FabSwingers.com forum: Support needed.. (and advice)

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

All,

Please read and offer and advice on what works best for you.

I know this is a common complaint from single guys but I feel exhausted with this site now, but I dont want to be.

I have just spent the whole day practicaly glued to this site looking to 'meet today'. I've tried everything possible and covering 20 mile radius of London and the home counties (a densely populated area!) and no one had any serious interest in meeting.

Likewise if I try and plan a meet in advance people often wont commit.

Its not as if Im putting them off as nobody gets as far as looking at my profile. (9 views in over 12 hours).

Im always polite, clean, trimmed, reasonable looks and verified. Considering how many people are 'seeking single guys' very few are actually serious about it.

Sorry if this sounds like a rant, but I despair at this site sometimes but I dont want to quit. The few I have met have been good meets with nice people.

I would appreciate guys letting me know what works best for them and couples and women what makes them commit to a meet.

Thanks for reading.

Harry.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I would say that ‘meeting today’ is always hit and miss. I wouldn’t, although I know others will.

It often takes me weeks of chatting to meet someone - and I’ll have a flurry of socials/meets, then nothing for weeks.

It’s disheartening when you’re in a dry spell but we all have them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All,

Please read and offer and advice on what works best for you.

I know this is a common complaint from single guys but I feel exhausted with this site now, but I dont want to be.

Likewise if I try and plan a meet in advance people often wont commit.

Its not as if Im putting them off as nobody gets as far as looking at my profile. (9 views in over 12 hours).

Im always polite, clean, trimmed, reasonable looks and verified. Considering how many people are 'seeking single guys' very few are actually serious about it.

Sorry if this sounds like a rant, but I despair at this site sometimes but I dont want to quit. The few I have met have been good meets with nice people.

I would appreciate guys letting me know what works best for them and couples and women what makes them commit to a meet.

Thanks for reading.

Harry."

We commit to meets, however it’s the single guys that always let us down.

Eager beavers while they have a hard on then it all goes quiet when the meet approaches.

Happens to couple as well if that helps?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I almost never meet today, and never with strangers. Too risky.

Also, many women (myself included) view on "stealth mode", which means they won't show up in your views. Reduces hassle from guys who think that looking means we're going to shag them.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Oh, and I commit to a meet after chatting, compatibility, and a social on a separate day.

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I almost never meet today, and never with strangers. Too risky.

Exactly this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I almost never meet today, and never with strangers. Too risky.

Also, many women (myself included) view on "stealth mode", which means they won't show up in your views. Reduces hassle from guys who think that looking means we're going to shag them. "

That

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you this has been enlightening so far, didnt think of the stealth mode..

I get really annoyed when I see single guys who have let people down. I ruins it for the genuine ones.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

To be fair, I've actually never been stood up. But the abuse I get on here can be a grim reminder that there are scary people out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

What makes us commit to a meet is an exchange of messages that show we're compatible and a mutual attraction at a first social. I'm not sure if that's any help really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I almost never meet today, and never with strangers. Too risky.

Exactly this! "

In agreement with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you this has been enlightening so far, didnt think of the stealth mode..

I get really annoyed when I see single guys who have let people down. I ruins it for the genuine ones."
It's not just single guys single women let people down its part and parcel of this life on the day meets are very much hit or miss, the best chance of a meet taking place are with people you chat to for a while and establish a connection with

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks these are all really helpfull.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All,

Please read and offer and advice on what works best for you.

I know this is a common complaint from single guys but I feel exhausted with this site now, but I dont want to be.

Likewise if I try and plan a meet in advance people often wont commit.

Its not as if Im putting them off as nobody gets as far as looking at my profile. (9 views in over 12 hours).

Im always polite, clean, trimmed, reasonable looks and verified. Considering how many people are 'seeking single guys' very few are actually serious about it.

Sorry if this sounds like a rant, but I despair at this site sometimes but I dont want to quit. The few I have met have been good meets with nice people.

I would appreciate guys letting me know what works best for them and couples and women what makes them commit to a meet.

Thanks for reading.

Harry."

Hi Harry

I understand its hard pardon the pun.

Swingers take their time it's not a rush. Get chatting more perhaps. I don't pay attention to meet today its unsafe to meet a stranger I don't know.

Kind regards

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over a year ago

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I almost never meet today, and never with strangers. Too risky.

Also, many women (myself included) view on "stealth mode", which means they won't show up in your views. Reduces hassle from guys who think that looking means we're going to shag them. "

Totally this

I doubt many women do same day fast meets .

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