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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we are new to thgis kinder thing but love it outdoors, and where we go we notice people come and watch or do it them selfs and when we get home we have messages saying we should off join them. but question is when would you join, how would you know to join...surely you dont just walk over and go hey we are mr and mrs so so and wack it out but also we dont wanna be that couple that stands like utter tits and gets nowhere...help please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask and you’ll know

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By *eepgliderMan
over a year ago

Chacewater

Most meetings - social, business, etc., start with general greetings and meandering pleasantries. So if you suspect someone might be from "fabs" or you think they might be a swinger, dogger, etc., you can start off in the exactly the same way. Then maybe work in some double entendres and if they too are "looking" they will respond, and you've made that hook-up.

If not - you just came over as a friendly sort. Which is no bad thing.

As I've known it to work...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we are new to thgis kinder thing but love it outdoors, and where we go we notice people come and watch or do it them selfs and when we get home we have messages saying we should off join them. but question is when would you join, how would you know to join...surely you dont just walk over and go hey we are mr and mrs so so and wack it out but also we dont wanna be that couple that stands like utter tits and gets nowhere...help please"
on beach, in a club, dogging..... Where are you?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I'm presuming you're talking about dogging - either way the same would apply to clubs etc or any other situation where playing is happening: approach to a respectable distance and make eye contact and smile and see if they encourage you to join them.

Some people also welcome being lightly touched somewhere non-sexual (e.g. an arm) to indicate interest but that can obviously be risky as it can be seen by some as overstepping boundaries.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I wouldn't assume anything, lots of totally monogomus couples enjoy ty in the outdoors. It would be some what rude to interupt and disturb a couple in what could be a private act.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we are new to thgis kinder thing but love it outdoors, and where we go we notice people come and watch or do it them selfs and when we get home we have messages saying we should off join them. but question is when would you join, how would you know to join...surely you dont just walk over and go hey we are mr and mrs so so and wack it out but also we dont wanna be that couple that stands like utter tits and gets nowhere...help please"

How are people messaging you if it it seems you don't have any contact??

And what you are saying here contradicts what you state on your very new profile.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

When we are in clubs and folk see us playing and they want to join in the respectful thing to do is not to touch and not to hover over us but simply ask us if we mind if they watch or mind if they join in. If we say no thanks there's never a problem and if we do want them to join us we say yes no problem. That doesn't lead to anyone jumping on us but permission for them to come closer and start to touch slowly working into play or a couple bedding down next to us with permission to touch. If someone came over and started touching our arm like some one just said, to us that's touching without asking. So ask politely and learn rejection isn't personal if folk say no as you might not be their thing

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

If we're playing make a bit of eye contact or touch a leg, the worst is a no thanks, the likelihood is lots of fun.

As long as you are prepared to immediately back off, just any time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op didn't come back then?

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