FabSwingers.com forum: Meet is late.

By *izzy. OP Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

How long do you give them, before declaring them a no show ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

29:59 not a second more

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By *izzy. OP Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"29:59 not a second more

Will keep that in mind. It's 27mins now....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

About half an hour. Maybe longer if it's a friend/ regular meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"29:59 not a second more

Will keep that in mind. It's 27mins now...."

Its fair to assume if they can't make it then they would drop you a line on here at the least if you met them here within 30 mins.

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By *izzy. OP Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

It's the first social meet with this chap. I am sat in the pub carpark . Pain as I rarely do new meets these days. Hey ho. Stick with going to my local club. I know if someone doesn't show up, there is plenty more choice.

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By *izzy. OP Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Thanks for your thoughts....and I am off home.

So half an hour waiting is my new rule . Cheers xx

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By *eandshedorsetCouple
over a year ago

WAREHAM

Hes obviously a fool, wish there was a lady like you down south wanting to meet up with me

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

"It's the first social meet with this chap. I am sat in the pub carpark . Pain as I rarely do new meets these days. Hey ho. Stick with going to my local club. I know if someone doesn't show up, there is plenty more choice. "

x storm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What an absolute fool his loss

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If I've arranged a social in a pub I'm happy to go in, if they haven't arrived by the time I've finished it I'm off!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Half hour is too generous unless they have messaged to say they are running late.

It would be 15 minutes and a phone call or I'd be on my way home.

Like you, I don't meet very often and this is one of the reasons why, I can't be arsed.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

If they've not been in contact that day I'd wait maybe twenty minutes. If they message to say they're running late I'd probably wait longer than half an hour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they've not been in contact that day I'd wait maybe twenty minutes. If they message to say they're running late I'd probably wait longer than half an hour. "

I'd have messaged my potential meet a few times on the day to confirm things and see if if feel they aren't getting cold feet.

If they haven't been in touch a couple hrs before to confirm then I wouldn't go as I'd assume they're not interested and not turning up.

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By *izzy. OP Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

It was meant to be yesterday. He changed it to today. It was confirmed earlier today . I had to go to work , but checked for any messages to cancel or postpone before I set out from home.

I can't be bothered messaging to ask where he was. Will wait for an apology or excuse..... But he isn't likely to get another chance.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"It was meant to be yesterday. He changed it to today. It was confirmed earlier today . I had to go to work , but checked for any messages to cancel or postpone before I set out from home.

I can't be bothered messaging to ask where he was. Will wait for an apology or excuse..... But he isn't likely to get another chance. "

Nameplates. Block,move on, next!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Thanks for your thoughts....and I am off home.

So half an hour waiting is my new rule . Cheers xx "

I wouldn't give it that long, you're being way to kind, why not call him after 5 minutes then you can be on your way home.

If he's genuinely stuck in traffic etc etc a text takes 30 seconds to pull over and send to let you know where you stand or even a hands free call.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I'm another who'd be 15 minutes, 20 max if it was someone I really clicked with and liked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say it’s down to communication really. (Calls not text) if they are in constant communication then I could give you 35 mins. Else it’s 20 minutes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If somebody is more than 15 minutes late with no communication then it is fairly certain they are not going to turn up. Most people have a smart phone and it takes 30 seconds to log on to here and send a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Half an hour for me too.

After that I’ll definitely be on my way. If I’m an an especially impatient mood I might be off after 15 mins!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must chanelle anyone stupid enough to no show you is an absolute idiot ...id be there like an hour early lol wow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try always being the one late.....

This way you can get a good look at them.....

I’m always 10-15 minutes late

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Must chanelle anyone stupid enough to no show you is an absolute idiot ...id be there like an hour early lol wow"

Haha that’s sweet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How long do you give them, before declaring them a no show ? "

Average fem 1 minute

Hot fem 2 minutes

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By *ig Chris75Man
over a year ago

Sandbach

What an idiot this guy must be.

Definately not worthy of another chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It was meant to be yesterday. He changed it to today. It was confirmed earlier today . I had to go to work , but checked for any messages to cancel or postpone before I set out from home.

I can't be bothered messaging to ask where he was. Will wait for an apology or excuse..... But he isn't likely to get another chance. "

Report to admin, block and move on. He's probably been reading all this and thinking .... shit.

If you hadnt heard from him that evening (giving him a massive benefit of doubt) then he never was coming, just getting off and playing you and he'll do it to someone else, so report and block. Pass on his profile to friends to be aware too but don't publicly name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I had what I thought was a no show last night. 50 minutes late he messaged me from outside. First thoughts were tell him to go forth. Very pleased I didnt, he had good reason for being late and not letting me know. And better still we both enjoyed each other very much. There are still some decent people on here!

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I waited much longer for a guy from another site. He had messaged to say he was going to be late. He was worth waiting for.

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By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4

6 weeks now

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over a year ago

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

If they maintain contact i will wait assuming i have time to do so.

Sometime if i was just horny and had a little bit of time being late is an immediate cancellation though

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By *izzy. OP Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I waited 30 minutes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 mins max

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10 mins max "
omg that's no time at all, what if trains late or he got his cock caught in his zipper after having a pee I mean 10 mins flies by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate lateness i would always contact if there was i chance i'd be late

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By *harliebluestockingsCouple
over a year ago

london

Poor chaps wife probably changed plans on him. (What a jerk)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did he even get in touch?

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Unless they are saying they are running late then half hour if not 15 minutes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10 mins max omg that's no time at all, what if trains late or he got his cock caught in his zipper after having a pee I mean 10 mins flies by

Exxcuse Exxcuse me too many excuses and allowances. Lol

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By *ocketman99Man
over a year ago

fermanagh

I’m there before ageeed time, then I suppose 30 mins after agreed time, after that if I don’t hear from her I’m off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A very generous 30 minutes!

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

1 second

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd say 30 mins...my last meet ran late due to a confusion over which coffee shop we were meeting at lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How long do you give them, before declaring them a no show ? "
a weeks too long Op go home now

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

I waited 30 minutes. "

What an absolute arse this man is, don’t give home the time of day, so sorry you had to endure this... can someone please try to explain what kick someone gets out of this, it absolutely baffles me???

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I waited 30 minutes.

HG"

Some bottle out at the last minute or just get a kick out off wasting people's time and have no intention of meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I waited 30 minutes.

Some bottle out at the last minute or just get a kick out off wasting people's time and have no intention of meeting."

This.

It’s happened to me twice on here now, I don’t even bother her angry.

I’m now even more picky about who I’ll chat to thanks to them though!

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By *ymaleMan
over a year ago

nr Bradford

I waited 30 minutes.

Some bottle out at the last minute or just get a kick out off wasting people's time and have no intention of meeting.

This.

It’s happened to me twice on here now, I don’t even bother her angry.

I’m now even more picky about who I’ll chat to thanks to them though!

Have to say I've spoken to you briefly a few times on here, and I've found you nothing but polite and engaging. So if there's fault to be had, it's the clowns who let you down. And your positive response is a credit to you. I think the lesson is, don't let others weaknesses taint your outlook and to those who do waste others time, perhaps you should grow up or grow a pair and stop pissing people around...you know who you are I'm sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I waited 30 minutes.

Some bottle out at the last minute or just get a kick out off wasting people's time and have no intention of meeting.

This.

It’s happened to me twice on here now, I don’t even bother her angry.

I’m now even more picky about who I’ll chat to thanks to them though!

Aw thank you!

I’m nothing other than polite unless people give me a reason not to be.

I blocked both guys who messed me about, one ended up making a new profile to apologise three times and state he made a huge mistake and would like to make it up to me, no thank you!

I just think having your time wasted comes with sites like this, so I don’t let it bother me, but I totally get why it pisses people off. I just think it was probably not meant to be and it’s another bullet dodged!

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By *ymaleMan
over a year ago

nr Bradford

I waited 30 minutes.

Some bottle out at the last minute or just get a kick out off wasting people's time and have no intention of meeting.

This.

It’s happened to me twice on here now, I don’t even bother her angry.

I’m now even more picky about who I’ll chat to thanks to them though!

Aw thank you!

I’m nothing other than polite unless people give me a reason not to be.

I blocked both guys who messed me about, one ended up making a new profile to apologise three times and state he made a huge mistake and would like to make it up to me, no thank you!

Frighteningly pragmatic and a credit to you. But do you think a large part of the issue of no shows lies in a lack of respect for others? Because by pulling the no show stunt, it's bound to be taken as a slight. I'll admit to being late to a meet because my sat nav sold me a kipper, but I kept in touch and made it in the end. So it's not as though courtesy in the face of delay isn't possible, unless you don't give a monkeys?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a no show. 5 years later, he still messages asking for another chance haha.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"I had a no show. 5 years later, he still messages asking for another chance haha. "

Tell him to shove it lol!

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By *ur1ou2Man
over a year ago

Prudhoe

Should do you courtesy of letting you know they are running late if they still intend to show

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I would only wait until I've finished my drink. If there's no contact from them on meet day, I know I've been ghosted and don't even bother going. I send them a polite message saying no contact on meet day, I don't leave my house. I explain this early on so they know it. I don't meet very often as it's a waste of time in most cases. I tend to meet friends of friends now and totally understand why a lot of people are mainly meeting at clubs. Unfortunately there aren't any in my area.

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By *tuartsCelloCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I think if they are not there bang on time and you haven't heard from them then they ain't coming! Deffo best to meet in clubs because there is always a back up plan on tap

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

Sadly it does happen. I'm like you OP I don't meet new ppl often. I give 30mins and I've not heard anything back by a couple of hrs, it's block, report then...... Next! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also hate the ones where you're gettingvready then they message you 5 mins before saying

They can't come. Why are folk so rude nowadays x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive never had a no show but id finish my drink and go. However, if they arrived in that time but more than 10 minutes late(with no contact) the social would be nil and void as id already be pissed off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God im never late to a social meet if anything im early

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless they get in touch to say "Sorry, running late" I'd give it ten minutes.

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By *eltonmanMan
over a year ago

Melton Mowbray

Gave a couple 40 minutes last week at a local pub, I was there early too.

Was only going to give them 30 mins, but got chatting to someone who’d just walked in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not been stood up or a no show so personally i dont know.

but if it did, enough time for me to finish my drink and No i personally wouldn't give another chance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"God im never late to a social meet if anything im early"

usually just on-time haha, as i change clothing about 10 times LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

15/20min if no communication

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