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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For many years I've had fantasies of gay sex. Often I masturbate watching gay porn and imagine it is me taking part in the scenes they show. I like real beefy guys not young boys. The thought of having a cock inside me is a massive turn on and I love to picture myself moaning and spunking heavily as I take my lovers full length. I've even taken to using a dildo on myself sometimes while I wank so I reckon I could probably accommodate a real cock. I also fantasise about performing oral sex on a guy, slavering and sucking on his erect cock till he explodes in my mouth and I swallow all his lovely cum. If I was also being fucked by another guy at the same time then that would be perfect.

The problem is, in real life I've never met a guy I actually fancied. I once met a guy off this site who offered to suck me off and to be honest I couldn't really get a full erection let alone cum. However he was fully clothed during the whole thing so maybe that was the problem. Nevertheless I wouldn't want to meet someone and then waste their time if I found it wasn't for me at all. Although the thought of swallowing cum is great when I'm building up to orgasm, when I've cum it's pretty gross. I've recently watched one of those gay hypno videos and they suggest collecting and freezing my own semen till I've quite a quantity, then defrosting it and trying it as I build up to my own orgasm.

What does anyone think?

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By *yeball91Man
over a year ago

southampton

I think u are, u should go try it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby doesn’t fancy guys but is orally bi, so for him it’s all about sucking/ being sucked, and that’s where the attraction ends. Possibly you need to see someone naked to see how you feel? Also good to meet relaxed guys rather then those who expect a fully bi experience from the outset.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

You could maybe look to visit a club or spa catering for gay or bi men. Look for ones with glory holes or dark rooms so you can just focus on the sensation of having a guy suck you.

Guys having a penis fixation while not identifying as non-straight is really common on fab. I don't fancy guys at all but I'm fascinated by the thought of playing with a cock. I've managed to taste my own cum but only in the first seconds of an orgasm. Once it's finished I get the same feelings of disgust that you mentioned.

If I were to play with a guy, I think I'd have to hold off on coming until after so as to avoid the 'gay guilt' feelings

I went in the gay cam room here before and had a wank whilst watching other guys. Knowing that they were watching my cam at the same time made it pretty exciting and was a good entry level experience.

Long story short - what you're feeling is completely normal. Don't worry about what it 'makes you'. Men are conditioned to associate gay feelings with shame so it takes a lot to overcome that. Just do what feels right to you and take it slowly.

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare

Just because you fantasize about something, doesnt mean that you would necessarily enjoy it, or desire it in real life.

You can experiment with it as much as you like, and see what happens, but it might just end up being one of those things that you enjoy as fantasy only.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd say bi curious ,something you need to explore a bit more to see see if it's for you.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

As others have said OP go along to a Bi Night at a club - there's absolutely no pressure to "do" anything you're not comfortable with but it puts you in an environment where you can see MM play happening and maybe get your head round how you feel about it.

Being openly and unashamedly bisexual myself I'm open to meeting guys from the site but in two years on here have yet to do so, the main reason being that most guys I talk to with a view to meeting want to get straight down to sex talk and meeting within a message or two, and that's just not for me - and I wouldn't suggest it's the best option for you either.

As someone else said there's a world of difference between fantasizing about something and actually doing it - don't step out of your comfort zone or be pressured into doing so unless you are absolutely certain it's what you want

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By *athers123Man
over a year ago

Harpenden

Arrange to meet a guy on here at his place just to watch porn naked together. Very important that you strip off immediately after walking in. Sit and watch porn together. Bet you any money you end up wanking each other off. Doesn't even feel like a gay thing to do and you definitely won't care if you fancy them or not. It's simply good fun. The rest is up to you.

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

Not done anything but just think about it your bi curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel exactly the same, although i dont fancy penetrative sex, but do get turned on at guys cumming,id definately try it in the right company

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are Bi Curious OP.... and will remain so until you act upon your fantasies, only then will you know if it's for you and join the Bi club....

I started out like that years ago with much the same feelings, so go for it, I think you will enjoy and want more

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The freezing of cum sounds pretty grim. Just find a guy you like the look of and try it out.

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By *ikeC2012Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

youll know if you are if you let your fantasy happen.

If you do, you will enjoy it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you should start this chat in a gay sauna on a busy day. Oh...and dont forget to mention you’re a virgin...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you should start this chat in a gay sauna on a busy day. Oh...and dont forget to mention you’re a virgin... "

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By *lameroticTV/TS
over a year ago

London W1

Guzzling your own defrosted semen? Don't think that will help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For many years I've had fantasies of gay sex. Often I masturbate watching gay porn and imagine it is me taking part in the scenes they show. I like real beefy guys not young boys. The thought of having a cock inside me is a massive turn on and I love to picture myself moaning and spunking heavily as I take my lovers full length. I've even taken to using a dildo on myself sometimes while I wank so I reckon I could probably accommodate a real cock. I also fantasise about performing oral sex on a guy, slavering and sucking on his erect cock till he explodes in my mouth and I swallow all his lovely cum. If I was also being fucked by another guy at the same time then that would be perfect.

The problem is, in real life I've never met a guy I actually fancied. I once met a guy off this site who offered to suck me off and to be honest I couldn't really get a full erection let alone cum. However he was fully clothed during the whole thing so maybe that was the problem. Nevertheless I wouldn't want to meet someone and then waste their time if I found it wasn't for me at all. Although the thought of swallowing cum is great when I'm building up to orgasm, when I've cum it's pretty gross. I've recently watched one of those gay hypno videos and they suggest collecting and freezing my own semen till I've quite a quantity, then defrosting it and trying it as I build up to my own orgasm.

What does anyone think?"

Can i watch please? Lol

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

Life is too short not to at least give it a try. See if you can meet someone who is sympathetic because it’s very important to meet the right sort of guy for a first meet. I have met guys who were trying things out - they enjoyed their first experience and never looked back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For many years I've had fantasies of gay sex. Often I masturbate watching gay porn and imagine it is me taking part in the scenes they show. I like real beefy guys not young boys. The thought of having a cock inside me is a massive turn on and I love to picture myself moaning and spunking heavily as I take my lovers full length. I've even taken to using a dildo on myself sometimes while I wank so I reckon I could probably accommodate a real cock. I also fantasise about performing oral sex on a guy, slavering and sucking on his erect cock till he explodes in my mouth and I swallow all his lovely cum. If I was also being fucked by another guy at the same time then that would be perfect.

The problem is, in real life I've never met a guy I actually fancied. I once met a guy off this site who offered to suck me off and to be honest I couldn't really get a full erection let alone cum. However he was fully clothed during the whole thing so maybe that was the problem. Nevertheless I wouldn't want to meet someone and then waste their time if I found it wasn't for me at all. Although the thought of swallowing cum is great when I'm building up to orgasm, when I've cum it's pretty gross. I've recently watched one of those gay hypno videos and they suggest collecting and freezing my own semen till I've quite a quantity, then defrosting it and trying it as I build up to my own orgasm.

What does anyone think?"
you're a closet gay open the doors and get out......... Naaaaa really you just love the fantasy some things aren't meant to become reality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hubby doesn’t fancy guys but is orally bi, so for him it’s all about sucking/ being sucked, and that’s where the attraction ends. Possibly you need to see someone naked to see how you feel? Also good to meet relaxed guys rather then those who expect a fully bi experience from the outset."
this is the same as me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For many years I've had fantasies of gay sex. Often I masturbate watching gay porn and imagine it is me taking part in the scenes they show. I like real beefy guys not young boys. The thought of having a cock inside me is a massive turn on and I love to picture myself moaning and spunking heavily as I take my lovers full length. I've even taken to using a dildo on myself sometimes while I wank so I reckon I could probably accommodate a real cock. I also fantasise about performing oral sex on a guy, slavering and sucking on his erect cock till he explodes in my mouth and I swallow all his lovely cum. If I was also being fucked by another guy at the same time then that would be perfect.

The problem is, in real life I've never met a guy I actually fancied. I once met a guy off this site who offered to suck me off and to be honest I couldn't really get a full erection let alone cum. However he was fully clothed during the whole thing so maybe that was the problem. Nevertheless I wouldn't want to meet someone and then waste their time if I found it wasn't for me at all. Although the thought of swallowing cum is great when I'm building up to orgasm, when I've cum it's pretty gross. I've recently watched one of those gay hypno videos and they suggest collecting and freezing my own semen till I've quite a quantity, then defrosting it and trying it as I build up to my own orgasm.

What does anyone think?"

Don't get hung up on labels just be the individual you that you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you’re bi curious, if you try it and like it then you’re bi sexual. Why are you so concerned about what to call yourself. Just do what you enjoy and don’t worry about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine (God forbid) you die in 6 months

What would you really regret ?

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

lightwater

Go for it!

Tastes like chicken!

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By *oAngelsCouple
over a year ago

Sutton

Not enough room in my freezer to freeze my own cum, you see I'm addicted to Captain Birdseyes' fish fingers......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for all your comments. Very interesting.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

First off I hate labels but if we have to use them I’d say your at least bi curious

My husband is the same he loved the idea of sucking a cock and is ok with having his sucked by a guy but he doesn’t fancy guys

He set up a solo profile last year and now regularly meets with guys from here, without bring rude most people here are here for one thing (or at least we are on our solo and couples profile) yes there has to be a bit of an attraction but if he likes the look of the cock he wants to suck that’s all he needs

The beauty of this site is you get to explore and push your boundaries

If I was younid maybe try and meet with a couple with a bi guy, that way your attention hasn’t got to be purely on the guy so you’ll probably be more relaxed and fall naturally into some bi play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Imagine (God forbid) you die in 6 months

What would you really regret ?"

Being dead I should imagine..

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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago

Dorset

Find a guy with a glory hole set up, experiment with just meeting a cock, or a mouth, not a person.

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