I'm trying to find a guy to have a hot wife thing with...bit more than clinical sex. We message them (we have blocked guys so we only get responses from people we are interested in) then get nothing"

This "we message them then get nothing" lots of ladies have posted about this in this very thread ...

it's not rude to not reply ..

same applies across all genders, if a guy had said that he'd be told "entitled much."

I read it as "it's difficult to get people to chat" rather than "people aren't replying it's rude". Although I suppose it could be read either way.

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

I think you have to accept that every Fab member, but particularly ladies because of the number of messages they receive, can choose to respond, wink, message, and block as they want.

It does sometimes seem very random and frustrating - I posted what I thought was a supportive message to an OP on a thread recently and got blocked - but I think you just have to accept respect everyone’s personal choice and move on.

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By *ox_and_Bear OP Couple
over a year ago

Brighton/London

I think the post (as with many) has obviously meant different things for different people. One response I see mentions basically changing what we are looking for to something more obtainable. What I’m looking for is certainly obtainable because I’ve found it before. Jsut seems that these days people are less willing to put the effort it.

Also I note, someone posted about most couples being fat and ugly as looking for attractive people. Firstly, if you think most couples are far and ugly, don’t bother searching on here for them. Secondly, it’s Not that couples have the monopoly and rights over everyone. There are lots of couples on here yes because swinging does involve that sometimes I’m afraid to say

Please lay off insulting people because you don’t get replies to your throughly ‘thought out’ dick pic messages

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x

I really don't care if it does or not. It was a sarcastic response. As was my last one.

It was!?!? I’m not sure that’s called for? Amazing how the OP was about how little charm and grace single men have.....

You had a rant about how I don't reply. That was uncalled for.

Rant at you about how you don’t reply? Perhaps you could point it out to me? I can’t see it? And I can’t remember messaging you in the first place for you not to reply to me, when was that?

Not me specifically, it was a rant generally saying because "you" have taken the time to write an original message, you deserve an actual reply.

If you ever have, it would've been deleted without a reply as you live too far away for me.

My issue is that you feel like you are entitled to a reply.

Complaining about the lack of replies has got nothing to do with the original post.

But going back to your point, why would I want a conversation with someone who doesn't respect my boundaries? Who thinks they know what I want better than I do?

Ah you have an issue, you should have said. I’ll think you’ll find I mentioned I dislike the fact that after sending a well considered and polite message how impolite I find the lack of response.

The last time I had my profile unhidden I didn't get one message from a profile that had truly read my profile. So no, none of the 53 messages I received in 26 hours got a reply.

Seriously you think it’s acceptable for someone to not say thank you when they have served you food?? Perfect that’s all I need to know, great filter.

Not sure what I'm being filtered for, but each to their own...

I personally would say thank you, but I wouldn't expect it in return. It's an entitlement thing again. Or maybe it's just that I was trained to serve meals as unobtrusively as possible.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x

I really don't care if it does or not. It was a sarcastic response. As was my last one.

It was!?!? I’m not sure that’s called for? Amazing how the OP was about how little charm and grace single men have.....

You had a rant about how I don't reply. That was uncalled for.

Rant at you about how you don’t reply? Perhaps you could point it out to me? I can’t see it? And I can’t remember messaging you in the first place for you not to reply to me, when was that?

Not me specifically, it was a rant generally saying because "you" have taken the time to write an original message, you deserve an actual reply.

If you ever have, it would've been deleted without a reply as you live too far away for me.

My issue is that you feel like you are entitled to a reply.

Complaining about the lack of replies has got nothing to do with the original post.

But going back to your point, why would I want a conversation with someone who doesn't respect my boundaries? Who thinks they know what I want better than I do?

Ah you have an issue, you should have said. I’ll think you’ll find I mentioned I dislike the fact that after sending a well considered and polite message how impolite I find the lack of response.

The last time I had my profile unhidden I didn't get one message from a profile that had truly read my profile. So no, none of the 53 messages I received in 26 hours got a reply.

Seriously you think it’s acceptable for someone to not say thank you when they have served you food?? Perfect that’s all I need to know, great filter.

At most mildly annoyed, but yeah, basically.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

This "we message them then get nothing" lots of ladies have posted about this in this very thread ...

it's not rude to not reply ..

same applies across all genders, if a guy had said that he'd be told "entitled much."

They are getting replies, just no conversation.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I think the post (as with many) has obviously meant different things for different people. One response I see mentions basically changing what we are looking for to something more obtainable. What I’m looking for is certainly obtainable because I’ve found it before. Jsut seems that these days people are less willing to put the effort it.

Please lay off insulting people because you don’t get replies to your throughly ‘thought out’ dick pic messages "

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x

I really don't care if it does or not. It was a sarcastic response. As was my last one.

It was!?!? I’m not sure that’s called for? Amazing how the OP was about how little charm and grace single men have.....

You had a rant about how I don't reply. That was uncalled for.

Rant at you about how you don’t reply? Perhaps you could point it out to me? I can’t see it? And I can’t remember messaging you in the first place for you not to reply to me, when was that?

Not me specifically, it was a rant generally saying because "you" have taken the time to write an original message, you deserve an actual reply.

If you ever have, it would've been deleted without a reply as you live too far away for me.

My issue is that you feel like you are entitled to a reply.

Complaining about the lack of replies has got nothing to do with the original post.

But going back to your point, why would I want a conversation with someone who doesn't respect my boundaries? Who thinks they know what I want better than I do?

Ah you have an issue, you should have said. I’ll think you’ll find I mentioned I dislike the fact that after sending a well considered and polite message how impolite I find the lack of response.

The last time I had my profile unhidden I didn't get one message from a profile that had truly read my profile. So no, none of the 53 messages I received in 26 hours got a reply.

Seriously you think it’s acceptable for someone to not say thank you when they have served you food?? Perfect that’s all I need to know, great filter.

Junk mail certainly is not relatable, you put yourself on this website for what reason? To converse, to meet and then maybe to have sexual relations with someone with who you build that special rapport with. How that relates to unwanted unsolicited junk mail is beyond me.

She might not throw a hissy fit as you say, but I would be very surprised if she didn’t consider the people offering their thanks as rude. I have always taught my kids their please and thank you’s, it just common decency. You will never ever convince me otherwise that politeness is prergorative, and rudeness is someone’s right. It doesn’t take much, it’s hardly any effort, “thanks but no thanks”. No, not to everyone who ever messages you, not to the “I wanna fuck you”, not to the messages that clearly prove that the sender has not even bothered to read your profile, just to the very few considered messages you do get, but for whatever reason you just are drawn to.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

This "we message them then get nothing" lots of ladies have posted about this in this very thread ...

it's not rude to not reply ..

same applies across all genders, if a guy had said that he'd be told "entitled much."

They are getting replies, just no conversation."

If you say so.. you're the soothsayer of all threads and psychic ability seems to be another of your talents

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

This "we message them then get nothing" lots of ladies have posted about this in this very thread ...

it's not rude to not reply ..

same applies across all genders, if a guy had said that he'd be told "entitled much."

They are getting replies, just no conversation.

If you say so.. you're the soothsayer of all threads and psychic ability seems to be another of your talents"

Stop with the attitude and read the original post. Others understood it, why can't you?

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x

I really don't care if it does or not. It was a sarcastic response. As was my last one.

It was!?!? I’m not sure that’s called for? Amazing how the OP was about how little charm and grace single men have.....

You had a rant about how I don't reply. That was uncalled for.

Rant at you about how you don’t reply? Perhaps you could point it out to me? I can’t see it? And I can’t remember messaging you in the first place for you not to reply to me, when was that?

Not me specifically, it was a rant generally saying because "you" have taken the time to write an original message, you deserve an actual reply.

If you ever have, it would've been deleted without a reply as you live too far away for me.

My issue is that you feel like you are entitled to a reply.

Complaining about the lack of replies has got nothing to do with the original post.

But going back to your point, why would I want a conversation with someone who doesn't respect my boundaries? Who thinks they know what I want better than I do?

Ah you have an issue, you should have said. I’ll think you’ll find I mentioned I dislike the fact that after sending a well considered and polite message how impolite I find the lack of response.

The last time I had my profile unhidden I didn't get one message from a profile that had truly read my profile. So no, none of the 53 messages I received in 26 hours got a reply.

Seriously you think it’s acceptable for someone to not say thank you when they have served you food?? Perfect that’s all I need to know, great filter.

I've already answered this. It really doesn't bother me if someone doesn't thank me for giving them some food or drink.

I understand that not everyone was brought up with manners. I also understand that people can be so engrossed in a conversation that they don't think about it. I know it's not personal.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

This "we message them then get nothing" lots of ladies have posted about this in this very thread ...

it's not rude to not reply ..

same applies across all genders, if a guy had said that he'd be told "entitled much."

They are getting replies, just no conversation.

If you say so.. you're the soothsayer of all threads and psychic ability seems to be another of your talents

Stop with the attitude and read the original post. Others understood it, why can't you?"

Dictionary definition of Nothing ...

pronoun

not anything; no single thing

synonyms: not a thing, not a single thing, not anything, nothing at all, nil, zero;

You're making a presumption.. There's nothing in their post that states they get a reply .. it states we message them then get nothing. See the definition ..

Others as you say |^^^ see up there have acknowledged it can be read as no reply.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

This "we message them then get nothing" lots of ladies have posted about this in this very thread ...

it's not rude to not reply ..

same applies across all genders, if a guy had said that he'd be told "entitled much."

They are getting replies, just no conversation.

If you say so.. you're the soothsayer of all threads and psychic ability seems to be another of your talents

Stop with the attitude and read the original post. Others understood it, why can't you?

Dictionary definition of Nothing ...

pronoun

not anything; no single thing

synonyms: not a thing, not a single thing, not anything, nothing at all, nil, zero;

You're making a presumption.. There's nothing in their post that states they get a reply .. it states we message them then get nothing. See the definition ..

Others as you say |^^^ see up there have acknowledged it can be read as no reply.

The original post says:

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

That to me is pretty clear that they are getting replies. I'm not sure exactly how much clearer they could be?

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

This "we message them then get nothing" lots of ladies have posted about this in this very thread ...

it's not rude to not reply ..

same applies across all genders, if a guy had said that he'd be told "entitled much."

They are getting replies, just no conversation.

If you say so.. you're the soothsayer of all threads and psychic ability seems to be another of your talents

Stop with the attitude and read the original post. Others understood it, why can't you?

Dictionary definition of Nothing ...

pronoun

not anything; no single thing

synonyms: not a thing, not a single thing, not anything, nothing at all, nil, zero;

You're making a presumption.. There's nothing in their post that states they get a reply .. it states we message them then get nothing. See the definition ..

Others as you say |^^^ see up there have acknowledged it can be read as no reply.

The original post says:

I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

That to me is pretty clear that they are getting replies. I'm not sure exactly how much clearer they could be?

I wasn't referring to the op..hence me using the quotation marks and quoting the text..

"I'm trying to find a guy...." it was in response to that post.. not the op..

Same as you offering an opinion and replying to folk other than the op..

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

This "we message them then get nothing" lots of ladies have posted about this in this very thread ...

it's not rude to not reply ..

same applies across all genders, if a guy had said that he'd be told "entitled much."

They are getting replies, just no conversation.

If you say so.. you're the soothsayer of all threads and psychic ability seems to be another of your talents

Stop with the attitude and read the original post. Others understood it, why can't you?

Dictionary definition of Nothing ...

pronoun

not anything; no single thing

synonyms: not a thing, not a single thing, not anything, nothing at all, nil, zero;

You're making a presumption.. There's nothing in their post that states they get a reply .. it states we message them then get nothing. See the definition ..

Others as you say |^^^ see up there have acknowledged it can be read as no reply.

The original post says:

I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

That to me is pretty clear that they are getting replies. I'm not sure exactly how much clearer they could be?

I wasn't referring to the op..hence me using the quotation marks and quoting the text..

"I'm trying to find a guy...." it was in response to that post.. not the op..

Same as you offering an opinion and replying to folk other than the op.. "

I've found the post you quoted. You missed this bit out which shows that they do get replies:

So, to make it clear for you, they were responding to the op - that guys on here don't know how to chat.

So they are agreeing that they (guys on this site) don't chat and added that if they do chat they often stand them up.

Is that any clearer for you? Or am I going to get more abuse from you in return?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One problem is the females on this site are so used to a lot of forward messages about sex etc

That they want to be completely wow'd with a message, then this comes across as you just want somebody to chat online with, without the intention of meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?

Because as intelligent, respectful and polite lady you would recognise a thoughtful considered message and as such could manage to say ‘thanks but no thanks’.

As I stated above, it's not actually that easy!

Then I guess you won’t be answering any messages??

I answer the messages of those that fit my criteria.

The majority get deleted.

I'm glad that how I run my profile meets your seal of approval

I’m really pleased to hear that x

How I run it is up to me. Not you.

I don’t believe that I have said you should run it any other way? I am only pleased that you are glad that you feel that how you run your profile meets my seal of approval x

I really don't care if it does or not. It was a sarcastic response. As was my last one.

It was!?!? I’m not sure that’s called for? Amazing how the OP was about how little charm and grace single men have.....

You had a rant about how I don't reply. That was uncalled for.

Rant at you about how you don’t reply? Perhaps you could point it out to me? I can’t see it? And I can’t remember messaging you in the first place for you not to reply to me, when was that?

Not me specifically, it was a rant generally saying because "you" have taken the time to write an original message, you deserve an actual reply.

If you ever have, it would've been deleted without a reply as you live too far away for me.

My issue is that you feel like you are entitled to a reply.

Complaining about the lack of replies has got nothing to do with the original post.

But going back to your point, why would I want a conversation with someone who doesn't respect my boundaries? Who thinks they know what I want better than I do?

Ah you have an issue, you should have said. I’ll think you’ll find I mentioned I dislike the fact that after sending a well considered and polite message how impolite I find the lack of response.

The last time I had my profile unhidden I didn't get one message from a profile that had truly read my profile. So no, none of the 53 messages I received in 26 hours got a reply.

Seriously you think it’s acceptable for someone to not say thank you when they have served you food?? Perfect that’s all I need to know, great filter.

Most women make it absolutely clear in there profiles what they are looking for and most guy totally ignore this so yes it is junk male it’s like send loads of leaflets (messages) out and hoping someone will reply!

Everyone has the prerogative to be exactly what they want to be even if that rude, we might not agree, it mightn’t be the way the we’re brought up but they still have the right not to confirm to other people’s expectations. Just like you have the right to feel entitled to a reply, but it doesn’t mean you’ll get it! In my opinion it’s guys like you that ruin it for the good guy on here. It’s guys like you that inisist on a reply and abuse us, like now, for not giving one. It’s guys like you why I delete my account almost monthly coz of the sheer frustration

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

"I (Fox) would like to find a decent guy to chat with and maybe regular meets. Always on the look out for dominant, well verified, single guys, preferably black men.

Nothing wrong with a good rant.

I've had similar but in reverse where I've sent a message and was asked for a photo which I sent.

Message got deleted and nothing back (guess the ugly mug) put her off.

Appreciate loads of people send messages but I would have preferred, I'm not interested.

We've just got to soldier on and hope to find like minded people.

Not just me then!!?!

But then again I use it as a filter to block any people that I find impolite so it kinda works both ways I guess

You do know there are some very well written copy and paste messages out there, right? Yours might be original, but how am I meant to know. Especially if you don't meet my criteria?

Well that’s quite simple really, you talk to me to find out if I am original and meet your criteria,

But if your message doesn't appeal and your profile doesn't appeal, why would I respond?"

A polite, thanks but no thanks is not too much to ask.

I've had messages from gay couples and whilst it's not my thing, I've always replied.

I appreciate you guys get lots of messages but a no thank you response is better than no response

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By *oachman 9CoolMan
over a year ago