FabSwingers.com forum: Are you a verification collector?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So questions

Do you see it important to collect verifications?

Do you find the singleton or couple nothing like how described in verification?

Interested in views.

Nell

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I like having them. I'm active and this is what other people think about me.

I've not met anyone unlike their veris so far. I don't read them for the sometimes gory details, but for evidence of character. Respectful, reliable, things like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like having them. I'm active and this is what other people think about me.

I've not met anyone unlike their veris so far. I don't read them for the sometimes gory details, but for evidence of character. Respectful, reliable, things like that. "

That's what we read them for but have sometimes been disappointed.

We don't worry about verifications. To be honest if we guy or couples are very active we back off. Particularly if they meet us the following night. May be tired lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, to be honest I don't like them.

I very rarely give them out and don't like to receive them.

I don't display them either.

I look at veri's but pay little attention to the content.

Quite good for seeing who I wouldn't meet though.

Had a message earlier. Checked profile, 3 veri's all from the same woman basically lamp post pissing. Can't be dealing with that shit!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope, to be honest I don't like them.

I very rarely give them out and don't like to receive them.

I don't display them either.

I look at veri's but pay little attention to the content.

Quite good for seeing who I wouldn't meet though.

Had a message earlier. Checked profile, 3 veri's all from the same woman basically lamp post pissing. Can't be dealing with that shit! "

Ha ha now someone on our wavelength. We show more recent ones as people like to see were genuine lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I display a couple to show I'm legit but either than that I prefer not to show them really.

I do read other peoples and check out the profiles of the people who have verified them. At times that'll help me decide if I'm going to contact someone or not.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I like having them. I'm active and this is what other people think about me.

I've not met anyone unlike their veris so far. I don't read them for the sometimes gory details, but for evidence of character. Respectful, reliable, things like that.

That's what we read them for but have sometimes been disappointed.

We don't worry about verifications. To be honest if we guy or couples are very active we back off. Particularly if they meet us the following night. May be tired lol x"

Fair enough. I suppose as a single woman, I want people to know I am who I say I am and not an escort. And amount of activity doesn't bother me, although type might. Each to their own, of course.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Yes I am. But tbh I get the pleasure from giving them.. writing nice things about people.

It frustrates me when you get a message tho saying ‘all them veris, you must shag ANYONE, I want quality’ etc etc when all you have done is meet folk for a coffee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So questions

Do you see it important to collect verifications?

Do you find the singleton or couple nothing like how described in verification?

Interested in views.

Nell

I find them to be very important. If you meet none attractive people then I’m certainly not meeting you. Call me shallow lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Yes I am. But tbh I get the pleasure from giving them.. writing nice things about people.

It frustrates me when you get a message tho saying ‘all them veris, you must shag ANYONE, I want quality’ etc etc when all you have done is meet folk for a coffee

Ugh I hate the quality stuff. Who says I don't choose quality people, or I'm not quality myself? And why here of all places are we shaming people for having sex (or being presumed to have sex)?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. Been here a couple of weeks and not asked for one yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I am. But tbh I get the pleasure from giving them.. writing nice things about people.

It frustrates me when you get a message tho saying ‘all them veris, you must shag ANYONE, I want quality’ etc etc when all you have done is meet folk for a coffee

Well if they don’t take out the time to read through your verifications before jumping to conclusions, you probably don’t want to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they’re crass. Not really fussed about them at all, your history isn’t my business, my history isn’t your business.

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

They're just an insight into who I am. You can write anything about yourself on a profile, I like people to see what others make of me.

I enjoy reading them (apart from the graphic ones) and it's fun finding the right words to describe people

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Veris can be important for gauging if someone is genuine or not when deciding whether to contact them, or not - but really for nothing else, and of course they are never the only factor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, to be honest I don't like them.

I very rarely give them out and don't like to receive them.

I don't display them either.

I look at veri's but pay little attention to the content.

Quite good for seeing who I wouldn't meet though.

Had a message earlier. Checked profile, 3 veri's all from the same woman basically lamp post pissing. Can't be dealing with that shit!

Ha ha now someone on our wavelength. We show more recent ones as people like to see were genuine lol. "

I'm happy to show my one via message if it's that important to someone.

Some guys don't really care, they want a shag. Some think if you've got lots of veri's then they stand a better chance.

There will always be people who like them and those that don't.

Everyone uses the site differently and that's all good.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

They're also a safety thing for me tbh. My first few meets, the veris were the tipping point. Any old psycho can talk the talk, but evidence that many people thought they were respectful, reliable, etc over time... means I'm much more likely to be dealing with someone I can trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as it doesn’t get like a version of trip adviser

After all they are supposed to be a indication that someone is genuine, not a ratings system or a way to keep score lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s nothing like giving verifications

And I love to receive

Question

Has anyone ever seen a bad review

Or given one

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"They're also a safety thing for me tbh. My first few meets, the veris were the tipping point. Any old psycho can talk the talk, but evidence that many people thought they were respectful, reliable, etc over time... means I'm much more likely to be dealing with someone I can trust. "

Definitely important from that respect. Having trust is vital

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I don't mind verifications, it let's people know that you are genuine. So far mine are good which makes me smile.

I always ask at the meeting if they want verifying but a couple have rejected and I'm sure they didn't want others to know that they meet TV's

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"There’s nothing like giving verifications

And I love to receive

Question

Has anyone ever seen a bad review

Or given one "

Neither, though I can't imagine anyone displaying one. I've seen a couple of odd ones from someone trying to message and clearly not getting a response

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"There’s nothing like giving verifications

And I love to receive

Question

Has anyone ever seen a bad review

Or given one "

Sometimes you have to read between the lines, I think. I don't leave coded veris, but I gather people say nice things that translate to "crap in bed".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There’s nothing like giving verifications

And I love to receive

Question

Has anyone ever seen a bad review

Or given one

Neither, though I can't imagine anyone displaying one. I've seen a couple of odd ones from someone trying to message and clearly not getting a response"

Never a bad one but I remeber one guy had 11 veris, all from the same woman within months of each other and in some she mentioned how he moved get fridge for her on a rainy day. I'm still not sure if it was a euphemism for anything.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I never ask for a veri so I’m usually pleasantly surprised when I receive one.

I’ve verified people I’ve met and on some occasions I have left basic veris to confirm they are genuine.

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"I never ask for a veri so I’m usually pleasantly surprised when I receive one.

I’ve verified people I’ve met and on some occasions I have left basic veris to confirm they are genuine. "

I can't imagine asking for one

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't show mine as what I do on here with anyone is no-one else's business but sneaky people still find out....

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By *rivate_userMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Been on cam tonight asking if anyone could veri me.

Plenty of attention, pm,'s and replies but not one veri.

No I'm not a collector.. not even if I try

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By *aughtynice23Couple
over a year ago

South West

We like both giving and receiving verifications. It's a good way of looking back on good times with those we've met. And for keeping up with social circles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications for us are just a little thank you note, the fact we have so many keeps the dreamers, fakers and judgemental from contacting us. Win win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like reading veris, I like to see whether the vibe I get from a potential meet matches how others have described them.

I also like reading between the lines

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"I like reading veris, I like to see whether the vibe I get from a potential meet matches how others have described them.

I also like reading between the lines

The latter part is one thing I love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they're useful in getting a picture of a person you're thinking about meeting. If the person has veris that say similar things then it can give you greater confidence about them? But you can always ignore them ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like having them. I'm active and this is what other people think about me.

I've not met anyone unlike their veris so far. I don't read them for the sometimes gory details, but for evidence of character. Respectful, reliable, things like that. "

That is what they should be about just letting you know about their character not what else you did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Proof is in the pudding

Yes, some are not what they say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like having them. I'm active and this is what other people think about me.

I've not met anyone unlike their veris so far. I don't read them for the sometimes gory details, but for evidence of character. Respectful, reliable, things like that.

That is what they should be about just letting you know about their character not what else you did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like them - receiving them and writing them. I find them really informative when researching a potential meet and I show a selection that I feel represent how I meet and what I’m looking for. Some of my veris put some types of people off, so they’ll be up for a while.

They remind me of good times when I reread them, they often make me smile and occasionally I’ll commission a graphic one, just to show it’s not all witty conversation and prosecco, I do actually fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So questions

Do you see it important to collect verifications?

Do you find the singleton or couple nothing like how described in verification?

Interested in views.

Nell

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No....... Infact the total opposite, I don't ask for them and wouldn’t display them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single man they can be useful, plenty on here won’t meet anyone with zero veris

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"I like them - receiving them and writing them. I find them really informative when researching a potential meet and I show a selection that I feel represent how I meet and what I’m looking for. Some of my veris put some types of people off, so they’ll be up for a while.

Great post , and that’s exactly how we feel too .

Well said

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"Yes I am. But tbh I get the pleasure from giving them.. writing nice things about people.

It frustrates me when you get a message tho saying ‘all them veris, you must shag ANYONE, I want quality’ etc etc when all you have done is meet folk for a coffee

Haha yip!

More than a few of mine are from repeat meets and socials yet messaging someone who wants a social and regular meeting says too many veris.....think some just look at the number rather than the actual content.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading Verifications can be very funny.....

My favorites in no particular order ......

She sucks like a Hoover.....

We had some car fun.......

The 18-25 year old females with verifications from guys 40+

Treat her with respect

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Verified is very important to us as there are so many fake profiles, it helps when a profile has same verified as yourselves reassures they are genuine and will actually meet , we have not been let down once so must work

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Find people that don’t like them usually have none

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By *n Search Of SunsetCouple
over a year ago

Search Of Sunset

When we first went to clubs and met others social or play we used to love to get as many as poss to show we were active and did meet others.

Now 8 years later and after various profiles we no longer care about them and generally hide them. We no longer write them first for others either as we find we don't get one in return. So we only reciprocate if we recieve one first.

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I use to always ask but i have enough now so i don't see a need, every so iften someone does one for me anyway which is nice and then i will always give one back.

I think its important to have a few visible just to show you are real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So questions

Do you see it important to collect verifications?

Do you find the singleton or couple nothing like how described in verification?

Interested in views.

Nell

We prefer not to read or receive graphic veris, as really that’s our business, However we feel it does show we turn up for meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously it’s nice to have them as it shows that I’m genuine and I am worth a meet. But I will never be a collector, just display the verifications that nice people send me

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By *portyndNaughtyMan
over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley

"Reading Verifications can be very funny.....

My favorites in no particular order ......

She sucks like a Hoover.....

We had some car fun.......

The 18-25 year old females with verifications from guys 40+

Treat her with respect "

So what is the problem with 40+ guys?

Fearing the competition mate?

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By *tuartsCelloCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We are veri-sluts

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By *portyndNaughtyMan
over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley

"We are veri-sluts

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

No I dont collect verifications or show the ones I do have,unless it from a party organiser

I prefer it that way

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Yes I am. But tbh I get the pleasure from giving them.. writing nice things about people.

It frustrates me when you get a message tho saying ‘all them veris, you must shag ANYONE, I want quality’ etc etc when all you have done is meet folk for a coffee

Haha yip!

The majority of mine are from organised socials, and a few silly, joke ones friends have left me.

I had a message from someone the other week, relatively new to the site, no veris but his profile was good & his first message amused me.

We swapped a few messages, and as I was free that day and in town, I agreed to meet him for coffee.

I asked him why he'd messaged me, I always ask, I'm curious.

His reply was a first though...

"You have loads of verifications, you're not really my type, but you're attractive & obviously popular. I figured a veri from you would look good on my profile"

Needless to say, he never got his veri.

I'm not here to make someone else look good!!!

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By *atureMischiefCouple
over a year ago

Lutterworth

The verification system is better than nothing but can be misleading if abused.

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By *ysterious-MidnightCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Our main gripe is a lack of courtesy, if we verify someone we expect it in return even if just a few lines.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So questions

Do you see it important to collect verifications?

Do you find the singleton or couple nothing like how described in verification?

Interested in views.

Nell

no i dont care about if i get verification's or not and i rarelypay attention to others either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Find people that don’t like them usually have none "
Well exactly why would they have them, they don't like them ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There’s nothing like giving verifications

And I love to receive

Question

Has anyone ever seen a bad review

Or given one "

I think the phrase is ‘damning by faint praise’

I’ve seen a few of these veris

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No we’re not, but if people leave us one we will return the favour and display the one they’ve left.

We wouldn’t be offended if they didn’t leave one.

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By *ral_isthenewblackMan
over a year ago

london

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By *ev and TrevCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Most of our veris are from people we've met at organised socials over the years. We do have a couple of play veri's on show to prove that we do actually meet to play but generally we keep those hidden.

I do actually like to see veri's though. Rightly or wrongly I check out the pics from the people who the veri's are from. I'm a larger lady and if all the veris are from skinny minis I won't meet, but that's more about me and my insecurities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a few, I don't really have a problem if someone chooses not to verify me.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

No I’m not a collector. I do like the few I have but they are purely for me to read from time to time. They’re personal.

I do sometimes display the ones from the Manchester Lounge Socials ... lovely bunch of people they are and I like the veris I have from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've hidden the content of mine because I don't want people reading them and thinking they will definitely get x,y and z from me. It's dependent on the dynamic.

The politics around veris make me laugh. For me, I'm looking for something specific so a lot of veris will put me off. Not because I'm judgemental but just because I have my own complexes.

I have met a guy on here who has become a really good friend. The last time we met he said he was finding it hard to find meets so I added a second veri for him. Then I got a new veri a few weeks later and a woman he was talking to messaged he saying 'see she's got a new veri'...I found that a bit weird!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like giving and receiving them. It shows I meet and multiple times. If I see a guy who is after repeat meets but has no repeat veris then I get suspicious.

They come in handy to see the type of people someone meets to see if you will be compatible.

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By *BW SnowbunnyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

I think a few to show you’re genuine are okay. I don’t display all of mine - they are a mix of meets, socials and club veris. Some people I’ve heard bragging about the amount of veris they have and are working towards (in 1 case) getting 500

. Quite why that is a good thing I certainly can’t see.

If someone asks me to verify them I don’t. If I meet someone, get on well, they don’t ask then I’ll verify. Certainly don’t If the meet was crap either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree I read verifications not to ascertain someone's character not one for going ott on the intimate details I think that should stay with the individuals who met .

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