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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Earlier today, we got a message from someone inviting us to a party they’re arranging, not too far from home. I asked for more details, but the details were sketchy at best. I asked all the relevant questions and managed to extract a few more details. Then, I was asked to provide face pics. I replied, saying none of the clubs we’ve visited needed face pics, just names, address, mobile number and an email address. I said we were cautious, so this probably want our type of thing....but thanks anyway. We got a reply later saying they’d see what we looked like when we turned up anyway and that the face pics were just so we could be welcomed properly. I went to reply, but found we’d been blocked!

The thing is, this person contacted us in the first instance, we didn’t contact them.

Were we right to be cautious?

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By *TheBoneMan
over a year ago

Bury, Lancashire

Absolutely 100% right, You may be new ish to fab but that don't make you fools.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think if the party was in their home they were within their rights to ask you for face photos.

The thing about fab is that if someone asks you for something you don't want to do, you don't have to do it.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I agree with the above. If you are invited into someone's home they have a right to ask for a face pic. I have only twice agreed to chat on the phone before a meet and that was because I was invited to their home.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think if the party was in their home they were within their rights to ask you for face photos.

The thing about fab is that if someone asks you for something you don't want to do, you don't have to do it. "

We didn’t get to find out whether it was in their home or not. When I asked about the venue, I was just told that it was in the ‘area’ of a certain big town and that details would be released a few days before the event. Sorry, but that’s no good to us. The thing is, it wasn’t a party invite, as such, it was a charged event. Think we’ll still with we’ll known clubs for a while longer.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think if the party was in their home they were within their rights to ask you for face photos.

The thing about fab is that if someone asks you for something you don't want to do, you don't have to do it.

We didn’t get to find out whether it was in their home or not. When I asked about the venue, I was just told that it was in the ‘area’ of a certain big town and that details would be released a few days before the event. Sorry, but that’s no good to us. The thing is, it wasn’t a party invite, as such, it was a charged event. Think we’ll still with we’ll known clubs for a while longer."

That's entirely different, your original post didn't make that clear.

It's against site rules to ask for expenses so you should report the profile.

I wouldn't send a face picture in that case either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for your wisdom. At least we’re learning, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The internet can be a cruel bitch, trust nobody, take everything you read with a pinch of salt and above all else... don’t tell ‘em your name pike !!

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over a year ago

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

If they wanted face pics sending then surely they should have sent their own face pics in the initial invite message? Or at least in the reply that asked for them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If they wanted face pics sending then surely they should have sent their own face pics in the initial invite message? Or at least in the reply that asked for them. "

It all seemed a bit dodgy, to be honest. Especially getting blocked when we said we weren’t interested.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

I agree with what has been said and definitely don’t trust anyone on the internet unless you know them.

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By *atureMischiefCouple
over a year ago

Lutterworth


"Earlier today, we got a message from someone inviting us to a party they’re arranging, not too far from home. I asked for more details, but the details were sketchy at best. I asked all the relevant questions and managed to extract a few more details. Then, I was asked to provide face pics. I replied, saying none of the clubs we’ve visited needed face pics, just names, address, mobile number and an email address. I said we were cautious, so this probably want our type of thing....but thanks anyway. We got a reply later saying they’d see what we looked like when we turned up anyway and that the face pics were just so we could be welcomed properly. I went to reply, but found we’d been blocked!

The thing is, this person contacted us in the first instance, we didn’t contact them.

Were we right to be cautious?"

Doesn’t sound like a well organised event host to us and you are right to be cautious. Asking for face pics will usually mean that they only want what “they” consider attractive people at the party, we find this approach very pretentious and would never consider it when organising our events.

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By *etsplay4realCouple
over a year ago

Essex - Cambs Border!


"Earlier today, we got a message from someone inviting us to a party they’re arranging, not too far from home. I asked for more details, but the details were sketchy at best. I asked all the relevant questions and managed to extract a few more details. Then, I was asked to provide face pics. I replied, saying none of the clubs we’ve visited needed face pics, just names, address, mobile number and an email address. I said we were cautious, so this probably want our type of thing....but thanks anyway. We got a reply later saying they’d see what we looked like when we turned up anyway and that the face pics were just so we could be welcomed properly. I went to reply, but found we’d been blocked!

The thing is, this person contacted us in the first instance, we didn’t contact them.

Were we right to be cautious?

Doesn’t sound like a well organised event host to us and you are right to be cautious. Asking for face pics will usually mean that they only want what “they” consider attractive people at the party, we find this approach very pretentious and would never consider it when organising our events. "

We totally agree with the last reply, but Obviously you still have the emails between you, but no mention of the profile name? which could be a help heads up to others too. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Earlier today, we got a message from someone inviting us to a party they’re arranging, not too far from home. I asked for more details, but the details were sketchy at best. I asked all the relevant questions and managed to extract a few more details. Then, I was asked to provide face pics. I replied, saying none of the clubs we’ve visited needed face pics, just names, address, mobile number and an email address. I said we were cautious, so this probably want our type of thing....but thanks anyway. We got a reply later saying they’d see what we looked like when we turned up anyway and that the face pics were just so we could be welcomed properly. I went to reply, but found we’d been blocked!

The thing is, this person contacted us in the first instance, we didn’t contact them.

Were we right to be cautious?"
No, caution means you don't get invite be adventurous let your hair down live a little

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By *etsplay4realCouple
over a year ago

Essex - Cambs Border!


"Earlier today, we got a message from someone inviting us to a party they’re arranging, not too far from home. I asked for more details, but the details were sketchy at best. I asked all the relevant questions and managed to extract a few more details. Then, I was asked to provide face pics. I replied, saying none of the clubs we’ve visited needed face pics, just names, address, mobile number and an email address. I said we were cautious, so this probably want our type of thing....but thanks anyway. We got a reply later saying they’d see what we looked like when we turned up anyway and that the face pics were just so we could be welcomed properly. I went to reply, but found we’d been blocked!

The thing is, this person contacted us in the first instance, we didn’t contact them.

Were we right to be cautious?"

Hi Huns, just another added note to you as we hosted fetish events too in clubs in the past including Essex and like to assure you of course you was correct to be cautious and yes your right to ask question, just the same as no means no.

Our process to confirm M/F or single fems are genuine is to have a fem fem conversation on the phone straight away instead of lots of ping pong email that way you know straight away who your talking to and real females in person not behind a keyboard.

Many dont like our process thats fine we all adults so move on, However in this day & age, and I am intrigued you visit a club without I.D, Photo I.D would/will be compulsory in many, clubs now especially private members swinging clubs and as a rule only be required to be shown on your first visit to event/s/clubs to prove your identity on arrival from my experience not requested prior. This applies to any hosted event we held in club venues in the past and also then we knew who was what as such.

Stick with how you both wish to move forward and treat each as individual cases, above all remember as many forget it meant to be FUN! Lots of love Sami-Jo X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Earlier today, we got a message from someone inviting us to a party they’re arranging, not too far from home. I asked for more details, but the details were sketchy at best. I asked all the relevant questions and managed to extract a few more details. Then, I was asked to provide face pics. I replied, saying none of the clubs we’ve visited needed face pics, just names, address, mobile number and an email address. I said we were cautious, so this probably want our type of thing....but thanks anyway. We got a reply later saying they’d see what we looked like when we turned up anyway and that the face pics were just so we could be welcomed properly. I went to reply, but found we’d been blocked!

The thing is, this person contacted us in the first instance, we didn’t contact them.

Were we right to be cautious?

Hi Huns, just another added note to you as we hosted fetish events too in clubs in the past including Essex and like to assure you of course you was correct to be cautious and yes your right to ask question, just the same as no means no.

Our process to confirm M/F or single fems are genuine is to have a fem fem conversation on the phone straight away instead of lots of ping pong email that way you know straight away who your talking to and real females in person not behind a keyboard.

Many dont like our process thats fine we all adults so move on, However in this day & age, and I am intrigued you visit a club without I.D, Photo I.D would/will be compulsory in many, clubs now especially private members swinging clubs and as a rule only be required to be shown on your first visit to event/s/clubs to prove your identity on arrival from my experience not requested prior. This applies to any hosted event we held in club venues in the past and also then we knew who was what as such.

Stick with how you both wish to move forward and treat each as individual cases, above all remember as many forget it meant to be FUN! Lots of love Sami-Jo X"

Hi, and thanks for that.

We have had no problem producing photo ID at the clubs we’ve been to. We’ve had to register for each one and give our names, address, email address, mobile number in advance, then photo ID on the night.

That’s expected and reassures is that the place is security conscious.

But when someone asks for face photos, without asking for and form of proof of ID, that set the alarm bells ringing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Earlier today, we got a message from someone inviting us to a party they’re arranging, not too far from home. I asked for more details, but the details were sketchy at best. I asked all the relevant questions and managed to extract a few more details. Then, I was asked to provide face pics. I replied, saying none of the clubs we’ve visited needed face pics, just names, address, mobile number and an email address. I said we were cautious, so this probably want our type of thing....but thanks anyway. We got a reply later saying they’d see what we looked like when we turned up anyway and that the face pics were just so we could be welcomed properly. I went to reply, but found we’d been blocked!

The thing is, this person contacted us in the first instance, we didn’t contact them.

Were we right to be cautious?No, caution means you don't get invite be adventurous let your hair down live a little "

We’re not desperate.

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By *etsplay4realCouple
over a year ago

Essex - Cambs Border!


"Earlier today, we got a message from someone inviting us to a party they’re arranging, not too far from home. I asked for more details, but the details were sketchy at best. I asked all the relevant questions and managed to extract a few more details. Then, I was asked to provide face pics. I replied, saying none of the clubs we’ve visited needed face pics, just names, address, mobile number and an email address. I said we were cautious, so this probably want our type of thing....but thanks anyway. We got a reply later saying they’d see what we looked like when we turned up anyway and that the face pics were just so we could be welcomed properly. I went to reply, but found we’d been blocked!

The thing is, this person contacted us in the first instance, we didn’t contact them.

Were we right to be cautious?

Hi Huns, just another added note to you as we hosted fetish events too in clubs in the past including Essex and like to assure you of course you was correct to be cautious and yes your right to ask question, just the same as no means no.

Our process to confirm M/F or single fems are genuine is to have a fem fem conversation on the phone straight away instead of lots of ping pong email that way you know straight away who your talking to and real females in person not behind a keyboard.

Many dont like our process thats fine we all adults so move on, However in this day & age, and I am intrigued you visit a club without I.D, Photo I.D would/will be compulsory in many, clubs now especially private members swinging clubs and as a rule only be required to be shown on your first visit to event/s/clubs to prove your identity on arrival from my experience not requested prior. This applies to any hosted event we held in club venues in the past and also then we knew who was what as such.

Stick with how you both wish to move forward and treat each as individual cases, above all remember as many forget it meant to be FUN! Lots of love Sami-Jo X

Hi, and thanks for that.

We have had no problem producing photo ID at the clubs we’ve been to. We’ve had to register for each one and give our names, address, email address, mobile number in advance, then photo ID on the night.

That’s expected and reassures is that the place is security conscious.

But when someone asks for face photos, without asking for and form of proof of ID, that set the alarm bells ringing."

100% Correct and you have our full support who what was the profile who contacted you? XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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The thing about fab is that if someone asks you for something you don't want to do, you don't have to do it. "

Now you tell me

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