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By *illy OP   Couple
over a year ago

Coventry

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By *illy OP   Couple
over a year ago

Coventry

Hi , _illy here, first post from me,

I have bi curious on our profile, but it's a kinda one sided option,

I love the idea of being played with by another lady , but not sure I'm so keen to return the attention,

I like a ladies body , breasts and bum, but the idea of "going down" doesn't appeal to me,

Are there any ladies/couples that are like this? Or is it ground upon to be like that?

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

*her*

Hi. I'm sure you could find people who would go for this, but it would leave me cold. Reciprocation only for me thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i much prefer to give, receiving oral is a turn off for the most part for me, it would be nice to be played with with toys but if that didnt do it for you it wouldnt bother me, i am very much a giver!

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By *enithWoman
over a year ago

closer than you think

I have quite a few bi-selfish friends lol

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

If you're honest about it, I can't see it being a problem, Z

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By *illy OP   Couple
over a year ago

Coventry


"I have quite a few bi-selfish friends lol "

Bi- selfish that sounds Bad

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"I have quite a few bi-selfish friends lol

Bi- selfish that sounds Bad "

Oh, nice one! Lots of very positive posts and you pick on this as though it's Bad. Sheesh! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't be a problem if we met in a club, but perhaps we shouldn't plan a weekend away until you decide if you are Bi or not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're honest about it, I can't see it being a problem, Z"

I agree. Just say upfront about what you want and don't want so the other lady knows exactly whats on offer before she meets you. Ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to give so it's never a "I've done you so now you have to do me" thing, but being with someone who can't quite bring herself to touch me...wouldn't float my boat...it would make me edgy about just how far to go...not conducive to good sex with anyone...

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By *hundercats69Couple
over a year ago

CT14

I have to say I used to be exactly the same. I'd always fantasised about being with a woman but with her playing with me mostly.... until I had my chance to do it!!

From that very first time which was incredibly horny I tried it and now can't get enough of it lol.

We've found other similar situations since becoming more confident swingers where we or I had said we didn't think we'd like something and then given the opportunity, finding out we actually really did like it!

Just give yourself time, no pressure and be honest with people you meet and you'll find your boundaries and maybe expand them!

Mrs FG

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi-Selfish ...love that wee tag lol

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

i havent got it on my profile for the same reasons,not sure if its a fantasy or if it could be a reality,i think if given the opportunity i would though

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Hi , _illy here, first post from me,

I have bi curious on our profile, but it's a kinda one sided option,

I love the idea of being played with by another lady , but not sure I'm so keen to return the attention,

I like a ladies body , breasts and bum, but the idea of "going down" doesn't appeal to me,

Are there any ladies/couples that are like this? Or is it ground upon to be like that?

"

i have played with quite a few women who wanted to explore their bi side,its about giving them pleasure and exploration for me,i never expect anything from a meet anyway,but would say that goes double for a woman discovering her sexuality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

i have played with quite a few women who wanted to explore their bi side,its about giving them pleasure and exploration for me,i never expect anything from a meet anyway,but would say that goes double for a woman discovering her sexuality"

Same here .... always at the other woman's speed, never pushing.

Giving pleasure is a turn on for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're honest about it, I can't see it being a problem, Z"

as above...everybody has there thing.

hope you find it.

A&J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi , _illy here, first post from me,

I have bi curious on our profile, but it's a kinda one sided option,

I love the idea of being played with by another lady , but not sure I'm so keen to return the attention,

I like a ladies body , breasts and bum, but the idea of "going down" doesn't appeal to me,

Are there any ladies/couples that are like this? Or is it ground upon to be like that?

"

i think so long as your honest

tell whoever your talking to its your first time and your not sure how far you want to go, most women will understand you wont jump in the deep end first time

maybe you will always feel you dont want to give but you never know once your playing with a woman you may feel like giving it a try but so long as your honest and explain this i cant see a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's nice to hear someone being so honest. Like others say if you add this to your profile, I'm sure some won't mind.

I do think there are some women out there who are bi/bi curious just to please their partner, and really have no interest in it at all, as long as you're doing this for YOUR pleasure and no one else that's fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it your left or right side?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be honest about your preferences, there are people out there looking for exactly what you want / offer.

And besides what is the point of doing something you don't want to, and in our experience your current position is just a stepping stone in finding your way...

It is possible you'll try that and become a complete nympho by the end....(end of the night...)

Just do what you enjoy !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instead of bi-selfish, since you are happy to touch and play only not 'down there'

Can I suggest you all a new term.......

Bi-limited.

Judging by the threads about Bi people, maybe that's what a lof of swingers are, bi-limited, not curios, but ok with some bi play. Your chats before hand will determine their bi-limited scope

Happy to have helped

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Instead of bi-selfish, since you are happy to touch and play only not 'down there'

Can I suggest you all a new term.......

Bi-limited.

Judging by the threads about Bi people, maybe that's what a lof of swingers are, bi-limited, not curios, but ok with some bi play. Your chats before hand will determine their bi-limited scope

Happy to have helped "

I call it Selective Bi-ness

Wolf

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By *enithWoman
over a year ago

closer than you think


"Bi-Selfish ...love that wee tag lol"

Must admit it was one of my friends who labelled herself as being bi-selfish, she loves to receive but cannot give (but I still love her for who she is)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Instead of bi-selfish, since you are happy to touch and play only not 'down there'

Can I suggest you all a new term.......

Bi-limited.

.....

Happy to have helped

I call it Selective Bi-ness

Wolf

"

5 syllabus or 3 syllables

x

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By *rs kemeaCouple
over a year ago

angus


"Instead of bi-selfish, since you are happy to touch and play only not 'down there'

Can I suggest you all a new term.......

Bi-limited.

.....

Happy to have helped

I call it Selective Bi-ness

Wolf

5 syllabus or 3 syllables

x "

Bi-limited is 4 syllables

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we,re a bi couple but i,the male,would love to just play with a guy without anything in return,that way you can concentrate on whats in front of you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

I call it Selective Bi-ness

Wolf

5 syllabus or 3 syllables

x

Bi-limited is 4 syllables "

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By *nvyCouple
over a year ago

Waltham Cross

I wouldn't lick anyone who wouldnt lick me back it's just unfair lol

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By *razykayakersCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"I wouldn't lick anyone who wouldnt lick me back it's just unfair lol"

Isn't that also a bit of a selfish attitude though?

Nice arse by the way...

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By *nvyCouple
over a year ago

Waltham Cross


"I wouldn't lick anyone who wouldnt lick me back it's just unfair lol

Isn't that also a bit of a selfish attitude though?

Nice arse by the way... "

Selfish ? I just want the same treatment that I give out lol

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds ideal to me - with another women I love to just give and give. The important thing for me has always been to give her pleasure and I actually need little in return for myself...

And I do know that I'm not the only woman who thinks or feels this way..

So - we are about....

We are all different (thank goodness!!) so as ever it's just a matter of matching up needs and desires...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be fair to al ure future meets and play mates u need to b honest wiv ureself and them and remove the bi part from ure profile u have al the time in the world to decide if that is or is not wat u are looking for wile on meets u can simply say to fem that u enjoy recieving orol but not ready to give am sure there would not b a prob at all

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By *illy OP   Couple
over a year ago

Coventry

Hi to all who have commented....

And from quite a while ago (9 weeks ago)- my hubby and I are under the same log in and it was after masny chats about bi that he posted on my behalf...

I am curious and I love womens bodies... I am happy to explore but after one failed situation a good few years ago it has made me a little wary....

I would be happy to provide mutual pleasure and I am happy to be guided by a lady more experienced than me in this situatian... My last experience left me a little uncertain.... but not turned off, I am sure I would enjoy my time with a women and I am curious to explore this with someone who is interested and understands my point of view.

I thank you all for your comments above... x

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

You have your choice to ask or look for what you wish in a meet.

Some would of course relish enjoying you and your passive nature.

Most though i'd guess would avoid for something more fulfilling whereby everyone enjoyed the meet and were satisfied totally instead of it being one sided.

Have fun, you won't go short of offers mind xx

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Hi , _illy here, first post from me,

I have bi curious on our profile, but it's a kinda one sided option,

I love the idea of being played with by another lady , but not sure I'm so keen to return the attention,

I like a ladies body , breasts and bum, but the idea of "going down" doesn't appeal to me,

Are there any ladies/couples that are like this? Or is it ground upon to be like that?

"

i always respect the fact some are still exploring their sexaility,,,expecting someone to go down on me is just crass in my opinion...you wil lonly be ready when you are ready...dont stress and have fun exploring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should never be pressured into something you don't enjoy and if it's a situation where someone says 'well, i've sorted you out so it's your turn' - then you're with the wrong company! Had a very good female fb a while back who loved giving without getting anything in return - she just classed it as a '68' instead of a '69' - i'll do you and you can owe me one!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just come across this post and found it very helpful, as i am in the same boat sort of.... the idea of being with another woman is a turn on but whether i will feel like that in reality is something else and something i am not going to know until i have tried it, thats why our profile says i am straight but we have added a bit in the text about exploring my bi curiosity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know exactly what you mean. i find it hard to describe how i am in our profile.

I like to play with a woman in temrs of using my hands and toys and stuff, but do not enjoy the act of giving another woman oral sex.

i do like recieving oral sex from other women, but it makes me feel a bit on edge as i feel i am being selfish by taking if i dont give it back.

ideally we would like to meet couples where the other woman is not bothered about recieving it back, or is happy for my husband to do it ( he loves that job lol).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my profile says straight but my partner would love me to play with a woman, i have thought about it and im curious but i dnt think i could do it, nerves maybe i dnt no, good luck an hope u find what your looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's called bi passive!!! There are quite a few people out there that enjoy giving without reciprocation. You are human and have the right to enjoy whatever! Have fun doing it!!!

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