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By *edLady76 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Midlands

Hi everyone.

I have been given the ok to look at finding a female friend with benefits but seen to be struggling amongst all the idiots that spoil it for the guys who are actually genuine and real. What would be the best way to get the message out that (1) I'm in a relationship but have the blessing of my partner (2) prove I'm genuine. Bear.

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

You could do one of two things: add a note onto your profile saying that you’re looking for a FWB, adding that it’s above board and offer confirmation from your partner on the phone, etc. Or set up a single profile, adding the same information above.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Alter your profile. It says you only meet as a couple.

Possibly better option is to have a separate single man profile and then explain the circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband is in the same situation and it's tough. He set up a single profile and I have said I'd be willing to have a chat on Skype with anyone showing concerns.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone.

I have been given the ok to look at finding a female friend with benefits but seen to be struggling amongst all the idiots that spoil it for the guys who are actually genuine and real. What would be the best way to get the message out that (1) I'm in a relationship but have the blessing of my partner (2) prove I'm genuine. Bear. "

I'm in a similar position.

We all have different reasons for being where we are in our lives, and I've been subject to "judgement" without even the simplest enquiry as to how come I'm married and yet on here.......

Sometimes it seems the ladies actually want us to lie.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel for you guys who are trying to do this ethically. Cheats just join dating sites, wine and dine a woman for a bit, shag her maybe a couple of times, and either tell them they're married then or keep stum until they get found out. You just can't compete with that.

The only consolation I can offer is that there's so much on Fab that you can't contrive. People try. But it's just so obscure that they never find a willing accomplice. Instead maybe this will just happen to you two accidentally as you go to clubs or hook up with other "couples" (sometimes just fuck buddies who are happy to play around). Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could do one of two things: add a note onto your profile saying that you’re looking for a FWB, adding that it’s above board and offer confirmation from your partner on the phone, etc. Or set up a single profile, adding the same information above."

This.

Although if I came across a profile where the man stated he was married and had permission I wouldn’t believe him, as so many lie.

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By *cutebum9Couple
over a year ago

wallsend

As the female half of a couple I too have a single profile with full permission from hubby to play with who I want . I have a regular male fwb and am looking for the same but female. Finding it so hard to even chat to let alone meet females on this site

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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.


"You could do one of two things: add a note onto your profile saying that you’re looking for a FWB, adding that it’s above board and offer confirmation from your partner on the phone, etc. Or set up a single profile, adding the same information above.

This.

Although if I came across a profile where the man stated he was married and had permission I wouldn’t believe him, as so many lie.

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Understandable, but what would it take to convince you he is telling the truth?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could do one of two things: add a note onto your profile saying that you’re looking for a FWB, adding that it’s above board and offer confirmation from your partner on the phone, etc. Or set up a single profile, adding the same information above.

This.

Although if I came across a profile where the man stated he was married and had permission I wouldn’t believe him, as so many lie.

Understandable, but what would it take to convince you he is telling the truth?"

Probably some sort of confirmation from the wife, a phone call, a voice note or something to verify it is actually her and not him.

Although I totally understand many wouldn’t do this and they are completely entitled not to, that’s why I just stick to single men, or those I believe are single I guess!

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock


"You could do one of two things: add a note onto your profile saying that you’re looking for a FWB, adding that it’s above board and offer confirmation from your partner on the phone, etc. Or set up a single profile, adding the same information above.

This.

Although if I came across a profile where the man stated he was married and had permission I wouldn’t believe him, as so many lie.

Understandable, but what would it take to convince you he is telling the truth?"

Access to face pics from the couple’s profile with them together and then a FaceTime/Skype/cam together, I think would confirm that they are a genuine couple.

Partner tried to find a FWB and couples this way, but it is very difficult with so many other singles completing for the so few.

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By *uilder506Man
over a year ago

bognor

I think most of us on here would like a fwb. Know I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone.

I have been given the ok to look at finding a female friend with benefits but seen to be struggling amongst all the idiots that spoil it for the guys who are actually genuine and real. What would be the best way to get the message out that (1) I'm in a relationship but have the blessing of my partner (2) prove I'm genuine. Bear. "
get your female partner to ring the prospective partner and beg her to take you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone.

I have been given the ok to look at finding a female friend with benefits but seen to be struggling amongst all the idiots that spoil it for the guys who are actually genuine and real. What would be the best way to get the message out that (1) I'm in a relationship but have the blessing of my partner (2) prove I'm genuine. Bear. "

Many people get possessive so it can start out as casual but often one party wants more. Finding someone for long term without commitment is a bit of a lottery.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Single profile, mention that you have permission and say your wife is happy to confirm. Ultimately though you might need to accept that a lot of people don't want to meet married people whether they have permission or not and a lot of others don't want the hassle of seeking permission from someone before they can meet a person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one wife who contacted me and I met her husband separately a few times as she was working away alot and playing solo herself, but I had her permission otherwise tbh I wouldn't have met him as some do lie let's be fair and it is hard sometimes to know, so I agree with other set up a separate profile or make your couple one clearer that this is a genuine option.

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